Find out why an extraordinary life is a mixture of hard and easy, and how to find the balance between the two. I share the problem with only choosing the easy or hard route in your life, and how to use this concept to live a life you truly love.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/269

269: Balancing Hard and Easy

School of Self-Image is the go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.  Join Master Life Coach, Tonya Leigh, as she shares tips, ideas, and inspiring conversations around elevating your mindset, style, and surroundings to create an extraordinary self-image.  Episodes are released each Wednesday.

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 From Stuck to Unstoppable: Strategies for Personal Breakthroughs  To overcome feeling stuck, it is crucial to provide your brain with clarity and direction. In this podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of giving clear instructions and goals to your brain. She shares that when she felt stuck while recording the episode, it was because she lacked the direction and clarity needed to move forward.  Tonya also stresses the significance of setting extraordinary goals to combat feeling stuck. Many individuals struggle with this because they have not determined what they truly want. By establishing clear and specific goals, individuals can give their brains a sense of purpose and direction, enabling them to progress and break free from feeling stuck.   Tonya highlights how perfectionism can hinder progress and steal time. By letting go of the need to be perfect and focusing on taking action, individuals can overcome the fear of imperfection, make decisions, and move forward in their personal and professional lives.  Join Tonya as she delves into why we get stuck and how to move forward with purpose and intention.  Talking Points:  01:24 - Clarity and Direction for Getting Unstuck 02:18 - Choosing an Extraordinary Goal 03:42 - Discomfort of Change  07:21 - Acceptance and Authenticity 08:03 - The Trap of Perfectionism 09:07 - Embracing Where You Are 10:00 - The Analogy of Water Skiing 11:46 - Letting Go of the Rope 13:22 - Creating Desired Feelings 14:48 - Moving Towards Desired Emotions   Quotes:  "You don't know what you're trying to create. And the reason why the majority of you don't know is because you're afraid of the answer."  "Perfectionism will not only steal your time, it will steal your life."  "But if I've learned anything, the world doesn't want the perfect version of you. They want the real you."  "The way to get unstuck is to let go of the rope. Let go for a minute and just relax."  "Done is better than perfect" Useful Resources:   Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join   FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/   Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit     Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial          

385: How to Get Unstuck

 How Your Environment Shapes Your Self-Image  Let's delve into the psychology of space and how our environments can shape our self-image. Tonya shares personal experiences of how different homes she has lived in reflect her inner world and how she uses her spaces to evolve her own self-image. She discusses the importance of using our spaces intentionally to change how we feel and see ourselves. By making small changes in our homes, we can align our spaces with who we want to become. She also emphasizes the power of using our spaces as tools for personal growth and transformation. Overall, the episode highlights the significance of our environments in influencing our self-image and provides practical tips for using our spaces to support our personal development journey.  Talking Points:   00:00:00 - Introduction to the Psychology of Space   00:05:30 - Reflecting on the Story of Different Homes   00:10:38 - Personal Style and Home Decor Preferences   00:15:04 - Using Spaces to Change Self-Image   00:18:39 - Bridging the Gap Between Current Space and Desired Self-Image   00:22:17 - Blooming in Your Current Space   Quotes:  "Our environments are shaping us and we shape our environments."  "Our homes are more than just physical spaces. They are literally mirrors that reflect our inner world."  "Red is very fiery, very passionate. And let me tell you, that was me. And not in a good way."  "If you want to see yourself as a woman who is fit and healthy, imagine what her kitchen looks like. Imagine what her pantry looks like." "I'm going to clean this up and I'm going to organize it. And I'm going to keep it that way to send the message to my brain of this is who I am." Useful Resources:   Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join   FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/   Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit     Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial        

384: The Psychology of Space

 From Negative to Neiman: Upgrading Your Thought Wardrobe  To enhance your life and mindset, it is essential to intentionally select and upgrade your thoughts to higher quality ones. In a podcast episode, Tonya Leigh stresses the significance of being mindful of the thoughts we entertain daily. She classifies thoughts into different levels, ranging from "Goodwill thoughts" inherited from past experiences to "Neiman Marcus thoughts" that are of superior quality and more empowering. Tonya urges the audience to evaluate their current thought patterns and beliefs, highlighting that negative or outdated thoughts can hinder individuals and impact their overall well-being. By deliberately choosing thoughts that align with their values, dreams, and desires, individuals can cultivate a more positive and empowering mindset. Join Tonya as she takes you thorugh her thought clloset and inspire listeners to consciously select empowering beliefs and shed outdated or limiting ones to cultivate a more positive, resilient, and fulfilling mindset.  Talking Points:  03:02 Personal style transformation. 05:04 Choosing thoughts intentionally. 10:35 Upgrading your thoughts. 16:15 Couture thoughts. 20:45 Thoughts about myself. 22:11 Embracing Your Uniqueness. 29:44 Thoughts about money. 32:56 Money mindset transformation. 38:51 Life as a game. 42:59 Feeling bad cannot stop magic. 45:09 Thoughts on love and relationships. 48:46 The Royal Treatment.  Quotes:  "Girl, I am feeling like yesterday's fries."  "I'm going to bloom where I'm planted. I'm going to really show up in this position, in this role, and I'm going to give it my all because it matters."  "Money is fun, which is in my thought closet. And money doesn't solve the problems that people are trying to use money to solve the problem for."  "I love believing that failure is what dreams are built upon."  "It was a thought that I decided to return, and I upgraded for a better thought." Useful Resources:   The Royal Treatment Workshop: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ROYAL   Join the membership: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join   FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/   Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh     Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh     YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial      

383: Shop My Thought Closet

 Unveiling Your Inner Queen: The Power of Self-Respect and Self-Care  Giving yourself a royal treatment involves creating a personalized plan for self-care and self-respect. In this School of Self-Image episode, host, and master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of treating oneself like royalty and prioritizing self-care. She shares the story of a client named Sarah who transformed her life by implementing a royal treatment plan tailored to her needs. This plan included setting boundaries at work, taking lunch breaks, exercising, and engaging in hobbies she enjoyed. The concept of a royal treatment goes beyond superficial indulgences like spa days and manicures. It is about connecting with one's true nature, listening to internal cues, and establishing a strong inner kingdom. By tuning into one's body and soul, individuals can determine what they need to feel their best and align with their natural rhythm. This process involves building a strong relationship with oneself based on love, respect, and self-worth.  Tune in to learn why every woman needs to prioritize herself and treat herself like royalty.  Talking Points:   00:00:00 - Introduction to the Royal Treatment   00:05:30 - The Consequences of Self-Neglect   00:10:16 - Overcoming Excuses for Self-Care   00:13:05 - Increased Confidence through Self-Care   00:17:32 - Attractiveness and Energy   00:21:31 - Unveiling Your True Nature   00:24:34 - Building a Strong Inner Kingdom   00:26:19 - Invitation to the Royal Treatment Workshop   Quotes:  "When are you going to start treating yourself like a queen?"  "Confidence is something that you create with your thoughts, with your mind. It is a belief in your abilities."  "I've done those things, and it creates this deep trust in myself. This feeling of like, girl, I've got you."  "Would you rather attract rusty old nails or shiny gold coins? I'm guessing your answer is shiny gold coins."  "It is going to have the most beautiful cascading effect into every area of your life." Useful Resources:     The Royal Treatment Workshop:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/ROYAL     Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join     FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/     Sign up for the  Weekly  Edit!  http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:     Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com     Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh       Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial     TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh        YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial    

382: Why Every Woman Needs a Royal Treatment

Embracing 'No': The Key to Living a Life Aligned with Your Values Saying no is a powerful tool for setting boundaries and taking back control of your life. In the podcast episode, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of establishing boundaries to prioritize your well-being and align with your values and goals. Here are some key points to consider when it comes to setting boundaries through saying no:   Prioritizing Your Well-being: By saying no to commitments or requests that do not serve you, you are prioritizing your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Empowering Yourself: Saying no is a way of empowering yourself and demonstrating self-respect.    Taking Control of Your Life: Without boundaries, you may feel like you are being run over by the demands and expectations of others.    Living in Alignment: Setting boundaries through saying no allows you to live in alignment with your decisions, goals, and values.    Building Self-Image: Saying no can positively impact your self-image and self-esteem.    Saying no is not just about declining requests; it is a powerful act of self-care and self-empowerment. By setting boundaries through saying no, you can take control of your life, prioritize your well-being, and live in alignment with your values and goals. Join Tonya as she delves into the power of saying no, inspired by quotes from Steve Jobs and Paulo Coelho, and explores the importance of listening to our gut feelings and setting boundaries by saying no when necessary to avoid feeling overwhelmed or drained.    ____________________________________________________________________________ Episode Details: 00:01:25 - Embracing Joyful Yeses 00:01:57 - Mastering the Art of Saying No 00:03:11 - Free Guide to Saying No 00:04:14 - Societal Pressures and FOMO 00:05:08 - The Consequences of Yes 00:06:33 - The Jar Metaphor 00:08:10 - Identity and Priorities 00:12:36 - The Upside of Saying No 00:15:16 - The Clarity of Prioritizing Yes 00:18:30 - Elegance and Quality Over Quantity 00:23:53 - The Pleasure of Saying No 00:25:28 - The Invitation to Say No   Quotes: "Innovation is saying no to a thousand things." "No is my new favorite word." "When you say yes to everything, you live someone else's life." "I prioritize my wellbeing to demonstrate that I am worthy and I am confident in who I am." "The power of no lies in saying no to the junk, to the low quality." "I lived a large part of my life lying to everybody. Not on purpose, but to me, when you say yes to something that you don't really want to do, it's like you're lying." "The power of no after years of being afraid of it, I can tell you it's one of the best two-letter words in my vocabulary." Useful Resources:   The Guide to Saying No:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/power   Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join   FREE training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/powerfully-ever-after/     FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/   Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial     TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh     

269: Balancing Hard and Easy

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