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• 06.09.2023

  omm399.alcohol.isnt.a.solution

  Today’s new OMM is one i’ve recorded in response to this email i got – and her request for an ass-kicking! penpal Dusquene (day 123) sent me this: “I’m sober, but my emotions are all over the map. Really strong...

  
• 06.06.2023

  omm398.continuous

  my penpal Karensoffthesauce sent me this on her day 33: “I got a little frustrated today. You sent an email out today about someone feeling left out and they were on day 66. She was fighting with Wolfie regarding the...

  
• 06.03.2023

  omm397.sobriety.ruins.drinking

  Once you’ve had a small period of time sober, even a few weeks, something happens in your head. And if you DO relapse again, you’ll realize something about your sobriety that you didn’t think was possible. hugs, belle xo ~...

  
• 05.30.2023

  omm396.take.a.poll

  Do you ask your over-drinking husband if you should quit drinking? Or your best-drinking friends? Do you take a poll to see what other people think you should do? Should they even get a vote? hugs, belle xo ~ one-on-one...

  
• 05.02.2023

  omm395.boring

  A said that her life was boring now that she’s sober. though she also admitted that when drinking, that was boring, too …  new omm for you today! hugs, belle xo ~ one-on-one coaching > www.soberjumpstart.com my book > www.100daysoberchallenge.com...

  
• 09.03.2022

  omm393.better.by.a.mile

  E sent me this: “I do the ‘tomorrow’ thing, every day, and it is exhausting.” And this new OMM #392 is my reply, here’s what i think about waiting until tomorrow. hugs, belle xo ~ one-on-one coaching > www.soberjumpstart.com my book...

  
• 09.03.2022

  omm392.what.is.sobriety.worth

  I received these emails: N: “Honestly Belle:  I want to [sign up for sober coaching].  My head tells me it’s too expensive – I am going through a divorce and in the red every month.  I also buy alcohol, not...

  
• 11.30.2021

  omm391.want.to.learn

  “i want to learn to be sober, but i want to drink at the same time.” there are other coaches who talk about this – about drinking and learning and drinking and learning and eventually give up the alcohol –...

  
• 06.14.2021

  omm390.archiveofanger

  omm390.archiveofanger > if you have an archive of anger, then your anger will squirt out in the most inappropriate ways. and then you’re mad at people who have done nothing, because it’s triggered some original archived anger… [This audio clip...

  
• 06.14.2021

  omm389.superhighway

  omm389.superhighway > if you’re newly sober, then it’s like you’re a little chick, walking around in tall grass. you are walking in a new place, unsure where to go. And all the while you are RIGHT beside a superhighway of...

  
• 04.10.2021

  omm388.resistance

  omm388.resistance > saturday morning. i was lounging in bed this  morning and thought, hey, i should do something productive. like get up? nah. i’ll record an audio from bed instead!  and this audio is  about feeling resistance to doing hard things,...

  
• 03.31.2021

  omm387.moderation.doesnt.work

  omm387.moderation.doesnt.work > this audio is about mental health, compulsive behaviours, and how moderation doesn’t work. i share how reading an article in New York magazine about an author had me thinking the whole time: this is a story about addiction,...

  
• 03.31.2021

  omm386.decision.making

  omm386.decision.making > This audio is about how you make decisions. i talk about that feeling in the pit of your stomach when you’re trying to decide what to do. and how this is relates to quitting drinking and is maybe...

  
• 03.26.2021

  omm385.how.proud.of.you

  omm385.how.proud.of.you > how proud of you must you be, for being sober, for looking at sober stuff right now? with all the things going on in the world? and you’re here, right now, working on this. isn’t that a cool...

  
• 03.26.2021

  omm384.dividing.line

  omm384.dividing.line > you are in one of two camps: (1) “how can i make sure that never happens to me” or (2) “that’ll never happen to me.” there’s the line, right there. and if you think you’re in the ‘that’ll...

  
• 03.26.2021

  omm383.accidents

  omm383.accidents > our head will use anything as a reason to drink. so what happens if you deny that you have a wolfie voice? well, that puts you at risk. and what if you think you drink because of external...

  
• 01.20.2021

  omm382.personality.types

  omm382.personality.types > i received an email from penpal Romey about enneagram personality types, which i knew nothing about, so off i went researching, and came up with something super fascinating about those of us who are ‘helpers’ … oh and how...

  
• 01.20.2021

  omm381.raking.leaves

  omm381.raking.leaves > how is raking leaves being sober? well, it’s like learning anything new. at first we don’t know anything. we do it wrong, we get blisters. and then we learn. then later it’s just normal … it’s all normal....

  
• 01.18.2021

  omm380.bit.by.bit

  omm380.bit.by.bit > how do you do something large? the same way you do ANYTHING that’s large … you do it a day at a time. bit by bit. and boy, don’t we hate to hear that! but really, it’s how...

  
• 01.18.2021

  omm379.psychic.load

  omm379.psychic.load > ok, a psychic load is the weight of things, in your head, like the ENERGY it takes to hold something in your mind. like when you’re drinking and trying to find a way out, the noise in your...

  
• 12.16.2020

  omm378.arguing.mean

  omm378.arguing.mean > email from Kimba (day 22): “This podcast rang true. Yesterday my husband spent time with his side of the family and came home and accusing me of hating his family (overdrinkers all). Truth was I had a repairman...

  
• 11.03.2020

  omm377.things.that.improve

  omm377.things.that.improve > If you keep going, moving away from day 1, then what kinds of things will improve? If you remove the booze, and allow for the transition time for things to get better, then what changes might you expect?...

  
• 11.03.2020

  omm376.juggling.knives

  omm376.juggling.knives > we’re looking for a little boost, a bit of  dopamine, an adrenaline rush. and then we stack those on top of each other, push-push-push (up-up-up) and then we fall over into alcohol. not you. not you, of course. you’re here, doing...

  
• 10.18.2020

  omm375.truth

  omm375.truth > what happens when we’re not truthful about our drinking. we tell ourselves stories about being ‘not that bad’ or ‘it’s only on weekends’. and yet, we know something isn’t quite right. how does that kind of thinking affect...

  
• 10.18.2020

  omm374.rebuild

  omm374.rebuild > When we’re tired, then it’s easy to think that things are hopeless — so the question then becomes: how do you spend your limited emotional energy in any given day? This one-minute message (actually it’s more like three...

  
• 09.30.2020

  omm373.husband.part.5

  omm373.husband.part.5 > i’ve been recording the AUDIO version of the amazon best selling mini-course about ‘how to quit drinking if your husband still drinks ($2 PDF version / $10 print version) > https://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com/husband.htm. For today’s one minute message, you’re going...

  
• 08.19.2020

  omm372.husband.part.2

  omm372.husband.part.2 > last week i started to record the AUDIO version of the amazon best selling mini-course about ‘how to quit drinking if your husband still drinks ($2 PDF version / $10 print version) > https://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com/husband.htm. For today’s one minute...

  
• 08.14.2020

  omm371.husband.part.1

  omm371.husband.part.1 > i wrote an amazon best selling mini-course about ‘how to quit drinking if your husband still drinks’ ($2 PDF version / $10 print version) > https://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com/husband.htm.  And i have just started to record the AUDIO version of the...

  
• 07.24.2020

  omm370.a.head.that.asks.for.it

  omm370.a.head.that.asks.for.it > we have a head that defaults to alcohol for all things: good things, bad things, known things, unknown things, or because it’s Friday. we have a head that asks for alcohol. it’ll use anything as an excuse to...

  
• 07.23.2020

  omm369.socially.acceptable

  omm369.socially.acceptable > why isn’t quitting drinking more socially acceptable? you don’t have to have lung cancer to quit cigarettes. you don’t have to declare bankruptcy to change your money stuff. == happy sober thursday to you. it is warm and...

  
• 07.02.2020

  omm297.what.you.think.of.you

  omm297.what.you.think.of.you > You can’t be so interested in what other people think of you, that you stop caring about what YOU think of you … so i sent out an email and said, “want to record an audio for me...

  
• 06.29.2020

  omm368.sleep.food.bathing

  omm368.sleep.food.bathing > any voice that isn’t saying ‘take good care of you’ is wolfie. and i recorded this one-minute message in response to this question: “How to hear the wolfie voice when you don’t think you can …” == happy...

  
• 06.27.2020

  omm367.sober.supports.categories

  omm367.sober.supports.categories > we tend to pick ONE kind of support, and ignore other kinds. “why isn’t journaling and yoga enough?” you will ask. When really, you need some tools in each category. so what are the categories? ha. you thought...

  
• 06.22.2020

  omm366.continuous.days.sober

  omm366.continuous.days.sober > if you fuck with your day count, your head knows that. there’s a little niggling voice in there that will give you a lot of grief. if you’re drinking ‘here and there’ then you’re not getting the benefits...

  
• 06.16.2020

  omm365.new.radio.station

  omm365.new.radio.station > if you hear a voice in your head saying that you’re bad, lazy, worthless, a problem … it’s possible to get that voice to stop. when we’re sober, we can learn reframing skills. we can learn to hear...

  
• 06.13.2020

  omm364.darkness

  omm364.darkness > there is a hopelessness that can descend on us, like we’re trapped in a dark room and the windows have thick curtains and the doors are nailed shut. now, what if i told you that drinking MAKES this...

  
• 06.11.2020

  omm363.there.is.no.amount

  omm363.there.is.no.amount > there’s no amount of booze that’s worth a new day 1. you’ve worked hard to get yourself here. to give that up for a new day 1 means that you have to repeat all these days again. ==...

  
• 06.03.2020

  omm362.how.many.tools

  omm362.how.many.tools > “why do I have to use these sober tools when other people don’t have to?” To get the result you want, you’re going to use *whatever* it takes to get there, including sober tools you’ve dismissed up to...

  
• 06.02.2020

  omm361.relapse.or.slip

  omm.361.relapse.or.slip > does it matter what you call it? a relapse or a slip or a blip? our head can play lots of games with things like this. (at the end of this message, if you keep listening, I start...

  
• 05.05.2020

  omm358.news

  omm358.news > ok, this one-minute message might not work. i mean the subject might not work. this seems like a risky thing for me to be saying… so as an experiment, i’m sending it to you. then based on feedback...

  
• 04.03.2020

  omm357.gratitude

  omm357.gratitude > it could be worse, right? think of your ex-partner and then listen to this one-minute message. == happy sober friday from me. there is black forest cake in my future, you? hugs, belle xo ~ my book > www.100daysoberchallenge.com...

  
• 03.29.2020

  Sober Podcast 361 – Resilience

  This is my third official audio check-in from paris during the corona virus. This audio was recorded at the duckpond on my Sunday run, on March 29th, 2020. It’s about resilience, remembering the long game, doing what’s best for you,...

  
• 03.26.2020

  Sober Podcast 088 – Angry Worms

  Lydster asked me to talk about this: “Why does alcohol so darkly affect our mood. It fascinates me how having even one tiny drink would open just a teeny bit the can of extremely angry worms that live inside. Sometimes...

  
• 03.26.2020

  Sober Podcast 088 – Angry Worms

  Lydster asked me to talk about this: “Why does alcohol so darkly affect our mood. It fascinates me how having even one tiny drink would open just a teeny bit the can of extremely angry worms that live inside. Sometimes...

  
• 03.25.2020

  omm356.eliminate

  omm356.eliminate > so if you’re feeling wacky and wound up, especially in times like this, then what can you ELIMINATE that’ll make you feel better. alcohol, for sure, but what else? i share some suggestions in this one-minute message. ==...

  
• 03.25.2020

  omm356.eliminate

  omm356.eliminate > so if you’re feeling wacky and wound up, especially in times like this, then what can you ELIMINATE that’ll make you feel better. alcohol, for sure, but what else? i share some suggestions in this one-minute message. ==...

  
• 03.24.2020

  Sober Podcast 035 – Everything Else is Wolfie

  You know the wolfie voice, he says ‘drink, drink now.’ but what about the other voices? the ones that say “this is too hard” or “wah this isn’t worth it.” What happens when you realize that wolfie, the lying bastard,...

  
• 03.24.2020

  Sober Podcast 035 – Everything Else is Wolfie

  You know the wolfie voice, he says ‘drink, drink now.’ but what about the other voices? the ones that say “this is too hard” or “wah this isn’t worth it.” What happens when you realize that wolfie, the lying bastard,...

  
• 03.21.2020

  omm164.test.or.protect

  it’s not your job to test your sobriety, to put yourself in weird situations, to “see if you’ll be ok.” it’s your job to keep your chick from getting squished. well that’ll make more sense when you listen to the...

  
• 03.21.2020

  omm164.test.or.protect

  it’s not your job to test your sobriety, to put yourself in weird situations, to “see if you’ll be ok.” it’s your job to keep your chick from getting squished. well that’ll make more sense when you listen to the...