"Which came first, the chicken or the egg? If you get caught up arguing about which is literally true, you're missing out on something far more important - the chance to enjoy scrambled eggs and fried chicken with a person you could connect with and learn from." 

“There are 2 ways to view other people - and that comes across as something deeper than our behaviors toward them. (And they can pick up on that.)”

“It doesn’t matter how polished your manners are around somebody you don’t like, it doesn’t matter how deep your self control in a situation where you’re struggling to see somebody as equal to yourself. It doesn’t matter if you go to therapy for years and you learn skills and the correct way to speak and act - It doesn’t matter your skill level, this will not cover up if you see someone as an object, if you see someone as “less than” yourself." 

“You who are parents know – your kids are fine and occupied until you need to go to the bathroom, or until you’re hiding in the pantry eating that hidden box of girl scout cookies, you can’t escape them – they will find you."

“I’m gonna let you in on a little secret: My favorite way to love my children is when I am away from them, thinking about them.”

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“The big picture perspective is a flexible thing – it gives you the power to have it both ways. To zoom way out and see a trial or a pattern for what it is, to name it, to say “I’m going to choose not to let this define me, or define my life satisfaction right now; I can’t control it anyway.”

“The big picture perspective gives you the flexibility to dive deep into savoring what you have, and the option to accept what you can’t control and do the opposite – try to zoom past it without wallowing in it.”

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Explaining through stories & a handful of takeaway points the many ways a Big Picture Perspective improves our relationships and our quality of life.

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Did you know that “Happy” can mean SO MUCH MORE than that top-of-the-world feeling? 

By expanding the view of what Happy is and where to find it, we open up to a more realistic-yet-enjoyable sort of existence. The sort that brings joy to real life, right now. 

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Welcome to Big Picture Relationships, where we talk about finding a real-life kind of Happy. There’s something about keeping the Big Picture in mind that lessens anxiety, increases peace, and makes hard things easier. This introductory episode gives an overview of what Big Picture Relationships is all about and what to expect in future episodes.

Big picture perspectives bring you peace, help you know where you can improve if you want, and they might leave you downright cheery about the fact there are somethings you can’t change. There’s a peaceful kind of freedom that comes from accepting and learning to roll with things that are out of our control, instead of wasting our energy wishing they were different. 

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