"I always thought that if I did everything the way God told us to, then I would be blessed, I would be happy and I would have a good marriage. That was decidedly not the case."  Well-meaning parents and youth pastors promised marital bliss if you could only make it to the altar as a virgin. For many, the promise didn't deliver. In this episode, Juli brings truth and compassion to the imperfect purity message of the 90s. 

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For most marriages, the most challenging years are the earliest ones. Marital problems can come in any number of forms, but sometimes the most difficult to navigate are those you don’t see coming. Few know this better than Chris and Stephanie Teague, the duo behind Out of the Dust, who experienced divorce suddenly after only three and a half years of marriage. The couple join Juli to discuss exactly what happened before their marriage fell apart, and what God did in both of them to put it back together.   Guests: Out of the Dust (Chris and Stephanie Teague)     Website: outofthedustmusic.com Instagram: @outofthedustmusic Check out the new album from Out of the Dust, releasing April 26th!     Q&A;: Where do I begin healing? Explore more resources on healing     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#514 How Deconstruction and Divorce Rocked a Young Couple's Life

Gender dysphoria is becoming more and more common, and parents with kids who are struggling are at a loss at what to do. Should they affirm their kids? Should they approve hormone blockers?  In this week’s episode of Java with Juli, Juli is joined by Dr. Miriam Grossman, a child psychiatrist and author who has testified before congress about some of the hidden dangers behind transgender activism.    Guest: Dr. Miriam Grossman, MD    Book: "Lost in Trans Nation: A Child Psychiatrist's Guide Out of the Madness" by Miriam Grossman M.D. Book: “You’re Teaching my Child What?!” by Miriam Grossman M.D. Java with Juli:  #507 What You Need To Know About The Gender Conversation Java with Juli:  #508 What Does Healthy Masculinity Actually Look Like?   Check out more resources about sex and culture!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#513 A Child Psychiatrist On The Truth About Transgender Activism

While many of us are familiar with the concept of abuse, we are typically familiar with the conventional stereotypes around abuse. We typically picture a younger, weaker party who is taken advantage of by a dominant person. It’s rare we picture a friend, mentor or someone we trust harming us.   Unfortunately this is what happened to Tricia Lott Williford. In the same 72-hour span in which she experienced the sudden and unexpected death of her husband, she experienced sexual assault from someone she considered a friend and a mentor.   Tricia and her therapist, Jana Richardson, join Juli to talk about how to recognize, fight, and recover from abuse in all its forms.     Guests: Tricia Lott Williford and Jana Richardson     Website: tricialottwilliford.com Instagram: @tricialottwilliford   Book: You Are Safe Now by Tricia Lott Williford and Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, EMDR Book: And Life Comes Back by Tricia Lott Williford   Find more resources on healing and collect your free resource here. Java with Juli:   #497 Trying to Heal? Here’s Why Knowing Your Story is Essential Blog:  How Do I Know If I’m in an Abusive Relationship? Blog:  As Christians, How Do We Respond to Abuse Allegations in the Church?   If you're a member, we’ll be discussing this episode in more depth and taking your questions, live, during Second Cup tomorrow, April 9. Members, sign up for Second Cup  here! If you're not a member you can learn more here.   Learn more about the Authentic Intimacy member community     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#512 Friends Who Hurt Us: How To Recognize Unlikely Sources Of Abuse

Is laughter important? Why did God give us the ability to laugh? Laughter might not be top of mind when it comes to how we live as Christians or how we live in relationship with others, but laughter is a gift God has given to us, and there are many reasons why. This week, comedian, author and Pastor Ted Cunningham is Juli’s guest, and he explains the health and relational benefits of laughing much and laughing often.   Guest: Ted Cunningham   Website: Woodland Hills Church   Book: A Love That Laughs by Ted Cunningham Blog: Your Marriage Should Be Fun   Partner with Authentic Intimacy   Join the Love Like You Mean it Cruise in 2025!     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#511 Why You Need to Laugh More

Accidental influencer and author of “Forever Home”, Anh Lin, shares her story of journeying through trauma and brokenness to a place of healing.   You’ll hear Anh talk about:   Her unlikely encounter with Jesus   How she medicated her pain and grief with partying and alcohol   Experiencing rock bottom, even after finding Jesus       Guest: Anh Lin     Anh’s website: girlandtheword.com Anh’s Instagram: @girlandtheword Book: “Forever Home: Moving Beyond Brokenness to Build a Strong and Beautiful Life” by Anh Lin   Blog:  How Do I Know If I’m in an Abusive Relationship? Blog: Don’t Waste the Pain    Sign up for Second Cup on April 9th! Learn more about the Authentic Intimacy member community   This is the last episode you’ll be able to listen to on your Google Podcasts App. If you usually listen to Google Podcasts, don’t worry, our episodes are still available on YouTube and Spotify, or if you’re an iPhone user, you can find us on Apple Podcasts as well. Make sure to subscribe to us on Apple Podcasts, on YouTube, or on Spotify.   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness

BONUS! #235: How the Purity Movement Hurt Us

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