Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women

By Melanie Curtin

Society & Culture Education Sexuality

What's Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women about?

Advice for smart men on how to succeed with women in sex, dating, relationships, and marriages. Beautiful women give you a peek behind the curtain into what the feminine really craves from the masculine ... and how to give it to us. If you want deep dating advice, help with relationships, or tips on how to have sex with women in a way they'll swoon over, c'mon in. Personal growth is sexy, haven't you heard? And if you're ready to do the work, come work with us -- we'd love to have you: www.evolutionary.men/apply. Get in touch at [email protected].

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When we think about sexy turn-ons and arousal -- especially when we're engaging in solo play -- many of us think about visual porn. The numbers bear this out: according to Psychology Today, 80% of men and 26% of women ...

Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women episodes:

09.22.2023 275: What's life like as an erotica writer? (ft. Ruan Willow) When we think about sexy turn-ons and arousal -- especially when we're engaging in solo play -- many of us think about visual porn. The numbers bear this out: according to Psychology Today, 80% of men and 26% of women ...
09.15.2023 274: How do you make sure you're not coming off as creepy? (ft. Jason Lange) [replay] How do you know if you're being creepy? For many of our clients, the fear of making a woman uncomfortable -- or being seen as creepy -- can be debilitating or even paralyzing. These men are often concerned that they're ...
09.08.2023 273: 3 myths about self-love ... and why it matters so much in relationship (ft. Megan Bhatia) Ever found yourself resentful of a relationship partner? Maybe you feel like you're always giving and never getting much in return. Perhaps you've seen her as selfish, not providing you with the respect, love, attention, or sex you need in ...
09.01.2023 272: Your woman wants you to tussle with her. Yes, really. (ft. Dr. Robert Glover) [replay] Let's be real: For many men, it's often hard to figure out women. Moods change quickly, and often you know something is going on but you're not sure what (or how to find out). It's also hard when you feel ...
08.25.2023 271: GirlTalk: What makes a woman truly trust a man? [replay] If you want a woman to fully surrender to you, you've got to inspire deep trust in her. This includes sexually -- a woman who deeply trusts her man is infinitely more likely to open up when it comes to ...
08.18.2023 270: What is shadow work, and how does it make you sexier? (ft. Luke Adler & Jason Lange) Shadow work is popular in the personal growth community, and for good reason — it can be deeply transformational. Many people report deeper and more lasting shifts with shadow work than with years of talk therapy. But what’s talked about ...
08.11.2023 269: What women truly crave from men (ft. Jason Lange) In our work with men who have sex with women, we've noticed a few distinct categories. There are three specific archetypes of men we see most commonly, and here we outline their patterns. We do this in part because I ...
08.04.2023 268: A woman’s biggest fear (and how you can help) (ft. Violet Lange) Want a woman to feel deeply, profoundly, extraordinarily safe with you? Able to surrender fully, relaxing all the way into your arms, allowing her body to open to you in ways you never knew were possible? Then you need to ...
07.28.2023 267: What do you do if your masculine role models sucked? (ft. Jason Lange) How did you learn to be a man? From whom did you learn, and what did they impart? More importantly, if this isn't how you want to be now, how you grow beyond what you learned? We learn how to ...
07.21.2023 266: How do you get to breakthrough? (ft. Jason Lange) [replay] Do you know you have trauma stuck in your body, but you're not sure how to move it? Perhaps you're aware that your issues are in your tissues, but you don't know what to do about it. If anyone knows ...
07.14.2023 265: What if she's got a sexual trauma background? How do you help? (ft. Violet Lange) [replay] If you want a thriving, connected sex life with your partner, but feel like something's in the way ... it could be sexual trauma. The fact is, 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are survivors of child ...
07.07.2023 264: How do we learn about sex? (ft. Yuval Mann) Was your family skilled at teaching you about sex? Was your school, or your religious community? HA. I'm guessing not. Many families of origin suck at talking about sex, dating, and relationships. And whether you grew up in a religious ...
06.30.2023 263: 5 ways to polarize a powerful woman (ft. Jason Lange) Has your woman ever been in her masculine, and you wished she was in her feminine? Here's something that doesn't work: "Hey, could you drop into your feminine already?" ;) So how do you polarize your woman well? Polarity is ...
06.23.2023 262: Are you lonely? (ft. Jason Lange) Ever have trouble concentrating, or beat yourself up for not getting more done? Do you give yourself a hard time for watching porn & masturbating? Wonder why you just can't kick that habit you know is unhealthy (smoking weed, playing ...
06.16.2023 261: If I'm having doubts, does that mean she's not The One? (ft. Jason Lange) "I just can't make up my mind. Sometimes I feel like I'm settling, and that makes me sad. Sometimes I feel blessed to have someone as amazing as this woman who wants to be with me. The question I have ...
06.09.2023 260: How do you make consent sexy? An adult film actress shares! (ft. Tasha Reign) A lot of the men we work with don't want to be That Guy. The guy who's creepy or pervy or weird. The guy who makes women feel unsafe, whether on a date or in a relationship. But how do ...
06.02.2023 259: Want her to feel safe with you, and free to be vulnerable? Learn to do this. (ft. Jason Lange) All of the men we work with, whether married, dating, or single, want women to feel safe with them. It's important to them that women trust them -- that women feel secure around them (even if that's "just" on a ...
05.26.2023 258: Should you wait to get into a relationship in order to work on your stuff? & other popular questions (ft. me!) Relate to any of the following dating and relationship questions?In dating, I tend to get attached/excited about someone fast, and then really disappointed when it doesn’t work out. How do I lessen the intensity of this? (This includes if you've ...
05.19.2023 257: Porn sex vs. real-life sex: a woman porn director lays it out (ft. Holly Randall) [replay] If you've ever been concerned about erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation and looked at male-bodied porn stars with envy, here's a fun fact: Close to 100% of male-bodied porn stars use Viagra/Cialis/other sexual performance enhancement drugs in order to perform ...
05.12.2023 256: How do you support her when she’s having a hard time (and also get your needs met)? (ft. Violet Lange) When a woman is going through a tough time (especially for an extended period of time), it can be easy to fall into a codependent dynamic. When she relies heavily on you to help her feel better, this can be ...
05.05.2023 255: GuyTalk: Fun with cunnilingus! 3 men share their experience of going down on women Oral sex can be super hot. In fact, some people consider it even more intimate than intercourse. As one writer put it, "Sexual intercourse is mostly selfish. Sure, you want the other person to get off, but your own orgasm ...
04.28.2023 254: The 3 common traps conscious couples fall into (and how to avoid them!) (ft. Allana Pratt) Let's say you're doing the work, and meet someone else who's doing the work. Now you're in a conscious relationship! Mazel tov! Now what do you need to know about sex, love, relating, and how it all connects? When you've ...
04.21.2023 253: Can you address erectile dysfunction with a science-based sex toy? Turns out yes. (ft. Dr. Soum of MysteryVibe) Sex is part of life, and major life events affect our sex lives. Here are just a few things you might've wondered about in the course of your own sex life:How do I overcome erectile dysfunction without drugs? (like Viagra ...
04.14.2023 252: How to date & have connected sex with a trauma background (ft. Michael Unbroken) Trauma recovery might not seem like the sexiest topic, but you guys, it is. When it comes to to having healthy, passionate, connected sex, dating, and love relationships, it's everything! You may have become aware (through, perhaps, this podcast) that ...
04.07.2023 251: Dating lessons from a dating show host! (ft. Alli Goldberg) "I'm a comedian, and now I’m an accidental matchmaker!" So says Alli, self-proclaimed theater geek and creator of Love Isn’t Blind — a new dating show where 4 men compete for 1 woman, and the men can’t speak. She's also ...
03.31.2023 250: How do you re-polarize a relationship (bring back the spark)? ft. Jason Lange One of the most inspiring things we've seen in our work with men is the rejuvenation of relationships. We've seen clients in long-term, committed relationships that felt flat, off, or just not exciting ... become vibrant and vivid again. We've ...
03.24.2023 249: Feel like you can never get it right with her? This relationship pattern could be behind it (ft. Jason Lange) Ever experienced the relationship pattern where she essentially says, "I was hurt by this thing you did," or, "I need you to love me better/differently" — and then you feel like you've failed, pull away, and maybe even have the ...
03.17.2023 248: Hot sexting! How & when to sext, and more on sexual communication (ft. Dr. Tara) Curious about sexting, or how to bring it up/do it in the context of a new dating relationship? Maybe it's an edge you'd like to push, or maybe you're not even sure what it really is. (Hint: it can also ...
03.10.2023 247: GirlTalk: Dating apps! What's it like being a woman on them? [Replay] Real talk: Dating can be hard! So many of us long to connect with one another, but the process can feel ... challenging. Whether you're contending with approach anxiety, not knowing what to text or when to call, when to ...
03.03.2023 246: Getting to peak masculine vitality (ft. Michael Holt) Ever feel like you're dragging? Like you don't have enough energy to do all the things you want to do, or just wish you had more oomph in general? The fact is, when you're healthy and vital, you're more attractive. ...
02.24.2023 245: What's it like to be swingers? (ft. John & Jackie Melfi) How do you know if monogamy is right for you? Ever been curious about what it would actually be like to be a swinger, or date other people while still being in a healthy marriage? Jackie was actually married twice, ...
02.17.2023 244: What if what makes me good at my job makes it harder to date? (ft. Jason Lange) We work with a lot of men in demanding professions, whether that means long work hours, high-stakes environments (like hospitals), hard manual labor, or being mentally taxing or stressful. Many of these men have to hide their emotions and/or vulnerability ...
02.10.2023 243: Why are European women more likely to speak up about sex? (ft. Guy Blaise) Guy Blaise is a Frenchman who has lived in the U.S. for a number of years. As a man who has dated and had sex with both European and North American women, he has an intriguing perspective. Here we delve ...
02.03.2023 242: Stepping off the 'relationship escalator' (ft. Amy Gahran) When it comes to dating, relationships, and sex, there's a strong cultural norm -- the plotline of what we're "supposed" to want. It goes like this: You start dating, become sexually exclusive, get engaged, get married, buy a house (with ...
01.27.2023 241: What if you've ticked the big boxes in life ... but you're still not happy? (ft. Jason Lange) Ever felt "flat" in life? Like you've done a lot of the things you were "supposed" to do, but you're still not fulfilled? Or perhaps you just have this nagging feeling that more is possible. This is often a subtle ...
01.20.2023 240: How do we raise good men? (ft. Luke Entrup) How did you know when you stopped being a boy and became a man (if that's how you identify)? And if you're raising a son, how will he know when he's a man? Rites of passage are critical to our ...
01.13.2023 239: Realized I’m a "Nice Guy." Now what do I do about it? (ft. Jason Lange) Ever read No More Mr. Nice Guy, or heard about Nice Guy Syndrome and related to it? If you've identified yourself as a Nice Guy, you may have the feeling, "Where do I go from here?" Jason, a self-proclaimed recovering ...
01.06.2023 238: How do I approach a woman at the gym without bothering her? -- and other common dating questions (ft. me!) Here are 4 common questions I get from men, whether clients or listeners like you:How do I approach a woman at the gym or grocery store or other public place?How do I approach someone I work with to date? What ...
12.30.2022 237: Going after the women YOU want (ft. Jason Lange) [replay] If you’ve ever had the experience of being too scared to approach or pursue the women you really want, this one’s for you. (It’s also for you if you’ve ever felt like you were settling for a partner, rather than ...
12.23.2022 236: GirlTalk: Four women share their hottest sexual experience ever [replay] Ever wished you could be a fly on the wall while women talked frankly about their sex lives!? We got you. Here, four of us women who have sex with men go into detail around the best sex we've ever ...
12.16.2022 235: "I see a beautiful woman and immediately get triggered. Why?" (ft. Jason Lange) Ever frozen up around someone you found attractive? It can be exceedingly frustrating — you're fine around other people, but put you in front of a beautiful woman and your system just shuts down. Before you can even get to ...
12.09.2022 234: GirlTalk: Something we crave from men but rarely ask for ... [replay] There's a critical dating/relationship skill that some men have mastered, and it makes a huge difference on our side. It makes us feel special and also has us relax such that we can show up in our most exquisite, sexy ...
12.02.2022 233: Creative monogamy -- how to open up a relationship strategically (ft. Dr. Joli Hamilton) Ever wondered what it's actually like to open up a relationship -- meaning explore ethical non-monogamy (ENM), also known as polyamory? Whether you're wanting more or different kinds of sex, or just more connection, love, and variety in your relationships, ...
11.25.2022 232: Love languages, conflict, connection, and repair Ever been in a relationship where you felt like she was nitpicking at you, like you could never do anything right? Or ever been in a phase where it felt like she was never happy with you, and was sharp ...
11.18.2022 231: Her journey from vanilla marriage to BDSM and kink! (ft. Sara) Ever wished you could explore different kinds of sexy things in your relationship? How exactly does one go from missionary position to consensual flogging? Well, let us tell you! When it comes to sex, dating, and relationships, there's a lot ...
11.11.2022 230: How do I inspire my woman to want more sex with me? (ft. Jason Lange) [replay] A pattern we often hear from the men we work with is that it's really hard for them to approach their partner for sex. This could be a dating partner or someone they're in a long-term committed relationship with. Heck, ...
11.04.2022 229: Men have body image issues, too. (ft. Jason Lange) When we think about body image, shame, and appearance, we often think about women. And for good reason — there's a lot of pressure on women to look a certain way, and it's easy to feel less-than if you're not ...
10.28.2022 228: Setting the mood for sensuality ... (ft. Amy Anthony) What does it actually mean to "set the mood"? Yes, candles are fantastic — they give that soft light that makes everybody look great, and there's something to be said for that when it comes to sexy time. But there ...
10.21.2022 227: How a woman can reclaim her erotic essence (ft. Violet Lange) Want that sizzle, that dazzle, that magical mystique? Of course you do. Everyone does. And if you're in a long-term relationship, it can feel harder to maintain that over time. We're witnessing an epidemic of sexless relationships -- some studies ...
10.14.2022 226: GirlTalk: When men do this, we melt. (Yes, really!) [replay] Want hot sexy polarity in your relationship or dating life? You're gonna want to master this. It's the one relationship skill to rule them all. Here, we get personal and real about the men we've been with who've done this ...

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