“So he’s become the real love of my life. But if I’d been following my old ways of looking for men I wouldn’t have noticed him”.

If you’re following your heart and trusting to the universe in your search for midlife love, you may need to take a step back and rethink your approach. 

This week’s guest, Dr Mairi Macleod, is the founder of Dating Evolved, a science-based dating consultancy. Mairi helps women look for partners in a more thoughtful and successful way. We are often told to “trust your gut” when it comes to relationships, but Mairi explains why this approach can be unrewarding.

In this episode, she describes to Andrew how her own love life was going somewhat disastrously, and how this inspired her to use her training as an evolutionary biologist to create a science-based strategy to find a partner.

Andrew and Mairi also discuss confidence, enjoying the journey and having a good hard think about why you’re attracted to a certain kind of person. 

Dr Mairi Macleod is an evolutionary biologist, consultant, speaker, and science writer. She  runs online programs and coaches women in small groups to help them build happy, loving relationships. 

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 Read Andrew’s book The Happy Couple’s Handbook: Powerful Life Hacks for a Successful Relationship 

You may also enjoy Andrew’s conversation with Cate Mackenzie on the art of flirting 

Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube @andrewgmarshall