Episode 4 of the self-love series with host Heather Rafael explores how to raise your standards across every area of life — romance, friendship, family, work, and business — without closing your heart. Released the day before Valentine’s Day, this episode reframes standards as clarity and self-respect rather than coldness or isolation.

Heather shares why standards are life-wide, how holding clear non-negotiables changes your magnetism, and the difference between healthy detachment and armor. She gives five practical steps: define non-negotiables, stop explaining basic respect, stay curious instead of clingy, keep your life full, and allow misaligned people to opt out.

This episode is a guide to becoming steadier and more discerning so you can choose from clarity instead of fear and create relationships and environments that truly align with who you are.