When it comes to your marriage, progress doesn’t come from one big breakthrough conversation or waiting for your partner to suddenly change. Progress comes from habits.

Not the once-in-a-while things you do when you’re on your best behavior, but the predictable patterns you fall into over and over again.

In this episode, we’re talking about how to recognize these habits for what they are, and—more importantly—how to start changing them so you can create a different experience in your marriage.

You’ll learn:

How to spot the patterns that keep pulling you both back into the same fights.

Why self-awareness is the first step in shifting your behavior.

What it takes to experiment with new ways of responding—and why that matters.

How to create systems and structures (like code words or marriage check-ins) that make new habits stick.

And why celebrating small wins is just as important as the big breakthroughs.

If nothing changes about what you do, nothing changes about what you experience. But once you start shifting your habits, you’ll not only make progress—you’ll transform who you are to each other.