ERP 204: Lessons learned from Renew Breakup Bootcamp an interview with Amy Chan

Learning more about your attachment and communication styles can give you and your partner the power to transform a challenging relationship.    About Amy Chan:  Amy Chan is the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing the heart. She is also the Editor-in-Chief of JustMyType.ca - an online magazine that focuses on the psychology behind love, lust and desire. Marie Claire calls her  "A relationship expert whose work is like that of a scientific Carrie Bradshaw" and her company has been featured across national media including Good Morning America, Vogue, Glamour, Nightline and the front page of The New York Times.    (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.)    In this episode, Amy Chan and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  How relationship challenges can teach us about our areas of growth and healing.  How to notice if you are starting to lose yourself in a relationship and how to maintain a healthy connection, both with your partner and with yourself. The importance of identifying the root motivations for our giving and sacrifice behavior. What attachment theory is and how early life plays a large role in your attachment style in a relationship.  How knowing your attachment style can help you resolve issues more quickly with your significant other, as well as help you develop a more secure attachment.  Tips around what to do when you feel triggered and threatened, so that you can begin to regulate your nervous system and emotional state.  Learning how to organize your feelings and approach your partner in a way that supports more effective communication.     "When you're in this survival state, that your connection is threatened, you're not logical. So anything you're going to do during that state is probably not a really healthy choice for your future. And so you want to get back to calm and center. And before you do anything, before you send that text or make that call or break up, you want to be able to get back into a high vibe." —  Amy Chan       Mentioned:  Amy’s Breakup Bootcamp Shifting Criticism into Connected Communication - Free Guide Connect with Amy Chan:  Website: www.renewbreakupbootcamp.com  Blog: https://www.justmytype.ca/ Breakup Bootcamp on Instagram: @renewyourheart Amy Chan on Instagram: @missamychan  Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:  Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com  Email: [email protected]    If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.