Exploring Attachment Theory with Aida Manduley

What is attachment theory? How do different attachment styles show up in our most intimate relationships and in our sex lives?

Therapist and social justice consultant Aida Manduley joins us to discuss attachment theory and how we can learn about ourselves and our relationships with this powerful tool.

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin PsyD MFT

Transcript of Exploring Attachment Theory Episode

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[00:46] All right, so on today’s episode, we have one of my favorite thought leaders in the sexuality field, here with us to talk about attachment theory and how it shows up, and what we can do to manage our own attachment styles in and out of the bedroom. If you don’t even know what I’m talking about by attachment styles, you are in for a treat.

[01:10] Attachment theory is one of the primary lenses that relationship therapists and sex therapists and all kinds of therapists look at to think about how we have learned to love, how we have learned to co-regulated with other human beings, and how we act in conflict and in moments of threat with other human beings. So this is a primary lens to look at your own patterns within your relationship and your love life in general.

[01:41] Alright,