F53-049: Painful Secrets of High Performers

Show Summary: The show today is about high performers, more specifically a couple of the painful secrets high performers have. You may be a high performer and may already be aware of some of these pain points. You may be ignoring these pain points. Or you may just be in the dark as to what these are and how they affect you. Or you may not just understand or know it all and this will all be new to you. Hopefully, you’ll enjoy this. What is a High Performer? A high performer to me is somebody that excels at their chosen area, they've made a commitment somewhere along the path to pursue this and found a lot of success. Life for a higher performer is the same as ours. They have struggles and stresses and things in their life they wish were different. But in many ways, it's different. There are books written about these isolated "things" high performers deal with. Although this will be a brief show, know that this is only scratching the surface. Painful Secrets of High Performers: Feeling lazy or less productive This may come to a shock to some of you but many high performers deep down inside feel lazy or they aren't producing enough. In the outside, they look busy, super polished, and like they're really working hard (many of them are). But on the inside of these people, there's a voice in their head judging them and saying to them that they're lazy and not doing enough. Many of them have found success by doing what they do at the level they do it and it comes so easy to them that it doesn't even feel like they're working at it anymore. They are so successful that they feel they're not putting in an effort at all. They are being blindfolded, messing with them emotionally. Deep down inside, they're feeling they're not giving anywhere close to the effort they could or would like to.   Being often surrounded by YES people This means being surrounded by people that either work for them, people that are yes men or women or family members that are yes men or women. This is a dangerous place. This is someone who freaks out about saying no for the first time or what appears to be the first time for something so remedial or basic that their behavior doesn't match what is being asked for. This highly successful person has done great things throughout their life and for so long that the people around them think they can't do anything wrong or only interested in pleasing them so they're yes men or yes women. This is what plays out for celebrities and athletes all the time. They're dominant and get all they want their whole life. They rarely hear the word no and have people kissing their ass all the time. This is what happens when successful business men or women, business owner, high performing athletes, and even high-performing employees - they're deprived of candor and honesty. And that causes issues. They're less likely to open up with people around them and the people around them are wanting to say what they need to hear most, sometimes before it's too late. They've gone so far as being a yes person and someone can't serve them in time to save them from the destructive road they're on. I do have this second one, not because of anything I've done wrong but because I've been fortunate and blessed and that people around me including my family and friends support me. This is why having a business coach and peers in the industry is really important for me so that I don't get too far down this Yes factor. They may not be right. But it changes my mind and my perspective about the things I'm doing. A lot of times, what I need to hear is no and that I need to check myself not just business-wise but on a personal level as well.