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Hey friend! Ever wonder why some days you're totally ready for s*x with just one look from your spouse… and other days, even the idea feels like a chore? You’re not broken—you're just working with two powerful systems: your accelerator pedal and your brake pedal.

In this episode of The Road to Happiness Podcast, Josh & Cassie break down the concepts from Chapter 10 of their book Feeling Sexy: A Christian Woman’s Guide to Sexual Confidence & Desire. You’ll learn how to recognize what’s revving your engine—and what’s slamming the brakes.

The Accelerator Pedal includes things that turn you on—emotional connection, feeling desired, a flirty text, or a moment of tenderness.
The Brake Pedal includes things that shut you down—stress, unresolved conflict, mental clutter, or feeling unseen.

Both of these pedals are normal, natural, and deeply connected to how your nervous system and s*xuality work together. Understanding them gives you power to move forward without shame or pressure.

In this episode, Josh (certified Christian s*x therapist) and Cassie discuss:

• What activates your s*xual desire—and what inhibits it
• Why it’s totally normal to feel “in the mood” some days and not others
• How to work with your brakes and accelerators instead of fighting them
• Practical tips to create a more supportive environment for intimacy

Key Takeaways:

• You have both an accelerator and a brake—and both are working all the time
• Your turn-ons and turn-offs matter and are worth paying attention to
• Intimacy isn’t just about timing—it’s about tuning into your whole self
• You can increase connection (and confidence!) by managing your internal “pedals”

Once you understand how your accelerator and brake pedals work, everything changes. You stop blaming yourself—or your spouse—and start creating the kind of emotional and physical environment where intimacy can actually thrive. It's not about being “in the mood” all the time. It’s about knowing how to find your rhythm and honor what your body and heart are telling you.

Receive Christian S*x Therapy: https://mycounselor.online/christian-sex-therapy/

Download the First 11 Chapters of Feeling Sexy for FREE!: https://joshcassie.com/feeling-sexy/ 

Grab Your Copy of Feeling Sexy: Feeling Sexy: A Christian Woman's Guide to Sexual Confidence & Desire

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