037: Finding Clarity in the “In-Between”

"I feel like I don't fit in anywhere" is a common feeling expressed by transitioning Mormons.  Thomas McKonkie, author of Navigating Mormon Faith Crisis, and Kristy discuss this emotion more fully and how sitting with the pain and uncertainty leads to growth.  It's a birthing process that leads us to the person we were meant to become.   This state--and the pain associated with shedding one identity and transforming into something new post-awakening--can be painful and we talk about noticing this pain and letting it inform us about ourselves and what we are becoming.  We also throw around some practical ideas for individuals and families who want to deal with this in-between state in productive ways, for example establishing new rituals like a celebration/party (rather than something to dread/not talk about) when you, a loved one, or a child begins their faith awakening or belief transition.  For some, claiming an identity like post-mormon, MoNoMo, or ethnic/cultural mormon are an important part of the healing process.  For others, some of those labels don't really fit at the moment or it doesn't feel authentic to claim any at this point in time and so both Mormon and Ex-Mormon for example don't feel like home and it's a confusing place to be in.  You're not alone, and every journey is different:  what's important is you listen to your inner voice and let this inform your next steps.  Only you know what's best for you Check out Thomas' New podcast through KSL, Mindfulness+