Ben Higgins, of The Bachelorette and The Bachelor fame, joins us on our 100th episode of It Starts With Attraction! 

Ben discusses why he joined the reality TV shows and how he was looking to shake up what he felt was a boring and uninteresting life. He talks about his battles with addiction, feeling lonely and unseen, and how difficult it is to stand for your values when questioned about why you believe them. Finally, Ben reminds us that we've all experienced pain and have a story worth sharing. What can you do to surround yourself with a community of people who will support and encourage you to do what you should do with your life? In what ways do you work on physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction? When you have a belief and value that is different from the world, society, and the people you're with, are you going to stand firm on it? 
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In this episode of It Starts With Attraction, Kimberly Beam Holmes welcomes guest Luke LeFevre for a candid conversation about the importance of slowing down in a fast-paced world. They share relatable stories about navigating marital struggles and feeling lost, highlighting how simple morning routines can foster mental clarity and spiritual growth.

The discussion delves into the benefits of journaling for processing life's challenges. Kimberly shares her personal experiences with these tools, emphasizing the role faith played as her guiding light. For those seeking guidance with journaling, Luke LeFevre discusses his Holy Work course – a six-week journey designed to connect participants deeper with themselves and God.

Key Takeaways (Because Everyone's Busy!)
- Embrace the pause: Slowing down opens the door to powerful insights!
- Your spiritual journey is unique: God's with you, even during the messy parts.
- Journaling + meditation = a powerful combination for mental and spiritual health
- Sometimes, small steps (like 10 minutes journaling) lead to life-changing breakthroughs

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Why You NEED to Slow Down NOW - How Journaling Changed My Life

In this compelling and heartfelt video, Pastor Ian Simkins of The Bridge Church in Spring Hill, TN, delves into the transformative week he chose to experience homelessness firsthand. With vivid detail and raw emotion, Pastor Ian shares insights from his journey—challenges faced, lessons learned, and the profound impact it had on his faith and ministry. From the streets of Philadelphia to interactions with the homeless community, his story reveals the depths of human kindness and the societal gaps that often go unnoticed. 

Join Pastor Ian as he reflects on the importance of true, incarnational hospitality and the subtle, powerful ways we can embody the teachings of Jesus in our everyday interactions.



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In This AMA episode of It Starts With Attraction dive deep with Kimberly Beam Holmes exploring the four pillars of the PIES Method â€“ the key ingredients for drawing in and developing magnetic connections. The best part? They're all rooted in self-compassion and growth.

 Embark on a journey of self-discovery, gently guided by the PIES Method. This framework can empower you to identify areas where your inner light might be dimmed, not with blame, but with a spirit of understanding and growth. Imagine yourself as a radiant beacon, and the PIES Method as a tool to help you fine-tune your frequency to attract fulfilling connections. With each step you take towards self-improvement, your inner magnetism strengthens, drawing those who resonate with your authentic self closer to you.

Identify areas where your light might be dimmed. This isn't about judgment, but about understanding where you can nurture yourself for greater connection with the PIES Method as your guide.Discover the powerful link between physical well-being and emotional intelligence. When you feel good in your own skin, you naturally radiate confidence and vitality.Learn practical tips for building a healthy, sustainable routine tailored to your unique needs â€“ no pressure, just progress!Explore the importance of cultivating both emotional depth and intellectual curiosity. Let's build meaningful conversations that ignite genuine connection.Discover strategies for navigating differences in interests with your spouse. It's not about finding someone identical, but about finding ways to celebrate your unique passions together.But this journey is about more than just attracting others. It's about attracting the right kind of connection, built on empathy and mutual respect.

 That's why this episode also tackles:

Overcoming emotional unavailability â€“ both yours and those you encounter.The power of setting healthy boundaries to protect your energy and create space for fulfilling relationships.Prioritizing quality sleep â€“ because a well-rested you is a radiant you!The importance of self-care â€“ because showing yourself kindness is the foundation of attracting kindness from othersâ€¦And MORE!This episode is a warm embrace, filled with actionable advice and uplifting stories. Together, you'll break free from feeling invisible and cultivate the inner spark that attracts the love and connection you desire. You are worthy, you are seen, and you have the power to ignite your magnetic attraction!

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Is hospitality just about dinner parties and nice guest rooms? Or is there something deeper at play? Ian Simkins, joins Kimberly Beam Holmes of "It Starts with Attraction" as they explore hospitality through a powerful lens – the heart of God. They delve into how the story of the Prodigal Son reveals God's "lovesick" nature and the challenge of overcoming our "older brother" mentality. Discover how hospitality is a grand act of grace, echoing a greater story of welcome and belonging. This conversation will challenge and inspire you to:Rethink hospitality: Move beyond perfectionism and into meaningful connection.Embrace God's ways: Learn how grace and love reshape our interactions.Prioritize what matters: Find freedom in choosing the best over the good.If you long to be more hospitable with the heart of God, this video is for you! Dive into Christian hospitality and the gospel of grace and discover a way of life that reflects God's boundless love.

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 Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be. 
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Uncovering Faith, Hospitality, and Humanity with Ian Simkins

In this segment, Kimberly Beam Holmes discusses a profound study by Dr. David Matsumoto on how ending terrorism starts by improving the family unit. Dr. Matsumoto first appeared on Kimberly's podcast in the first year of the show. 



Finding Hope Inside Of Loneliness - 100th Episode ft. Ben Higgins

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