Finding You: An Evoke Therapy Podcast

By Dr. Brad Reedy

What's Finding You: An Evoke Therapy Podcast about?

Evoke Therapy Programs is an experientially based therapeutic program serving adolescents, young adults, parents, couples, and families. Email the host [email protected]

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Finding You: An Evoke Therapy Podcast episodes:

04.25.2024
Evoke Therapy Intensives for Couples, Parents, and Families - Ep 603
Dr. Reedy discusses Evoke’s custom private intensives for couples and families. He explains what make Evoke’s Intensive work different and how we aim to be the experts, not on your life, but on creating a process where you can discover...
04.17.2024
Evoke Intensives: What Sets Us Apart - Ep 602
Dr. Reedy discusses what sets Evoke Therapy Intensives apart from other programs. He explains the clinical model and explains how Evoke uses attachment and the concepts of transference and counter transference.
04.10.2024
When Apologizing Doesn’t Work (Q&A) - Ep 601
Dr. Reedy takes questions from the audience on what to do if doing your own work and apologizing to your children doesn’t make a difference.
04.05.2024
Blocked Care: Regaining Compassion for Your Child - Ep 600
From an article by Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls, Dr. Reedy discusses what happens when the chronic stress from children struggling with mental health issues bring parents to a point of numbness, disconnection, and shame. He talks about the isolation...
04.03.2024
Is Taking Care of Yourself Selfish? (Q&A) - Ep 599
Dr. Reedy talks takes live questions from the audience and talks about self-care in the context of the child parent dynamic. He talks about looking for a therapist that is patient, kind, and secure. He explains attachment-based therapy and the...
03.29.2024
Communication Theory and Skills - Ep 598
Dr. Reedy talks about communication skills and how “why” we share is more important than the words we use.
03.27.2024
Helping Children Move Through Feelings (Q&A) - Ep 597
Dr. Reedy take live questions from the audience. He discusses how to deal with an angry, resentful child. He also talks about what can happen when one spouse doesn’t want to do their therapy work.
03.21.2024
Addiction and Self-Medication - Ep 596
Addiction and Self-Medication - Ep 596 by Dr. Brad Reedy
03.20.2024
Modeling Change for Our Children (Q&A) - Ep 595
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on the process of wilderness therapy, how to support a family member in treatment, the new book "Bad Therapy," and how to model the change you want to see in your children.
03.15.2024
Myth, Story, and the Heroic Journey Inward - Ep 594
Dr. Reedy talks about how myth and stories provide a template for the heroic journey inward to discover ourselves. He uses this idea to show that our stories and out myths are invitations to look at the lost parts of...
03.13.2024
Finding Hope After Mistakes (Q&A) - Ep 593
Dr. Reedy answers a question about finding hope and worth after an affair. He talks about how to make a repair with a child who doesn’t want to engage anymore. He explains that our context can be internalized and the...
03.06.2024
How to Find a Therapist - Ep 592
Dr. Reedy talks about what to look for in a therapist. He talks about how to recognize a mature therapist who is capable of holding you with compassion and patience. He explains that "the way a therapist is with you"...
03.01.2024
Let’s Talk About the “Defense” (Q&A) – Ep 591
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about defenses, where and why they happen, what it feels like when we encounter the defense in ourselves or the Other, and what healing looks like so we don’t need...
02.28.2024
The Eden Project: In Search of the Magical Other by James Hollis (Book Review) - Ep 590
Dr. Reedy provide an overview of The Eden Project by James Hollis. He explains how the early stages of romantic love are fraught with pitfalls of projection, blame, and the working out of the unconscious, unexplored parts of ourselves. He...
02.23.2024
How We Love Those Hurting Themselves - Ep 589
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on loving our children when they are hurting themselves and on finding the right kind of therapist for ourselves.
02.21.2024
The Teen Whisperer: An Interview with Kirsten Cobabe - Ep 588
The Teen Whisperer: An Interview with Kirsten Cobabe - Ep 588 by Dr. Brad Reedy
02.21.2024
Skills and Self - Ep 587
Dr. Reedy talks about the value and limitations of skill-based work and therapy. He talks about how the development of the self is the foundation for deeper change and how that can be accomplished. He posits that the outcome of...
02.14.2024
Owning and Dealing with Your Guilt (Q&A) - Ep 586
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He discusses that the work isn’t always about learning to put up with more and more, but may be setting boundaries with people in your life. He explains that the primary barriers...
02.07.2024
How Al-anon and Coda Help - Ep 585
Dr. Reedy discusses Al-anon, Codependency, and how the 12-Steps apply to the non-identified patient. He defines codependency and talks about its connection to attachment and the attachment wound we suffered. He goes through each of the 12 Steps and ties...
01.31.2024
Shadow Work - Ep 584
Dr. Reedy discuss the shadow and how the repressed energy of our unconscious impacts our behaviors and relationships. He talks about how to recognize the shadow and how to unpack and heal so that we don’t ask our children and...
01.26.2024
Listen to What the Symptom is Saying (Q&A) - Ep 583
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on dealing with children who fight, co-parenting, and learning how to love. He explains that before we try to eradicate behaviors in our children, we learn to listen to them to hear...
01.19.2024
Repairing Fractures with Your Children - Ep 582
Dr. Reedy discusses repairing relationships in the context of attachment. He emphasizes that repair, forgiveness and reconciliation come on the terms and the timeline of the person who was hurt. He talks about the ego and how we need to...
01.17.2024
Parenting with Older Children (Q&A) - Ep 581
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on parenting older children: what is different and what is the same. He talks about what boundaries sound like and how the measure of a good boundary is not in how the...
01.12.2024
A New Take on Goals and Resolutions - Ep 580
Dr. Reedy explores the problems with setting goals and measuring our progress. He explains that goals often need to be altered, surrendered, and discarded. He gives a list of goals that relate to being and growing in contrast to goals...
01.11.2024
Good Parenting is its Own Reward - Ep 579
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from audience members who have tried everything, and they are still not able to reach their child. He talks about the goals of healthy parenting: peace, confidence, clarity…he also explains how the goal in therapy...
01.05.2024
Understanding How Human Development Leads to Compassion - Ep 578
Dr. Reedy explains various models of human development and how they lead to a more compassionate understanding of mental illness in our children. He explains how parents are often going through a parallel process with their children of individuation and...
01.03.2024
“My Child is Avoiding Their Work” (Q&A) - Ep 577
“My Child is Avoiding Their Work” (Q&A) - Ep 577 by Dr. Brad Reedy
12.29.2023
Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Rebellion and the Cure - Ep 576
Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Rebellion and the Cure - Ep 576 by Dr. Brad Reedy
12.15.2023
School Refusal – A Post Pandemic Look - Ep 575
Dr. Reedy discusses school refusal. He considers behavioral modification 9in the context of what we know about trauma informed approaches. He encourages parents to be flexible and look for the root issues when dealing with school refusal.
12.13.2023
You Are the Problem and the Solution (Q&A) - Ep 574
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about staying connected to yourself and how our anger and resentment are signals to set better boundaries. The talks about how parents must put themselves first if they are to...
12.12.2023
An Interview with Parent Coach Andy Goldstrom - Ep 573
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Parent Coach Andy Goldstrom to the podcast. From a career in business, to a journey supporting a child struggling with mental health issues, Andy brings his passion for helping parents find the tools and empowerment they...
12.06.2023
Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries (& Self-Care) - Ep 572
Dr. Reedy talks about principles involved in discovering and setting healthy boundaries. He explains that boundaries are synonymous with - or come out of - self-care. He warns against trying to explain your boundaries and using boundaries to change other...
12.01.2023
Choosing How to Die (Q&A) - Ep 571
Choosing How to Die (Q&A) - Ep 571
11.29.2023
Communication and Differentiation - Ep 570
Communication and Differentiation - Ep 570 by Dr. Brad Reedy
11.17.2023
Parenting: The Wisdom to Know the Difference (Q&A) - Ep 569
Dr. Reedy takes live questions on difficult parenting issues. He talks about learning what is inside of our control and how to face life threatening dilemmas with our children. He talks about understanding the boundaries between self and others and...
11.15.2023
Social Anxiety - Ep 568
Social Anxiety - Ep 568 by Dr. Brad Reedy
11.02.2023
Difficult Questions in Parenting (Q&A) - Ep 567
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on setting boundaries with our parents when our parents are toxic. He talks about how to motivate others to enter treatment and accepting what is outside of our control.
10.25.2023
Suporting Your Child While You Are Still Healing - Ep 566
Dr. Reedy talks about the shift that occurs when parents turn inward. He talks about how parents can model vulnerability and accountability. He uses communication skills to illustrate that the work of healing is to take responsibility for your own...
10.20.2023
Reducing Resistance (Q&A) - Ep 565
Dr. Reedy takes questions from the live audience on how to effectively encourage those we love to seek treatment. He explains that resistance is a threat response, and the primary objective is to create safety. He explains how curiosity replaces...
10.11.2023
Secure Attachment & Trauma - Ep 564
Dr. Reedy discusses the relationship between attachment (secure or anxious) and trauma. He explains that how we relate to our children - focusing on our nervous system regulation, our personal trauma histories, and how well we “see” and provide safety...
10.06.2023
Setting Boundaries While Creating Safety (Q&A) - Ep 563
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about how to create safety while still holding boundaries. He explores how to set boundaries without judgement.
09.28.2023
Behavioral Contracts & Home Agreements - Ep 562
Dr. Reedy discuses Evoke’s perspective on Behavioral Contracts. He talks about why they don’t work and now attachment is more important that managing behavior. He talks about how the key is for parents to use such tools to get...
09.22.2023
Parental Alienation and Boundaries (Q&A) - Ep 561
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on parental alienation and how much is ideal for the kids know about the other parent’s responsibility for divorce. He talks about the outcome of doing your work: unlearning and becoming a...
09.20.2023
Marriage, Divorce, and Co-Parenting - Ep 560
Dr. Reedy discusses the tasks in building a strong and healthy marriage. The talks about the critical do’s and don’ts in co-parenting.
09.13.2023
When Boundaries Aren’t Respected (Q&A) - Ep 559
Dr. Reedy takes live questions on setting boundaries with parents, dealing with a child with Borderline Personality Traits, and helping children resolve difficult feelings.
09.08.2023
PTSD, Trauma and Your Work - Ep 558
Dr. Reedy talks about the diagnosis of PTSD, C-PTSD and trauma in general. He talks about small and big “T” traumas. He talks about how resiliency is tied to how well a parent sorts out their childhood and how it...
09.01.2023
Will My Child Forgive Me? Dealing With Your Child’s Anger - Ep 557
Dr. Reedy talks about a child’s anger and forgiveness in the context of child psychology and a child’s development. He talks about the paradox of letting go of a child’s anger in order to facilitate its release: the greatest way...
08.30.2023
Guilt/Shame/Regret & a Humble Apology (Q&A) - Ep 556
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from audience members on dating in sobriety, the relationship among guilt/shame/regret/and a humble apology. He talks about the necessity of doing your own work and how not doing it asks your children (and partner) to...
08.25.2023
Accountability - Ep 555
Dr. Reedy discusses accountability. He explains the best way to teach accountability is to model it to our children. He talks about why parents are challenged with modeling this and how guilt blocks our ability to own up to our...
08.23.2023
Boundaries: Being Right vs. Being a Self. (Q&A) - Ep 554
Dr. Reedy explores the distinctions between and boundary and a consequence. He also talks about showing up with humility and not taking on shame for triggering our children. He talks about the difference between trying to get it right and...

What's Finding You: An Evoke Therapy Podcast about?

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Finding You: An Evoke Therapy Podcast episodes:

Evoke Therapy Intensives for Couples, Parents, and Families - Ep 603

Evoke Intensives: What Sets Us Apart - Ep 602

When Apologizing Doesn’t Work (Q&A) - Ep 601

Blocked Care: Regaining Compassion for Your Child - Ep 600

Is Taking Care of Yourself Selfish? (Q&A) - Ep 599

Communication Theory and Skills - Ep 598

Helping Children Move Through Feelings (Q&A) - Ep 597

Addiction and Self-Medication - Ep 596

Modeling Change for Our Children (Q&A) - Ep 595

Myth, Story, and the Heroic Journey Inward - Ep 594

Finding Hope After Mistakes (Q&A) - Ep 593

How to Find a Therapist - Ep 592

Let’s Talk About the “Defense” (Q&A) – Ep 591

The Eden Project: In Search of the Magical Other by James Hollis (Book Review) - Ep 590

How We Love Those Hurting Themselves - Ep 589

The Teen Whisperer: An Interview with Kirsten Cobabe - Ep 588

Skills and Self - Ep 587

Owning and Dealing with Your Guilt (Q&A) - Ep 586

How Al-anon and Coda Help - Ep 585

Shadow Work - Ep 584

Listen to What the Symptom is Saying (Q&A) - Ep 583

Repairing Fractures with Your Children - Ep 582

Parenting with Older Children (Q&A) - Ep 581

A New Take on Goals and Resolutions - Ep 580

Good Parenting is its Own Reward - Ep 579

Understanding How Human Development Leads to Compassion - Ep 578

“My Child is Avoiding Their Work” (Q&A) - Ep 577

Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Rebellion and the Cure - Ep 576

School Refusal – A Post Pandemic Look - Ep 575

You Are the Problem and the Solution (Q&A) - Ep 574

An Interview with Parent Coach Andy Goldstrom - Ep 573

Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries (& Self-Care) - Ep 572

Choosing How to Die (Q&A) - Ep 571

Communication and Differentiation - Ep 570

Parenting: The Wisdom to Know the Difference (Q&A) - Ep 569

Social Anxiety - Ep 568

Difficult Questions in Parenting (Q&A) - Ep 567

Suporting Your Child While You Are Still Healing - Ep 566

Reducing Resistance (Q&A) - Ep 565

Secure Attachment & Trauma - Ep 564

Setting Boundaries While Creating Safety (Q&A) - Ep 563

Behavioral Contracts & Home Agreements - Ep 562

Parental Alienation and Boundaries (Q&A) - Ep 561

Marriage, Divorce, and Co-Parenting - Ep 560

When Boundaries Aren’t Respected (Q&A) - Ep 559

PTSD, Trauma and Your Work - Ep 558

Will My Child Forgive Me? Dealing With Your Child’s Anger - Ep 557

Guilt/Shame/Regret & a Humble Apology (Q&A) - Ep 556

Accountability - Ep 555

Boundaries: Being Right vs. Being a Self. (Q&A) - Ep 554