In this heartfelt episode, we explore the journey through anhedonia (emotional numbness), depression, and the feeling of being disconnected from yourself, shedding light on feelings of emptiness and emotional numbness. If you’re struggling with mental health, know you're not alone; we offer grief advice and practical steps on how to feel emotions again. Tune in for insights and support! In this episode of Real Talk, Real Change, Tonya Reese delves into the profound effects of loss on personal identity. She opens up about losing her entire immediate family and the deep loneliness that followed—loneliness not just of missing people, but of missing pieces of herself. Tonya shares how loss rearranged her identity, pushing her into survival mode and leaving her functioning through life while emotionally disconnected. Through transparent storytelling, she explores how childhood instability, painful experiences, and performing in relationships shaped her sense of self in ways she did not recognize at the time. As Tonya walks listeners through her journey, she unpacks the reality that loss is not only emotional, it is identity-shattering. Some losses take more than people; they take your history, your belongings, your sense of home, and the versions of yourself you once knew. But in the middle of that brokenness, Tonya reveals how God began to rebuild her piece by piece, reminding her that identity in Christ is the only identity that cannot be shaken by grief, abandonment, or trauma. This episode is an invitation to every woman who has survived on autopilot, performed for love, or lost parts of herself in the process. It is a reminder that even in the deepest loss, God is restoring every single piece of who you are. You are not just surviving—you are becoming. Loss is not just sadness; it rearranges you. Some losses take pieces of who you used to be. Family holds your identity and history. Survival became my personality out of necessity. I learned to function dysfunctionally after my losses. I didn't know how to receive love or trust it. I was performing instead of connecting in relationships. In the depths of loss, God began to rebuild me. Embracing identity in Christ is crucial for healing. God is restoring every single piece of who I am. When Loss Takes More Than People: Rediscovering Identity After Grief. "Loss rearranges you." "God began to rebuild me." "We rise from our story."

Timestamps/Chapters

00:00 The Impact of Loss on Identity

02:04 Personal Stories of Loss and Loneliness

07:42 Rediscovering Self Beyond Survival

10:21 Embracing Identity in Christ

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Not every woman feels joyful during the holidays. Some are grieving someone who won’t be at the table this year. Some feel forgotten by the very people they’ve poured into. Some will sit in a room full of family and still feel painfully unseen. In this Thanksgiving episode of Real Talk Real Change, Tonya Reese speaks directly to the woman experiencing holiday loneliness, grief, rejection, emptiness, or silent heartbreak. She gently reminds you that just because you feel unseen does not mean you are unseen, just because you feel alone does not mean you are abandoned, and just because someone walked away does not mean you are unlovable.

Through Scripture-based truths, identity declarations, gentle reflection, prayer, and affirmation, Tonya invites you to reconnect with your identity, not the one shaped by pain, but the one rooted in God’s truth. She shares that being unseen by people does not mean being unseen by God. She also reminds us that identity is not proven when we are celebrated, but when we are disappointed. Healing is deeper when we grow through it, together.

This episode reminds you that you are still the daughter who is valued, seen, chosen, purposeful, and deeply loved, right here, right now, even in the valley. You are still His. You still belong.

Join us for an episode filled with inspiring stories and deep self-reflection, focusing on self-improvement and the challenges of a healing journey. We discuss how to find yourself and live with authenticity on this self-development path. This episode offers motivation for anyone seeking personal growth, identity, purpose, and a more fulfilling life.

Welcome to Episode 25 of Real Talk Real Change — a milestone moment where the mic is turned toward the woman who birthed it all. In this vulnerable and powerful conversation, Tonya Reese opens up like never before, sharing the real story behind the podcast, her journey of surrender, faith, identity, and obedience, and how God used seasons of pain, waiting, and transformation to prepare her for purpose. From moments of self-doubt to the courage to press record, Tonya reveals the emotional process of saying yes to God's call — even when she didn’t feel ready, qualified, or confident.

This episode explores identity in Christ, purpose, perseverance, and the power of transformation. You'll hear about Tonya’s defining “just do it” moment, how God spoke through her own voice, and how she learned to stop running away and instead run forward. She opens up about navigating seasons of hiddenness, waiting, and emergence — the cocoon, the stretching, the becoming — and why transformation is not a one-time event, but a lifelong evolution.

You will be inspired by how Real Talk Real Change grew from a vision into a space where women gather, heal, rediscover who they are, and bloom out loud. Tonya shares how comments from around the world — even Bulgaria — showed her that obedience to purpose reaches further than we ever imagine. And as she looks ahead, she reveals what God is pressing on her heart next: elevating the platform, bringing in expert voices, hosting transformative gatherings, and building a global community of women walking in identity, boldness, healing, and purpose.

If you’ve ever struggled with doubt, waiting, or wondering if it’s too late — this episode is a tender reminder: If you’re watching this, it’s because God is saying, It’s not too late. You have purpose.

Stay until the end for a special announcement about the upcoming giveaway of the Luxe Life Planner 2026.

Keep growing, keep healing, and remember — Real Talk sparks Real Change.

Join us for an episode filled with inspiring stories and deep self-reflection. We explore the winding paths of personal growth and the challenges of a healing journey. Learn how to find yourself and live with authenticity on this self-discovery journey.

Becoming Her is a heart-to-heart conversation about what happens in the sacred space between who we were and who we’re becoming. In this transparent and faith-filled episode, host Tonya Reese shares how fear, timing, and surrender shaped her journey of transformation. Through real stories, scripture, and raw reflection, Tonya reminds us that God’s timing isn’t about delay; it’s about alignment. If you’ve ever felt stuck, weary, or afraid to step into your next season, this episode will meet you right where you are. You’ll walk away encouraged to breathe through the process, trust God’s timing, and believe that everything, yes, even the hard things, are necessary for your becoming. In this episode, Tonya opens up about facing the fear of becoming a different version of yourself, discovering that transformation often happens in stillness, and learning to recognize the difference between alignment and delay in God’s timing. She shares how mistakes can become miracles when surrendered to God’s purpose, and why embracing grace as you grow is one of the most powerful acts of faith you can make.

Chapters/Timestamps

00:00 Embracing Transformation

01:21 The Sacred In-Between

04:28 The Power of Stillness

08:59 God's Timing and Alignment

11:45 Recognizing Fear's Disguise

13:14 Evolving into Our True Selves

14:56 Trusting the Process

17:07 A Prayer for Transformation

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Welcome to another episode of Real Talk Real Change with your host, Tonya Reese. In this heartfelt and faith-filled conversation, Tonya is joined by the amazing Shymeia Lee, a wife, mother, and lover of God who shares her powerful story of transformation and identity. Together, they dive deep into what it truly means to discover your identity in Christ, exploring how your relationship with God can shape every part of your life, from your confidence and purpose to how you see yourself beyond titles, roles, or achievements.

As Tonya and Shymeia reflect on their personal journeys, they reveal how God’s Word can redefine who we are and help us walk boldly in our divine identity. They discuss the difference between worldly identity and spiritual identity, the power of saying yes with purpose and no without guilt, and the freedom that comes from letting go of other people’s definitions of who we should be. Shymeia shares how she overcame shyness and self-doubt through Scripture, while Tonya opens up about her own journey of rediscovering who she is after years of placing her worth in others.

This episode is filled with laughter, vulnerability, and wisdom. You’ll hear stories of faith, moments of revelation, and even a few lighthearted surprises, including the discovery of “AI” in Genesis! Most importantly, you’ll be reminded that no matter where you are in life, you can always return to the Word of God to find your true identity.

Key takeaway: Your career, your past, or your titles don’t define you; your Creator does. Keep your identity rooted in Christ, trust His process, and remember that everything else is just a resource; He is your source.

If this episode blessed you, please like, comment, subscribe, and share it with another woman who’s rediscovering her identity and purpose. You never know how your share might be the confirmation someone else needs.

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Welcome back to Real Talk Real Change! Find your unique gift and then seek out who the expert finders are in that field so you can create an environment for success! Putting yourself in the right social environment is key to growth and motivation. This inspirational video will encourage a success mindset! This episode explores the importance of adopting a growth mindset and continuing on your motivational journey. Learn how to maintain a growth mindset and how to show up with excellence, with the help of inspiration from scripture. Remember that Real Talk sparks Real Change. You’ll hear how attending the 2025 Podcast Summit transformed my mindset, why showing up with excellence matters to God, and the scriptures that remind us that growth isn’t just encouraged, it’s commanded. If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt, procrastination, or believing the lie that you’re “not enough,” this episode will reignite your fire to keep learning, keep growing, and keep showing up as your best self. Scriptures in this episode: Proverbs 1:5 • Proverbs 4:7 • 2 Peter 3:18 • Joshua 1:8 • Romans 12:2 • Philippians 1:6 • 2 Timothy 1:6–7 • Colossians 3:23–24 • Proverbs 16:3

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When the lights go off and the noise fades, the truth gets loud. You pray. You serve. You smile. But deep down… you feel unseen, unworthy, and tired of pretending you’re okay. This episode is a heart check. Because disobedience doesn’t just start with outward actions — it begins in unbelief. When we choose not to believe what God says about who we are, we reject His truth and align with a lie. In today’s conversation, we’re pulling back the layers and exposing how unbelief is the root of disobedience — and how true obedience starts with believing God’s Word about your identity. Join us on a journey of faith and discovery as we explore the profound impact of believing in God's truth. What happens when you surrender to God and trust in a divine plan? From finding comfort in times of uncertainty to experiencing transformative personal growth, we'll delve into the many ways that faith can shape our lives and our understanding of the world. Whether you're seeking spiritual guidance, looking for inspiration, or simply curious about the role of faith in modern life, this video invites you to reflect on the significance of believing in God's truth and how it can lead to a more meaningful, purpose-driven existence. Discover the power of faith and its potential to uplift, to heal, and to bring hope to those who believe.

In this soul-stirring episode of Real Talk Real Change, host Tonya Reese invites you to pause, reflect, and look deeper into the mirror of your soul. Through a faith-based lens, Tonya explores the powerful themes of identity, purpose, and self-reflection, reminding us that true healing begins when we stop rushing past the reflection. In this episode, we dive into the importance of self-reflection during life’s challenging moments. Join us as we explore how these experiences can lead to personal growth and greater self-awareness. Remember, every step you take is a step towards living a better life! When you finally slow down long enough to see yourself through God’s eyes, you’ll realize that you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Every flaw, every scar, and every season of pain carries the potential to become a testimony of hope — one that glorifies Jesus and helps others find freedom. This episode reminds us that understanding our identity in Christ is not just a belief — it’s the foundation for personal growth, confidence, and divine purpose. Scripture serves as our anchor, guiding us to embrace our worth, stand firm in faith, and walk boldly in the purpose we were created for.

Chapters:

00:00 Reflections and Self-Discovery

01:57 Igniting Purpose Through Podcasting

05:04 Understanding Our Identity in Christ

10:37 Transforming Pain into Purpose

13:27 The Launch of the Butterfly Tribe

14:54 The Importance of Knowing Your True Identity

17:26 Mirror Work and Self-Reflection

21:10 Living Purposefully and Overcoming Burdens

25:06 Encouragement to Inspire Others

Key Takeaways: True healing begins when you stop rushing past the reflection. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Your identity in Christ anchors your confidence and growth. Pain can be transformed into a powerful testimony. You were created with a divine purpose to impact others. Mirror work and self-reflection are powerful tools for healing and spiritual growth. Believing in your worth allows you to live with purpose and power. If you’ve ever questioned your worth or wondered who you are in God’s eyes, this episode will remind you that your reflection is sacred and your purpose is divine.

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Are you still struggling with feelings of unworthiness? You are not alone—but you don’t have to stay there. 

In this empowering episode, host Tonya Reese and guest Tera dive into the keys to overcoming self-doubt, healing from the past, and embracing your true worth in Christ.

Highlights include:

 How to stop letting insecurity control your life

The role of identity in Christ in building confidence

Why maturity, accountability, and compassion matter for growth

Practical mindset shifts to live as the best version of YOU

This is your breakthrough moment: no more waiting, no more doubting—your identity in Christ makes you worthy. 

When you look in the mirror, do you see flaws or do you see the woman God created you to be? In this episode of Real Talk Real Change, Tonya Reese shares how mirror work and faith can transform your life, helping you move past shame, embrace healing, and walk boldly in God’s purpose for your life. Through personal stories and biblical truth, you’ll discover how to: Overcome negative self-talk and self-doubt, Embrace your true identity in Christ, Practice mirror work as a tool for self-love and confidence, Step into freedom and healing through faith.  This isn’t just about self-help, it’s about soul-deep change. If you’ve ever struggled with what you see in the mirror, this message will remind you that God’s reflection of you is full of purpose, beauty, and worth.