Get Sex-Smart

By Dr. Valeria Chuba, Clinical Sexologist, Sex & Relationship Coach

What's Get Sex-Smart about?

Are you looking to improve your sex life and relationships and explore your sexuality? With compassion and humor, Get Sex-Smart offers real, practical and positive information to help you reclaim your sexual pleasure and confidence. Hosted by Dr. Valeria Chuba, Clinical Sexologist and Sex & Relationship Coach.

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Get Sex-Smart episodes:

08.09.2019
E101: Announcing Our New Season!
Get Sex-Smart is back! After a few months' hiatus, Valeria and Sarah have returned with a new format, new ideas, and new sex-smart episodes! Tune into this short announcement episode to hear why we took some time off, what we've...
03.07.2019
E100: Celebrating Our 100th Episode
Today, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin are celebrating the past 99 episodes of Get Sex-Smart. In this more informal and intimate episode, we talk about how the show got started, what we love about it and maybe not so much,...
11.30.2018
E98: Lesbian and Straight Women - Who Has Better Sex, and Why?
Recent studies show that there is a big orgasm gap between men in women: roughly 65% of heterosexual women orgasm in partner sex, compared to an overwhelming 95% of heterosexual men. What's really interesting though is that lesbian women's orgasm...
10.26.2018
E97: Breaking Up: Why It's Hard, and How to Make It Better
Breakups are often painful, heartbreaking, and difficult to navigate. In this episode, Sarah Martin shares her recent personal experience of breakup and chats with Dr. Valeria about the newest science of breakups; why we are often so bad at breaking...
09.14.2018
E95: Arousal Non-Concordance: How It Can Change Your Sex Life
In today's episode, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin break down the groundbreaking concept of arousal non-concordance. Simply put, our physical (genital) arousal doesn't always match our psychological arousal. This dramatically changes the way we view sexual desire, pleasure and consent. Tune...
09.06.2018
E94: High Libido Women: Why It's Hard to Be a Woman Who Loves Sex
Get Sex-Smart is back from the summer break! In today's episode, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin chat about high libido women. Conventional thinking tells us that men tend to be more interested in sex than women and that women with...
07.19.2018
E93: Sexual Frequency: How Much Sex Should We Be Having?
One of the questions we get asked most often is how much sex it's "normal" to have. Today, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin answer the question of what is normal sexual frequency. We also share our tips on how to...
07.05.2018
E92: Is Sexual Scarcity Real & Do We Have the Right to Sex?
In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin take a look at the concept of "sexual scarcity" or lack of sex, and the idea of the right to sex (or as some would call it, sexual entitlement). Tune...
06.29.2018
E91: Pro Tips for Awesome Masturbation ** Featuring Fun Bonus Content!
Today, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin are sharing their expert tips that will help take your masturbation practice from merely good to amazing. But that's not all! In today's fun bonus feature, Dr. Valeria and Sarah play a rousing round of...
06.14.2018
E90: How to Explore and Integrate Kink Into Your Sex Life
In today's episode, Dr. Valeria is interviewing therapist, researcher, author and kink sex educator Galen Fous. Galen shares his 5 keys to exploring our personal kinks and to successfully integrating them into our sex lives. We also discuss sexual shame,...
05.31.2018
E89: Secrets vs Privacy: What Info Should You Share With Your Sexual Partners?
When it comes to sex, most of us have a past, along with some secrets and information that we keep private. But with relationships comes an expectation of sharing. So, what exactly should you be sharing with your partners, and...
05.10.2018
E88: Unsolicited "Dick Pics": Why Do Men Send Them?
Unsolicited "dick pics" have become ubiquitous in popular culture. Pretty much any woman who tries online dating inevitably ends up receiving her share of unwanted images of men's genitalia. So, why are men so keen on sharing photos of their...
04.28.2018
E87: Should Women Make Men Wait for Sex in New Relationships?
Many dating experts specializing in heterosexual relationships believe that women should make men wait before having sex for the first time. Some believe that withholding sex creates a challenge so many men crave and increases a woman's value; others say...
04.19.2018
E86: Can Having Sex Make You Better at Your Job?
Having an active sex life with our partners often has a positive effect on our relationships. But did you know that having sex can help you perform better at work? In a recent study published in the Journal of Management,...
04.12.2018
E85: Seven Bad Sex Moves That Can Get Guys "Banned"
Sex-positive comprehensive sex education is rare in many places in the world, including the United States. For those of us trying to have sexual relationships, this means just doing our best and hoping it works. Unfortunately, our best often comes...
03.08.2018
E82: Infidelity: Why Do We Cheat?
Infidelity is one of the most painful, divisive and contested relationship topics out there. With high rates of self-reported cheating, it is a very real problem that affects a lot of people. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach...
02.23.2018
E81: How to Feel Confident About Having Sex Again After a Long Time Without a Partner
Many of us go through extended periods of time without partner sex for a variety of reasons: getting over a breakup, a personal loss, or just having a hard time meeting the right person. When we do meet someone we...
02.15.2018
E80: Five New Innovations That May Change Our Sex Lives
It seems like every week now there is a new and exciting discovery happening in the field of sexuality. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin discuss the five most recent sex-related innovations that are promising to...
02.01.2018
E79: What's the Deal with Microcheating?
Microcheating is a term that has recently become popular on social media. It refers to a pattern of seemingly small behaviors that indicate that your partner may be excessively focused on someone else (emotionally or physically). But is microcheating really a...
01.18.2018
E78: 2017 Best in Sex & How to Make Sexual New Year Resolutions
Get Sex-Smart is back after a holiday break, and in this first episode of the new year Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin say goodbye to 2017 with a list of their favorite sex-related scientific discoveries and events that took...
12.21.2017
E77: Virginity: Myths, Anxieties, and First Time Partner Sex
Virginity is a controversial topic in our society, and many people who never had partner sex feel anxious about losing their virginity. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin talk about what is problematic about virginity; the...
12.15.2017
E76: Pegging: What You Need to Know
Pegging is a sexual activity that can be both extremely pleasurable and very intimate. Many men and women are curious about pegging but also feel unsure and anxious about trying it. In today's episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah...
12.07.2017
E75: Help, My Partner and I Are Erotically Incompatible
Many couples face challenges around sexual compatibility, including differences in libido, eroticism, and sexual fantasies and preferences. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin discuss the problem of erotic incompatibility, when one partner's sexual fantasies, fetish or...
11.30.2017
E74: What to Do If Your Partner Is a Virgin
Studies show that about 8% to 10% of adult population describe themselves as virgins. Partners of virgins often feel the pressure to make first-time sex as good as possible. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin talk...
11.09.2017
E73: Sex Toys for Men: What to Buy and How to Enjoy
Traditionally, sex toys have been the domain of women. These days though, men are increasingly interested in trying sex toys for their own pleasure, and the market offers a great variety of products. In this episode, Dr. Valeria interviews guest...
11.02.2017
E72: How Being a "Nice Guy" Can Sabotage Your Sex Life
Many men who struggle with dating and relationships think that being a "Nice Guy" is the key to getting the girl. Unfortunately, this strategy often ends up delivering disappointing results. On today's episode, guest Harris O'Malley, aka Dr. Nerdlove, chats...
10.26.2017
E71: How #MeToo Can Help Heal Our Intimate Relationships
In the recent weeks, the #MeToo movement swept over social media in the wake of the Weinstein sexual harassment scandal. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin discuss why the movement is so important; share their own...
10.19.2017
E70: 7 Things That Make a Man Sexually Attractive
Today, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin are discussing the seven factors that contribute to men's sexual attractiveness, based on the sociologist Catherine Hakim's theory of erotic capital. We discuss physical beauty; liveliness; charm; physical presentation; social skills; sex...
10.13.2017
E69: Do Men Need Female Orgasms to Feel More Confident and Masculine?
According to a recent study in the Journal of Sex Research, many men seem to treat their female partners' orgasms as a confidence booster and a way to feel more masculine and successful. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and guest...
10.05.2017
E68: Why Do Women Love Gay Male Erotica and Porn?
This may come as a surprise to many, but male erotica and pornography are incredibly popular among women. In fact, gay male pornography has been consistently at the top of the most searched pornography topics for women. In this episode,...
09.28.2017
E67: Five Surprising Facts About Male Sexual Desire
We often take it for granted that men always want sex and are always eager and ready for it. But is it true? Dr. Valeria and guest, sex and relationship wellness coach Jeanson Benoit, look at the top five surprising...
09.21.2017
E66: What Pornhub Reveals About Our Sexual Fantasies
We're looking at a recent study published by Pornhub that complied 10 years of porn searches. Each year, different sexual fantasies seemed to be especially popular. Dr. Valeria and guest, sex coach Sarah Martin review the most popular searches on...
09.14.2017
E65: How Women Can Feel Sexier and More Open to Intimacy
Today, Dr. Valeria is answering a listener question. The listener enjoys her intimate relationship, but still has a hard time disengaging from everyday life and its many responsibilities, and feeling more sexy, confident, and open to intimacy. Dr. Valeria shares...
08.24.2017
E64: Help, I Can't Orgasm With a Partner
For many women, being able to have an orgasm with a partner is a big challenge. Actually, most women have experienced a lack of orgasm during partner sex (especially intercourse), and this issue affects heterosexual women the most. In this...
08.17.2017
E63: Dating Woes: How Not to Be Creepy
In this new dating-focused episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin talk about a common source of anxiety for a lot of people: the fear of coming across as "creepy". We talk about what defines creepy behavior; the difference...
08.11.2017
E62: What to Do If Your Partner Won't Fulfill Your Sexual Request
This is a common situation: you make a sex or intimacy-related request of your partner; they seem to agree to it, but never actually follow through. You find yourself feeling frustrated, dismissed, and dissatisfied. In this episode, Dr. Valeria looks...
08.03.2017
E61: Is Physical Attractiveness Important for Sex?
When we talk about intimacy, we often talk about physical attractiveness and beauty as important factors for good sex. But just how important are our looks when it comes to creating fulfilling sex lives? Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin weigh...
07.21.2017
E60: How to Create a Stronger Sexual Connection With Your Partner
Many of us struggle with feelings of distance and disconnect in our sexual relationships. Keeping the spark of passion and intimacy alive gets especially harder in long-term relationships. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Jeanson Benoit discuss five...
06.30.2017
E59: Faking Orgasms: Why We Do It & How to Stop
Faking orgasms is a well known phenomenon that has become part of popular culture over the years. But is it a good idea to fake? In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin reveal who fakes orgasms (surprise:...
06.23.2017
E58: Five Things Men Do in Sex That Women Secretly Want to Change
Today, Dr. Valeria and her guest, sex coach Jeanson Benoit discuss the five things women secretly wish men did differently in sex. We talk about performance pressure; pleasure; sexual skills; pornography; what men absolutely need to focus on; ways in...
06.15.2017
E57: Dating Advice That Will Ruin Your Sex Life
A lot of dating advice being given these days also deals with sex and intimacy. And while some of it is accurate and well-intentioned, a lot of it is based on myths, false assumptions, and general sex-negativity. In today's episode,...
06.10.2017
E56: Five Mistakes Women Make When Receiving Oral Sex
We often focus on the skills of the partner who is giving oral sex. But how we receive oral sex has a huge impact on our enjoyment of the act. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin...
05.25.2017
E55: How to Embody Your Feminine Magnetism and Masculine Presence
Dr. Valeria chats with relationship coach Valerie Greene about how balancing our male and female energies can help us create better relationships; how to become more magnetic to the masculine; and how to communicate your feelings in an authentic way. ...
05.18.2017
E54: Awesome Anal Sex: 5 Advanced Tips
Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin are back with another anal sex episode. Today, we're sharing 5 advanced tips and techniques for taking anal sex to the next level. (Make sure to check out Episode 47, our first anal...
05.12.2017
E53: Healing Women's Sexuality Through Yoni Power
Dr. Valeria and sexual empowerment coach and Tantra master Elise Carr discuss how the power of the yoni - heart - mind connection can heal women's sexuality and empower them for more creativity and happier lives. This episode is the...
05.04.2017
E52: Five Things Women Do in Sex That Men Secretly Want to Change
Dr. Valeria and her guest, sexologist and sex coach Jeanson Benoit, talk about some of the sexual behaviors and attitudes of women that men secretly hope women could change. This includes men wanting women to initiate sex more often; have...
04.27.2017
E51: Being a Dominatrix: The Myths and Truths of Professional Sexual Domination
Mona Darling, professional dominatrix and adventure coach, shares her story of becoming a dominatrix; the secrets of professional sexual domination; the truths, myths, and misconceptions about domination and BDSM; and how her work today is helping empower women's sexuality. Need...
04.20.2017
E50: Are We Really Having Less Sex Than Before - and Why?
According to a recently published - and widely discussed - study, Americans are having less sex today than 20 years ago. In this mini episode, Dr. Valeria takes a look at why we may be having less sex today -...
03.30.2017
E49: What to Do When Embarrassing or Weird Stuff Happens During Sex
In this fun and irreverent episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin chat about the often unromantic reality of sex; embarrassing body functions and weird sexual situations; and what to do if something embarrassing happens to you during sex. Register...
03.17.2017
E48: Healing the Body Image, or How to Love Your Body
Most of us struggle with negative body image, and have a critical relationship with our bodies. Negative body image has a devastating effect on our sexual lives and intimate relationships. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and her guest, sexual empowerment...

What's Get Sex-Smart about?

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Get Sex-Smart episodes:

E101: Announcing Our New Season!

E100: Celebrating Our 100th Episode

E98: Lesbian and Straight Women - Who Has Better Sex, and Why?

E97: Breaking Up: Why It's Hard, and How to Make It Better

E95: Arousal Non-Concordance: How It Can Change Your Sex Life

E94: High Libido Women: Why It's Hard to Be a Woman Who Loves Sex

E93: Sexual Frequency: How Much Sex Should We Be Having?

E92: Is Sexual Scarcity Real & Do We Have the Right to Sex?

E91: Pro Tips for Awesome Masturbation ** Featuring Fun Bonus Content!

E90: How to Explore and Integrate Kink Into Your Sex Life

E89: Secrets vs Privacy: What Info Should You Share With Your Sexual Partners?

E88: Unsolicited "Dick Pics": Why Do Men Send Them?

E87: Should Women Make Men Wait for Sex in New Relationships?

E86: Can Having Sex Make You Better at Your Job?

E85: Seven Bad Sex Moves That Can Get Guys "Banned"

E82: Infidelity: Why Do We Cheat?

E81: How to Feel Confident About Having Sex Again After a Long Time Without a Partner

E80: Five New Innovations That May Change Our Sex Lives

E79: What's the Deal with Microcheating?

E78: 2017 Best in Sex & How to Make Sexual New Year Resolutions

E77: Virginity: Myths, Anxieties, and First Time Partner Sex

E76: Pegging: What You Need to Know

E75: Help, My Partner and I Are Erotically Incompatible

E74: What to Do If Your Partner Is a Virgin

E73: Sex Toys for Men: What to Buy and How to Enjoy

E72: How Being a "Nice Guy" Can Sabotage Your Sex Life

E71: How #MeToo Can Help Heal Our Intimate Relationships

E70: 7 Things That Make a Man Sexually Attractive

E69: Do Men Need Female Orgasms to Feel More Confident and Masculine?

E68: Why Do Women Love Gay Male Erotica and Porn?

E67: Five Surprising Facts About Male Sexual Desire

E66: What Pornhub Reveals About Our Sexual Fantasies

E65: How Women Can Feel Sexier and More Open to Intimacy

E64: Help, I Can't Orgasm With a Partner

E63: Dating Woes: How Not to Be Creepy

E62: What to Do If Your Partner Won't Fulfill Your Sexual Request

E61: Is Physical Attractiveness Important for Sex?

E60: How to Create a Stronger Sexual Connection With Your Partner

E59: Faking Orgasms: Why We Do It & How to Stop

E58: Five Things Men Do in Sex That Women Secretly Want to Change

E57: Dating Advice That Will Ruin Your Sex Life

E56: Five Mistakes Women Make When Receiving Oral Sex

E55: How to Embody Your Feminine Magnetism and Masculine Presence

E54: Awesome Anal Sex: 5 Advanced Tips

E53: Healing Women's Sexuality Through Yoni Power

E52: Five Things Women Do in Sex That Men Secretly Want to Change

E51: Being a Dominatrix: The Myths and Truths of Professional Sexual Domination

E50: Are We Really Having Less Sex Than Before - and Why?

E49: What to Do When Embarrassing or Weird Stuff Happens During Sex

E48: Healing the Body Image, or How to Love Your Body