Don't Mom Alone Podcast

By Heather MacFadyen

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Interviews with wise women, Lysa TerKeurst, Sally Clarkson, & Lisa-Jo Baker, help moms stayed centered in a shaky world.


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EPISODES LIST

Supporting a Friend with Cancer :: Marissa Henley [Ep 235]

When a friend or loved one receives a heartbreaking diagnosis, it’s hard to find the words to say or know what to do to love and support them. Today’s guest, Marissa Henley, has a unique perspective to share with us on how to support a friend with cancer. Marissa Henley is now cancer-free, but for several months her world was turned upside down with cancer treatments that took her away from her family made it impossible for her to care for her husband and three kids. She tells her cancer story and gives us a lot of practical advice to empower women to confidently and compassionately minister to their friends with cancer. I have sadly heard from other cancer survivors who hear me talk about this and they didn't have that same kind of support I did. And it just grieves me so much to hear. I get that we're all busy and it's difficult, but I do feel like it's so important for us as the body of Christ. This is part of our calling. If we belong to Christ, we don't just belong to him. We belong to each other. I think it's important that we try to foster relationships before these things happen and that we're preparing to be the body of Christ that we need to be to those who are hurting. She talks through different circles of friendship and how to determine what your role can be for a friend in need, tips for bringing meals and what to say (and not to say) to your friend with cancer. Marissa also highlights how key it is to ask God to show us what support role we can play for our friends before overcommitting or burning out. And one thing that I have seen in my own life and over and over again with other friends is that the Lord really does provide and he provides in a lot of different ways. And usually he is weaving together this tapestry of support to provide for our friends needs and we're just one thread. We don't even necessarily see all the other threads that he's using to meet those needs. So I think that it's good to pray and ask the Lord what your role should be. What we chat about: Marissa’s history with cancer and her surprise diagnosis with angiosarcoma Her prayer to beat the 5-year odds for her cancer How Marissa had to move to another city to get treatment The impact of her cancer treatment on her kids and what they remember now several years later The support her friends provided to her family during her health struggle Three circles of friendships: inner circle, middle circle and outer circle Fostering inner circle friendships and being aware of the margin we have in our lives Making specific offers of help with a time of day or specific tasks you can do to help is better than a general offer of help Tips for going the extra mile when bringing a meal Letting go of expectations of spending time with a friend when bringing them a meal God provides a tapestry support for friends in need and we are just one small piece of that Pray and ask God for what your role can be in supporting a friend to avoid burnout Finding the right words to say to a friend with cancer and not letting fear to keep you from being present with them When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent. Proverbs 10:19 Ask, “How are you today?” Connect with Marissa:      Links Mentioned: * In Light of Eternity:: Jenn Clouse [Ep 100]

02.18.2019

Habits of a Healthy Marriage :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 234]

Whether you’ve been married for a short time or you’re nearing a milestone anniversary, a healthy marriage takes a lot of work. A marriage is made up of thousands of small moments and habits that over time result in God-honoring, joyful marriage or a self-centered, strained marriage. Speaker and author Paul David Tripp joins me to lay the groundwork for how to cultivate healthy habits in our marriage and identify the ones that need to be uprooted. He shares what he’s learned in almost 50 years of marriage and how to look at our marriages in light of the gospel. What's a biblical view of marriage? Well, it's a sinner married to a sinner in a fallen world. Are you encouraged yet? But with a faithful God. Now that means we can't just coast in our marriage because there are things inside of me and things inside of my wife that are potentially destructive to marriage because we're not perfect people yet. And we live in a fallen world that is a threat to our marriage. Paul also calls us to take a new view of our spouse’s differences and see how God created us for unity, not uniformity. There is no call anywhere in the Bible to uniformity. The call is for unity. Unity is only ever needed in the face of difference... We have to stop making those differences a matter of right and wrong, If it's not named as sin by God, then it's just a difference and God actually glories in those differences because those differences point to his grandeur as a creator. I hope you are encouraged and equipped from this conversation to re-engage with your spouse with fresh faith for experiencing all that God has for you in your marriage. What we chat about: Marriages are made up of thousands and thousands of little moments The kind of relationship we have built in those moments determines how we handle the big moments We naturally structure our marriages around habits How to identify good and bad habits in your marriage Sin makes us self-focused and anti-social, but marriage is a covenant of community Helping our spouse access what God wants for them instead of arguing or nagging them We will always be working on our marriages. There is no place for coasting Confession and forgiveness can change the direction in disagreements Jesus did not just bare our guilt. He bore our shame God made us for unity, not for uniformity A look at why we are so vastly different from our spouse Even when we are formed into the image of Jesus, we will still be different from our spouse Tips for showing gratitude in your marriage and fostering joy The fruits of the Spirit are key for a good marriage If you are struggling in marriage, engage with community and your church family. Isolation is the enemy of a healthy marriage Connect with Paul David Tripp:      Links Mentioned: Gospel Parenting Paul David Tripp [Ep 176] * Opportunity vs. Disruption Paul David Tripp [Ep 212] * My Favorite Paul David Tripp Devotional: New Morning Mercies (Great gift for a spouse) * Sinners Married to Sinners Cheryl Scruggs and Jae Carpenter Ep 195

02.11.2019

Cultivating Friendships in a World of Isolation :: Sally Clarkson [Ep 233]

Even though it seems like you are never alone, motherhood can feel like a place of deep isolation. But it doesn’t have to stay that way. My guest Sally Clarkson shares her insight on how she learned to invite others into friendship and into her home to build a community of girlfriends in the midst of multiple moves and parenting four kids. I think finding really true, deep, godly friendships is hard. But I think that the more I realized that other women felt like I did, they felt insecure. They felt like they were failing. Sometimes they felt like they were isolated. And I realized that if I was ever going to have friends, I was going to have to reach out because it's rare that somebody comes to me and says, I want to be your friend. Whether you have recently moved to a new community or simply want to connect with more women in your own hometown, Sally shares so much practical wisdom and encouragement to be brave and invite others into your life so you won’t mom alone. Loved what she shared in how extroverts vs. introverts cultivate friendships.  We've got to fight for it because I feel like the home is disappearing. Relationships are disappearing. One-on-one is disappearing. And I feel like if God really wants us to show his love to the world, we've got to keep going and trying to find a way to love women and to care for them just to keep our own souls alive.  What we chat about: Sally’s story of coming to faith and inviting other women into friendship What she’s learned along the way about cultivating friendship How to keep going when no one you invite shows up Hospitable = taking care or considering the someone else’s needs We hope friendships will just happen, but we have to create ways for inviting people over Extroverts might choose to invite groups of women over and introverts can start with one or two Look for women who call you to your best self Fostering mentor relationships with women Don’t worry about having lots of playdates for your elementary-aged kids. Invest in friendship with your kids as a foundation. Making friends is a messy process and it doesn’t always mesh Jesus wanted us to go out into the world and love people Building a foundation with whoever you want to relate to with unconditional love and speaking words of affirmation in their lives You will have a legacy of relationships if you continue to cultivate life in such a way that relationships can be formed Managing disagreements between your kids to keep the lines of friendship open between them Connect with Sally:      Links Mentioned: * Don't Mom Alone Podcast Clubs * Loving Your Different Child -Sally Clarkson [Ep 149]  Girls' Club: Cultivating Lasting Friendship in a Lonely World [BOOK] Featured Sponsor: Paul David Tripp's Marriage Conference Every marriage is guided by a set of habits. The question is: Are they healthy habits that result in a God-honoring and joyful marriage, or are they bad habits that lead to a self-centered and strained marriage? In this new 4-lesson seminar, pastor, marriage counselor, and best-selling author Dr.

02.04.2019

The Enneagram & Motherhood :: Suzanne Stabile [Ep 232]

You’ve definitely heard about it. You’ve probably talked about it with girlfriends or you’ve read books or articles discussing the nine types, but what is the Enneagram all about and what does it mean for your motherhood? Suzanne Stabile joins us to share her motherhood story and a lot of information about the Enneagram, an ancient typology system that is finding new popularity as a tool that can transform the way you interact with others and understand yourself. The Enneagram is about how you see and you can never change how you see. All you can do is change what you do with how you see. And I think we expect other women to be more like us than they are. And I think we struggle to accommodate difference because when we're tired, insecure, amd over-committed, then we settle for sameness. But, there needs to be recognition that there's not one right way to do things. There's not one method to follow. There's not one way of being a mom. Suzanne is an internationally acknowledged Enneagram master. She has authored acclaimed books on the topic and has her own podcast that goes in-depth on the different types. But, as a believer and a mom of four adult children, she brings wisdom and perspective to parenting in light of the Enneagram. Parenting is really, really tricky. I don't think we ever know what the loudest voice in (our kids’) day is. Often it's not ours. And I think grace is covering all of us and it falls on all of us equally. There are moments when we just need to stand under that grace and with an open heart and pure intentions and do the best we know how to do for ourselves and for one another. We can’t possibly answer all of your Enneagram questions, but I hope this episode excites you for how this tool can bring unity and grace to relationships with your kids, with other moms and with your spouse. If you want to go deeper in learning about the Enneagram, Suzanne has you covered with her trainings and online resources available at her website. What we chat about: Suzanne’s family background and experience with divorce and living as a single parent of three. How she met her current husband of 31 years and her parenting journey. Enneagram types as they relate to mothering Type 3, 7 and 8 are aggressive numbers on the Enneagram. They think/do dominant and their challenge is to bring up feelings. How to use the Enneagram to unite moms and not increase divides The Enneagram is about how we see. We cannot change how we see, only what we do with what we see. Types 4, 5 and 9 are withdrawing numbers Types 1, 2 and 6 are dependent numbers Discussion of the nine types and how they act/react Your Enneagram number is determined by motivation and not by behavior It’s not a good idea to try and type your children on the Enneagram or to tell them what you think they are. Thinking of the Types as Animals: Ones are Worker Bees. Twos are Kangaroos. Threes are Eagles. Fours are Butterflies, Fives are Owls, Sixes are Bunny Rabbits. Sevens are Monkeys, Eights are Lions and Nines are Turtles. The three stances: aggressive, dependent and withdrawing. The triads: feeling, thinking and doing. Knowing more about the Enneagram won’t keep us from making mistakes Grace covers the places we fall short Connect with Suzanne:      Links Mentioned: The Enneagram Journey Podcast https://www.

01.28.2019

Praising Through the Pain of Physical Limitations :: Karen Harmon [Ep 231]

When Karen Harmon found out she was unexpectedly pregnant at 40 with her third child, she had a lot of mixed emotions. With a history of autoimmune disease, her doctor advised her against her having more children. In the midst of processing her emotions surrounding the pregnancy and the fear of how her body would react, Karen experienced a rare complication that put her on crutches for the final three months of the pregnancy. In this place of extreme physical limitation, Karen felt stripped of any control of her life. I don't think I've ever actually been in that place with the Lord where there was literally no control. I had never had a crisis of faith, if you will. I had never been in that moment where I literally had to take my hands off the wheel and say, ‘I may not understand God, but I'm going to trust you anyway.’ In our conversation, Karen takes us through how praising God in the midst of her pain slowly changed her perspective about her situation. Every morning instead of crumbling in a pile of tears down on my knees for just the miserable life that I was living, I thought: 'God, I'm going to praise you for this and I will trust that you know exactly what you're doing and that your plan and your will is the best way. Better than anything I could plan anything I could think of. You will never waste anything and I'm going to trust you no matter what.' What we chat about: Karen’s background as a working, homeschooling mom and encouraging women to live out their giftings Her work speaking with Propel Women, traveling and feeling some independence at a mom of older kids The surprise of her third pregnancy and how she processed her emotions with God Her health journey with autoimmune diseases and her concerns about the pregnancy Another unexpected complication with the pregnancy that caused her to experience hip fractures How taking her pain to God and receiving the assignment to praise him in the midst of the pain and even for the pain made a huge difference Expressing our emotions honestly can bring freedom vs holding them inside Trusting God to increase your desire for his word and prayer even when you don’t feel like it As moms we can still be ministers in our daily life. We are called to be faithful servants of God in small, consistent ways The miracles and healing she experienced in the birth of her son and right after Postpartum depression and what worked in Karen’s experience Connect with Karen:      Links Mentioned: Propel Ministries www.propelwomen.org * Episode with Jenn Jett: https://dontmomalone.com/2018/02/12/how-god-personally-pursues-redeems-jenn-jett-ep-193/ Featured Sponsor: Discipline that Connects Online Course by Connected Families Raising kids in today’s culture is harder than ever. Despite the vast array of resources and methods available, finding one that offers lasting solutions can be challenging. The Discipline That Connects online course stops that search. When you complete the 8-session course (30 minutes each session) you'll learn:  Four key messages that will shape what your children believe about themselves in a way that make them WANT to behave better. To communicate these four powerful messages in ways your kids can’t miss.

01.21.2019

Shepherding Healthy Sleep Habits :: Jenn & Robin of Sleepy Cues [Ep 230]

As parents, we want more of it, our children desperately need it, and oftentimes it feel like a mystery we can’t solve… it’s SLEEP. Getting children to have a consistent sleep pattern for night time and naps is one of the biggest challenge parents of young children face. My guests today, Robin and Jenn from SleepyCues, are professional sleep consultants. In this episode they share fantastic tips I wish I’d had when my kids were younger. We dive into the myths of sleep training and discuss strategies for staying consistent when responding to frequent wakers. People don't come to us out of a lack of information. You can find all this information for free on Google. But people come to us because they've “tried everything,” and it hasn't worked. And what that means is I read an article on Monday and I implemented it that night. But Tuesday I read something that said something different so I switched to that. Then Wednesday I decided to replace the paci, but Thursday I decided to unswaddle. We have so much information coming at us that really the missing piece is that consistency and making a plan and actually sticking with it. That's the hard part. Whether you are in the thick of it with small kids who won’t sleep, or have a friend who is, I hope this episode will encourage you that consistent sleep is possible for your children. It’s going to look different for each of your kids and it’s a lot of work, but hang in there and don’t mom alone! What we chat about: Meet the Sleepy Cues team- Robin Brient and Jenn Haskew Changing the narrative around the idea of sleep training Investigating various methods for soothing your children Each child is so different with what helps them get healthy rest How to identify if your child has specific sensory or physical needs with sleep Look at your child’s sleep needs as accomodations and not as coddling or crutches Swaddling methods and timelines for safe swaddling Co-sleeping recommendations and why coaching is key We can sabotage our efforts by constantly switching methods to try to get baby to sleep Try responding consistently to your child waking. Every time say or do the same thing till they surrender to sleep. How many hours of sleep kids need for restorative sleep Taking care of yourself is an important key to caring for your small children Baby wearing, slowing down schedules and reducing stimuli to increase sleep quality Seeking professional help for children with disabilities or sensory processing needs Strategies for taking care of a newborn when you have older kids Connect with SleepyCues:      Links Mentioned: Here are a few of SleepyCues favorite on-the-go products (they are not paid to promote these, truly their faves): Carriers: Ergobaby or Kindercarry</a...

01.14.2019

Victory in Ministry and Motherhood :: Priscilla Shirer [Ep 229]

Priscilla Shirer has authored many books and Bible studies. She is a motivational speaker and evangelist and she founded Going Beyond Ministries with her husband Jerry. But in addition to the amazing opportunities God has opened for her in ministry, she is a mom of three boys ages 16, 14, and 10. Priscilla gets real in our chat about how she juggles motherhood and ministry and encourages moms that we all deal with the mundane parts of the job. I think people assume that I'm like sitting on a mountain top and praying and fasting about messages all the time, but no. I'm actually doing laundry and trying to figure out new ways to cook chicken for dinner because my kids eat incessantly. We talk about her upcoming movie, a great book series she wrote for kids ages 8 to 12 and about how she has processed the passing of her cousin Wynter Pitts who was also an author and speaker. And she reminds us not to mom alone, but to press into friendships with moms who will cheer you on and to give yourself a break when you need one. I would encourage that for women who are struggling, don't let your expectations make you disappointed and frustrated about your reality. Just do what works for you. If that means that you're using a crockpot most days and not making these gourmet meals that everybody else has got up on Instagram. Girl, use the crock pot… Relaxing your expectations and circling yourself with people who are cheerleading you can make all the difference. What we chat about: Following God as he opened the doors of ministry for Priscilla How she has balanced being a mom and an author, speaker and actress Her upcoming movie Overcomer which will release in August 2019 The background of her epic adventure fiction series The Prince Warriors and how it invites kids into the topic of spiritual warfare Letting our story be our story even when it looks different than our expectations and giving ourselves grace The value of surrounding yourself with friends who will cheer you as you follow after God’s plans for your life How she has processed grief with the sudden death of her cousin Wynter Pitts Avoiding comparison in our mom journeys and in how we grieve Connect with Priscilla:      Links Mentioned: Movies: War Room (https://warroomthemovie.com ) & Overcomer (http://www.overcomermovie.com) The Prince Warriors Boxed Set **  The Armor of God Bible Study by Priscilla Shirer** It’s Almost Wynter video by Jonathan Evans:    https://www.facebook.com/jonathanblakeevans/videos/its-almost-wynter/823601291304934/ **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Featured Sponsor: Discipline that Connects Online Course by Connected Families Raising kids in today’s culture is harder than ever. Despite the vast array of resources and methods available,

01.07.2019

Not Alone in Shame :: Sheila Walsh [Bonus Episode]

In this clip (from a previously recorded video) we go beyond the fact that you are 'not alone in shame'. Sheila offers hope and Truth to remind you that Christ took the shame so you can walk in freedom. 'Mercy' is a short word that weighs so much. . . Jesus came to give us life, not survival. As the author of the new book, "It's Okay Not to be Okay", Sheila shares her journey to release the grip of shame. To embrace what Christ had done for her on the cross. And shares how she keeps Truth-daggers ready change her internal dialogue. She also reminds us that God can be trusted with our honest thoughts. Step one is dare to have an unedited gut level conversation with God. We feel like we need certain words or attitudes with God. But we can let it all out. To the level we are able to be honest with God is the level with which we can trust him. In this clip of our video chat, Sheila answers a listener's question: Has shame always surfaced as depression?  Or are there other ways it has appeared? This conversation was recorded as a part of our Not Alone Community for our November focus on "shame". What is the 'Not Alone Community?' The Not Alone Community is where you can connect with other moms. Find focused transformation on a different topic each month with curated podcast episodes, articles and resources. And join Heather and a mentor on live video chats. And also get access to the library of past mentor conversations. This month Heather has created a Spiritual Growth Guide to help you establish a morning habit, know what to study, how to study and how to pray. She will be inviting Kat Lee (her morning mentor!) on December 13th at 10am to answer your questions. Connect with Sheila: * Website * Facebook * Instagram * Twitter Links mentioned: * It's Okay Not to Be Okay** by Sheila Walsh * Shame and Grace: Healing the Shame We Don't Deserve** by Lewis Smedes * Dan Allender * Loved Back to Life: How I Found the Courage to Live Free** by Sheila Walsh Have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year! The Don't Mom Alone Podcast will be back with new episodes on January 7th.

12.17.2018

Not Alone in Overwhelm :: Kay Wyma [Bonus Episode]

Back in October I recorded a video chat with my good friend, Kay Wyma, on the topic of overwhelm. I've decided to share some of it with y'all in the midst of the holiday crazy. Get ready for some fabulous truth bombs like: In the world’s economy your identity is achieved. In God’s economy your identity is received. As the author of the new book, "Not the Boss of Us", Kay reminds us that we get to choose what we allow to overwhelm us. Be loved by Whose you are not 'who' you are. In Isaiah 43 the Lord God says, 'I know you, You are mine. I know your name. . .' He is Lord over all. He sees all. Can I receive that? Have my tank filled with that? In this clip of our video chat, Kay answers one listener's question about overwhelm: Do you have any encouragement for managing the to do lists and yet still engaging with our children in spending meaningful time with them? This conversation was recorded as a part of our Not Alone Community for our October focus on "overwhelm". What is the 'Not Alone Community?' The Not Alone Community is where you can connect with other moms. Find focused transformation on a different topic each month with curated podcast episodes, articles and resources. And join Heather and a mentor on live video chats. And also get access to the library of past mentor conversations. This month Heather has created a Spiritual Growth Guide to help you establish a morning habit, know what to study, how to study and how to pray. She will be inviting Kat Lee (her morning mentor!) on December 13th at 10am to answer your questions. Connect with Kay: * Website * Facebook * Instagram * Twitter Links mentioned: * Not the Boss of Us: Putting Overwhelm in its Place in a Do-All, Be-All World** by Kay Wyma Other questions answered in the full chat with Kay available in Not Alone Community Video Archive:  How do you determine which practices to engage in and those to let go? How do you discern where to put your energy? My pastor told us parents that it’s our #1 job to help bring our children to faith. To help them learn to love our God, to walk with Him. After church my son tells me how he doesn’t believe, he hates church, it’s a waste of time, and all the other defying hurtful things he could think of. I straight up ugly cried in my room when we got home. I know I need to love on my son harder when he acts out but during this time I felt like a complete failure. Completely overwhelmed by the fact that the devil has his grips on my sweet boy and I don’t know what do to or where to turn.

12.10.2018

Reconciled Reconcilers :: Andi Andrew [Ep 228]

The holidays are here and often that means family gatherings. While it can be a joyful time, it can also be a place of pain as we fall into unintended conflict or feel the sting of old woundings from those we love the most. But, there IS hope for healing and reconciliation. And we CAN connect to God’s deep, sacrificial love for help to love our family. Church planter, pastor and mom of four Andi Andrew takes us into her journey of forgiving her mom and learning how God made us for reconciliation. The change has to begin in our own hearts. I think a lot of times with reconciliation and with some of these friendships that have been reconciled, what I've had to always deal with my own heart first. So then when you do come to the table, you're not still throwing your own stuff at people. Then you can walk them through  what I realized about yourself and I apologize. Andi shares candidly about how motherhood and several stretching seasons of life brought a lot of things to the surface she needed to process with God. We also chat about reconciling close female relationships and managing unspoken expectations in friendships. It starts with choosing to listen to who God says we are instead of what the world is saying. I've had to let love define who I am, not what people say, not what my past is, not what I've walked through, not how love has been manipulated in the past, but to look to love and ask, who do you say that I am? What we chat about: Andi’s family and her background for how she became a church planter The big plot twists in Andi’s early years and how she encountered God’s love tangibly Her experience of having three kids under the age of three How God walked her through forgiving her mom The concept of Soul Ties and how to release another person to God and find reconciliation Reconciliation happens in the constant bumping into each other. Even when it’s uncomfortable How having kids reveals your need for healing When we feel the need to control situations, there is something God wants to do in us Reconciling close female relationships and the hard place of unspoken expectations Jesus models friendship in how he related to the disciples We don’t need a ton of close friends. Jesus was closest to three disciples. The importance of the church as the body of Christ and living in community Love is sacrificing and laying down your life for another Learning to recognize when we are listening to the world vs listening to God How to turn away from anxious, fearful thoughts and toward God’s love Avoiding family conflicts in the holidays and asking earnest questions to expose Connect with Andi:      Links Mentioned: Fake or Follower ** * She is Free** * Parks and Recreation Season 4** * Enneagram book The Road Back to You** (Andi is a 9w8, Heather is a 4w3). **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Not Alone Community--Spiritual Growth Guide If you are looking to grow spiritually in 2019, then I'd love to help you!

12.03.2018

Family Transformation Starts with Personal Revival :: KJ Perdomo [Ep 227]

KJ Perdomo isn’t a mom (yet). But as a daughter, she has experienced a what seems like a lifetime’s worth of pain and rejection. She shares her story of loss and brokenness and about the bullying she experienced growing up. But it doesn’t stop there. God pursued her through an aunt who adopted her and a timely invitation to church when she was contemplating suicide, then again through a community of believers in college who radically loved her and helped her hear God. Through her own story of redemption, KJ found a passion for connecting others to revival and for discipling people to hear God’s voice instead of the world’s. It is not worth my time to dwell on and think about a thought that was not from the Lord. There's a verse that says we need to take our thoughts captive. The original context literally means to capture and interrogate our thoughts... It's not worth your time to believe anything less than what heaven is speaking about you. KJ’s story will fire you up to see revival in your own family and communities as we seek to follow Jesus’ example. We have to be people who radically live for the Lord. And it seems funny, but what we think is radical, Jesus really called normal. Since he shared himself with everyone, that should be our normal, right? Because Jesus only did what he saw the Father do. So we should do what we see Jesus do. What we chat about: KJ’s story of family brokenness, adoption and growing up learning about Jesus Her struggle with self worth during her school years and the effects of bullying in her life Hearing God for yourself and helping your children learn to hear God is so important KJ’s experience growing closer to God in college How community pressing into God on KJ’s behalf made a powerful impact on her Learning to hear the voice of God Taking every thought captive and how to interrogate your thoughts to see if they are from God It's not worth your time to believe anything less than what heaven is speaking about you Opting into community with other believers and how it can be messy, but worth it Seeking revival for our communities and for us personally Revival starts with reconciliation Believing the truth of who God says you are and that he can heal your deep heart wounds To see revival in the world and in our families we have to be willing to be the hands and feet of Jesus Living radically for Jesus and sharing our faith The nuts and bolts of modern-day discipleship Asking the right questions to point people back to Jesus Connect with KJ:   Links Mentioned: * William Lane Craig * The Lost Art of Disciple Making** * A Guide for Listening and Inner-Healing Prayer by Rusty Rustenbach** * Group Heather mentioned, the "Spiritual Authority Cohort" by CRM Leaders * Freedom Tools by Andy Reese** * Can You Hear Me: Tuning Into the God Who Speaks by Brad Jersak** **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Featured Sponsor: Prep Dish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table.

11.26.2018

The Anxious or Depressed Spouse :: Tommy Nelson [Ep 226]

Tommy Nelson serves as the pastor of Denton Bible Church in Denton, Texas. He's a husband, father, best-selling author, and well-known speaker. But not too long ago he walked through an unexpected journey of depression and anxiety that stemmed from overcommitting in his job. Stretched too thin, his body and mind began to break down under the strain. My mind couldn't stay focused. I lost 20 pounds and got to where I couldn't work out. I would just put myself to sleep at night on some kind of medication and then I would jolt awake in the morning and go through the day unable to relax. All I could do was pray and just try to make it through the day. It's scary, you know, you can't define it. Tommy shares about his path to healing after identifying why he was feeling the effects of anxiety and depression. He also shared about the role his wife played in praying for him and keeping his faith up in the midst of the storms. When you're going through this the whole world is made of salt and you're an open wound. Everything can be painful. And I remember her just laying on the bed with me and putting her arms around me… Just knowing that she was there meant so much. She would fuss at me, but in a good way, you know, she'd keep my faith up. If you or your spouse have experienced anxiety or depression in the past, or even today, there is encouragement for you in this episode! Tommy also shares about a 4-hour teaching he has available for streaming right now online. The Journey Through Depression & Anxiety Click Here to buy live stream access to the conference, The Journey Through Depression and Anxiety. If you have never heard of The Hub before, it's your best source for Bible Studies, Online Resources, and Live Christian events. You can tune in to some of the most anticipated live events of the year from the comfort of your own home or church. You can learn more at gotothehub.com under the "Live Events" tab. Check it out!" What we chat about: Tommy’s backstory of overwork and his physical/mental breakdown because of it How proper care and medication helps level the playing field with depression and anxiety The importance of protecting your mornings and protecting your evenings and balancing your schedule How spouses can support each other when depression or anxiety strikes No on goes through life without stressful situations. Sometimes God uses these times in to stretch us How vital sleep and relaxation are for your body to restore itself God is not a genie. Healing takes time and trusting in God’s goodness Staying strong in the word and strengthening yourself in the Lord can Sometimes the struggle with depression and anxiety can bring you closer to God For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. 1 Corinthians 7:14 Praying out loud for your spouse is powerful Connect with Tommy: Links Mentioned: * Morning and Evening by Charles Spurgeon BOOK: Walking on Water When You Feel Like You're Drowning: Finding Hope in Life's Darkest Moments**  Hope for Life Ministries with Steve Leavitt www.

11.19.2018

New Mom Q & A :: Janay Wilborn [Ep 225]

This week’s guest Janay Wilborn is a mom of two kiddos who are just 20 months apart. She shares a lot of hope for moms of multiple children and moms who are transitioning from one kid to two. You have such overwhelming love for your first child and you wonder how could I possibly have the same level of capacity for another one? That's where God is amazing because his love is limitless and he puts this limitless love inside of us as parents. As we answer some of your questions about parenting young children and the transitions in motherhood, Janay shares some remedies to the mom guilt that tries to steal our joy and about the best way to teach our kids about Jesus. (hint: it’s not a specific Bible study or theology cards) We round out our conversation with some tips about connecting with your spouse during the little years of parenting with date strategies to keep the fun in your marriage. Janay also shares with vulnerability and openness about the need to grieve the things you lose when you become a mom. You have to recognize as a mom that what you're doing with your kids is super valuable, but it's okay to miss what you used to do. And I think when you acknowledge that it helps you value what you're doing even more. What we chat about: Janay’s experience as a mom of two and the transition to caring for a baby and a toddler God has endless love to help us love our kids Engaging with older kids when you have a newborn Connection time with our kids is more important than our task lists Perspective on how quickly we go through the various stages with our kids. What is hard now will not be in the future! Mom guilt and the fear that we’re not a good enough mom How the constant comparison of social media contributes to bad mom self-esteem The biggest way to teach your children about Jesus is the way you live Transitioning to motherhood and grieving the loss of what you lose as a mom Remembering that the time we have with little ones is precious Connecting with your husband during the little years of parenting The importance of sexual intimacy for a healthy marriage  Date strategies and how to get back to the fun you had when you were just dating Recognize that what you are doing as a mom is valuable Connect with Janay:      Links Mentioned: * Discipline & Toddlers -- Hailey Bain & Meredith Woodruff * For the Mom with Lots of Littles -- Hanni Go **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Featured Sponsor: Prep Dish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss!

11.12.2018

Finding Your Voice :: Sandi Patty [Ep 224]

Sandi Patty is Christian music icon who provided the soundtrack to a lot of my youth. She’s an inspiration on and off the stage. In our interview, she opens up about a lot of struggles she’s had in her past and the fears and shame she’s carried for a long time. I'm just being very real with you about how even now at 62, I'm still processing the 'should haves'. You know, I often say, ‘I should’ to myself. You know, I should've done this. I should've done that. I should have. She shares the freedom she’s still finding in learning to focus on what God says about her identity as a wife, mother and as an artist. And about how connecting with God through community and counseling have made all the difference for her. As a mom of eight grown kids from a blended family, Sandi does not mom alone! Finally, Sandi shares what a huge impact it made for her when she really grasped that God not only loves her, He likes her too. A friend told me once that God likes me. Really. If he was giving a party, he'd give you an invitation. If he had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it. Like he likes you. He delights in you. And you know, there's a lot of people that we think of that we love, but we may not necessarily like. It really connected for me because I would think, yeah, of course he loves me. But he's God, that's his job. But that he likes me. That's really cool. What we chat about: Sandi’s blended family which includes eight kids It’s ok to have two oldests or two youngests in a blended family Acknowledging that every blended family is born out of loss Sandi’s family background and her experience with sexual abuse How Bible Study Fellowship played a big role in helping her connect with God’s word The important role that counseling can play in healing from trauma How sharing your story truthfully and openly can bring healing Every day in your marriage isn’t going to be perfect and it’s ok to model that for your kids Processing an injury her son had almost 30 years ago and how Sandi has carried the guilt of that incident Motherhood brings feeling of guilt and shame to the surface God loves and worries more about our kids than we ever could Learning to believe the truth that God loves each of us (and likes us too!) You cannot get shame off of you without help God’s word is our biggest tool against fear and doubt Connect with Sandi:      Links Mentioned: * Bible Study Fellowship -- find a group in your area or do the study online The Voice: Listening for God’s Voice and Finding Your Own** Broken on the Back Row** **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Featured Sponsor: Prep Dish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...

11.05.2018

How to be Calm and Kind Under Pressure :: Candace Cameron Bure [Ep 223]

Candace Cameron Bure is an actress, producer, New York Times bestselling author, beloved by millions worldwide from her role as D.J. Tanner on the iconic family sitcoms Full House and Fuller House and of course Hallmark Channel movies. (Christmas is coming and she has a new one coming out Nov. 25) But, she’s also a mom of three children ages 16 to 20 and an outspoken Christian in the entertainment industry. She shares what it was like to grow up working in entertainment and the values her parents passed on to her. And about how she walks out her faith now as a busy working actress, a career she returned to after choosing to be a stay-at-home mom for 10 years. Now sometimes I literally have to roll out of my bed and onto my knees every morning and start my day. I don't feel connected if I don't do that. But throughout my day I'm constantly having conversations with God. It might just be under my breath asking Jesus to help me because I want to snap at that person right now or I'm going to lose it with my son who just talked back to me. It's a constant dialogue and I trust that he hears me. We talk about her new children’s book “Candace Center Stage” and how it focuses on the values of hard work and courage, especially for our strong-willed children. It’s very reflective of my own life growing up and the lessons that I've really tried to instill in my own children. Like don't be afraid to fail just because you'll never know what you're capable of unless you try. And don't be afraid to work hard at it. If you quit too early you may not realize how good you can be and if you're not, that’s OK. You can pick something else, but you’ve got to try. As she takes us into her world, she talks through how she stays calm and kind under pressure and lives for Jesus as she juggles the roles and the callings God has put on her life. I want to be that influencer for positivity and kindness and showing my love for Jesus. And I would love for people to know Jesus because of me because I've shared a good word. What we chat about: Candace’s strong foundation from her own parents Fostering a good work ethic in your kids without pressuring to perform for your love and approval Candace’s family and what her older children are up to How she and her husband share the responsibilities of raising their children Maintaining balance with changing priorities and calls on your time Learning to say “No” without feeling bad about it It’s really more about juggling priorities and trusting that God partners with us as we make decisions Candace’s walk with the Lord and how she lives out her faith in San Francisco Praying throughout the day and how Candace talks with God through all she does How to work with people who have anti-Christian sentiments and responding with kindness What it was like growing up in the entertainment industry Her new children’s book Candace Center Stage and the background on why she wrote it * Preparing for the teenage years now and looking forward to them Connect with Candace:      Links Mentioned: Candace Center Stage** **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Not Alone Community <a href="https://dontmomalone.

10.29.2018

Connected Relationships (LIVE Event) :: Jim & Lynne Jackson [Ep 222]

For day two of Don’t Mom Alone Live, Jim and Lynne Jackson are back to talk all about relationships and answer listener questions. If you’ve ever felt like a bad parent because of your child’s disobedience or struggle to referee the sibling arguments and fights in your home, this episode is for you! The Jackson’s share their Peace process and how to be confident before God in how you are parenting. It's not a sprint, it's a marathon. So we need to have confidence in our ability to be peaceful and not let this child's behavior define me or tell me that I'm a bad parent. And have the long-term view that God can do anything in a child's life as I persevere in encouraging and teaching and training. They share great practicals for blended families and for how to navigate parenting when you and your spouse or co-parent aren’t on the same page. We also dive into teaching your children empathy and social cues as a way to foster great friendships. In the end, our goal can be to equip our kids to be conduits of God’s grace to the world both through their relationships with others, but it starts with their relationship with us. When I thought about that the kind of relationships in life that Jesus bought for our kids on the cross, not just with each other but whatever relationships they'd have. I just had this image of "trickle down grace" starting from the cross and just trickling down through us to our kids and then out to the world and our kids. We can grow to become profound dispensers of grace in life to others. What we chat about: Getting feedback about our kids that makes you feel like a “bad parent” Keeping the long-view when you are training your children There is a dramatic increase in anxiety and depression in children, teens and young adults. It is five to eight times greater than it was 50 years ago. What to do when you and your spouse aren’t on the same page with parenting Ask penetrating questions when your spouse is struggling to parent in kindness. “What are you hoping our kids will learn right now?” Blended family dynamics and how to co-parent well You are building trust with your kids and when you are confident before God in how you are parenting, you can be at peace with how someone else is parenting Ask kids: What do you want to tell me about how you’re feeling and how your time went? Sibling rivalry and how conflict is an opportunity to teach our children how to reconcile The Peace Process the Jackson’s teach: Calm > Understand > Solve > Celebrate Celebrating that your kids reconciled is an important step to future success When your kids feel encouraged and successful when working through conflict, you can see the momentum begin to change Learning empathy as a family and equipping your kids to be more successful in friendship Quick connects with individually with your kids can be more effective than playing with them for longer periods. Find ways to show that you delight in who they are! Use mission trips and giving back to the community as your vacation/connection time as a family Connect with Jim & Lynne Jackson:      Links Mentioned: * Previous Episodes with Jim & Lynne -- Ep 80 , Ep 81,

10.22.2018

Discipline 101 (LIVE Event–Friday Night) :: Jim & Lynne Jackson [Ep 221]

For the first part of our 2018 Don’t Mom Alone live event, Jim and Lynne Jackson, co-founders of Connected Families, joined me & my husband Bruce to answer listener questions about discipline and how to use their framework for biblically-based parenting. We share lots of stories of how we have failed as parents and learned along the way. But then I started to realize maybe my humility was my greatest currency for influence to help her learn the lessons and the values and the things that mattered most… Our kids need to know we're not perfect. They need to know that we'll come back to them and say, ‘Hey I blew it. I'm sorry. Would you forgive me?’ And get back to reconciliation in those relationships. -- Jim Jackson. So good! Jim and Lynne talk us through the parenting framework they’ve developed and redefining how we view discipline with our kids. Ultimately, it comes down to connecting with their hearts and leading them to Jesus instead of trying to control their behavior. We can help kids embrace the wisdom of the righteous. And that really prepares the way for the Lord to come in our family in a strong way. Because in today's day and age with all the craziness that's going on, these kids need a form of discipline that's not just about punitive correction but that's about a whole way of life that teaches our kids how to be followers of Jesus. -- Lynne Jackson And it’s not just vision for how we want to parent, the Jacksons also share some super practical tips and give us some ways to respond to our defiant, strong-willed or sensitive kids. What we chat about: The basis for Jim and Lynn’s parenting framework How do you parent proactively instead of reactively when you feel like you're just surviving minute What is our goal in parenting? Is it immediate obedience from our children or fostering their ability to make wise choices? Bringing God’s grace into our messy moments Why connecting with God is so essential to how we parent Go into a situation asking, “Lord, what is the opportunity here?” Helping our kids build wisdom instead of feeling the need to express our disappointment when they mess up Trusting that our kids really want to do better Separating behavior from identity in our kids Humility and apologizing well may be our greatest currency as a parent The idea of a parent do-over Tips for parents of younger kids and encouragement for parenting kids who bite or hit We tend to think of behavior as either all good or all bad When our goal is to control their behavior, it doesn’t build trust You don’t have to be mean to be strong as a parent Big, loud, and loving energy can make a big difference in the middle of conflict Luke 1:17- "And he will go on before the Lord, in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the parents to their children and the disobedient to the wisdom of the righteous—to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.” Strong-willed kids and the importance of calling out their giftings and how God made them Sometimes it’s sensitive and intense children are labeled as strong-willed Psalm 73:21-24 "When my heart was grieved and my spirit embittered, I was senseless and ignorant; I was a brute beast before you. Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory." Connect with Jim & Lynne Jackson:   <a href="https://www.

10.15.2018

Calming Angry Kids :: Tricia Goyer [Ep 220]

Tricia Goyer is an author, speaker and homeschooling mom of ten. She also knows what it's like to parent children with chronic anger. If you've ever felt alone in how to calm your "angry kid(s)," Tricia has a lot of wisdom to share from parenting both biological and adopted children. In true Don't Mom Alone fashion, Tricia and I answer several listener questions about how to respond in love and help kids of all ages process their anger and emotions. We talk about how much harder it is for the current generation of moms who have to factor in busier schedules, social media and more as a part of their children's environments My oldest is 29 and my youngest is 8. It is so much harder now. I feel like I'm on the second generation of kids. Now there is social media. There is more television. There are more video games. The access that they have to all these things brings so much anxiety and tension. Not only do they have to go to school, but then they would come home and see on social media that people were talking about them. It's just so much more involved now even than it was when I had my first generation of kids. But it's not impossible! Tricia shares so many great practical tips and suggestions for how to help our kids (and ourselves) work through anger in a healthy way. But beyond all the tips, it all comes down to leaning into God and praying for the Holy Spirit to fill them that will make the biggest difference. It's really the Holy Spirit in them and the fruit of the Spirit is God in them that's going to change them. I could try all these activities. You know, we could do calming bags or coping skills. I mean we do all the things too. But really it is God in them. And the more they lean on God and the more they depend on him that they'll truly change. What we chat about: Tricia's family, career and unique calling as an adoptive parent Her new book, Calming Angry Kids Determining if your child is struggling with how to process anger in a healthy way Giving our kids time, attention and praise is a powerful antidote to anger Everyone gets mad, what we do with the anger makes the difference When they are in the middle of the emotions, it's not the time to discipline them Kids learn to apologize when we model it for them Anger is often a secondary emotion from a deeper wounding like shame or feeling unloved or anxiety Family schedules are busier than ever before and it heightens anxiety in kids and parents Take time to process emotions with your kids and say "No" to more activities or events if they need a break Tricia shares both how we can process our own anger and how to help our angry kids The idea of an anger log to help track anger over time Calming bags and items you can include in them Give your kids time and space to calm down Specific tips for pre-teens and teens and helping them with anger and hormones Connect with Tricia:      Links Mentioned: Calming Angry Kids: Help and Hope for Parents in the Whirlwind ** Prayer Journals Big Kids ** Little Kids ** An Interview with Tricia Goyer {GCM Podcast Ep. 7} How to Discern God's Will Stick With It :: Tric...

10.08.2018

Idols of Motherhood :: Elyse Fitzpatrick [Ep 219]

We’ve all been there. Your kid throws a fit in public and you feel the sting of embarrassment and the subtle lie that you aren’t a good enough mom. You fear what others will say and feel like the entire day is ruined in this one encounter. My guest Elyse Fitzpatrick has lived in this place of fear and presents another way to view your worth as a mother -- resting in the righteousness of Jesus. She shares about the very common and subversive idols of motherhood to slip in when we try to control our children’s performance. But see that's absolutely soul destroying because you either end up in fear and despair or pride and despair. That's where you always end up when you're living for your own righteousness. So in the days that I can lay down and in bed at night and say, ‘Yeah nailed it,’ then I am in pride. If you’ve struggled to feel “OK” in your own power or have found your personal joy tethered to your kids’ behavior, this episode is for you. Elyse gives us the simple reminder that we have the power through Jesus to topple the idols in our life. I began to understand this is really idolatry and I'm driving my kids insane trying to prove that I'm really an OK person. That I'm OK when they're good and I'm a complete train wreck and bad and a loser when they're not. But, when Jesus becomes who he should be in our lives, then idols lose their power to entice us. What we chat about: Elyse’s blended family structure and her son’s adoption The balance of the disciplinarian and the more fun parent Insecurity about our own faith and the lie of trying to control our kids The danger of looking for identity in the way our kids behave Looking for the places in our lives where we feel afraid, angry or worried as a barometer for where we aren’t believing God Identifying idols in our lives and what they can look like How our children make us look or feel in front of others can bring up anger in us Elyse’s relationship with her mother and the background of her perceived need for control When Jesus becomes who he should be in our lives, our idols lose their power Not letting our joy be tethered to our kids’ behavior, or even our behavior Our self-centered struggle to feel “OK” in our own power How living for our own self righteousness leads to a soul destroying cycle of pride and despair Resting in the righteousness of Christ and remembering we are forgiven Connect with Elyse:   Links Mentioned: * Front Porch with the Fitzes Podcast * Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus by Elyse M. Fitzpatrick ** * The Expulsive Power of a New Affection by Thomas Chalmers** * No Other Gods Bible Study Book by Kelly Minter** **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Not Alone Community Are you looking for more support in your motherhood? We have good news! You can become a member of the Not Alone Community and connect with people and resources to help you feel less alone. As a member you get: * Special access to Heather doing video interviews (archived and live) * Curated content on each month's topic (in October--'Not Alone in Overwhelm') * past podcast episodes * articles written by Heather * book list

10.01.2018

Become Fully Alive–Mind, Body, & Spirit :: Susie Larson [Ep 218]

It's all too easy slip into believing lies over God’s truth. My guest today shares that healing is possible and opens up about her personal healing journey from both physical and emotional abuse and chronic illness. An author, radio host, and national speaker, Susie Larson, talks about how intertwined our emotional, spiritual, and physical health are. We talk through stories that are in her new book, "Fully Alive", and she shares about some powerful experiences she’s had with the Lord. “The Lord whispered through the chaos in my bathroom. The storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth we need. The enemy's railing and saying I'm going to get you. I've got you by the throat and I felt like my throat was starting I could swallow and my esophagus was spasming. It's just horrifying to hear the whisper again. Storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth who need.” There’s so much hope and truth in this episode for all of us who are believing for healing this side of heaven. For more inspiration from Susie, I highly recommend her book, "Fully Alive"**, which is available for pre-order right now. What we chat about: Susie’s experiences with abuse both physical and emotional How our bodies hold onto trauma and hindrances to the healing process Storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth we need The idea of blessing guilt and surrendering to God for healing The lie of learned helplessness and the truth that we’re not helpless with Jesus Rejecting the lies of the enemy and addressing unbeliefs in our soul Confronting the scar tissue of our past and the life that’s on the other side of it God absolutely heals and it isn’t specifically a lack of faith that keeps us from receiving healing Jesus entered in to other’s pain and suffering, that’s our calling too The dangers of over medication and distraction that can keep us from being healed The integral role of rest in the healing process Links Mentioned: The Uncommon Woman * Fully Alive: Learning to Flourish--Mind, Body, & Spirit** * Your Powerful Prayers** **Amazon affiliate link to help support the production of this podcast. Transcription: Download by Clicking Here Featured Sponsors: Songfinch Songfinch is a personalized gifting platform that brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. It’s the perfect, unique gift for weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Valentine’s Day, Newborns and many more of life’s special occasions. Special coupon code: GODCENTEREDMOM get $20 off your personalized song Featured Sponsors: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepa...

09.24.2018

The Gift of Celebrating the Biblical Feasts :: Amber Lee [Ep 217]

So much of the Old Testament in the Bible is devoted to the traditions and celebrations of the Jewish faith. It is all a part of the rich heritage that Jesus was born into and the prophecies he fulfills. As Christians, we often skim over the Jewish feasts and traditions and focus on the New Testament.   My friend Amber Lee shares why we should all consider celebrating one or more of the traditional Jewish feasts and how the rhythm of pausing and celebrating the Lord’s provision can be a life-giving practice for you and your family. For me it's a gift that the Lord continues to unfold. It's like a dad saying, ‘Hey, here's a way to live life better. Here's something that is better for your soul. If you would just pause the crazy rat race that you're running for just a minute, for just two hours, and talk with people that you love about what's going on.’ We talk about the various feasts and about the practice of keeping the Sabbath. But, more importantly, we acknowledge that participating in these traditions is not about being a better Christian or another thing to put on your to do list. It’s really about intentionally pausing life to celebrate God and inviting others into that celebration. And in each of the feasts, there's this foreshadowing of bringing in the Gentile or bringing in the outsider. I think it's just beautiful and the Lord saying it was always my intent to include everyone. What we chat about: How and why Amber started celebrating feasts The biblical background of Jewish feasts and how Jesus interacted with them It’s about pausing and celebrating how the Lord has provided The names and differences between the various feasts The way the feasts were meant to include outsiders and Gentiles Learnings about Jewish traditions and observing the Sabbath The Sabbath is really about pausing with intention and processing life with the Lord All about the feast of Pentecost and how the layers of prophecy fulfillment enrich the understanding of all that Jesus did How to start with Jewish feasts and tips for starting in small ways Links Mentioned: * Website to learn more --> Hebrew4Christians * Celebrating Jesus and the Biblical Feasts** * Celebrating Biblical Feasts** **Amazon affiliate link to help support the production of this podcast. Featured Sponsors: Songfinch Songfinch is a personalized gifting platform that brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. It’s the perfect, unique gift for weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Valentine’s Day, Newborns and many more of life’s special occasions. Special coupon code: GODCENTEREDMOM get $20 off your personalized song Featured Sponsors: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...

09.17.2018

Help Your Children Embrace Differences :: Dorena Williamson [Ep 216]

Many of us avoid and struggle with conversations about race or disabilities because it’s uncomfortable. When our children ask innocent questions about someone who is different than they are, it can make us feel tongue tied or embarrassed. Author Dorena Williamson has created some lovely children’s books to help parents respond and invite their children to join them on the journey of learning to love and speak worth over every person that God created. And I kept feeling frustrated thinking that's not the solution to teach your children to be colorblind because that's minimizing the beauty of God's handiwork. And as Christians we should be the biggest proponents of celebrating the beauty of our racial diversity and not minimizing it or sort of washing it away and this colorblind land. She shares powerfully about how to engage with your children about racial and cultural differences and how we can model what it looks like to grow in the area of loving and accepting people who are different than us. As our children get older, I think that these are valuable conversations to have with them because the beauty of it is that it tells your children you are teachable and that you don't get it right all the time and that you're continuing to learn and grow. What we chat about: All about Dorena’s family and their multiracial church, Strong Tower Bible Church Her book ColorFull and the background behind why she wrote it The creativity of God and how he uses color in all that he created Looking for opportunities to share the beauty of racial differences with our children Language for parents to use to help teach children and avoid shaming Reinforcing the idea that “Different is not bad” and calling out the worth of people Why equipping kids early is important Modeling how we are all growing when it comes to loving and accepting people who are different than us Encouraging our children to ask questions even when they are uncomfortable Engaging with our kids about other cultures whether we can travel internationally or experience cultures in our own cities Connect with Dorena:   Links Mentioned: * ColorFull: Celebrating the Colors God Gave Us** * ThoughtFull : Discovering the Unique Gifts in Each of Us** Other books/sites that Dorena recommends:  * Brownicity.com site with helpful resources (created by a Godly woman Dr. Lucretia Berry) * The Beatitudes by Carole Boston Weatherford * The Other Side  by Jacqueline Woodson * Beabridgebuilder.com * A list of 28 picture books (aren't about boycotts, buses or basketball)  --listed created by ScottWood **Amazon affiliate link to help support the production of this podcast. Featured Sponsors: Songfinch Songfinch is a personalized gifting platform that brings your stories,

09.10.2018

Hands Up, Worries Down :: Chris & Jodi (Love & The Outcome) Ep 215

Contemporary Christian musicians Chris Rademaker and Jodi King followed God’s call to pursue a musical adventure as the husband-wife duo Love & The Outcome. They share their experiences of selling their home, walking through grief, newlywed life on the road as musicians and their transition into parenting.   Jodi especially talks through how she leans on the Holy Spirit in her parenting, managing expectations and other people’s reactions. I've had to learn how to just know the Holy Spirit. So in the moments when we're in public and I'm parenting, I focus on Him. It's so easy to turn and see everyone else's reaction to what I just did was or I can just try and do my best to really listen to the Holy Spirit in the moment so that I can feel confident in my decisions. I love how Chris and Jodi open up about playing shows and bringing their two young sons Milo and Ziggy along for the ride. There’s so much encouragement for moms of littles in this episode, including letting our standards slip a little so we can still experience community even if it’s messy and involves take-out food instead of handcrafted meals. Maybe it's just a season. But maybe it's forever. I don't really know what the Lord has. But letting go of some of my ideals has been so good. I have to acknowledge that I have a 2.5-year-old and a 1-year-old. Life looks like this right now, and it is the dream if I choose to be present to it and enjoy it. What we chat about: When Jodi and Chris met and started a touring band Their Enneagram types and how they work together as a couple How the Lord directed their path through grief and loss Parenting and challenges that come when touring with kids Dwelling in the Holy Spirit to make decisions Transitions in parenting and learning to lean into the Holy Spirit vs worrying what others think The concessions you make to connect with community when you are in a busy season Freeing yourself up from pre-conceived plans of what life “should” look like A new way to look at living the dream and choosing to be present in what your life is like now Connect with Love & the Outcome:   (You should follow them on IG. . .cutest pics and Jodi is drops some serious encouragement!) Links Mentioned: * The God I Know music video * The King of My Heart music video * He is With Us music video * L&TO; albums: These Are the Days** &  Love & The Outcome** **Amazon affiliate link to help support the production of this podcast. Featured Sponsors: Songfinch Songfinch is a personalized gifting platform that brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. It’s the perfect, unique gift for weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Valentine’s Day, Newborns and many more of life’s special occasions.

09.04.2018

Gay Girl, Good God :: Jackie Hill Perry [Ep 214]

It’s an uncomfortable and often controversial subject, especially in the church, but homosexuality and same sex attraction is something we all need to understand from a Biblical perspective. This week’s guest Jackie Hill Perry shares how the power of the gospel in her life rescued her from the sin she was living in as a woman with same sex attractions. She not only brings us into her amazing story, but absolutely preaches the word of God and brings a lot of clarity to what can feel like a gray area for many Christians. My conscience would not allow me to shake the truth that Jesus died for sin and that he is not pleased with sin at all. So I tried my best to shake him and I couldn't…And I felt God speak to my heart and say that my girlfriend or my sin would be the death of me. That the wages of sin equals death. Because I saw it wasn't my girlfriend or my lesbianism alone. It was that my entire life would be the death of me. Jackie shares stories and insights from her new book Gay Girl, Good God. She also answers listener questions about how to share God’s love with LGBTQ friends and family by treating them as a whole person and keeping the gospel centered on God’s truth and not culture’s. What we chat about: Jackie’s background, home life and beginnings of same sex attraction. Her belief that same sex attraction is choosing sin. How sexual sin is a specifically addicting sin. God does not rank sins. Homosexuality is not better or worse than any other sin. Insight into black lesbian culture and false masculinity. How God pursued Jackie through people and circumstances and reminded her of who he made her to be. Jackie’s experience wrestling with the truth that the wages of sin is death. The power of a very close discipleship relationship when you are needing breakthrough from sin or trauma. The process of learning to have healthy same sex friendships. Dealing with temptations and how Jesus empathizes with us and gives us power to overcome sin. How to love LGBTQ people and pray for them, but not condone the sin. Evangelism needs to be God-centered and not centered on a person’s sexuality. Dialoguing about same sex attraction using the Bible as the explicit answer for all questions regarding it. Jackie’s response to gay marriage and why we are called to love God more than we love people who are living in sin. Connect with Jackie Hill Perry:   Links Mentioned: * Gay Girl, Good God** **Amazon affiliate link to help support the production of this podcast. Featured Sponsors: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Get 2 weeks of meal plans FREE! Go to Prepdish.com/gcm and use coupon code: GCM

08.27.2018

Adopting Special Needs :: Alice & Candace [Ep 213]

Often the hardest assignments in our lives bring us the greatest good. I've seen it to be true in my own life. And have walked this Truth with friends on their journeys.  In this episode I’ve invited my friends Alice and Candace to share their stories of adoption. And the process of discovering their adopted children have special needs. We also discuss how God has led them each into new ministries because of the children He's brought into their families.  I love seeing God's purpose for Alice & Candace unfold alongside their leaning on Him for strength and guidance. Not to mention how they follow Him obediently with humor and grace! I don't know if God made Millie have autism or if that is a result of living in a fallen world. That's something that I question every day. But I do know that the struggles that she has had more than anything else have shaped our family in a way that I think brings glory to God, more than the easy and fun and good things.--Alice Alice and her family:  Candace and her family:  What we chat about: Meet Alice, Candace and their families Why each of their families chose to adopt Alice’s story of adopting internationally vs adopting domestically Discovering their adopted children’s special needs How growth for our children and our families happens in hard places It so good that God doesn’t show us the big picture of what he’s doing in our lives The struggles and joys of parenting a child on the autism spectrum Alice’s future plans for offering therapy with horses and assisting with children with special needs transitioning into jobs as adults Candace’s plans for helping foster children in a bigger way Praying through big decisions like adoption with your spouse and letting God change your hearts Adoption is hard on marriage, so you need to be on the same page How friends and community can support adoptive families Links Mentioned: * Pine Cove Family Camp * http://99balloons.org/recess Featured Sponsors: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Get 2 weeks of meal plans FREE! Go to Prepdish.com/gcm and use coupon code: GCM Don't Mom Alone Live Event Tickets Tickets are officially on sale starting today!! This year we are adding more seats and options!! Check out all the details and get your tickets HERE. Parenting -- Streaming Event 2018 Parenting is hard work, but what could be more important in your life than being one of God's tools to form a human soul? In his brand-new streaming event, pastor and best-selling author Dr. Paul David Tripp will share four principles that can radically change the way you raise your children. This conference has on-demand st...

08.20.2018

Opportunity vs. Disruption :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 212]

In the thick of parenting it is easy to get our perspective skewed or react to our children from a place of emotion or our own sin. My guest Dr. Paul David Tripp gives a course-correcting pep talk reminding parents of their deep calling from God and how to look at discipline as an opportunity to connect our kids with God’s goodness. “You're never just dealing with behavior. You're always dealing with what controls the child's behavior and that's his heart. And if God consciousness doesn't rule my heart, self orientation will. That's what has to change. No I can't create that change, but I can I can give God's Spirit an opportunity again and again to work in the heart of my child” Tripp  is a pastor, international event speaker, and best-selling author. As a father of four grown children, he shares candidly from his own experience. This encouraging episode is packed with a lot of truth! Share with your spouse and friends! What we chat about: The deeper calling of on our lives as parents We cannot rely on our kids to give us hope for parenting them. How opening our children’s eyes to see God everywhere pulls them away from a self centered existence. God created the world so that it’s very physical nature reveals him. Root the rules that you have for your children in God's goodness and his love and His grace. Every opportunity we have to discipline or correct is not an opportunity first to threaten  with punishment but to talk about how good God is. Ask the question, “What is God wanting to do in the heart of this child?” Behavior is really about a child’s heart orientation God way of parenting isn’t efficient, but it is transformational  . The values of the world push against our calling as parents. We have to consider where we are placing our treasure and hope. A God perspective for how to respond when your children sin God is exposing something in my child so I can be part of his help and rescue. Parenting is about planting seeds. We aren’t going to see them bloom overnight. Dealing with rebellion and authority issues with grace and consequences Parenting adopted children and helping them with identity Connect with Paul David Tripp:   Parenting -- Streaming Event 2018 Parenting is hard work, but what could be more important in your life than being one of God's tools to form a human soul? In his brand-new streaming event, pastor and best-selling author Dr. Paul David Tripp will share four principles that can radically change the way you raise your children. This conference has on-demand streaming access until November 30. With a Streaming License, you, your friends, or your entire church will be encouraged by biblical and practical wisdom. Your Streaming License will also include a free study guide, loaded with questions for further discussion. Transcript of conversation: Download Here Links Mentioned: * Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family** * New Morning Mercies** * Gospel Parenting Episode with Paul David Tripp from 2017 **Amazon affiliate link

08.13.2018

Help to Read Truth Every Day :: Raechel Myers [Ep 211]

In a time when biblical truth is often narrowed down to a greeting card slogan or a small subset of feel-good encouragements, the She Reads Truth community takes a different approach. The bible studies and reading plans from She Reads Truth take a deep dive into scripture with the goal to understand the big picture of who God is throughout history and our need for his grace. SRT co-founder and CEO Raechel Myers shares the community’s origin and her personal story of encountering God’s goodness amidst the loss of her daughter. Jump in to hear Raechel share her heart for studying scripture and relying on the Holy Spirit in the difficult places of parenting. I can base my understanding of God on the 36 years that I’ve experienced with him, but that is a mistake. God’s story is so far back before I ever existed. And so one of the important reasons that we read the Bible is to understand the broader story of who God is and how I fit into his story, not how he fits into mine. What we chat about: Raechel’s writing background and the purpose behind her first blog How God trained and equipped Raechel through various experiences before She Reads Truth began The origin of the She Reads Truth community Taking God’s word for what it is and not relying too heavily on devotionals or feel-good scriptures alone She Reads Truth has options for everything from free reading plans to beautiful, bound books A new children’s story book they’ve produced called This Is the Gospel Addressing faith and trusting that God is who he says he is with your older kids Why scripture plays such a key role in our understanding of who God is beyond our own experience with him The importance of modeling Christian life for our children’s spiritual formation Connect with She Reads Truth:   Links Mentioned: He Reads Truth  * Kids Read Truth Judges study - http://shereadstruth.com/plan/judges/ New Kids Book - This Is the Gospel Romans study * Matthew study * Mourning and Dancing * The Color Method with Lacey Dobrient  (Ep 63)  * Focused15 with Katie Orr (Ep 101) * The Evans Family Discuss Loss & Faith **Amazon affiliate link Featured Sponsors: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”.

08.06.2018

Bonus Mentor Episode–Resolving Sibling Conflict :: Jim & Lynne Jackson

**Live Event Details in this Episode--Don't miss the intro & middle  (31:20) for details about the upcoming "Don't Mom Alone" Live Event!! ** "They just keep fighting!" Summer, for us, means lots of unstructured time together as a family. Which is great. . . until it's not. Perhaps you can identify. Maybe you see yourself in one of the following situations: Situation #1 - The kids are fighting - again! The harder you try to make it stop, the worse it seems to get - and the kids seem more and more resentful. Situation #2 - One minute they love each other and the next minute they’re arch enemies. The older they get the louder and angrier it gets. You hate the way this affects everyone’s mood, including your own. Situation #3 - Time-outs, required apologies, and firmness temporarily curb the fighting, but it soon comes back with more intensity. Situation #4 - Your young kids are beginning their rivalry and you worry where it’s heading if you don’t learn some better strategies.  (copied from Sibling Conflict Online Course description). Jim & Lynne Jackson from ConnectedFamilies.org are back to equip us in training our children to solve conflict well. And instead of just wishing they would "just stop fighting", to recognize the gospel work of guiding our family to reconciliation. Jim & Lynne have been on the show before sharing their fabulous 4-layer framework for discipline that connects (Listen here to Episode 80 & 81). And again helping connect in any situation (Ep 98). And recently helping us work with our kids on all of our entitlement issues (Ep 200) Today, they are talking us through The Peace Process. A simple but effective way to guide our kids to a lifetime of reconciled relationships. Here's their great graphic with the four steps moving us from "crazy mountain" to peaceful reconciliation (Click here to print your own copy): Conflict is inevitable. Instead of just getting frustrated and annoyed, I've found having a plan to reconnect hearts and train empathy so helpful. I also loved all the phrases Jim & Lynne modeled to use as we guide our children through the process. Here are some of my favorites (I'll be bookmarking this page and referring to often): * "Sounds like y'all are having a hard time. Do you need my help or are you able to work it out on your own?" * "Solving brains won't work until we're calm. Why don't we each find a comfortable place. How long do you need? 5 min? 10 min? Then we'll come back together to work this out." * "Did you hear that? How does she feel? Do you like that what you did made her feel that way? You two are listening to each other. How does that feel?" * "Your big feelings are a gift. And they are an even greater gift with you can use them to help understand other's big feelings." * "What's going on? What was important to each person? How have you solved this problem before? Would you like to think of ways to solve the problem or do you want me to help give you choices on how to solve it?" * "Are there four things you could say that are ...

07.30.2018

Summer of Mentorship 2018 :: Jen Wilkin [Week Six]

You desire your children to walk with God. But how do you lead them to that place? Is that only your husband's job? What if you are a single mom or functionally single mom? What about your role as a leader in your faith community? Should women leaders be gentle and quiet? Today's guest is Jen Wilkin, author of "None Like Him" and "Women of the Word".  She debunks some myths we believe about spiritual leadership, inside and outside of the home. Her desire is for women to be grounded in the truth of God's Word. To study with both their hearts and their minds. To know God and who He is. Then from knowing Him and His character see how He crafted us uniquely and our high worth in His eyes. In this episode Jen and I chat about spiritual leadership. How we can expand the definition of what we think that means. How leading our children changes over the years. How her own single mom prayed fervently for her and for God to grow big in her life. We also discuss how to be a spiritual leader in your community. How to manage that responsibility with humility and boldness. And how women need to not just see cute Instagram posts but know who God is from His Word.     Connect with Jen: What we chat about: * Jen's young mom journey with three kids in four years. * The need for accountability and structure in studying the Bible as a young mom. * How the Wilkins describe leading children spiritual--the differences over the years. * Tips for the woman who is spiritually leading her children. * Expanding the definition of "spiritual leader" in the home. * Jen's journey of spiritual growth having a single mom. * Self-reflection asking "Am I stepping on people? Limiting the contribution of others?" * How to be a woman in spiritual leadership/ministry. * What do you do if women think you are more "spiritual" than them. * How to be grounded in theWord and not cute, Instagram posts. * What does it mean that God is transcendent. Links Mentioned: * Revolutionary Parenting by George Barna** * When Dad Doesn't Disciple by Jen Wilkin * None Like Him by Jen Wilkin ** * In His Image by Jen Wilkin** * Flower Mound Women's Bible Study * Jen's Bible Study at the Village Church this Fall on Genesis * Jen's Published Bible Studies --> * Sermon on the Mount** * 1 Peter: A Living Hope in Christ** * God of Creation : Study of Genesis 1-11** **Amazon affiliate links Featured Sponsor: The Declare Conference Declare is a Christian conference to equip and encourage women bloggers, writers, speakers, artists, online marketers, leaders, and disciplers to know God and make Him known through deep community.

07.23.2018

Summer of Mentorship 2018 :: Dr. Peggy Banks [Week Five]

"In this world you will have trouble, but take heart I have overcome the world." John 16:33 Pain is inevitable. In James we are told to "consider it all joy" when we encounter trials. James also wrote to ask God for wisdom and He will give it generously. Which I realized from a sermon this week has more to do with wisdom we gain from the challenging circumstances, not necessarily wisdom to get out of them. But how many of us share our broken places with others? How often do we wait until the pain has passed and life is back to "normal" to share and minister to others? What if God longs for you to offer up the wisdom you are gaining in the midst of the challenge? This week's guest is Dr. Peggy Banks (Global Ministry Director for TWR Women of Hope). I'm a big Peggy fan. Years ago she discipled me in a deeper understanding of God and His Spirit in me. She modeled how to pray intimately with my heavenly Father. She taught me all the Spirit does in and through us. She inspired me with her passion for women around the world to know the healing available through Jesus Christ. In this episode Peggy shares her own painful places. A past that includes abuse. A journey of learning to trust and stop striving in performance. She encourages us to meet with Jesus daily. And what that looks like for her. Peggy encourages us to gather with others in small groups to spur each other on in our spiritual journeys. Sharing what He is doing and lifting one another up in the process. Peggy was a minister of Spiritual formation at my church for years. And now she leads a global ministry to women, TWR Women of Hope. God is using her pain for a purpose. Every day women around the world are hearing the gospel in their own language through the power of the airwaves. As a podcaster, I'm so inspired by the work of Women of Hope and Trans World Radio. "As a small Army-surplus transmitter went on the air in Tangier, Morocco, in early 1954, the first step had been taken toward the development the world’s largest evangelical media organization" - Trans World Radio Such a cool idea to realize the gospel has been traveling via airways since the 50s. What a joy to join Him in the work of spreading the good news! Connect with Peggy & TWR Women of Hope: What we chat about: * Peggy's hidden pain while looking perfect on the outside and performing for approval. * The "spiritual mom" who helped Peggy get healing from the bondage and brokenness of abuse. * Learning to vulnerably share your struggles with those you are leading. * Advice for the listener who is in the middle of the painful place. * What does it mean "to be with Jesus". * Gathering together with a group to be real and share your current pain. * How Peggy's tattoos helped her minister to a specific group of women. * Peggy's personal mission statement: "Helping hurting women around the world helping to find hope and healing in the person of Jesus Christ." Links Mentioned: * **If you or someone you know is involved in a domestic abuse situation, here is an online resource: * Focus Ministries * National 24-hour Women of Substance Crisis Intervention Hotline: 1-866-862-2873 * National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-723...

07.16.2018

Summer of Mentorship 2018 :: Kristen Hatton [Week Four]

Teens. Toddlers. Moms. No matter the age. We all struggle to remember (or know) the truth about who God says we are. And our position in Christ. When we forget, we let friends, circumstances, or lies feed our souls with identity. And that takes us down the path of uncertainty,  harmful activities and a broken path. Thankfully, today's guest, Kristen Hatton, helps "Get Your Story Straight". When her daughter was in 6th grade, Kristen started teaching her and a group of friends truth from the Bible. Unfortunately, there weren't a lot of great resources available for preteens/teens. So she used notes from her husband's sermons and wrote her own Bible study. (click here to check it out)** In this episode, Kristen and I talk about the struggle for our kids to know how "justification" applies to daily life. (And define what 'justification' means). We also chat about how to help teens navigate the challenges of social media. And Kristen vulnerably shares her daughter's battle with an eating disorder (which began with internalizing social media posts). Lastly, Kristen helps us start to keep communication open with our kids. So when they are teens they will keep talking. I'm in the stage with lots of little people all trying to be with me and talk to me (at the same time). But after three blinks I'll have a home full of teen boys. The time I spend listening now will impact how much they talk to me in the future. Very thankful for the help, perspective and wisdom from Kristen. Now I can see the teenage years as an age of opportunity not a season to be feared. Connect with Kristen:   What we chat about: * How quickly our kiddos grow into teenagers. * How Kristen saw a need for good bible study materials for teens. * Helping our kids be anchored in who God says we are (not who their friends on social media says they are). * Importance of teaching our kids the concept of justification. * When the world is measuring perfection and performance but we know we are only perfect in Christ. * How to communicate worth and identity to our kids. * Why teens stop talking to their parents. * Listening and asking probing questions. * Responding with grace instead of condemnation. * How internalizing social media posts led to her daughter's eating disorder. * How boys struggle with social media. * How Kristen talks to her kids about the impact of social media. * Talking to your sons & daughters about pornography. Keeping an open conversation. * Reorienting your kids to the message of the gospel, moment-to-moment Links Mentioned: * Get Your Story Straight: A Teen's Guide to Learning and Living the Gospel by Kristen Hatton** * The depressing Eggo commercial * Why Teens Don't Talk to Their Parents * Connected Families--<a href="https://dontmomalone.com/2015/07/13/help-your-child-feel-safe-loved-jim-lynne-jackson-ep-8...

07.09.2018

Summer of Mentorship 2018 :: Jan Greenwood [Week 3]

No matter the battleground . . . Marriage challenges. Child struggles. Health trials. Overwhelming circumstances. How do you maneuver the daily attacks that rob your joy and peace? This week's mentor is Jan Greenwood, author and pastor of equipping at Gateway Church in Southlake, TX. In 2009, Jan was diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer. After the first battle, she experienced years of healing. Then four days shy of her 6 year recovery anniversary, cancer resurged in her body. In this episode, Jan shares what God's taught her about waging war. And how the football term #squareup impacted her battle strategies differently from the first and second time she fought cancer. Jan shares what it means for her to rest and let God fight for her. And encourages each of us to get a word and direction from the Lord for our unique situations. Here are a few of my favorite quotes from this episode: This time my mindset has had to become one of agreement and not one of opposition. And squaring up is not about being steadfast in the Word of God, but its really about can I square up in such a manner that I can look at Jesus and trust Him. I’m not very brave and not very strong. When I’m weak there’s a strength that shines through. And when I’m afraid, He makes me courageous. I know how to fight but I don't know how to rest. Connect with Jan Greenwood:    What we chat about: * How God spoke to Jan at the news of cancer's resurgence. * How Jan found comfort in her son’s football word “square up”. * The difference between how Jan has fought cancer the first time and the second time. * What “square up” means for her in this season. * The story behind the hashtag Jan uses: #bravestronggirl. * How her battle with cancer impacts her mothering. * Jan’s desire to get women to war together instead against each other. * The revelation to choose life and not succumb to death. * What rest looks like in Jan’s every day. * How you need your own word and direction from God. Links Mentioned: * "Women at War: Declaring a Cease-fire on Toxic Female Relationships" ** (womenatwar.com) * The #SquareUp story on her site JanGreenwood.me * Brave Strong Girl --- The Invitation -- A Collaborative Devotional  **Amazon Affiliate Link How to listen to the podcast: 1.Listen on the blog. Click through to GodCenteredMom.com and click the play button at the beginning of this post. 2. Listen on your smartphone, iPad or iPod Touch – There are a lot of great podcasting apps. Apple has a free one (that I mentioned) in the app store, there is also one called Downcast. It allows you to search for shows, subscribe to them and even speed up the audio.

07.02.2018

Summer of Mentorship 2018 [Week Two] :: Chrystal Evans Hurst

Chrystal is a real life friend. And one wise woman. Since this episode went live three years ago, she's become. . .a grandmother to two adorable kiddos! But I'll give you a tip. . .before you call her Granny. . . Chrystal prefers the title "MMC" (aka, "Mother of the Mother of the Child" ;). In twelve years of parenting I've learned a thing or two. I've gained confidence in my ability to handle high fevers, distinguish between a backhoe digger and a tractor, and (somewhat regularly) plan weekly meals. But most days I feel just as clueless as my first day home from the hospital.  When I sat on the closet floor cried buckets while cradling a screaming newborn. And had no idea how to stop either of our tears. These days it's sibling arguments I fear may rival world wars. Or strong wills that no military force could conquer. Or the noise, chaos and never-ending mess that leave me feeling like a pair of dirty socks in the spin cycle. But I have one strategy that always helps. . . Asking moms who've gone before me for perspective. Showing me what matters and what doesn't. Helping me navigate these days with faith and grace. On today's podcast I've invited Chrystal Evans Hurst, mom to five to fill our mom hearts with nuggets of truth and wisdom.   What we talked about: * The realization Chrystal had when she turned 40 * What Chrystal wants to make sure every mom knows * The parenting advice Corrie Ten Boom gave Chuck Swindoll * How to handle the shame or blame from those around us * How to grow in confidence as a mother * How to help and give grace to new moms * How knowing the commonalities between ages 2, 12, 20 helps you parent better * How to be the compassionate counselor to your children * How to calmly set boundaries and appropriately direct emotions * What God can accomplish and inspire you through prayer * The impact of how your face communicates acceptance * Three final tips Chrystal wants moms to know Connect with Chrystal: Site :: Instagram :: Twitter :: Facebook Links Mentioned: * Chrystal on Ep 172 "Rescuing the Girl Inside You"  * Chrystal's Chronicles Podcast * "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you." James 1:5 * Toni Morrison on Oprah (video below. . .if reading via email click here)   What are your top 3 mom strengths? How to listen to the podcast: 1.Listen on the blog. Click through to GodCenteredMom.com and click the play button at the beginning of this post. 2. Listen on your smartphone, iPad or iPod Touch – There are a lot of great podcasting apps. Apple has a free one (that I mentioned) in the app store,

06.25.2018

Summer of Mentorship 2018 [Week One] :: Sheila Walsh

Just like last year we'll be republishing older episodes for the next six weeks. I'll be enjoying a much needed Sabbath and y'all will get a chance to hear episodes you may not have heard yet (or reminded of ones you loved in the past)! Here's a preview of what's coming: Our first featured mentor is the fabulous Sheila Walsh!! "God had no grandchildren. He only had sons and daughters. Faith is something you have to choose for yourself." Those words started Sheila Walsh on a journey to know God and His love for her. From the tragic death of her father to professional success as 700 club co-host to discover freedom and peace in a psychiatric ward, Sheila shares a bit of her beautiful broken story. "Suffering can be a gift from God. Because it really draws you closer to His heart. And a greater understanding that it's never about me getting it right its about Christ who came to make everything right." This may be a "top ten favorite" interview for me. I've been a fan of Sheila and her work for years. But her wisdom and God's grace in this episode ministered to me in a way and time that I needed most. Resonating with my soul that "through the broken places Christ's love is closest to us." We also talk about fun ways to share the good news of God's Word with your kids. How to keep the conversation open and allow our kids to ask hard, unanswerable questions. To give them the freedom to speak truth and know it doesn't change God's love for them. Upcoming Live Streaming Event:  "It's Okay Not to be Okay" with Sheila Walsh We've all experienced that moment where we wish we could start all over again. Failed marriages, lost friends, addictions, lost jobs. This is not the life we imagined. Yesterday can sometimes leave us stuck, sad, shamed, scared, and searching. In this brand-new livestream event, best-selling author and trusted Bible teacher Sheila Walsh encourages viewers to face the pain head on and then start again, from right where they are. She shares that when she discovered "I'm not good enough and I'm good with that," everything started to change. This four-session video event is streaming live on September 14-15, 2018, with unlimited replay access until November 30. With a Streaming License, you will also receive a free discussion guide to with practical questions and supplemental Scripture study, perfect to use in your personal devotions, with a group of friends, or as a women's event at your church! Connect with Sheila:   What we chat about: * Sheila's incredible testimony * How brokenness is where God brings His love to us * The story behind "Gigi, God's Little Princess" series * Fun ideas of how the Walsh family did "devotion time" * Allowing our kids to be free to speak truth and ask hard questions * Her latest book in "The Bible is My Best Friend" series to help lead your child to Jesus Links Mentioned: * Will, God's Mighty Warrior** * Gigi, God's Little Princess** * Passion Conferences * The Bible is My Best Friend Bible Storybook** * The Bible is My Best Friend Family Devotional**<...

06.18.2018

The Legacy of a Calm Father :: Kirk Martin [Ep 210]

We’ve talked a lot about calm parenting techniques on GCM in the past. It’s something many of us moms have seen work. But this episode is one you may want to listen to and invite your hubby to as well! Founder of Celebrate Calm, Kirk Martin, shares the powerful story of how he went from an angry, tough dad to a calm, coaching dad and why a dad’s role in parenting is so important. I believe this to be true most of the time. If you do not change and if you do not forge that connection with your son, most of those boys will grow up and become angry young men… And I would tell the men too if you have a daughter and if she doesn't know that you like her. And that you accept her as she is even if she is difficult. I guarantee when she gets to her teenage years she's going to seek a man's affection in some teenage boy. What we chat about: Getting dads onboard with Calm Parenting techniques. Working with strong-willed children and how anger and tough punishments don’t work. Fear of failure as a parent is a strong motivator for us in discipline. Kids need to know that we can control ourselves as parents even when they are out control. Discipline means to teach, not to punish. It’s important to build trust with our kids so they know we have their best interests at heart. The idea of first-time obedience and whether it’s Biblical. Strong-willed children may never listen the first time and may do things their own way (but still obey). How our struggle to obey God often mirrors our kids’ struggle to obey. Leading our kids to contrition instead of demanding an apology. Coaching and role playing with our kids to teach them how to respond better in emotional situations. Think of calm techniques as a different tactic for problem solving.  It’s ok to give in from time to time to keep from going crazy (not the same as being “soft”). Try doing the opposite of what you are doing now and see what the response is. Connect with Kirk & Celebrate Calm:   Links Mentioned: * Men’s CD or download: “I Want To Be A Good Dad & Husband!” (2 CDs, 2 hours)   * * How to Stop Yelling, Lecturing & Power Struggles   Episode 62 * Calmly Parenting the Strong Willed Child  Episode 69 * Summer (& Sibling) Survival Guide  Episode 77 * How to Stay Calm with School Stress Episode 88 * Q & A with Kirk Martin Episode 104 * 10 Ways to Stop Meltdowns & Arguments Episode 139 **Amazon affiliate link Featured Sponsors: Write the Word for Kids Cultivate What Matters just debuted their brand new Write the Word for Kids Bible journal! Inspired by their popular Write the Word Bible journals — now uniquely for kids! This journal was created to help kids ages 5-12 dive ...

06.11.2018

Which Type of Rest Do You Need? :: Saundra Dalton-Smith [Ep 209]

As moms, we know we need rest. We usually equate rest with sleep or with a vacation, but this week’s guest shares a broader picture of our need for rest in multiple areas of our lives. Saundra Dalton-Smith is a medical doctor, wife and mother to two boys. She had everything she’d dreamed of and worked hard to achieve, but wasn’t enjoying it. I kept pushing and pushing myself till I got to the point where I literally burned out. I wasn't happy with my job. I couldn't see how my marriage would survive. I didn't want my kids anymore. I was just at the end of myself. I didn't want the life I created. After reaching this breaking point, she went on a journey of restoration and healing where she learned to connect with God and with his plan for rest. Now she shares her research and methods with her patients and with all of us. If you’ve ever felt tired and at the end of yourself, this episode is for you. We already have permission to rest, but the mommy guilt that sometimes comes tells us we don’t. That is really a lie. I look at it as the John 10:10. 'The thief comes to steal, kill, and destroy.' And he's doing it to a lot of us through our inability to rest, our inability to trust God that when we lay things down that he is able to uphold them. What we chat about: When Saundra reached her breaking point from stress and lack of true rest We have physical limits to what we can do as moms How Saundra researched rest and looked at scripture for clarity on how God rested The seven types of rest: physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, social, sensory and creative. The difference between a vacation and resting Paying attention to a place that feels painful in your body in the moment vs ignoring it Finding emotional rest through connection with friends, even through video chat if getting together is impossible The importance of authentic, open friendships with women who can relate to your life situation Ideas on how to stay engaged with your husband and reignite your marriage Putting limits on social media time so that your mind has down time Tips for getting mental rest and release ideas that make your mind race Sensory rest-- what it is and ways to get it It is not selfish to prioritize resting. It keeps you from having a toxic reaction to those around you. Connect with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith:         Links Mentioned: * Marco Polo App--way to socially connect * Sacred Rest by Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith** * Adventures in Odyssey Club--hundreds of episodes * Rest Quiz Online **Amazon affiliate link Featured Sponsors: Write the Word for Kids Cultivate What Matters just debuted their brand new Write the Word for Kids Bible journal! Inspired by their popular Write the Word Bible journals — now uniquely for kids! This journal was created to help kids ages 5-12 dive into scripture with carefully-chosen verses to write and draw out, Bible Bingo, coloring pages, and sections to write what’s on their heart. The Write the Word for Kids Bible journal is all about planting the seeds of God’s word deep in the heart of your child, and is the perfect activity for them to enjoy alongside you in your...

06.04.2018

Time & Space for Flourishing in a Tech World :: Andy Crouch [Ep 208]

In a world where devices, video games and screen-based entertainment dominate our time and space, we can choose to make our family culture different. It isn’t easy and it isn’t always fun, but there are huge benefits for us and our kids when we take time away from devices. This week’s guest Andy Crouch is the author of “The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place”. He shares about our calling to be image bearers of God and how his family has seen a lot of growth by putting limitations on time with technology and building in Sabbath rest from devices. Have moments as a family where you talk about what have been your best moments. What's been the flourishing moments in our family? It's very unlikely people will say, 'Oh that time we made it to level 16 in whatever video game.' Kids and parents will remember moments that had this kind of real authority and real vulnerability. As we head into summer, I hope this episode encourages you to embrace the power of your kids being bored so they can tap into their God-given creativity, abilities and interests. Just hang in there through the first third of the time! Listen to see what I mean. What we chat about: Image bearing as it relates to authority and vulnerability Video games and screened-based entertainment simulate authority and vulnerability Andy’s family’s Sabbath for screens and devices- one hour each day, one day each week and one week each year How to work toward unity on device- and technology-free time with your spouse Start small and do what’s stretching when it comes to taking time without devices Talk as a family about the best times you’ve experienced together and plan to have more of those moments The first third of the time is really hard, but in the second two-thirds you’ll see creativity and really good things for your family Changing your physical space to make the main thing we do together different Work and rest vs. Toil and leisure Not looking at your phone first thing in the morning till you’ve been outside Having a rhythm of disengagement with technology that reconnects us with real rest and with who we really are in God's image. Connect with Andy:   Links Mentioned: "The Tech Wise Family: Putting Technology in its Proper Place" by Andy Crouch ** * "Strong and Weak" by Andy Crouch** **Amazon affiliate link Featured Sponsors: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Get 2 weeks of meal plans FREE! Go to Prepdish.com/gcm and use coupon code: GCM FabFitFun Seasonal Subscription Boxes  Who else has tried FABFITFUN? If you don't already know about it, it’s a seasonal box, with full-size beauty, fitness and lifestyle products.

05.29.2018

Parenting in the Digital Age :: Ashley Januszewski [Ep 207]

Our children are growing up in a digital age with unparalleled access to technology. With these wonderful advances, comes a heavy responsibility we cannot ignore as parents. The access to pornography and sexual images and videos is everywhere and the age of children viewing them is going down.   But there is hope. My guest Ashley Januszewski is all about empowering parents to protect their children by talking candidly with them about God's plan for their bodies and sex from an early age. We talk about everything from sexting and pornography to device control and screen time limits. She shares great resources for how to start these conversations with your children at any age. It's our job as parents, though this is the reality. Not to throw our hands in the air. It is our responsibility just like it is to buckle our children when we get in the car. So it's our responsibility to virtually buckle up our children…. It's everywhere. So it starts and ends with training the heart and equipping our kids. What to do when (not if) they are faced with this avalanche of filth. What do we do? We’ve got to talk about it. What we chat about: The story behind Ashley's pursuit of information on parenting children in the digital age Eleven is the average age for exposure to pornography in America. Fear and anxiety can be signs that a young child has been exposed to something sexually inappropriate. The coming of age experience today in 2018 looks radically different than what we experienced as kids. There aren't the natural barriers that used to exist to pornography. Now it is anonymous, accessible and affordable to anyone. Our responsibility as parents to minimize exposure to pornographic material 40 percent of teenagers today in America say that sending sexual or naked photos or videos is part of everyday life for them. Make a plan for when and how you will introduce digital technology to your children A family mantra or mission statement can help you stay centered on the truth of God in a world that is dominated by opinions How screen time is affecting kids' brains and hours spent on screens by tweens and teens Teaching young children about the dignity and value bodies which can lead to wider conversations Humanizing explicit images and an example of how to talk to your kids when you encounter them Avoiding shame or blame when it comes to sexual images to keep the lines of communication open Solutions for an Internet safer home- control the location of devices, control at the router and control on the devices Sexting and child pornography laws and the importance of reporting Links Mentioned: * Mary Flo Ridley "When to have the Talk" Grace-Based Discipline :: Karis Kimmel Murray [Ep 150]  Theology of the Body for Kids:  * Pornography Jimmy and Josh Myers Ep 162 Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids ** Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds ** https://www.pcmag.com/roundup/342731/the-best-parental-control-apps-for-your-phone https://protectyoungeyes.com/ <a href="https://amzn.

05.21.2018

Overcoming Barriers to Sexual Intimacy :: Nancy Houston [Ep 206]

*Earbud warning...may want to listen without innocent ears hearing as well. ;) This episode is about having great SEX with your husband. Whether that gets you excited or brings up fear in you, please stay and listen to my chat with Nancy Houston. She is a licensed professional counselor and sex therapist who shares candidly about how to overcome barriers to intimacy in marriage. We talk about how to work through sexual pasts, sex after having kids, the impact of porn and sexual addiction on marriage. And how getting healing from your past experiences can draw you closer to your husband. There's a big learning curve to all of this. And you know too many times we treat sex as something that should be automatic and if we love each other this should just work. And that's just not true. I mean statistically 60 percent of couples are having some sort of sexual problem right this minute.  What we chat about: Why the Christian community needs to open up more about sex and healthy intimacy How sex drive changes for women after they’ve had kids The importance of foreplay for women especially God gave us sex as a way to bond us together with our husband Statistically, 60 percent of couples are having some sort of sexual problems at any given minute A woman’s largest sex organ is her brain The need for healing when you’ve experienced sexual abuse How Nancy processed and found healing from the sexual trauma she experienced Porn vs sexual addiction and the need for therapy God made us for intimacy Letting go of the negative aspects you may have built up around the idea of sex Raising our kids to have a healthy view of sexuality 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 and how it references sex in marriage Having your hormones checked, exercise and eating healthy can help your body be prepared for sex Having healthy conversations about sex with your husband (not during sex!) Sex isn’t meant to be a performance, it’s meant to be a way for you and your husband to connect Invite God into the sexual part of your marriage Connect with Nancy:   Links Mentioned: The Power of Sex in Marriage :: Francie Winslow, Ep 61  The Ripple Effect of Healthy Sexual Connection :: Francie Winslow, Ep 138  * Love & Sex A Christian Guide to Healthy Intimacy ** https://www.affairrecovery.com/ Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage ** * Birds & Bees with Mary Flo Ridley, "When to Have the Talk"  Birds & Bees--Continuing the Conversation, Ep 153  Nancy's recommended books: * Celebration of Sex, by Doug Rosenau** * Sex Facts for the Family, by Clifford and Joyce Penner** * <a href="https://amzn.

05.14.2018

Corporate Working Moms :: Causha Jolly & Stacey McCabe [Ep 205]

There is a lot of pressure placed on moms to nurture and care for our families. Add the responsibilities of a full-time job on top of that and it easy to see why being a mom is called the hardest job in the world. My friends Causha Jolly and Stacey McCabe share about life as working moms and the difficult balance they maintain everyday. I love how they share their hearts about being obedient to God’s assignment for them to work outside the home even in the difficult season of mothering little ones. As a community of God-centered moms, we’re called to cheer on our sisters. It’s my hope that this episode will encourage you to bless and support other moms as they obey God. Remember who you are in Christ, remember that you are called, remember that you are a daughter of the most high and never doubt that.  (STAY TUNED. . .later this week I'll release a blog post with more practical ideas on work/life balance from Causha) What we chat about: Causha and Stacy’s motherhood stories and why they chose to work outside the home Why it’s harder for moms to travel and not worry about your kids vs. husbands traveling How to respond when we fear we aren’t enough and struggle under the weight of expectations placed on moms The difficulty of finding care for your kids while you work The false internal judgement of good mom to bad mom scale Feeling a divine assignment from God to be in a certain job How it’s necessary to say, “No” to a lot when you have limited family time The need to show grace for yourself so that you can have grace with your kids Moms can’t be there every moment of every day, but Jesus will always be there Teaching our kids to turn to Jesus to meet every one of their needs Dealing with moments of insecurity as a working mom When we judge a mom for her choices then we miss out on the blessing of supporting her in her obedience Links Mentioned: Kat Armstrong --Motherhood, Career and Identity [episode 171]  Courtney Smallbone--The Day Fear Died  Pine Cove Family Camp * Freakonomics by Steven Levitt** * Whisper by Mark Batterson** * Experiencing God by Blackaby** * Discerning the Voice of God by Priscilla Shirer** **Amazon Affiliate Links Featured Sponsors: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Get 2 weeks of meal plans FREE! Go to Prepdish.com/gcm and use coupon code: GCM FabFitFun Seasonal Subscription Boxes  Who else has tried FABFITFUN? If you don't already know about it,

05.07.2018

Centering Truth :: Lisa Bevere [Ep 204]

In her new book, New York Times bestselling author Lisa Bevere tackles the question, “What is truth?”. It is a defining question in our current age which is ruled by a shifting sea of opinions and a constantly changing culture. But, truth is person, Jesus. And, he is a Rock for his people. When I began to look at this, I thought, 'Oh my gosh, they were looking for Christ'. The magnet that would draw, but not be drawn, the one who is light, this whole dynamic of being invincible, that’s what adamant means… invincible… it’s also immovable, constant, that rock who follows us in the wilderness… That word in Hebrew means, 'an unassailable refuge'. That made me realize that Christ is our unassailable refuge. Listen as Lisa shares wisdom and encouragement for moms, daughters and followers of Christ everywhere. What we chat about: Lisa’s background and testimony of meeting Jesus and her husband Parenting, discipline and setting your children up to win The power of positive affirmation in strong-willed children Explaining the why behind the rules and connecting it to God’s word Having grace for the season you are in as a mom Prayers for your kids to go beyond where you are in your walk with Christ Doing motherhood well is not the same as doing it perfectly The meaning of adamant and the background on Lisa’s new book Christ is our unassailable refuge, our rock, our adamant We can’t love what God loves if we don’t hate what God hates The danger of pride and how it separates us from God’s grace Jesus is our pattern for how to love You will never regret kindness and loving words Bring in the word of God when you have disagreements Connect with Lisa:   Links Mentioned: * Out Of Control And Loving It: Giving God Complete Control of Your Life** Lizzy the Lioness** Messenger International * Adamant : Finding Truth in a Universe of Opinions** **Amazon affiliate link Featured Sponsor: Connected Families Struggling with entitled attitudes in your home? With kids who "Don't Wanna Do It!" or kids who "Want it now!"?? We created this course just for you. It is four 30-minute sessions developed with busy parents in mind. In the Entitlement Fix Online Course we’ll teach you a proven thought process that helps parents and kids move away from entitled attitudes and toward gratitude, responsibility, and sense of long-term purpose. Join us today! How to listen to the podcast: 1.Listen on the blog. Click through to GodCenteredMom.com and click the play button at the beginning of this post. 2. Listen on your smartphone, iPad or iPod Touch – There are a lot of great podcasting apps. Apple has a<a href="https://itunes.apple.

04.30.2018

Hope During Infertility and Infant Loss :: Shawna Beucler [Ep 203]

Losing a baby to miscarriage or later in pregnancy is heartbreaking, especially when you are struggling with infertility. Imagine experiencing that type of loss multiple times. My guest and friend, Shawna Beucler shares the story behind her two healthy sons and the many babies she can’t wait to see again in heaven. If you’re walking through the journey of infertility or have a friend who is, Shawna shares so beautifully why you shouldn’t walk alone in these places of pain and the power of friends lifting you up in prayer every day. We would not have gone through and survived that time in our life had we not had people praying for us around the clock. Because sometimes the anger and the heartbreak when your heart meets tragedy… there is no prayer you can form. I needed a break from the Lord and I had other people holding that connection for me. What we chat about: Struggling with infertility, medical interventions and trying to get pregnant IUI, IVF and miscarriages Feeling the door shutting on future pregnancies The Lord wants us to desire to love and know him Losing a final baby and the traumatic process of going through delivery People praying for you made the difference Why Shawna wants to share her story The healing that can come from talking about the pain in your life Keeping your marriage together in times of deep grief 1 Timothy 1:7 - For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. Philippians 4:13 - I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Psalm 27:14 - Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord. Luke 1:37 - For nothing will be impossible with God. How to help a friend who is walking through infertility Connect with Shawna:   Links Mentioned: What to Say, How to Help, When to Show Up (Lunchbox Babies) * Mourning & Dancing by She Reads Truth Featured Sponsor: Connected Families Struggling with entitled attitudes in your home? With kids who "Don't Wanna Do It!" or kids who "Want it now!"?? We created this course just for you. It is four 30-minute sessions developed with busy parents in mind. In the Entitlement Fix Online Course we’ll teach you a proven thought process that helps parents and kids move away from entitled attitudes and toward gratitude, responsibility, and sense of long-term purpose. Join us today! 2018 Enjoy the Word Online Conference How to listen to the podcast: 1.Listen on the blog. Click through to GodCenteredMom.com and click the play button at the beginning of this post. 2. Listen on your smartphone, iPad or iPod Touch – There are a lot of great podcasting apps. Apple has a<a href="https://itunes.apple.

04.23.2018

Faith for the Unexpected :: Christine Caine [Ep 202]

Powerhouse Christine Caine shares how she let go of fear and found faith for when the unexpected happened. Lots of truth and encouragement here for anyone who has encountered fear in parenting, a medical diagnosis and rejection in friendships… so all of us!   Jesus never said we’re not going to have trials. He said when trials come, not if, but when. I think sometimes as believers we forget that, but we have a grace within it. I think part of our testimony to a lost and broken world is the way we go through it. What we chat about: Christine Caine’s new book, Unexpected Emboldening our faith and letting go of fear in motherhood Trusting that God will fill in the gaps of what we’re able to do as parents Basic spiritual practices can be some of the most powerful things in our lives Facing painful actualites in a fallen world Christine’s reaction to her cancer diagnosis Jesus is the name above all other names, including cancer Having a "faith cocoon" of friends to encourage you in the face of fear Enduring suffering as Christians Giving in to the pain and fear and suffering is not the answer We serve a God who is bigger! Godly motherhood in this generation is harder than it’s ever been Leaning in with a spirit of faith and not pulling back with a spirit of fear We’re called to train our children up and not restrain their giftings Dealing with rejection in friendship and moving forward Connect with Chris:   Links Mentioned: * A21 Ministry * Paul the Apostle Movie * Unexpected: Leave Behind Fear, Move Forward in Faith, Embrace the Adventure** * Focused15 "Everyday Faith" by Katie Orr** **Amazon affiliate link Featured Sponsor: Connected Families Struggling with entitled attitudes in your home? With kids who "Don't Wanna Do It!" or kids who "Want it now!"?? We created this course just for you. It is four 30-minute sessions developed with busy parents in mind. In the Entitlement Fix Online Course we’ll teach you a proven thought process that helps parents and kids move away from entitled attitudes and toward gratitude, responsibility, and sense of long-term purpose. Join us today! 2018 Enjoy the Word Online Conference How to listen to the podcast: 1.Listen on the blog. Click through to GodCenteredMom.com and click the play button at the beginning of this post. 2. Listen on your smartphone, iPad or iPod Touch – There are a lot of great podcasting apps. Apple has a free one (that I mentioned) in the app store, there is also one called <a href="https://itunes.apple.

04.16.2018

The Day Fear Died :: Courtney Smallbone [Ep 201]

The Bible tells of healings, miracles and the power of the Holy Spirit, but God’s power didn’t stop after the New Testament. Today’s guest Courtney Smallbone shares her personal story of God’s power in the hardest circumstances imaginable. Supernatural healing is for today. Courtney’s story of finding freedom from anxiety and miraculous healing for her infant son is a powerful testimony of God’s faithfulness. As moms we have a lot of fear and anxiety. We carry a lot. We have these little people that we’re in charge of and discipling. It gets exhausting and hard. I felt like the Lord just filled me with himself. He has given me not the spirit of fear, but love and power and a sound mind. I needed a sound mind when I was dealing with anxiety. He has given us power through his Holy Spirit and we can walk that out as moms in everyday life. What we chat about: Courtney’s testimony of seeing God move in her life and health How Courtney met her husband Luke Smallbone of For King and Country The impact of Luke’s autoimmune disease on Courtney and her family Dealing with anxiety and prescription medicine dependence Getting freedom from the shame and finding healing holistically The importance of community in the healing process Why the church needs to embrace a holistic approach to healing and helping people be open about sharing their struggles Courtney’s physical issues with her most recent pregnancy The miracle of her son’s healing Teaching our kids that prayer is powerful and effective and that God is real Worshipping with your children invites them into a lifestyle of worship Hearing God for others and the gift of the praying in the spirit Connect with Courtney: Links Mentioned: “All who call on the name of the Lord will be saved.” Romans 10:13 Lemierre’s Disease * for KING & COUNTRY Compassion International   Colitis  Craniosynotosis  “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”              2 Timothy 1:7 Bethel worship * "Without You"  (feat. Courtney) Featured Sponsor: Connected Families Struggling with entitled attitudes in your home? With kids who "Don't Wanna Do It!" or kids who "Want it now!"?? We created this course just for you. It is four 30-minute sessions developed with busy parents in mind. In the Entitlement Fix Online Course we’ll teach you a proven thought process that helps parents and kids move away from entitled attitudes and toward gratitude, responsibility, and sense of long-term purpose. Join us today! 2018 Enjoy the Word Online Conference How to listen to the podcast: 1.Listen on the blog.

04.09.2018

The Entitlement Fix :: Jim & Lynne Jackson [Ep 200]

Does it seem possible to draw our kids away from entitlement and toward the bigger “Yes” of God’s blessing for them and other people in their lives? Well, get excited because Jim and Lynne Jackson of Connected Families are back with parenting wisdom to address entitlement in our kids AND in ourselves. We as parents feel entitled to grateful, hard working kids, and when we don’t get them an we have ungrateful, resistant-to-chores kids we get pretty upset. That shows that we feel entitled to how things go my way in the home. Instead of saying, ‘Oh! Wow we have some challenges here that I can partner with Jesus and really dive into.’ What we chat about: Jim and Lynne Jackson introduce Connected Families and their parenting framework The root of entitled behavior in our kids and the beliefs that back it up Entitlement is the belief that I deserve something because I’m more important than someone else Entitlement is about our sin nature and we’re all born into that As believers we need to call out entitlement in our lives and choose to put God first We as parents feel entitled to grateful, hard-working kids The attitude we bring into parenting and our beliefs are reflected onto our kids Helping our kids learn to work hard and celebrate accomplishments give them a dopamine burst in their brains that helps “rewire” them to want to work hard again Letting go of the places we are coddling our kids by not expecting them to serve and do hard things The “Bigger Yes” of God’s blessing for your kids and other people Take it slow and consider your kid’s perspective as you make changes toward growing our kids out of entitlement Determining the rights, privileges and responsibilities of your family When our kids see the beliefs we fight for and see the joy we experience as we follow God and it inclines them to want that too Connect with Jim and Lynne: Links Mentioned: * Help Your Child Feel Safe and Loved :: Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep80] * How to Connect, Coach and Correct Your Child :: Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep 81] * Connecting With Your Kids in Any Circumstance Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep 98] * Resolving Sibling Conflict :: Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep 126] Featured Sponsor: Connected Families Struggling with entitled attitudes in your home? With kids who "Don't Wanna Do It!" or kids who "Want it now!"?? We created this course just for you. It is four 30-minute sessions developed with busy parents in mind. In the Entitlement Fix Online Course we’ll teach you a proven thought process that helps parents and kids move away from entitled attitudes and toward gratitude, responsibility, and sense of long-term purpose. <a href="http://courses.connectedfamilies.org/p/entitlement_fix/?

04.02.2018

Discipline & Toddlers :: Hailey Bain & Meredith Woodruff [Ep 199]

Discipline. It’s such an important part of parenting and so hard. But, we don’t have to be alone on the journey. Join me as I sit down with two moms of littles from my church, Meredith and Hailey. We chat about the common struggles and questions that come up in disciplining young kids. (Our kids) have the opportunity to be saved by grace through faith just like we were, not by works and not by good parenting. But, it’s the consistency of the love and the safety. And when you have that and they do confess faith then you have the Holy Spirit on your side to do the convicting.   Here's the "pyramid" we reference several times in the interview: What we chat about: Discipline can be a struggle, but we’re not alone in this journey Ask yourself, “Will it matter in 10 years?” Focusing on making our children feel safe The child that’s annoying you the most, you should hug the most even though it’s the opposite of your instinct A lot of the anger that comes up in us as moms comes from unresolved issues in us, not just our kids’ behavior Mommy Time, getting intentional focused time with each child During the 0-5 ages, kids change so much it’s difficult to keep up with the huge developmental changes they are undergoing Leaning into the Holy Spirit when we need to make a decision in parenting to avoid letting fear and insecurity win It’s hard to know what the realistic expectations are for obedience at different ages Don’t sabotage the good in pursuit of the great Disciplining in public requires different tools, take steps to set your kids up to win Your kids will be saved by grace through faith and not through perfect parenting God’s kindness leads us to repentance, so we need to discipline with kindness as well Grace for parenting changes when you add a new baby to your family More Episodes on Discipline: Grace-Based Discipline :: Karis Kimmel Murray [Ep 150] Gospel Parenting :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 176] * Connected Families-- ConnectedFamilies.org --Check out Episodes 80, 81, 98, 126) Anchoring Our Kids’ Lovability in Christ with Jeannie Cunnion [Ep91] How to {Really} Parent with Grace with Jeannie Cunnion [Ep 55] Loving Your “Different” Child with Sally and Nathan Clarkson [Ep 149] 10 Ways to Stop Meltdowns and Arguments with Kirk Martin [Ep 139] Solo Parenting/Perfectionist Kids/Tone of Voice with Kirk Martin [Ep 104] Summer (and Sibling) Survival Guide wi...

03.26.2018

A Declaration of Interdependence :: Sharifa Stevens [Ep 198]

As women, believers, mothers our hearts can be pulled toward independence. But is that what God desires for us in our ministry and relationships? There’s so much pressure to be all the things and we weren’t meant to be all the things. God gives us grace to be what we need to be for our family and that takes a different shape in every family. It is counter-Christian to be self sufficient. We were made to be interdependent.  In this week's podcast episode, I chat with my new friend Sharifa Stevens, seminary grad and homeschooling mother of two young boys. She is passionate about freedom. A freedom rooted in recognizing our call to interdependence. One body. Focused on fulfilling the great commission. Together. Being a Christian has no national borders. We can be Christians outside of an American context and outside of the 21 century and there’s a unifying sense of interdependence and dependence on God that marks us as different. We also spend time chatting about freedom for moms. To accept help from others and release shame in our inadequacies. Exactly what we're about around here: #dontmomalone! What we chat about: Personality traits and background stories How Sharifa ended up going to seminary instead of law school Women need to walk in the giftings that God gave us Finding a church home and how comfort and convenience don’t always equal the right choice Addressing the roots of race and racism in history and Christianity and how that affects us today Be The Bridge curriculum for racial unity Black Panther movie and themes of redemption We were made to be interdependent, not self sufficient Moms accepting help and letting go of the places we have shame and inadequacy Connect with Sharifa: Links Mentioned: * Susan Seay-- Summer of Mentorship Episode (Focused Instead of Frustrated) * Enneagram — The Road Back to You by Cron & Stabile**  * Kat Armstrong --Motherhood, Career & Identity episode * Be the Bridge-- Racial Unity Discussion Groups https://beabridgebuilder.com/ Featured Sponsor: Phonics Museum Teaching children to read at a young age is one of the best things parents can do for children’s future academic success, but knowing how or where to start can be overwhelming and oftentimes confusing. The Phonics Museum takes the stress and guesswork out of teaching children to read by combining fun storytelling with a multi-sensory approach to learning to read. Every child has a unique learning style. At the Phonics Museum, we recognize this and teach “with the grain,” so whether your child is a hands-on kinesthetic learner or a visual or auditory learner, the Phonics Museum was built for them and includes over 900 games, videos, interactions, and memory songs to fit all learning styles. Children ages 3-7 will be transported into a magical interactive museum as they follow William and Wendy through the reading adventure of a lifetime. Everything comes to life at the Phonics Museum. Letters, sounds, paintings,

03.19.2018

Social Media Heart Check :: Eryn Hall [Ep 197]

Staying up-to-date on social media can so easily turn into an hour of lost time scrolling on our phones that leaves us discontent and disconnected with the ones we love the most. It’s a struggle most of us deal with in this digital age we’re in, and I’ve brought in my friend Eryn Hall to give us practical tips and encouragement on how to do social media well. My highlight reel is going to look different than someone else’s highlight reel and that’s how it should be. We need to accept that and rest in the Lord. The grace and goodness I have and my acceptance, my identity is found in him and not in someone else’s social media. If limiting your own screen time is something you struggle with, check out the apps in the show notes below to start monitoring your time. Ask a friend or GCM podcast club member to check in with you for accountability. Let’s live our lives for God and for our families first, not just for the social media posts. What we chat about: How to do social media from a Godly worldview Recognizing how social media makes us feel and doing a heart check Learning to rest in God’s approval and not in the approval of social media Stepping away and asking God, “Is this for me?” before responding to a place of potential jealousy Paying attention to whether we are finding our identity in God or in social media Boundaries we’ve put in place on social media Not looking at social media first thing in the morning and starting our day off in prayer so we are secure in who God says we are Healthy switches for spending your time on something other than social media Staying present with your kids with boundaries on your device usage Not immediately posting a picture of an event or activity and checking your “why” behind the photos and posts Be sure of who you are and whose you are before you post A cool story about how someone came to Jesus after reading God’s word on social media Being digital evangelists and staying faithful to the message of who God is Connect with Eryn:   Links Mentioned: Moment App for iPhone Quality Time App for Android Declare Conference * Liz Griffin Instagram * Joy is on the Other Side of the Screen (post Eryn mentioned she wrote) Featured Sponsor: Phonics Museum Teaching children to read at a young age is one of the best things parents can do for children’s future academic success, but knowing how or where to start can be overwhelming and oftentimes confusing. The Phonics Museum takes the stress and guesswork out of teaching children to read by combining fun storytelling with a multi-sensory approach to learning to read. Every child has a unique learning style. At the Phonics Museum, we recognize this and teach “with the grain,” so whether your child is a hands-on kinesthetic learner or a visual or auditory learner, the Phonics Museum was built for them and includes over 900 games, videos, interactions, and memory songs to fit all learning styles. Children ages 3-7 will be transported into a magical interactive museum...

03.12.2018

The Right to Change My Mind :: Bruce & Heather [Ep 196]

Life is full of decisions. We do our best to choose wisely and follow God's lead. Sometimes God leads us in a different direction. It doesn't always make "sense" in the moment.  And it definitely isn't easy to share those changes with others. It's been over a year since we've given you a glimpse behind the scenes. In that time A LOT has happened in our world: new job, school shifts, adopting & "re-homing" a puppy. So I'm bringing my hubby Bruce back on the show to share one concept he's used at work for years and he has helped me process the last year of change. In this episode Bruce and I let you in on the thought process behind our life choices. Hoping this conversation will allow you grace to change your mind without the fear of what others think. I reserve the right to change my mind and not have to explain it to you, but every person who hears about it wants to know the whole story. What I’ve found is people want to know the should. Every time I talk to a mom, they are feeling this pressure to get it all right, so then when they hear a story that doesn’t work out or where you changed your mind they are trying to analyze the rightness of it. What we chat about: What’s happened in the MacFadyen family in the past year Bruce’s current business, Door Real Estate Brokerage The mantra, “I always reserve the right to change my mind” Making the decision to send one of our sons back to school after a semester of homeschooling What happened with our dog Giving yourself freedom to change your mind Being gracious to others who change their minds Why we need to give our kids and ourselves permission to make mistakes Working to create an environment at home where it’s okay to change your mind and make mistakes In all of the decisions in life it’s about balance and listening to God’s voice Links Mentioned: * Bruce and experience doing medical missions with his parents (Ep 5) * When Your Husband Has a Demanding Job (Ep 38) * Goals, Roles & Superpowers (Ep 112) * This is Us (Ep 145)  Featured Sponsor: Prep Dish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Online Marriage Conference with Dr. Paul David Tripp: Best-selling author and marriage counselor Dr. Paul David Tripp hosted an exclusive live stream event. In four life-changing sessions, he challenged husbands and wives to ask two questions and make two commitments that would radically change their marriage. Now, for a limited time, you can have on-demand digital access to this powerful conference. But hurry - replay access is only available until March 31, 2018.

03.05.2018

Sinners Married to Sinners–How God Refines Us :: Cheryl Scruggs & Jae Carpenter [Ep 195]

It’s not all sunshine and roses in marriage, even when both you and your husband follow Jesus. My guests today share about one of the most painful possibilities in a marriage —infidelity. My friend Jae tells her story of learning her husband had an affair and the work God did in both of their lives to restore their marriage. Licensed professional counselor Cheryl Scruggs shares about her infidelity, divorce, and eventual re-marriage, along with a lot of practical advice and scriptures she learned in the seven years she was separated from her husband. The main takeaway? HOPE. There is hope for your marriage. It’s not easy, because we’re all sinners, but God can heal and restore us when we surrender it all to him. For all of us in marriage, I think it’s important that we are paying attention. In John 10:10 it says that the thief comes kill, steal and destroy, but I have come to give you life and life abundantly. God wants us to have a great marriage, not easy, not perfect. But it’s really understanding we’re both sinners and how are we going to walk this walk together in this relationship as a sinner married to a sinner.  **If you are in a relationship where you or your children have been physically abused, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or http://www.thehotline.org. What we chat about: Cheryl Scruggs and Jae share their marriage stories. Discovering God’s plans for marriage. Hope for restoration in marriage even after an affair. How do you know if God is asking you to stay in a marriage? Trusting God with your spouse and being open to what he wants to teach you and show you. Understanding our role as a wife God has called you to be. Recognizing the situations where it’s necessary to leave a marriage (physical safety, lifestyle of infidelity). It takes time for healing in marriage. Physical intimacy throughout marriage conflicts. Balancing advice from friends and family with what God wants for your marriage. Biblical roles in marriage. Scriptures Mentioned: Eph. 3:20 - Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us Matthew 19:26 - Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Deuteronomy 8:1-10 - Be careful to follow every command I am giving you today, so that you may live and increase and may enter and possess the land the Lord promised on oath to your ancestors. Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the wilderness these forty years, to humble and test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep his commands… For the Lord your God is bringing you into a good land. [read full passage] John 10:10 - The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. Connect with Cheryl and Hope Matters Marriage Ministry:   Links Mentioned: * Hope Matters Marriage Ministry * Thriving Beyond Belief Podcast * Cheryl and Jeff’s Book, "I Do Again: How We Found a Second Chance at Our Marriage--and You...

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