Do you enjoy pain?
Most people don't, and it makes sense. Pain hurts. Pain is uncomfortable. Pain isn't something that a sane person wants to run towards.
Yet, what if I told you that pain was inevitable....that whether you chose to step up, stay put or step back, pain would be present. Would that change the choices you made?
In today's episode I share with you the illusion of pain, and how we trap ourselves believing that we are avoiding pain. 
A quote from the psychiatrist R.D. Laing sums it up nicely:
“Pain in this life is not avoidable, but the pain we create avoiding pain is avoidable.”
If you want to reach out to me with episode topic suggestions, feedback about the podcast in general, or just to say hi, you can do so in two ways:

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Here's The Thing About Pain And Discomfort In Life...

Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!

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What shame are you hiding?
Fellas, this episode is for you.
As a man, I've carried with me different types of shame through my life that have had a big impact on how I see the world and operate in it. I learned early on that burying my shame and pretending it wasn't there was the safest way for me to operate.
The truth is, it's not.
And for me, it took years of living in denial and robbing myself of true joy and fulfillment, that finally helped me see that.
In today's episode we're tackling a topic that lives within many men -- shame. I'm pulling from various sources here to help you understand shame, watch how it plays out in the lives of men like you, and see how other men are choosing to face it.
My intention with this episode is that it inspires you to look into those dark corners of yourself where you have been hiding your shame, and finally choose to bring it out into the light.
Do you want some support or coaching on overcoming your shame? Email me and take the next step towards eliminating shame from your life - matthew@matthewbivens.com.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Institute Of OM - https://instituteofom.com/


Article "Shame: The Core Issue For Many Men - https://menscenter.org/shame/


Will Smith Youtube series "Best Shape Of My Life", Episode 2: My Secret Shame -

https://youtu.be/ZvYPIJT6JpM

Will Smith Youtube series "Best Shape Of My Life", Episode 4: I'm Sorry Mama -


 https://youtu.be/B2TlsHdpY_4


The Dad Edge Podcast interview with Lewis Howes - https://thedadedge.com/lewis-howes/



STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY? 
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FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
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Overcoming Male Shame: Stories And Wisdom On How Men Can Finally Eliminate Their Shame (HIA Classic)

What does it take to create an episode of the Having It A.L.L. podcast? 
If you’ve ever asked yourself that question then you’ll love today’s episode!
I was recently asked by a friend, “How do you continue coming up with ideas for your podcast after 8 years and 500 episodes?”.
It was a great question and one that got me thinking about sharing with you a behind the scenes look of what it takes to create an episode of the show as well as keep the podcast going for years to come. 

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE
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A Behind The Scenes Look At Creating The Having It A.L.L. Podcast

What does your calendar say about your priorities? 
Whether you use an online calendar, a paper calendar, or simply store all of your appointments and todos in your head (which is impressive!), you have some sort of way of divvying out your most precious resource -- your time!
Where you invest your time says A LOT about what you prioritize!
A common trait of people who feel fulfilled in life and who “have it all” is that they regularly make time for the people, environments and things they value the most. 
In today’s episode I talk about what your calendar says about the level of fulfillment you may or may not be experiencing in your life, and I give you a few simple action items that can help you experience more joy and fulfillment this week! 

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY? 
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today! 
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
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What Does Your Calendar Say About Your Priorities?

How comfortable are you saying "no" in your life? 
So many of us struggle with saying no when people make requests of our time, space, energy, money, or love. We want to please. We want others to like us. We don't want to be seen as unhelpful or unavailable. 
In today's episode I talk about the challenge of saying "no", and give you very concrete and actionable tips for strengthening that muscle within you.

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WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO
Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

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Learning How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty (HIA Classic)

How do you relate to feedback?
Feedback scares the heck out of most people, but if you run from it then you're handcuffing your potential. 
I was one of those people for a very long time. I did everything I could to NOT receive feedback, and when I did I usually took it very personally and sat in a funk for a few days afterwards. 
Today, however, I understand how important feedback is to growth. Point blank: you will NOT grow without feedback. And that’s growth in ANYTHING -- your job, your health, your hobbies, your relationships, your SELF. 
In today’s episode I’m sharing with you a very simple, yet effective practice that I’ve been using to improve my life. It’s called T2B2, and it centers around seeking out feedback from trusted people in your life. Tune in and I’ll share with you how it’s done and show you why you want to start implementing this simple practice in your life right now! 

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Why 2023 Was My Most Difficult Year Yet (And What I'm Doing About It This Year): https://www.matthewbivens.com/why-2023-was-my-most-difficult-year-yet-and-what-im-doing-about-it-this-year/


Your Body Is Talking To You! Are You Paying Attention?? (Awareness: Day 1): https://www.matthewbivens.com/your-body-is-talking-to-you-are-you-paying-attention-awareness-day-1/


Check out the free "Trust Account" app from the YourDay Balance Game

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iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659




WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO
Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan

LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
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CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/

GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW
matthew@matthewbivens.com

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