How to Become the Conscious Parent You Never Had With Bryana of Conscious Mommy

Episode Highlights With BryanaWhat makes conscious parenting different from other approachesHow focusing on ourselves and our own emotional reactions and behaviors as parents is a more effective long term approach and is relationship firstFocusing on “how am I managing myself” as a marker of effective parentingThe magic of taking a pause during heated emotional encounters with our kidsHow to understand what is getting in the way of being able to model these behaviors for our kidsWhat to do when “my kids will only listen to me if I am screaming”Love withdrawal - what it is and why it is so painful to children, and how to break the patternThe importance of saying sorry to our kids when we mess up without needing to defend our behaviorWhat a real apology and repair looks likeWhy conscious parenting isn’t just permissive parenting or falsely happy parentingNo parent has an intention to hurt their child but the impact is outside our control and how to understand this dynamicHow our relationship with our kids sets the stage for how they will exist in relationship for the rest of their livesWhat boundaries are and how to effectively communicate themWhy if boundaries don’t come from a place of kindness, they are actually about controlPhrases like “I can’t let you” and “show me another way” for boundaries with young childrenWhy children need to understand the alternative when we put limits on their behaviorWhen we withdraw love, children will default to loving and trusting the parent even at the expense of self love and self trustTrust is the first psychosocial milestone in a baby or toddlerParenting is the opportunity to re-parent and become the parent you never had“I am not raising you to be the person I want or expect you to be… I am raising you to be who you are”What it means to be a cycle breaker in our parentingSpecific tips for bedtime struggles and reframing what this experience is like for kidsStrategies for tantrums that actually work - and how to focus on actually being with the child so they learn this internal skillApproaching parenting struggles with curiosity instead of being criticalResources We MentionConscious Mommy - WebsiteConsciously Managing Meltdowns - CourseConscious Mommy - InstagramThe Giver by Lois LowryUntamed by Glennon Doyle