How do we give feedback without putting the other person’s brain into defense mode? Our brain often goes into fight, flight or freeze and the goal in all of this is to keep our brain in discovery mode for us to actually implement changes. When we say “yes, but” your brain tends to focus on the “but” part and believes that the person is standing opposed from you.  In this week’s episode, we’ll be discussing how to give feedback that is brain friendly by using the “Yes And” technique.

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Welcome to Havilah’s Podcast where we're breaking the mold, shaking things up, and keeping it real! As a full-time minister for over two decades, women’s pastor at Bethel Church, and the heart behind Truth to Table, Havilah's got some serious truth bombs to drop. Get ready for real talk on life, family, relationships, ministry and more - no fluff, just truth. Brace yourself for laughter, blush-worthy moments, and plenty of ""hey, same here!"" revelations.
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Hey there, friends! In this episode of my podcast, I'm excited to chat with my core group and dive right into the heart of adult friendships. We'll be sharing our own stories about how we came together as a close-knit group, the real effort it takes to build those deep connections, and how our friendships have grown and changed over time.

We'll talk about the things we do to help our friendships thrive, like being there for each other during tough times without trying to fix everything, letting ourselves be vulnerable, and not shying away from the tough conversations. This episode is all about the messy, challenging, but absolutely rewarding world of adult friendships. 

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305. Cultivating Deep Adult Friendships with Havilah’s Core Group

Today I’m answering YOUR questions about adult friendships. I’m joined by Abi Soliman as part of my series, The Art of Adult Friendships.

I hope you enjoy today’s episode and join me for the next ones! You can watch the video here: https://youtu.be/yfFNieCYj0M

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304. Answering your Questions about Adult Friendships

Today I’m continuing my series, The Art of Adult Friendships. Today I’m giving you my 5 game changing truths to change your approach to friendships. 

I hope you enjoy today’s episode and join me for the next ones! You can watch the video here: https://youtu.be/cnxkGR829vY

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303. 5 Game Changing Truths About Friendships

In episode 1 of our series on The Art of Adult Friendship, we're tackling the 5 lies that are sabotaging your social life. The truth is navigating friendships as an adult is hard and there's not a roadmap or a rulebook to follow. 
Seasons shift and life changes and so do our friendships, but this shouldn't scare us away from developing and building vibrant and healthy friendships. Whether you're running a company, a busy stay at home mom, an entrepreneur, retired or anywhere in between, we all need strong friendships. 
Listen in to see which of these 5 lies resonates most with you and how you could be sabotaging your friendships. 

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302. 5 Lies That Sabotage your Friendships

Today I'm talking about a different perspective on relationships. In light of some of the events that have come out recently, I'm sharing my top ten boundaries that I use as a woman in ministry. I hope you enjoy today’s episode and join me for the next ones! 



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