Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

How to Meet Your Needs for Connection: Attunement

03.08.2021 - By Rick Hanson, Ph.D., Forrest HansonPlay

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During this time of increased isolation our needs for connection are harder to meet than ever. Today Rick and Forrest are exploring how we can use the psychological technique of "attunement" to connect better with others, and meet our own need for connection.

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Key Topics:

2:15: Moments that satisfy our need for connection. 

5:45: The “Still Face Experiment” 

8:55: Attention, availability, responsiveness. 

10:35: Which relationships fill you up?

13:50: What is attunement?

18:40: The “emotional risk” of attunement. 

24:30: Paying attention. 

31:20: Being open to being changed.

33:10: Do I matter to you?

37:30: Availability and co-regulation.

41:15: “Our interactions are systems.” 

42:30: Rick pushes back a bit on co-regulation.

44:50: The impact of our nature on how we view interactions.

47:45: Becoming responsive.

52:40: Communicating wants and needs. 

57:40: Respecting your own needs. 

59:15: The impact of social power and privilege on our interactions.

1:04:30: Recap

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