Why does it feel so hard at times to not take things personally?
We hear the phrase "don't take this personally" all the time. You've probably said it to someone before making some potentially hurtful or offensive statement. It's such an easy idea, but boy can it be tough!
For me, I used to take things very personally. Growing up, my emotions would be triggered by the slightest look or question that I felt was off or directed at me in a malicious way. I made villains out of a lot of people, I felt small and hurt often, and I just plain took things personally really frequently.
But I had my breakthrough moment!
Yes, I was able to connect with some deep truths about myself and others that have helped me learn to not take things personally. And today I'm going to share those truths with you so that you too can break free from the trap of taking things personally in life. 
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How To Stop Taking Things So Personally (Yes, It's Possible!)

Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!

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What does it take to create an episode of the Having It A.L.L. podcast? 
If you’ve ever asked yourself that question then you’ll love today’s episode!
I was recently asked by a friend, “How do you continue coming up with ideas for your podcast after 8 years and 500 episodes?”.
It was a great question and one that got me thinking about sharing with you a behind the scenes look of what it takes to create an episode of the show as well as keep the podcast going for years to come. 

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A Behind The Scenes Look At Creating The Having It A.L.L. Podcast

What does your calendar say about your priorities? 
Whether you use an online calendar, a paper calendar, or simply store all of your appointments and todos in your head (which is impressive!), you have some sort of way of divvying out your most precious resource -- your time!
Where you invest your time says A LOT about what you prioritize!
A common trait of people who feel fulfilled in life and who “have it all” is that they regularly make time for the people, environments and things they value the most. 
In today’s episode I talk about what your calendar says about the level of fulfillment you may or may not be experiencing in your life, and I give you a few simple action items that can help you experience more joy and fulfillment this week! 

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What Does Your Calendar Say About Your Priorities?

How comfortable are you saying "no" in your life? 
So many of us struggle with saying no when people make requests of our time, space, energy, money, or love. We want to please. We want others to like us. We don't want to be seen as unhelpful or unavailable. 
In today's episode I talk about the challenge of saying "no", and give you very concrete and actionable tips for strengthening that muscle within you.

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Learning How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty (HIA Classic)

How do you relate to feedback?
Feedback scares the heck out of most people, but if you run from it then you're handcuffing your potential. 
I was one of those people for a very long time. I did everything I could to NOT receive feedback, and when I did I usually took it very personally and sat in a funk for a few days afterwards. 
Today, however, I understand how important feedback is to growth. Point blank: you will NOT grow without feedback. And that’s growth in ANYTHING -- your job, your health, your hobbies, your relationships, your SELF. 
In today’s episode I’m sharing with you a very simple, yet effective practice that I’ve been using to improve my life. It’s called T2B2, and it centers around seeking out feedback from trusted people in your life. Tune in and I’ll share with you how it’s done and show you why you want to start implementing this simple practice in your life right now! 

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Why 2023 Was My Most Difficult Year Yet (And What I'm Doing About It This Year): https://www.matthewbivens.com/why-2023-was-my-most-difficult-year-yet-and-what-im-doing-about-it-this-year/


Your Body Is Talking To You! Are You Paying Attention?? (Awareness: Day 1): https://www.matthewbivens.com/your-body-is-talking-to-you-are-you-paying-attention-awareness-day-1/


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T2B2: A Super Simple Practice I’m Using Fuel My Self-Improvement

Are you feeling stuck in life? 
We all feel stuck at some point in life. How long we stay feeling stuck depends on a few factors. 
Today's day 7 of the awareness suite, and in this conversation we are applying the lessons from the last 6 days so you can finally get unstuck! 

DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME
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WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO
Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

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LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
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How To Stop Taking Things So Personally (Yes, It's Possible!)

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