Ep 27 of What in the Shibal delves a lot into parent-children relationships - what it is to become a parent trying to overcompensate our own childhood traumas passed onto us from our own parents onto our kids... to healing and fixing and growing with our own parents to move past from those traumas.  The conversation starts off with Susie and Ed talking about Hurricane Hilary passing through LA and the preparations they went through to the unexpected simultaneous 5.5 earthquake.  Susie also talks about starting to coach volleyball for her girls' teams and watching the team grow up as well as learning to establish boundaries with her daughters as the mom/coach and as the daughter/player.  Ed talks about his busy week of family birthdays including his mother's upcoming birthday and what to make her for her birthday meal... to a big heated discussion that led to a breakthrough moment for Ed for his relationship with his mom moving forward.  The conversation leads to making peace with ourselves and not projecting our definition of peace and trauma onto our parents... and more importantly remembering that our parents are people and the importance of seeing them as people vs "the infallible parent".  And the conversation comes full circle with the Restaurant of Mistaken Orders or the "Dementia Cafe" where a cafe in Japan only hires elderly people suffering from dementia, where the experience is more about not leaving members of our community behind, than it is about the preciseness of our food orders... valuing people over things.

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