Idols of Motherhood :: Elyse Fitzpatrick [Ep 219]

We’ve all been there. Your kid throws a fit in public and you feel the sting of embarrassment and the subtle lie that you aren’t a good enough mom. You fear what others will say and feel like the entire day is ruined in this one encounter.

My guest Elyse Fitzpatrick has lived in this place of fear and presents another way to view your worth as a mother -- resting in the righteousness of Jesus. She shares about the very common and subversive idols of motherhood to slip in when we try to control our children’s performance.

But see that's absolutely soul destroying because you either end up in fear and despair or pride and despair. That's where you always end up when you're living for your own righteousness. So in the days that I can lay down and in bed at night and say, ‘Yeah nailed it,’ then I am in pride.

If you’ve struggled to feel “OK” in your own power or have found your personal joy tethered to your kids’ behavior, this episode is for you. Elyse gives us the simple reminder that we have the power through Jesus to topple the idols in our life.

I began to understand this is really idolatry and I'm driving my kids insane trying to prove that I'm really an OK person. That I'm OK when they're good and I'm a complete train wreck and bad and a loser when they're not. But, when Jesus becomes who he should be in our lives, then idols lose their power to entice us.

What we chat about:

Elyse’s blended family structure and her son’s adoption

The balance of the disciplinarian and the more fun parent

Insecurity about our own faith and the lie of trying to control our kids

The danger of looking for identity in the way our kids behave

Looking for the places in our lives where we feel afraid, angry or worried as a barometer for where we aren’t believing God

Identifying idols in our lives and what they can look like

How our children make us look or feel in front of others can bring up anger in us

Elyse’s relationship with her mother and the background of her perceived need for control

When Jesus becomes who he should be in our lives, our idols lose their power

Not letting our joy be tethered to our kids’ behavior, or even our behavior

Our self-centered struggle to feel “OK” in our own power

How living for our own self righteousness leads to a soul destroying cycle of pride and despair

Resting in the righteousness of Christ and remembering we are forgiven

Connect with Elyse:

Links Mentioned:

* Front Porch with the Fitzes Podcast

* Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus by Elyse M. Fitzpatrick **

* The Expulsive Power of a New Affection by Thomas Chalmers**

* No Other Gods Bible Study Book by Kelly Minter**

**Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast.

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