Java with Juli

By Dr. Juli Slattery and Authentic Intimacy®

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“Java with Juli” features fresh, relevant and gospel-centered conversations about our sexuality. Dr. Juli Slattery dives into the “taboo” questions you’re afraid to ask—or don’t know who to ask—about intimacy, marriage, singleness, sexual addiction, and more. Every episode is an invitation to a biblical look at the good, the hard, the healing, and the holy in God’s design for sexuality.

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#449 How to Guide Your Kids...

01.23.2023

Juli and her guest share wisdom and encouragement to help you give clear answers to your kids' questions about their gender and the way God created them. Guest: Dr. Kathy Koch Show notes: Celebrate Kids, www.celebratekids.com Start with the Heart ...

Java with Juli episodes:

01.23.2023 #449 How to Guide Your Kids Through Confusing Messages About Gender Juli and her guest share wisdom and encouragement to help you give clear answers to your kids' questions about their gender and the way God created them. Guest: Dr. Kathy Koch Show notes: Celebrate Kids, www.celebratekids.com Start with the Heart ...
01.16.2023 #448: When Did Sexual Identity Become a Thing? (and Why Are We Obsessed With It?) Sexual identity has become a common phrase, a personal choice, a political cause and, for many, the way we present ourselves to others (used even by tweens and teens who’ve never had a sexual experience)—and it feels like it all ...
01.09.2023 #230: Juli and Linda Answer Your Questions on Marriage Juli Slattery opens the Authentic Intimacy inbox and tackles questions like: Should my spouse be my best friend? What do you do when your husband can't stop looking at porn? And, did God create sex primarily for men? Co-hosts: Linda ...
01.02.2023 #447: Strengthen Your Marriage Today (and Be Ready for Whatever 2023 May Bring) Juli Slattery and Gary Thomas share wisdom and insight to keep your marriage together when the storms of life threaten to rip it apart. Grab your Java and join us! Guest: Gary Thomas Show notes: Join an online book study ...
12.26.2022 #446: How Much More of Your Sexuality Will You Let God Reclaim in 2023? Juli shares her thoughts on 2022, on having hard conversations about sexuality, and how to ask God to use your painful circumstances to grow your character. How much more of your sexuality will you let Him reclaim in 2023? Co-host: ...
12.19.2022 #445: Give the Gift of Seeing the Good in What You Have Seeing the good in all things does not mean ignoring the bad. Rather, as we approach the hard things, we see the goodness of God. Is your cup half full or half empty today? Co-host: Hannah Nitz Show notes: Make ...
12.12.2022 #444: A Heart Set Free From Shame and Lies Is a Gift Open the gift that allows you to experience true intimacy. Our long-awaited Savior came to set us free from sin and shame. Will you exchange your heart for His? Co-host: Hannah Nitz Make a donation God, Sex, and Your Marriage ...
12.05.2022 #443: Is Your View of Sex and Marriage Gift-worthy? When marriage is simply about getting our needs met, we end up playing whack-a-mole with the symptoms of sin and brokenness. Knowing God's purpose for your marriage and sexuality brings richness and purpose to seasons of struggle. Co-host: Hannah Nitz ...
11.28.2022 #442: How to Find Peace and Hope In the Midst of Anxiety Linda Dillow shares about the loss of her daughter during the pandemic. Join us for this incredible story of how the Lord answered her cry, "God, please don't waste my pain!" Guest: Linda Dillow Show notes: Calm My Anxious Heart ...
11.21.2022 #441: Understanding God's Heart for Food and Freedom Are you ready to end that toxic relationship in your life — your love-hate relationship with food? No more regret, frustration and shame. God's Word is inviting you into a different, more nourishing rhythm. Guest: Erin Davis Show notes: Fasting ...
11.14.2022 #440: Why Don't Christians Like to Talk About the Real, Hard Stuff in Life? Are Christians a prickly audience when it comes to sharing our brokenness and pain? Let's change that. Join us to hear why God cares about all the things we think we're not supposed to talk about. Guest: Blake Guichet Show ...
11.07.2022 #439: Pelvic Floor Health 101 (It's About More Than Just Sex) Nearly 3 out of 4 women experience pain during or after sex. If that's you, we have good news: a pelvic floor therapist can help. There's a lot to learn, grab your Java and listen in! Guest: Heather Marra, PT ...
10.31.2022 #438: How Your Story Becomes Sacred in the Hands of Jesus with Glenn Packiam Glenn Packiam joins Juli to talk about how the biblical metaphor of ordinary table bread reveals God’s extraordinary story of redemption and healing in our (ordinary) lives. Guest: Glenn Packiam Show notes: Blessed Broken Given by Glenn Packiam Why We ...
10.24.2022 #437: How To Help Your Kids Learn Resilience and Build Character If you expect life to always be easy, you won’t resist the comfort of pornography. Or you'll bail on relationships once the feelings begin to fade. That's why this conversation is absolutely critical to sexual discipleship—not just for our children, ...
10.17.2022 #156: How To Keep Your Heart Open When You Don't Feel Emotionally Safe "Open" is the default setting of our hearts. When our hearts are closed, we lack perspective. We're more likely to make poor decisions. But the real danger is allowing our hearts to stay shut down. Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin ...
10.10.2022 #155: How To Fight With Your Spouse Conflict presents an incredible opportunity for your marriage. When done well, conflict can take you to a level of intimacy where you say, "That was hard; but I'd do it again." Are you ready to fight your way to a ...
10.03.2022 #436: Friendship Trends Gone Wrong? (How to Keep Your Friendships Healthy) Boundaries are a tricky part of friendship. Friends help us meet legitimate needs for companionship, spiritual growth, reassurance, and recreation—but when does a friendship become unhealthy? Guest: Kelly Needham www.kellyneedham.com Friend-ish by Kelly Needham* Are You a Good Friend? 7 ...
09.26.2022 #435: What's the Most Important Thing the Bible Says About Your Identity? "The journey of the Christians life is that God has increasingly more of me." Juli and Hannah talk about sexual desire, discipleship, and the time between giving your heart to Christ and giving Him everything else. Co-host: Hannah Nitz Show ...
09.19.2022 #434: Is Sexual Sin More Than Just Your Behavior? with Christopher Yuan As new creations in Christ, what does it look like to bring our sexual desires under His lordship? Whether you're single or married, whether you experience same-sex attractions or not, this is a consistent call in the life of every ...
09.12.2022 #433: Can You Be Gay and Follow Jesus? with Greg Coles Greg Coles shares why he doesn't love the controversy surrounding the title of his book Single, Gay, Christian, yet why he's grateful for the conversations that have come from it. (And, spoiler alert: Experiencing same-sex attraction does not preclude you ...
09.05.2022 #432: Unraveling the Threads of Racism & "Love Addiction" in My Story Do you wonder if you'll ever figure out why you do what you do—so you can stop doing it? Grab your Java (and your mess) and join us. Guest: Ashley Jameson, Pure Desire Show notes: The Pure Desire Summit 2022 ...
09.01.2022 #431: Bonus! Getting to Know God Through (Simply) Your Bible Do we rely too much on others to read our Bibles for us? If the idea of reading your Bible on your own—just you and Jesus—makes you nervous, this word is for you. Guests: Hannah Nitz & Carmen Beasley Show ...
08.29.2022 #430: Marriage Can Be Hard, Here's Why the Work is Worth It Greg & Erin Smalley share their story—and remind us that we can ask God to help us now, or we can move on to the next relationship. But, eventually, we're going to have to do the work of healing. Why ...
08.22.2022 #429: How To Find Love When Dating Has Changed with Jonathan Pokluda From “just coffee” to "situationships," Jonathan Pokluda joins Juli to talk about finding love in a world where dating has changed. Guest: Jonathan Pokluda Show Notes: Register for our Sex & the Single Christian webinar series! Outdated by Jonathan Pokluda ...
08.15.2022 #428: Don't Say That to Your Single Friend (Say This Instead) It happens... Despite good intentions, you say something careless to a single friend: "You've got time" or "It'll happen when you stop trying so hard." In this episode, you'll learn what not to say to your single friends and what ...
08.08.2022 #427: Proverbs 31 Is a Picture of Intimacy, Not a To-Do List Find out why Proverbs 31 isn't just for married women! The 22-line Hebrew poem is a picture of intimacy between Christ and His Bride (and if you follow Jesus, that's you). Guests: Hannah Nitz & Robin Luton Show notes: New ...
08.01.2022 #426: How To Better Understand the Complexities Beneath Gender Dysphoria You CAN lean into compassion—and keep your convictions—as you engage with others who are walking through gender dysphoria or gender related struggles. Guest: Dr. Julia Sadusky Emerging Gender Identities by Dr. Mark Yarhouse & Dr. Julia Sadusky* Understanding Gender Dysphoria ...
07.28.2022 #425: Bonus! How To Build Community & Friendships with Intention and Grace Feeling stuck in your friendships? You're not alone! As seasons of life change, our friendships don't always keep up. If you're looking for practical wisdom to start building meaningful connection with others, this episode is for you! "Building rooted community ...
07.25.2022 #424: A 54-Year Friendship That Broke Through Cross-Cultural Barriers In the South, in the late 60s, these men weren’t supposed to be friends. Yet, with Jesus as their common ground, they began to seal up tiny little cracks in the racial divide around them. What if we all did ...
07.18.2022 #263: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 2 In part two of this conversation, you'll hear about the other two legs of the "sexual desire triangle" and go from getting your body ready, to getting your emotions ready! Nurturing an emotional connection with your man (talking, date nights, ...
07.11.2022 #262: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 1 Unlike most men (who always seem to be in the mood, always climax, and never experience pain), many women are mystified by their own sexual pleasure. Join Dr. Juli Slattery for this two-part conversation about how to prime your body, ...
07.04.2022 #423: How to "Rethink" Issues in Our Church Culture Around Sexuality & Abuse We need to be asking some hard questions. In the wake of the SBC investigation, along with the growing tsunami of fallen pastors, spiritual abuse, and marginalized victims, Juli shares how you can be proactive for change. Co-host: Brian Dahlen ...
06.27.2022 #422: How to Care for Both Women and Children in the Wake of the Dobbs Decision Do you know that God’s heart is for both women AND their unborn children, and can't figure out where you fit in the pro-life/pro-choice divide? Juli’s guest offers a third option: “When Jesus was confronted with two conflicting ideas, He ...
06.20.2022 #421: "God, Sex, and Your Marriage" Q&A with Juli Slattery You're starting to see how sexual intimacy is a reflection of covenant love. But what does that actually look like in your sex life... When you can't experience orgasm? When your spouse has no sexual desire? When your spouse has ...
06.16.2022 #420: Bonus! What Redemption and Sexual Intimacy Look Like in Real Life Sex was nothing like what they were told it was going to be. She felt pain. He felt guilt. Together, they're on a journey toward wholeness. Join us to hear what redemption and sexual intimacy look like in real life. ...
06.13.2022 #419: Why Sexual Intimacy is About So Much More Than Just Having Sex Are you working from the wrong understanding of what makes a great sex life? Find out in this conversation from Juli's new book God, Sex, and Your Marriage. "Sometimes we’re so focused on sexual activity, that we walk right past ...
06.06.2022 #418: What Is Sexual Intimacy Supposed to Look Like In Marriage? Imagine that you and your spouse are building a jigsaw puzzle, but you don’t know what the picture on the front of the box looks like. Now imagine that you have different ideas of what the picture should look like, ...
05.30.2022 Juli's New Book "God, Sex, & Your Marriage" Is Out Next Week! Grab a quick java with Juli & Hannah to hear all about what's coming up next month with "God, Sex, and Your Marriage." ps. It's not just for married people! Guest: Hannah Nitz Show Notes: Give a donation to Authentic ...
05.23.2022 #417: Authentic Intimacy: The Ministry That Almost Didn't Make It A close-up, behind-the-scenes look at how the ministry almost closed it's doors (more than once) and the amazing things God has done. We're celebrating 10 years! Guests: Linda Dillow, Tim Sisarich, Hannah Nitz, Ginger Taddeo and Mike Slattery Show notes: ...
05.16.2022 #214: Answers To Your Questions About Sex, with Dr. Juli Slattery & Linda Dillow Is it “dirty” to dress up for your husband in the bedroom? Is it wrong to masturbate if your husband can’t have sex? What if your spouse asks you to do something that makes you uncomfortable? Dr. Juli Slattery and ...
05.09.2022 #416: How God Uses Heartache to Prepare You for Your True Calling Dr. Dan Allender joins Juli to share about Redeeming Heartache—a new book and tool (think Enneagram or DISC) to help you identify trauma and old wounds and move toward healing and connection with God and others. You’re invited to look ...
05.05.2022 #415: How To Encourage and Celebrate the Single Mom in Your Life God's promise of provision for the single mom is also a call to body of Christ. In this episode, Michelle Donnelly from PlusONE Parenting shares her story of overcoming loss and shame, finding healing, and how God showed her that ...
05.02.2022 #414: Good Marriages Often Get Off to a Rocky Start (& Why It's OK) Ray and Robyn McKelvy, now married over 30 years, join Juli to share their story of fear, doubts, and learning to trust; and how God used it all to help them build true, authentic intimacy. Guests: Ray and Robyn McKelvy ...
04.25.2022 #413: The Perfect Parent Is The One Who Knows They Need Jesus Dave and Ann Wilson get real about the messiness of parenting. They'll share how they learned to bring others around them, to learn from their own mistakes, and how to keep the long-game perspective when it comes to your kids ...
04.17.2022 #412: Is There a Better Way To Read the Bible? Juli shares one of her favorite new podcasts—the BEMA Discipleship Podcast. The OT writers weren't just telling stories, they were burying truth. They believed the most effective way to learn truth was to discover it—like a treasure hidden in a ...
04.14.2022 #337: Questions You're Too Embarrassed to Ask About Sex To celebrate the life of Dr. Doug Rosenau, we're re-releasing this candid conversation he and Juli had about the difference between having sex and making love, making erotic memories with your spouse, giving language to your sexual desire and mood, ...
04.11.2022 #411: The Unlikely Means God Uses To Bring Beauty From Ashes Curt Thompson joins Juli to share the unlikely (often unwelcome) means that God uses to heal us. Join them to discover the power of being fully known and seen—you're going to want to listen to this one more than once! ...
04.04.2022 #410: Sexual Abuse in Marriage and How To Help a Hurting Wife Sexual abuse in marriage... wait. What? Doesn't the Bible say that a spouse "has authority" over the other's body? Let's talk practically about what sexual abuse in marriage looks like so we can get women (and men) the help they ...
03.28.2022 #409: Divorce & Remarriage (Abuse, Infidelity, Porn & All the Hard Things) What exactly does "sexual immorality" include? Am I free to remarry? What about abuse? God's word is clear on marriage; but some of us are a little fuzzy on the divorce and remarriage part. Juli and her guest get practical ...
03.21.2022 #408: Science Offers Kids a Powerful Reason To Say No to Porn If teens understood the significant impact of porn on their brains,, would it help them resist? Decades of studies from respected institutions echo God's design: we're made for connection with people, not screens. Guest: Brian Goins Show notes: "Brain, Heart, ...

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Java with Juli episodes:

#449 How to Guide Your Kids Through Confusing Messages About Gender

#448: When Did Sexual Identity Become a Thing? (and Why Are We Obsessed With It?)

#230: Juli and Linda Answer Your Questions on Marriage

#447: Strengthen Your Marriage Today (and Be Ready for Whatever 2023 May Bring)

#446: How Much More of Your Sexuality Will You Let God Reclaim in 2023?

#445: Give the Gift of Seeing the Good in What You Have

#444: A Heart Set Free From Shame and Lies Is a Gift

#443: Is Your View of Sex and Marriage Gift-worthy?

#442: How to Find Peace and Hope In the Midst of Anxiety

#441: Understanding God's Heart for Food and Freedom

#440: Why Don't Christians Like to Talk About the Real, Hard Stuff in Life?

#439: Pelvic Floor Health 101 (It's About More Than Just Sex)

#438: How Your Story Becomes Sacred in the Hands of Jesus with Glenn Packiam

#437: How To Help Your Kids Learn Resilience and Build Character

#156: How To Keep Your Heart Open When You Don't Feel Emotionally Safe

#155: How To Fight With Your Spouse

#436: Friendship Trends Gone Wrong? (How to Keep Your Friendships Healthy)

#435: What's the Most Important Thing the Bible Says About Your Identity?

#434: Is Sexual Sin More Than Just Your Behavior? with Christopher Yuan

#433: Can You Be Gay and Follow Jesus? with Greg Coles

#432: Unraveling the Threads of Racism & "Love Addiction" in My Story

#431: Bonus! Getting to Know God Through (Simply) Your Bible

#430: Marriage Can Be Hard, Here's Why the Work is Worth It

#429: How To Find Love When Dating Has Changed with Jonathan Pokluda

#428: Don't Say That to Your Single Friend (Say This Instead)

#427: Proverbs 31 Is a Picture of Intimacy, Not a To-Do List

#426: How To Better Understand the Complexities Beneath Gender Dysphoria

#425: Bonus! How To Build Community & Friendships with Intention and Grace

#424: A 54-Year Friendship That Broke Through Cross-Cultural Barriers

#263: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 2

#262: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 1

#423: How to "Rethink" Issues in Our Church Culture Around Sexuality & Abuse

#422: How to Care for Both Women and Children in the Wake of the Dobbs Decision

#421: "God, Sex, and Your Marriage" Q&A with Juli Slattery

#420: Bonus! What Redemption and Sexual Intimacy Look Like in Real Life

#419: Why Sexual Intimacy is About So Much More Than Just Having Sex

#418: What Is Sexual Intimacy Supposed to Look Like In Marriage?

Juli's New Book "God, Sex, & Your Marriage" Is Out Next Week!

#417: Authentic Intimacy: The Ministry That Almost Didn't Make It

#214: Answers To Your Questions About Sex, with Dr. Juli Slattery & Linda Dillow

#416: How God Uses Heartache to Prepare You for Your True Calling

#415: How To Encourage and Celebrate the Single Mom in Your Life

#414: Good Marriages Often Get Off to a Rocky Start (& Why It's OK)

#413: The Perfect Parent Is The One Who Knows They Need Jesus

#412: Is There a Better Way To Read the Bible?

#337: Questions You're Too Embarrassed to Ask About Sex

#411: The Unlikely Means God Uses To Bring Beauty From Ashes

#410: Sexual Abuse in Marriage and How To Help a Hurting Wife

#409: Divorce & Remarriage (Abuse, Infidelity, Porn & All the Hard Things)

#408: Science Offers Kids a Powerful Reason To Say No to Porn

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