Java with Juli

By Dr. Juli Slattery and Authentic Intimacy®

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“Java with Juli” features fresh, relevant and gospel-centered conversations about our sexuality. Dr. Juli Slattery dives into the “taboo” questions you’re afraid to ask—or don’t know who to ask—about intimacy, marriage, singleness, sexual addiction, and more. Every episode is an invitation to a biblical look at the good, the hard, the healing, and the holy in God’s design for sexuality.

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#484 Duty Sex, Feeling Obje...

09.25.2023

It’s week three of our 7-week series exploring different themes around God, sex and intimacy, and this week, it’s all about sex in Marriage. Every couple wants a healthy, satisfying sex life, but achieving one isn’t always straightforward. What does ...

Java with Juli episodes:

09.25.2023 #484 Duty Sex, Feeling Objectified, and Other Reasons Women Don't Enjoy Sex in Marriage It’s week three of our 7-week series exploring different themes around God, sex and intimacy, and this week, it’s all about sex in Marriage. Every couple wants a healthy, satisfying sex life, but achieving one isn’t always straightforward. What does ...
09.21.2023 #388 (Bonus) Single & Sexually Whole If God made you sexual and you’re single, what are you supposed to do with your sexual desires? It’s true that the path to sexual integrity for the single believer has long been a rocky one. When a Christian man ...
09.18.2023 #483 Why You Need a New Theology of Singleness, Even if You're Married Join Juli and her guest Dr. Danielle Treweek as we kick off week two of our 7-week series exploring various themes around God, sex and intimacy. This week we look at singleness and ask the question: Have we as the ...
09.14.2023 #211 (Bonus) Understanding Pornography Addiction Have you ever given thought to what drives people towards pornography? While for many the initial introduction to porn is due to curiosity, it might surprise you to know that there are many different emotional and cognitive reasons people continue ...
09.11.2023 #482 Trying to Overcome a Sexual Addiction? Here's Why You Can't Do It Alone This is the first episode in a 7-part series on different themes around God, sex, and intimacy, and is focused on how we can find freedom from sexual sin. In this episode, Juli is joined by podcaster, author, and former ...
09.04.2023 #481 Learning, Leading, and Growing: A Reflection on 10 Years of Java with Juli 10 years of Java with Juli! It’s been 10 years since Java with Juli launched, and there have been over 400 podcast episodes aired in that time. Juli has talked about it all: divorce, porn and masturbation, same-sex attraction, discipling ...
08.28.2023 #480 How to Heal and Rebuild Trust and Sexual Intimacy After An Affair Why do people cheat? And is it possible to reconcile after you or your spouse has been unfaithful? In this episode, Juli is joined by Jessica McDaniel, LPC, as they discuss the roles of disclosure, honesty, patience, and commitment in ...
08.21.2023 #479 More Than Just Behavior: Why Your Struggles With Sexual Sin Run Deeper Than You Think What if your sexual desires and struggles could help you achieve deeper healing? In this episode, Juli hosts author and licensed mental health counselor Jay Stringer. Jay is deeply curious about the inner workings of our minds, and he loves ...
08.14.2023 #478 How to Love and Lead Your Adult Kids with Jim Burns How do you parent your adult children well after they've left the nest? What does it look like to hold steadfast to your beliefs while loving an adult child who has chosen to live differently? And are your children's choices ...
08.07.2023 #477 In-Laws or Outlaws? How to Handle The Challenge of Setting Boundaries with In-Laws Is there a difference between loving parental guidance, and overreaching parental interference? How can a couple set boundaries with their in-laws? And how can in-laws give their adult children the space they need to establish strong foundations for their marriages? ...
07.31.2023 #476 When God Ran: How God’s Love Found a Woman Lost In Shame Seasoned Christians know that while our perfection is in process, we still live in the tension of the weakness of our flesh and the hope of becoming fully like our Savior. What does that look and feel like when you ...
07.24.2023 #475 Why Empathy, Inner Healing, and Teamwork Are at the Heart of Building Intimacy It isn’t uncommon for a couple committed to God and committed to each other to struggle to build intimacy. While it might seem like the issues and challenges you’re facing are all external, it’s often the case that there’s internal ...
07.17.2023 #474 A Rebel's Manifesto: How to Live Holy Different with Sean McDowell What does it look like to live life as a Christian counter-culturally? How are we called to be in the world but not of the world when it comes to engaging with others, sharing the gospel, and addressing our own ...
07.10.2023 #473 Repentance, Redemption, and Revolution: How to Accept the Invitation of Godly Sexuality What does it actually look like to accept the invitation to reclaim God’s design for sexuality in your life? Is the path straight, wide, and flat, or narrow, bumpy, and full of twists and turns? In this episode of Java ...
07.03.2023 #472 Embracing Grief: Why We Need to Connect Sadness, Gratitude, and Celebration It can often be tempting to push through the uncomfortable feelings that come with loss and try to just keep calm and carry on. But is that what we’re called to as followers of Christ? If Christ Himself took time ...
06.26.2023 #471 How to Understand, Celebrate, and Leverage Neurological Differences in Relationships There are always differences in relationships – differences in culture, differences in family of origin, differences in communication and conflict style – but what if you and someone you love just think differently? The thing is, while we may live ...
06.19.2023 #470 Why Did We Start Hating Men? The Toxic War on Masculinity with Nancy Pearcey When did it become normal for us as a culture not to like men? In this episode Juli’s guest is Nancy Pearcey, esteemed scholar, and author of “The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes”. She joins Juli ...
06.12.2023 #469 Porn, Rape Culture, and Why The Battle Against Sexual Assault Starts at Home Did you know that on average, each year, around 463,634 Americans are victims of sexual assault? That’s a heartbreaking statistic, and it reveals a very real source of pain and trauma in contemporary American culture. What causes people to commit ...
06.05.2023 #468 Teaching Your Kids How to Love Their Bodies with Francie Winslow How do we teach kids that God made their bodies and that He made their bodies good? Are there creative and intentional ways to connect with kids and help them develop a Biblical theology around their bodies? In this episode, ...
05.29.2023 #467 Yes, Your Marriage Is Worth Fighting For (Here's How to Save It) While it may be the case that many people view marriage as a periphery issue, Juli’s guest, Pastor John McGee, argues that the way we love one another in marriage is one of the ways in which our faith is ...
05.22.2023 #466 Enough is Enough: Recognizing and Combating Abusive Relationships Is there a difference between a bad relationship and a harmful one? How can you spot the difference, both in your own relationships and those of your friends and family? Join Juli and Dr. David Clarke as they discuss how ...
05.15.2023 #465 Love Dares: Using Playfulness to Build Sexual Intimacy If you’re a husband or wife who finds sex dull or monotonous, it may be time for you to revisit the way God designed marital sex. The truth is that God desires for you to enjoy building sexual intimacy with ...
05.08.2023 #464 Why We Need to Remember The Dignity of Singleness Is it possible your view of singleness and marriage is less than Holy? Is it possible to find contentment, not in whether we are single or married, but in Jesus Himself? Juli and Sam Allberry discuss the dignity of singleness, ...
05.05.2023 #463 (Bonus) The Need for Grace in Church-Based Conversations About Sex and Gender When it comes to discussions around sex, historically the church has stayed quiet. As more and more pastors, authors, and psychologists within the church begin writing and talking about sex, the challenge becomes how to make these discussions accessible, nuanced, ...
05.01.2023 #462 Beautiful Union: How Our Sexuality Reveals God’s Heart for Covenant Love What if sex and gender are not as arbitrary as many people tend to think? Is it possible that God has woven holy significance into our very DNA as gendered, sexual beings? In this episode, Juli sits down with author ...
04.24.2023 #461 Pride, Lust, and Why We Do Things We Don't Want To Do Juli Slattery and Jonathan Pokluda tackle tough questions about how to find freedom from the sin that we hate, the difference between regret and self condemnation, and how the gospel is good news for all of us. Guest: Jonathan "JP" ...
04.17.2023 #460 How To Have Mini and Many Conversations About Sexuality With Your Kids How do you talk to young kids about sex? Keep conversations small and have them often. Justin and Lindsey Holcomb are back to share insights on talking to your kids about their bodies, God's design for sexuality, and the boundaries ...
04.10.2023 #459 How Sexual Abuse Affects You (And Why God Is Still Trustworthy) "What happened to me wasn't rape." "I didn't stop it right away." "I shouldn't have been at that party in the first place." If you've ever had thoughts like these, about yourself or someone else, your definition of sexual abuse ...
04.03.2023 #458 Why Women Are Leaving the Church (And How To Find Your Way Back) In the last ten years, some 16 million women have stopped going to church. Are you one of them? Join us for a conversation about why we've been rethinking church—and why it may be time for you to go back. ...
03.27.2023 #457 How To Build a Flourishing (not Flawless) Sex Life You'll Both Love Take the guess work out of your sex life and learn how to tell (or show) your spouse what feels good in the bedroom. Guest: Dr. Corey Allan Show notes: Apply to join the Coaching Intensive for Wives Struggling with ...
03.20.2023 #456 Overcoming Father Wounds: Trading My Pain for God's Perfect Love Kia Stephens knows many women (like herself) who looked to the arms of other men for the affirmation they longed to receive from their fathers. You'll love her humor, wisdom, and vulnerability as she shares how she traded the pain ...
03.13.2023 #223 A Christian Counselor and a Little “Grit” Can Take You a Long Way Tired of having the same fight with your spouse—over and over again? Are you stuck in a place of shame or grief or bitterness? Juli sits down with Greg and Erin Smalley today to encourage you to find a Christian ...
03.06.2023 #455 How God Changed My Heart (Even After I Changed My Gender) with Laura Smalts For most of her childhood, Laura wanted to be a boy. In her 20s, she began hormone therapy, had surgery and lived as Jake for nine years. But she could never quite shake the feeling that none of it was ...
02.27.2023 #454 Mismatched in Sexual Desire? You May Be Closer Than You Think Are you sexually mismatched in marriage? Do you feel like you're in "drive" all the time while your spouse is in neutral (or putting on the brakes)? Here's good news: You're likely closer than you think. Join us to learn ...
02.20.2023 #453 Teens Are Anxious, Sad and Lonely. Here's How You Can Help Teen girls and LGBQ+ youth are experiencing more sadness, hopelessness, and violence than ever before. Join Juli and Dr. Mark Mayfield, an expert in suicide prevention, to learn what you can do to help the teens in your life feel ...
02.13.2023 #452 Porn Addiction in Marriage: How to Let God Redeem Your Story More than 50 percent of wives of sex addicts experience symptoms of betrayal trauma. Today Dannah Gresh shares how her husband's addiction affected her marriage, mind, and body. Hear how the power of Jesus, and the right balance of biblical ...
02.06.2023 #451 Porn Addiction and Women: Break the Silence, Bring the Hope When it comes to porn, the gender gap is closing. Women (Christian women, too) are using porn and feeling alone, ashamed, and trapped in their addiction. Join us to learn why overcoming porn and sexual shame is not about changing ...
01.30.2023 #450 Breaking the Marriage Idol We're just gonna to say it. There's an unspoken assumption in the Church that if you're single there must something wrong with you—and that marriage can fix it. Are you guilty of having this thought? Join the converstion about how ...
01.23.2023 #449 How to Guide Your Kids Through Confusing Messages About Gender Juli and her guest share wisdom and encouragement to help you give clear answers to your kids' questions about their gender and the way God created them. Guest: Dr. Kathy Koch Show notes: Celebrate Kids, www.celebratekids.com Start with the Heart ...
01.16.2023 #448: When Did Sexual Identity Become a Thing? (and Why Are We Obsessed With It?) Sexual identity has become a common phrase, a personal choice, a political cause and, for many, the way we present ourselves to others (used even by tweens and teens who’ve never had a sexual experience)—and it feels like it all ...
01.09.2023 #230: Juli and Linda Answer Your Questions on Marriage Juli Slattery opens the Authentic Intimacy inbox and tackles questions like: Should my spouse be my best friend? What do you do when your husband can't stop looking at porn? And, did God create sex primarily for men? Co-hosts: Linda ...
01.02.2023 #447: Strengthen Your Marriage Today (and Be Ready for Whatever 2023 May Bring) Juli Slattery and Gary Thomas share wisdom and insight to keep your marriage together when the storms of life threaten to rip it apart. Grab your Java and join us! Guest: Gary Thomas Show notes: Join an online book study ...
12.26.2022 #446: How Much More of Your Sexuality Will You Let God Reclaim in 2023? Juli shares her thoughts on 2022, on having hard conversations about sexuality, and how to ask God to use your painful circumstances to grow your character. How much more of your sexuality will you let Him reclaim in 2023? Co-host: ...
12.19.2022 #445: Give the Gift of Seeing the Good in What You Have Seeing the good in all things does not mean ignoring the bad. Rather, as we approach the hard things, we see the goodness of God. Is your cup half full or half empty today? Co-host: Hannah Nitz Show notes: Make ...
12.12.2022 #444: A Heart Set Free From Shame and Lies Is a Gift Open the gift that allows you to experience true intimacy. Our long-awaited Savior came to set us free from sin and shame. Will you exchange your heart for His? Co-host: Hannah Nitz Make a donation God, Sex, and Your Marriage ...
12.05.2022 #443: Is Your View of Sex and Marriage Gift-worthy? When marriage is simply about getting our needs met, we end up playing whack-a-mole with the symptoms of sin and brokenness. Knowing God's purpose for your marriage and sexuality brings richness and purpose to seasons of struggle. Co-host: Hannah Nitz ...
11.28.2022 #442: How to Find Peace and Hope In the Midst of Anxiety Linda Dillow shares about the loss of her daughter during the pandemic. Join us for this incredible story of how the Lord answered her cry, "God, please don't waste my pain!" Guest: Linda Dillow Show notes: Calm My Anxious Heart ...
11.21.2022 #441: Understanding God's Heart for Food and Freedom Are you ready to end that toxic relationship in your life — your love-hate relationship with food? No more regret, frustration and shame. God's Word is inviting you into a different, more nourishing rhythm. Guest: Erin Davis Show notes: Fasting ...
11.14.2022 #440: Why Don't Christians Like to Talk About the Real, Hard Stuff in Life? Are Christians a prickly audience when it comes to sharing our brokenness and pain? Let's change that. Join us to hear why God cares about all the things we think we're not supposed to talk about. Guest: Blake Guichet Show ...
11.07.2022 #439: Pelvic Floor Health 101 (It's About More Than Just Sex) Nearly 3 out of 4 women experience pain during or after sex. If that's you, we have good news: a pelvic floor therapist can help. There's a lot to learn, grab your Java and listen in! Guest: Heather Marra, PT ...

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Java with Juli episodes:

#484 Duty Sex, Feeling Objectified, and Other Reasons Women Don't Enjoy Sex in Marriage

#388 (Bonus) Single & Sexually Whole

#483 Why You Need a New Theology of Singleness, Even if You're Married

#211 (Bonus) Understanding Pornography Addiction

#482 Trying to Overcome a Sexual Addiction? Here's Why You Can't Do It Alone

#481 Learning, Leading, and Growing: A Reflection on 10 Years of Java with Juli

#480 How to Heal and Rebuild Trust and Sexual Intimacy After An Affair

#479 More Than Just Behavior: Why Your Struggles With Sexual Sin Run Deeper Than You Think

#478 How to Love and Lead Your Adult Kids with Jim Burns

#477 In-Laws or Outlaws? How to Handle The Challenge of Setting Boundaries with In-Laws

#476 When God Ran: How God’s Love Found a Woman Lost In Shame

#475 Why Empathy, Inner Healing, and Teamwork Are at the Heart of Building Intimacy

#474 A Rebel's Manifesto: How to Live Holy Different with Sean McDowell

#473 Repentance, Redemption, and Revolution: How to Accept the Invitation of Godly Sexuality

#472 Embracing Grief: Why We Need to Connect Sadness, Gratitude, and Celebration

#471 How to Understand, Celebrate, and Leverage Neurological Differences in Relationships

#470 Why Did We Start Hating Men? The Toxic War on Masculinity with Nancy Pearcey

#469 Porn, Rape Culture, and Why The Battle Against Sexual Assault Starts at Home

#468 Teaching Your Kids How to Love Their Bodies with Francie Winslow

#467 Yes, Your Marriage Is Worth Fighting For (Here's How to Save It)

#466 Enough is Enough: Recognizing and Combating Abusive Relationships

#465 Love Dares: Using Playfulness to Build Sexual Intimacy

#464 Why We Need to Remember The Dignity of Singleness

#463 (Bonus) The Need for Grace in Church-Based Conversations About Sex and Gender

#462 Beautiful Union: How Our Sexuality Reveals God’s Heart for Covenant Love

#461 Pride, Lust, and Why We Do Things We Don't Want To Do

#460 How To Have Mini and Many Conversations About Sexuality With Your Kids

#459 How Sexual Abuse Affects You (And Why God Is Still Trustworthy)

#458 Why Women Are Leaving the Church (And How To Find Your Way Back)

#457 How To Build a Flourishing (not Flawless) Sex Life You'll Both Love

#456 Overcoming Father Wounds: Trading My Pain for God's Perfect Love

#223 A Christian Counselor and a Little “Grit” Can Take You a Long Way

#455 How God Changed My Heart (Even After I Changed My Gender) with Laura Smalts

#454 Mismatched in Sexual Desire? You May Be Closer Than You Think

#453 Teens Are Anxious, Sad and Lonely. Here's How You Can Help

#452 Porn Addiction in Marriage: How to Let God Redeem Your Story

#451 Porn Addiction and Women: Break the Silence, Bring the Hope

#450 Breaking the Marriage Idol

#449 How to Guide Your Kids Through Confusing Messages About Gender

#448: When Did Sexual Identity Become a Thing? (and Why Are We Obsessed With It?)

#230: Juli and Linda Answer Your Questions on Marriage

#447: Strengthen Your Marriage Today (and Be Ready for Whatever 2023 May Bring)

#446: How Much More of Your Sexuality Will You Let God Reclaim in 2023?

#445: Give the Gift of Seeing the Good in What You Have

#444: A Heart Set Free From Shame and Lies Is a Gift

#443: Is Your View of Sex and Marriage Gift-worthy?

#442: How to Find Peace and Hope In the Midst of Anxiety

#441: Understanding God's Heart for Food and Freedom

#440: Why Don't Christians Like to Talk About the Real, Hard Stuff in Life?

#439: Pelvic Floor Health 101 (It's About More Than Just Sex)

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