Java with Juli

By Dr. Juli Slattery, author and co-founder of Authentic Intimacy™

What's Java with Juli about?

It is NOT your traditional Christian podcast! No topics or questions are too challenging or risky to discuss. Nothing is taboo, but all is biblically-based and God-honoring. If you tune in, you’ll find that we openly chat about things many women wonder but don’t know where, or who, to go to for honest answers. We embrace a casual & multi-generational feel that has listeners imagining that they’re also “at the table.”

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Do you believe that only people who watch pornography, use sex to feel loved, or cheat on their spouses are sexually broken? Church culture has long approached sexuality by dividing us into two categories: sexually broken or sexually pure. In ...

Java with Juli episodes:

04.22.2021 Bonus! #166: We Are All Sexually Broken Do you believe that only people who watch pornography, use sex to feel loved, or cheat on their spouses are sexually broken? Church culture has long approached sexuality by dividing us into two categories: sexually broken or sexually pure. In ...
04.19.2021 #359: How To Help Women Speak Out Against Sexual Harassment Tiffany Bluhm wishes this wasn’t her story to tell. Like most victims or bystanders of sexual harassment, she had everything to lose by telling the truth. (Spoiler alert: She did it anyway!) Join Juli and Tiffany for a conversation about ...
04.12.2021 #358: Sexuality, Spirituality, and Why We Settle For Counterfeit Intimacy Have you ever turned to Netflix instead of pursuing sex with your spouse? Have you turned to Instagram instead ending your day by talking with God and learning His voice? Your sex life and your spiritual life have more in ...
04.05.2021 #357: Emotional Safety: What It Is and Why You Need It What is emotional safety? Look at it this way: an emotionally unsafe relationship is a place where you can’t be yourself. You’re walking on eggshells. You can’t share your emotions because when you do, they’re going to set off an ...
03.29.2021 #356: Sex & the City of God (What Life Looks Like When We Love God First) That longing you have to be fully known? God put it there. It’s meant to draw you into intimacy with Him. Yet, we try to fill it with people (or things) who can never know us completely. In this episode, ...
03.22.2021 #355: How Apologetics Helps Kids Engage the Culture & Keep Their Faith Don't tell your kids what to think about sex, teach them HOW to think about sex. Don't give them a list of rules, give them a biblical worldview that will help them discern and think critically about what the culture ...
03.15.2021 #354: How To Keep Rhythm & Romance in Your New COVID Normal You learned to navigate close quarters, perfected family game night, and homeschooled your kids. As your community reopens, how do you disconnect from tech and re-engage with life in person? How do you get the romance back in your marriage? ...
03.08.2021 #353: Why Telling Your Abuse Story is Complex, Courageous & Healing Every abuse story has unique layers of complexity and pain. The decision whether or not to tell someone else is often a difficult one. Grab your coffee, a comfy chair, and join this conversation with Tim Hein, author of the ...
03.02.2021 #92: Bonus! When The Woman You Love Was Abused It's been proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow us into adulthood. Memories, anxiety, and feelings of shame can leave women overwhelmed with emotions they don't understand—and their husbands equally confused! In this episode, Juli sits down with Dawn ...
03.01.2021 #352: How Purity Culture & Ravi Zacharias' Abuse of Power Challenge Our Faith Juli Slattery and Asheritah Ciuciu sit down for a conversation about the shortcomings of purity culture, the recent revelation of Ravi Zacharias’ abuse of power and trust, and how the two converge. More than just trending stories in your news ...
02.22.2021 #351: Why Our Churches Need To Do Better at Valuing the Voices of Women The women of the Bible have a lot to teach us. Their voices often give us the story behind the story—take Ruth for example, or the birth of Christ from the perspective of Mary and Elizabeth. What do we lose ...
02.15.2021 #350: Making Time To Make Love (Especially When You Don't Feel Like It) It's hard to prioritize sexual intimacy when you don't understand why God created sex in the first place. Instead, you put up walls when things get hard. When you get busy, sex goes on the back burner. But what if ...
02.11.2021 #349: Bonus! You CAN Find Love Online. We'll Help You Look “I love online dating,” said no one ever. But if 1 in 5 committed relationships today began online, is it worth a try? In this BONUS episode, Juli sits down with Margot Starbuck to learn everything you want to know ...
02.08.2021 #348: What You Need to Know About the T in LGBT, Pt 2 In this episode, Juli continues her conversation with Preston Sprinkle as they dive into biblical questions around transitioning, the pronoun debate, rapid onset gender dysphoria, and offer encouragement to parents of teens who are questioning. You'll learn what the Bible ...
02.01.2021 #347: What You Need To Know About the "T" in LGBT, Pt 1 What was recently a rare psychological diagnosis is rapidly morphing into an accepted cultural movement. While it's critical to know what the Bible says about gender, Christians also need to understand the complexity and personal struggle represented by the "T" ...
01.25.2021 #346: How to Cope When Your Spouse Struggles With Depression When you’re married, depression is a shared experience. There is no way to escape the impact of sharing a home with someone who is overcome with deep sadness and struggling to get well. In this episode, Juli and her guest ...
01.18.2021 #345: What You Need to Know About Progressive Christianity Compassionate. Inclusive. Nonjudgmental. Who wouldn’t want to be part of a church like this? It’s why Progressive churches are so appealing—especially to young people looking for something different from the church they grew up in. Today Juli sits down with ...
01.11.2021 #344: Standing Strong: Tackling Fear, Self-Doubt & Insecurity Alli Worthington says the popular message that “you are enough” is leaving women feeling overwhelmed and burnt out. As a business coach to future writers, speakers and podcasters following their God-given dreams—she would know. While this little phrase sounds good—and ...
01.04.2021 #343: Forgiving What You Can't Forget Lysa TerKeurst tells Juli about the brokenness and restoration of her marriage and how forgiveness is both a decision and a process. She speaks candidly about what biblical forgiveness really is, and how it can set you free from the ...
12.28.2020 #147: How to Find Fulfillment at the Feet of Jesus Does 2020 have you feeling exhausted? Dissatisfied? Here’s a crazy thought: Put down your to-do list. What if you start the first 30 days of 2021 by surrendering your to-do list to Jesus and listening for His voice? You can ...
12.21.2020 #342: The Good Gift of Courage (And Why You Need It) We talk often on Java with Juli about our culture’s confusing messages around sexuality. But today’s guest, Russell Moore, contends that we’re not so much confused about what is true or right as we are fearful; fearful of standing alone, ...
12.14.2020 #341: When Staying Married Feels Impossible Circumstances in Laurie’s life started triggering her memories of childhood sexual abuse. Her lifelong struggle with same-sex attraction flared. Alone on a silent retreat, she recommitted herself to God and to her husband Matt. But she wasn’t sure she would ...
12.07.2020 #340: We Were Wrong About Modesty The word “modesty” makes us cringe these days, and it’s easy to understand why: For years it’s been associated with a prudish culture of shame and blame. We hear the word and immediately think it’s an issue about women and ...
11.30.2020 #339: How to Have Hard Conversations with (Facebook) Friends If you were standing in front of a crowd of 300 to speak, how carefully would you craft your words? Okay, so you’re actually at home alone with your smartphone, but on social media, you may as well be in ...
11.23.2020 #338: Single & Sexual As a single person, your sexuality isn’t defined by a list of “do's and don’ts” or captured by simplistic questions like, “What does the Bible say about masturbation?” Your sexuality—single or married—is ultimately more about relational intimacy than what you ...
11.16.2020 #337: Questions You're Too Embarrassed to Ask About Sex Dr. Doug Rosenau, a pioneer in Christian sex therapy, has been answering questions about sex for decades—long before most of us had the courage to even ask them! Juli sits down with Dr. Rosenau for a candid conversation about the ...
11.09.2020 #336: Disappointed With God? Tell Him Are you discouraged by what is happening in our world today? Have you recently found yourself asking, “Lord, why have you allowed this?” If so, this episode is just for you. Juli sits down with Dannah Gresh to talk about ...
11.02.2020 #335: Teaching Our Kids a Biblical Worldview of Sexuality We used to say, "If you don’t talk to your kids about sex, someone else will." These days, there is no more “if” about it! Whether it’s a movie, social media, or a friend at school, you can count on ...
10.26.2020 #334: What Your Pastor Needs to Know About Porn Some of the worst advice you’ve received about porn may have come from ... your pastor? Yikes! Most pastors—understandably—aren't trained in sexual addiction or the impact of sexual trauma in marriage, and some of the popular Christian advice espoused in ...
10.19.2020 #140: The Story of A Rape Survivor One of Hettie’s greatest fears was that she would be raped. In her home country of South Africa, it is estimated that over 30% of women will be raped in their lifetime. So when she was awakened one night by ...
10.12.2020 #333: Is God Good ...Even if You're LGBT? “We are being shaped by a culture that idolizes romantic and sexual fulfillment. And I just think—Jesus was fully human and he didn’t get married, have sex, or date anyone. So those things can’t be intrinsic to being human.” Sam ...
10.05.2020 #332: Parenting Your Kids Without Shame In parenting, shame is unavoidable. As a mom or dad, at times you'll likely feel ashamed of how you’re doing as a parent or of how your child is behaving … or both! But when you use that shame to ...
09.28.2020 #331: Say Goodbye to Labels Life is tends to put labels on us. We even pin labels on ourselves. More often than not, these labels are hurtful, superficial, and false. But God has a new name He longs for you to hear - a name ...
09.21.2020 #330: Loving the Person Who Isn't Like You It’s easy to love the neighbor who looks like us, thinks like us, and believes like us. With those who don't fall into those categories, we struggle. In this episode, Juli and her guest, Alexandra Kuykendall from The Open Door ...
09.14.2020 #329: Addressing Tough Questions About Identity and Sexuality Theology meets real life in this episode of Java with Juli! We’re asking the difficult questions about identity and sexuality: Why does language (e.g. “gay” versus “same-sex attracted”) matter? Can two people of the same gender share covenant love? Are ...
09.07.2020 #117: How Your Sex Life is Connected to Your Spiritual Life An early theologian once wrote, “We know that when a couple has sexual intercourse, the Holy Spirit leaves the room.” If you were raised in the church, you might agree—and not be so sure you'd even want Him there! After ...
08.31.2020 #328: Answers to Your Questions About Pornography "Will I cause a set-back in my husband’s recovery if I say no to sex?" "My daughter talks to me about her porn addiction, but she’s mortified at the thought of telling her dad, is that okay?" "My husband confessed ...
08.24.2020 #327: When Your Spouse Feels More Like a Roommate Every couple experiences times of disconnection, but when your spouse begins to feel more like a roommate than a lover, it’s easy to want to go looking for intimacy in other places. But what would it look to like to ...
08.17.2020 #326: Gen Z and Gender Identity Few ideas have changed more rapidly than the way our culture perceives gender. The idea that you can choose your gender (some cite more than 50 options) can feel downright crazy-making for the average Christian parent—but being dismissive of Gen ...
08.13.2020 #325: When Sex Hurts, Pelvic Floor Therapy Can Help Past trauma, childbirth, a physical fall—just a few of the MANY reasons you might experience painful sex or sexual dysfunction. Sadly, the story for most women is that when they finally get the courage to bring this up with their ...
08.10.2020 #324: Sex Therapy: What Is It, and Why Should You Go? Online Christian sex therapy—yes, you read that right. Did you know that there are therapists trained specifically to address issues like low libido, mismatched sex drives, intimacy after trauma, and painful sex? And that these challenges can be addressed from ...
08.03.2020 #323: Bye, Awkward Side Hugs! Getting Over Our Fear of Opposite-Sex Friendships Was Jesus a bit aloof with Martha and Mary because He didn’t want them to think there was, you know, “chemistry”? Did He give Mary Magdalene side hugs? We don’t actually know the answers to these questions, of course, but ...
07.27.2020 #70: Stepping up as a Stepmom Being a stepmom is one of the hardest roles a woman can take on. Because, let's be honest: you fell in love with your husband, you didn't really fall in love with his kids--at least not right away. In this ...
07.20.2020 #322: The Secret Superpower of Kindness Think about your toughest relationship: The husband you’re finding it hard to respect. The wife who only ever seems to offer you the cold shoulder. Or the coworker or in-law who makes you crazy. What if you had the power ...
07.13.2020 #321: Taking Your Marriage Back From Porn One of the most painful experiences as a wife is learning of your husband’s porn addiction—or learning that he’s turning to porn again (and again). Author (and wife of a now-sober porn addict) Rosie Makinney is passionate about equipping wives ...
07.09.2020 #320: BONUS! Looking for the Spark in Your Marriage? Thanks to COVID-19, you and your spouse have likely spent a lot of time together the last five months—but that doesn't necessarily mean your marriage isn't on rocky ground. Are you and your spouse in need of some TLC (or ...
07.06.2020 #319: Is Good Sex a "Right" in Marriage? Juli and Hannah sit down for a candid conversation about whether or not it's possible to have a good, Christian marriage and not be having sex. Their conclusion might surprise you. Grab your java and join us! Guest: Hannah Nitz ...
06.29.2020 #318: Why Are We Afraid to Touch? Let’s face it: As Christians, we’re kind of afraid to touch. Touch feels unsafe and sexual --even worldly-- and we can be led to believe that the more boundaries we put in place, the "better off" we'll all be. Except, ...
06.24.2020 #317: Bonus! Listen, Learn, and Give Grace (A Conversation About Race) Are you grieved by the pain and brokenness you see in your news feed each day? We are too. God’s Word tells us that when one part of the Body is hurting, the entire body hurts with it. How can ...
06.22.2020 #316: Sorry Mom & Dad, the "Sex Talk" Doesn't Work The one-and-done "sex talk" doesn't work, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to your kids about sex. When it comes to sexuality, your kids are growing up in a completely different world than you did. You probably won't find ...

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Java with Juli episodes:

Bonus! #166: We Are All Sexually Broken

#359: How To Help Women Speak Out Against Sexual Harassment

#358: Sexuality, Spirituality, and Why We Settle For Counterfeit Intimacy

#357: Emotional Safety: What It Is and Why You Need It

#356: Sex & the City of God (What Life Looks Like When We Love God First)

#355: How Apologetics Helps Kids Engage the Culture & Keep Their Faith

#354: How To Keep Rhythm & Romance in Your New COVID Normal

#353: Why Telling Your Abuse Story is Complex, Courageous & Healing

#92: Bonus! When The Woman You Love Was Abused

#352: How Purity Culture & Ravi Zacharias' Abuse of Power Challenge Our Faith

#351: Why Our Churches Need To Do Better at Valuing the Voices of Women

#350: Making Time To Make Love (Especially When You Don't Feel Like It)

#349: Bonus! You CAN Find Love Online. We'll Help You Look

#348: What You Need to Know About the T in LGBT, Pt 2

#347: What You Need To Know About the "T" in LGBT, Pt 1

#346: How to Cope When Your Spouse Struggles With Depression

#345: What You Need to Know About Progressive Christianity

#344: Standing Strong: Tackling Fear, Self-Doubt & Insecurity

#343: Forgiving What You Can't Forget

#147: How to Find Fulfillment at the Feet of Jesus

#342: The Good Gift of Courage (And Why You Need It)

#341: When Staying Married Feels Impossible

#340: We Were Wrong About Modesty

#339: How to Have Hard Conversations with (Facebook) Friends

#338: Single & Sexual

#337: Questions You're Too Embarrassed to Ask About Sex

#336: Disappointed With God? Tell Him

#335: Teaching Our Kids a Biblical Worldview of Sexuality

#334: What Your Pastor Needs to Know About Porn

#140: The Story of A Rape Survivor

#333: Is God Good ...Even if You're LGBT?

#332: Parenting Your Kids Without Shame

#331: Say Goodbye to Labels

#330: Loving the Person Who Isn't Like You

#329: Addressing Tough Questions About Identity and Sexuality

#117: How Your Sex Life is Connected to Your Spiritual Life

#328: Answers to Your Questions About Pornography

#327: When Your Spouse Feels More Like a Roommate

#326: Gen Z and Gender Identity

#325: When Sex Hurts, Pelvic Floor Therapy Can Help

#324: Sex Therapy: What Is It, and Why Should You Go?

#323: Bye, Awkward Side Hugs! Getting Over Our Fear of Opposite-Sex Friendships

#70: Stepping up as a Stepmom

#322: The Secret Superpower of Kindness

#321: Taking Your Marriage Back From Porn

#320: BONUS! Looking for the Spark in Your Marriage?

#319: Is Good Sex a "Right" in Marriage?

#318: Why Are We Afraid to Touch?

#317: Bonus! Listen, Learn, and Give Grace (A Conversation About Race)

#316: Sorry Mom & Dad, the "Sex Talk" Doesn't Work

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