Many of us look for evidence to love ourselves in how other people see us or in experiences that should validate our worth.   But the minute there's a bump in the road—whether someone leaves us, we lose our job, or we are rejected or disappointed— if there is not another source for that love, we are going to find it hard to move forward. We must recognize that we are the love that we seek if we want to stand steady.  We are already everything we need to be to have joyful and meaningful lives.