Hey Friends! Welcome back to day three of Love Is, a six-day podcast special about love, dating and sex.

Today's conversation is centered around dating, we'll discuss how to date well and also define what dating actually is. Dating is a largely American concept and has evolved over time. With today's standard for dating being open for interpretation, it can be hard to define a romantic relationship.

Culture's definition of dating can be seen as anything from hooking up to being in a long-term relationship, but what does the Bible have to say on the topic? While it doesn't specify how to date, the Bible talks A LOT about how we should treat others and how to interact with the opposite sex.

Once our understanding is rooted in Scripture, we can define how to date well, which I like to call intentional dating. This may sound intimidating, so I've created a strategy to help you as you date with intention.

The strategy for intentional dating looks like:

1. Intentionality

2. Clarity

3. Strategy

4. Timely

I hope this provides clarity on such a huge topic and that you feel confident to date well. Don't forget to share this podcast with your friends, post it on your social media and you can tag me @BiancaOlthoff.

Love you,



Ep 65: Love Is Series - How To Date

Author, speaker, and Christian leader, Bianca Juárez Olthoff invites you to listen in as she offers practical advice on relevant topics and amazing conversations with guests that will impact your life in positive ways. No topic is off the table and faith will always be at the forefront of the conversation. So... WE'RE GOING THERE! For more on Bianca like her books Play With Fire and How To Have Your Life Not Suck, visit www.biancaolthoff.com

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Do you know how to acknowledge and process trauma effectively? Are you in need of strategies to help you through the process?
You know I love to talk about how my “Bible Boyfriend” Paul The Apostle had grit, resilience and endurance. But what I had never spoken about before was all of the painful trauma that he had also experienced. Despite being beaten, battered, bludgeoned, and abused many times, Paul found the strength in God to lead in the midst of his trauma. 
Ignoring or denying the existence of trauma in our lives is risky and can hinder our healing. That is why vulnerability is key to be able to address the trauma that we’re going through. Practice trauma-informed leadership by:

Understanding what trauma is and what it is not

Having honest and vulnerable conversations about pain

Starting the healing process with trusted individuals

Trauma impacts different aspects of our lives and it impacts those around us too. Don’t allow unhealthy coping mechanisms to keep you stuck in the pain. Seek help from professionals and prayerfully go to God for comfort. 
Friend, acknowledging and processing trauma is crucial. Ignoring or denying it only prolongs the healing process. Are you finding purpose in your pain? Let me know by tagging me @biancaolthoff 
Love you,
B


RESOURCES/LINKS
Assignment
Create a life map: Identify the trauma in your life over the past 10 years. 
Quote
The idea of being vulnerable feels terrifying, but we will never heal what we conceal.
Takeaways

Trauma is our response to a painful event, and it can be physical, emotional, spiritual, or mental.

It is important to acknowledge and process trauma rather than ignoring or denying it.

There are three types of trauma: acute, chronic, and complex.

The healing process involves processing the pain with trusted people, prayerfully seeking God's comfort, and finding purpose in the trauma.

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Ep 155: Healing From Trauma // Leading Through Pain Series with Bianca Juarez Olthoff

Have you ever found yourself avoiding pain instead of facing it? I’ve been there too, friend.
That is why I am sharing a three-part series on healing through pain. In today’s episode, I want to start by emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and embracing pain rather than avoiding it. 
It is important to build a strong foundation and develop daily disciplines to navigate pain effectively. We do this by identifying the root cause of pain. You can not solve the pain unless you: 

Acknowledge that there’s a problem: Name the pain. 

Diagnose the problem: What’s the issue behind the issue? What’s the feeling behind the feeling? 

Treat the problem: What needs to be fixed? Who can or should speak into this? What is the root? What is needed to heal?

Revisit: Be committed to the healing process.

Are you  interested in your healing or are you committed to your healing? Identify the pain, sit in the pain and the pain will lose its power. Let’s be honest about where we’re at while being intentional about our healing. Let me know where you’re at by tagging me @biancaolthoff 

XO,
B


RESOURCES/LINKS
Homework

Identify where your pain is coming from:

Pain of growth

Pain of self

Pain of circumstance

What is the root cause of your pain? 

Quote
The number one thing that I see, people bailing out of their calling, their vocation or ministry or quitting a church, is pain.
Takeaways

Pain should be acknowledged and embraced rather than avoided.

Building a strong foundation and developing daily disciplines are crucial for leading through pain.

Identifying the root cause of pain is essential for effective healing.

Treating the problem requires a holistic approach, considering both spiritual and practical aspects.

Commitment to the healing process is necessary for long-term growth and well-being.


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The Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study is now available.
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Ep 154: Commitment to Healing // Leading Through Pain Series with Bianca Juarez Olthoff

What happens when a crisis in leadership affects an organization? Is the opportunity for restoration and rebuilding possible? Yes it is! 
Dr. Jon Chasteen is on the podcast today. He is a husband and father, an author, the Lead Pastor of Victory.Church, and the Former University & Seminary President. Our conversation helps us understand better:

How we can rebuild after a leadership crisis

The role and challenges of a Re-Leader

The impact of foundation building

Planting seeds for future generations

Overcoming weariness and burnout

The challenges of rebuilding are real. It is important that we don’t despise the small beginnings because they will lead to the rewards of re-leading in marriage, business, and other aspects of life. Fixing what you didn’t break is hard. Navigating it can make us feel weary or stuck in the process. Remember, doing hard things with perseverance allows God to show up and bring transformation.
Not only is my friend Jon teaching us how to shift our mindset to view crisis as an opportunity for growth and improvement, we are also getting strategies on how to do hard things, lead through a mess, and find strength to keep moving forward.
Restoration is possible, friend! Let us know how you are making progress rebuilding your life by tagging us @biancaolthoff and @jonchasteen
XO,
B

RESOURCES/LINKS
Guest
Jon Chasteen http://releader.co 
ReLeader: How To Fix What You Didn't Break 
Quote
And the real question for every, really every real eater is am I willing to plant a tree and build something that I may never taste the fruit of it.
Takeaways
Re-leading requires patience and trust-building.
Don't despise small beginnings; they are essential for growth.
Re-leading can be challenging and discouraging, but it is a calling.
Zoom out and envision the long-term impact of your re-leading journey.
Doing hard things allows God to show up and bring transformation.

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The Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study is now available.
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Ep 153: BONUS The Role of a Re-Leader and The Impact of Rebuilders in Leadership with Jon Chasteen and Bianca Juarez Olthoff

Are you holding back in being vulnerable with others? Is not being part of an authentic community a factor? 
I had a deep discussion with my friend Jennie Allen on all things emotions and vulnerability. Jennie is founder and visionary of IF:Gathering, a writer, podcaster and public speaker who will be sharing with us:

There is power in friendship

How to pursue God-Sized dreams

Creating space for vulnerability

Emotional intelligence and spiritual maturity

Healing through confession

Living wholeheartedly and authentically 


Friends, finding and being part of an authentic community is HUGE because it contributes to personal transformation and growth. And transformation begins by being vulnerable. And if you can’t find a community like that follow Jennie’s advice and start your own. You can do this!
Jennie’s heart for revival and vulnerability is contagious! Let us know how you are being transformed by tagging me @biancaolthoff and @jennieallen.
Love you,
B

RESOURCES/LINKS
Guest
Jennie Allen jennieallen.com 
Instagram: @jennieallen
Book: Untangle Your Emotions: Naming What You Feel and Knowing What to Do About It
Quote
Because I wasn't comfortable with emotions in myself, I wouldn't allow myself to feel them and because I wouldn't feel them, I would keep getting stuck in places that God wanted to free me.
Takeaways

Authentic friendships and support are essential for pursuing God-sized dreams.

Emotional intelligence and spiritual maturity are key to personal growth and revival.

Confession and vulnerability lead to healing and freedom.

Living wholeheartedly involves embracing and processing emotions.


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Bianca’s new book Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option
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The Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study is now available.
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Ep 152: BONUS The Transformative Power of Vulnerability, Revival and Authentic Community with Jennie Allen and Bianca Juarez Olthoff

Have you ever been misinterpreted or criticized by something you said? Are you trying to navigate the challenges of cancel-culture while maintaining your commitment to speaking the truth? 
My friend Tim Ross, and my guest on today’s show, is a podcaster, social media influencer, author, and preacher who’s had his experiences with controversy and conflict, both in public and on social media.
Tim shares how he remains unashamed in speaking the truth. He also provides insights on:

Responding to criticism 

Handling conflict in a mature and loving manner

Addressing strong language and misinterpretation

Anyone who has a public platform knows that there will always be online criticism and sometimes controversy. Knowing when not to engage is important.
Having a space for people to be seen, heard, known, and loved is important for healing from this and other types of trauma. Therapy and confession are a crucial role in the healing process. 
Show your appreciation to Tim by tagging him @Upsetthegram and me @biancaolthoff.
Love you,
B

RESOURCES/LINKS
Guest
Tim Ross upsettheworld.com 
Book: Welcome to the Basement: An Upside-Down Guide to Greatness 
The Basement Podcast
Tim Ross Instagram
Tim Ross YouTube
B-Side App (Apple) (Google Play)
Quote
Confession is literally good for the soul. It's absolutely good for the soul. And there's a lot of people that confess vertically, but they don't do it horizontally, and therefore they actually don't get healed.
Takeaways

Dealing with controversy and conflict requires a strong sense of identity and purpose.

Navigating cancel-culture involves staying true to one's beliefs and not being swayed by public opinion.

Responding to criticism and controversy should be done with maturity, love, and a willingness to engage in dialogue.

Using strong language can be effective in conveying strong emotions, but it is important to consider the context and potential misinterpretation.


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Order Bianca’s new book GRIT DON’T QUIT
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So grateful to our sponsors!
This episode is sponsored by HomeChef. For a limited time, HomeChef is offering my listeners 18 Free Meals, plus Free Shipping on your first box, and Free Dessert for Life, at HomeChef.com/goingthere. Must be an active subscriber to receive free dessert.

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Visit biancaolthoff.com/resources to learn more about books and other resources from Bianca.
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Want to stay connected, join the community today.
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WGT email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org
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Music by: Brad Tsushima, Instagram: @bradtsushima, email: bradtsushima94@aol.com, Spotify: “R.A.D.”
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