S4E8: Love Yourself through Imposter Syndrome

Are you a workaholic? Do you find your worth in what you do and hope that it will validate who you are? Psychologist Emee Estacio joins me to share her personal battle with imposter syndrome, how she found her way to asking for help and how she works with others to overcome it, too. She offers tools for imposter syndrome management and insight into how to reframe comparison so it doesn’t steal our joy. How to know whether or not you have imposter syndrome How to bounce back when imposter syndrome comes up When to offer your inner critic some TLC Links Mentioned:  Fearless Self Love Retreat: https://www.fearlessselflove.com/ Book with Emee (mention this podcast for 10% off): http://thepamecode.com/ “When I had my child, it felt as if I lost a bit of control and I started doubting if I’m truly capable of becoming an academic and second whether I’m fit as a mother.” -- Emee Estacio “Sometimes I would put in 60 hour work weeks, because I felt that if I didn’t that I wasn’t good enough.” -- Emee Estacio “One of the characteristics of imposter syndrome, especially if you have this persistent feeling of self-doubt,  incompetence and inadequacy, is that [you] tend to overwork and [you] tend to overstretch [yourself], to the point that [you] use every single time that [you] have to dedicate to [your] work. Because you have this false assumption that if you don’t work enough, if you don’t put that much time into your work, then … your’re going to make mistakes and people are going to find out that you’re incompentant.” -- Emee Estacio “I had to hit rock bottom before someone nudged me to ask for help.” -- Emee Estacio “We are all human; we get sick.” -- Emee Estacio “Continuing to have these things surface helps me to hone my skills...and to remind myself I’m human and I’m connected to all the people I’m serving.” -- Andrea Catherine “The inner critic is that tiny voice inside your head that tells you all these nasty things about yourself.” -- Emee Estacio “For people who experience very severe cases of imposter syndrome they tend to have a very fixed mindset. If they believe they’re not good at something, then they stick to it, as if there is no more room for growth.” -- Emee Estacio “Yes we might have imperfections...but that’s OK, it’s part of your learning experience, it’s part of growth and development.” -- Emee Estacio “Just because you make mistakes sometimes, it doesn’t mean you are a fraud...it means you are human.” -- Emee Estacio “Just because they are doing better than you, it doesn’t mean you’re not doing well.” -- Emee Estacio “Comparison is the thief of joy.”  -- Theodore Roosevelt "Celebrate the success of others because it shows you what is possible." -- Emee Estacio   Meet Emee: Emee is a chartered psychologist and Founder of the PAME Code. Her passion is to help people embrace their true worth, so they can live happy and fulfilling lives. Throughout her academic, coaching, and research career, she has worked closely with individuals and communities to unlock their full potential using simple and easy to apply methods for limitless success in life. She is the #1 best-selling author of the "Psychology in Your Life" book series, including titles such as "The Imposter Syndrome Remedy", "Change Your Life for Good", and "Fear is Not My Enemy". She is also now helping aspiring authors fulfil their lifelong ambition to write and publish their own books with her flagship course, "Self-Publishing Made Simple".