By Loving BDSM
We help kinksters have happy, healthy power exchange relationships.
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A kinkster is part of their local community but still finds it difficult to make connections, especially with a possible long term partner. Here’s the question: I’ve been an active member of the community... The post Q&A;: How Do I Connect...
We’re going on break next week but before we do, we asked for your kinky hot takes and unpopular opinions over on Instagram! Here’s what we think… In this episode: We’re taking next week... The post Responding to Your Kinky Hot...
A kinkster had a question about specific items they wanted to use in kink which gave us a great excuse to talk about pervertables in general! Here’s the question: I am on a budget.... The post Q&A;: Will These Household Items...
For this week’s episode, we asked for your questions over on Instagram. In this episode: Check out our newest products on our Etsy shop! Disclaimer: Yes, we’re answering the questions that allow us to... The post Ask Us Anything! appeared first...
The person who submitted this question said it was complex, and they weren’t wrong. Here’s the question: I have a question on how to handle loyalty conflicts in complex situations. I live in Europe,... The post Q&A;: How Do I Navigate...
This week’s episode isn’t meant to be a continuation of the pleasure Dom discussion from last week – though it seems that way. Instead it’s a reminder to (too many) kinksters that yes, submissives... The post Submission and Pleasure appeared first...
This week’s question comes from a submissive who’s getting their desire for kink and sex back but doesn’t want to feel like they’re telling their Dom what to do. Here’s the question: I (31F... The post Q&A;: How Do I Let...
Pleasure Dominant is a relatively new term, probably born from the internet, but what does it even mean? Let’s talk about it. In this episode: New products available on our Etsy shop! Disclaimer: Regardless... The post What is a Pleasure Dom?...
This week’s question comes from a submissive who wants to be told what to do in power exchange, but their Dominant can’t handle the mental load. Here’s the question: I ask my Dom, “What... The post What Do I Do When...
It’s been too long since we’ve responded to the BDSM side of Reddit, so here we are! In this episode: We’re live streaming on Friday, February 16 at 9:30pm ET. Help kinksters in Atlanta... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first...
A kinkster wants to be their most authentic self with a close friend but isn’t sure it’s working. Here’s the question: I am currently struggling in a friendship and wondered if yall had any... The post Q&A;: Can I Be My...
Think of this like a “state of the union” but for a D/s relationship – specifically ours. In this episode: One week left of our Patreon membership drive! Thanks to Beducated for sponsoring this... The post The State of Our Power...
In this week’s question, a kinkster wants to explore their Dominant side and wonders if they can use that to work through their anger. Here’s the question: I’m a submissive but I may be... The post Q&A;: Is Anger Part of...
We’ve talked about age differences in D/s relationships before, but this time, let’s discuss the perception/belief that “all” age gaps are bad or predatory, and why we (mostly) disagree. In this episode: Sales at... The post Age Gaps in Power Exchange...
In this week’s question, a submissive asks how they can keep things going in their D/s even while apart. Here’s the question: How can I make the most out of my long distance D/s... The post Q&A;: How Do We Make...
This week’s episode was inspired by a conversation we recently had about how we behave and act as Dom and sub and how that doesn’t always match the way we’d like to behave and... The post How We Show Up in...
There’s no episode this week because JB got sick and needed to rest. As of the day this commercial-like episode goes live, he’s feeling a bit better and is moving around a bit. Normally... The post A Commercial Break Ramble appeared...
In this week’s question, this couple asks a question that a lot of kinksters have gone through — how to go from a vanilla relationship to a D/s relationship? Here’s the question: My husband... The post How Do We Renegotiate Our...
When we started researching this episode, we thought it would just be on the concept of sexual free use in power exchange. But there was so much more that we had to talk about... The post Free Use and Blanket Consent...
In this week’s episode, we answer a question from a submissive who wants punishment outside of a fun, sexual moment but doesn’t know how to get it. Here’s the question: I’m in a wlw... The post Q&A;: How Do I Get...
In what seems to be a new tradition, we’re sharing our plans and goals for 2024 and reviewing our goals from 2023. In this episode: Join us on Patreon! Going over our 2023 goals... The post Our 2024 Kinky Goals and...
In this week’s episode, a Dominant worries their submissive expects certain rules due to their past trauma and not because of the dynamic, and they don’t know how to stop worrying. Here’s the question:... The post Q&A;: Is This Past Trauma...
This week, on our way out for a two week break, we’re doing the last BDSM Reddit response episode of 2023! There be rants ahead… In this episode: We’re going live Friday, December 15... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first...
In this week’s episode, someone asks how to negotiate with someone who doesn’t even really know if they like kink yet. Here’s the question: Hey long time listener enjoying most of your long ones... The post How Do I Negotiate When...
We’re back for another BDSM in the news episode, talking about articles we’ve come across that focuses on or mentions kink in some way. These articles have been included in recent newsletters, and we... The post BDSM in the News appeared...
In this week’s Q&A; episode, a submissive likes the positive reinforcement of rewards in their dynamic, but they don’t feel like they’re getting enough or the right kind they want and need. Here’s the... The post Can a Submissive Negotiate Their...
We were inspired by Therapy Jeff on Instagram again and decided to answer questions he advises people to ask to figure out how well they know their partner. In this episode: Join us on... The post How Well Do We Know...
In this week’s Q&A; episode, a submissive can’t wrap their mind around the kinky scene their Dom wants. Here’s the question: What to do when your Dom brings up a kink that is not... The post What Do I Do When...
Things happened this week that derailed the podcast a bit – plus we’re getting ready for Black Friday for our shop(s) – so we kept it simple for ourselves with a bonus section episode.... The post Pure Randomness | A Bonus...
Even if your kink life and/or power exchange relationship feel natural and good, that doesn’t mean it’ll always be easy. On the other hand, sometimes the parts you thought would be the most difficult... The post What We Find Easy and...
This week’s question takes a turn from where you think it’s going based on the title. They were in a long distance D/s relationship for six years. Once they moved in together, all the... The post How Can We Have the...
We’re back for another look at what certain terms (that you may or may not have heard of before) mean and how we feel about them. This time, we’re talking about brat tamer and... The post Brat Tamer vs Brat Handler...
This week’s question is similar to a previous episode about how a submissive gets their needs fulfilled. But in this situation, this isn’t about preventing it from happening but figuring out what to do... The post What Do I Do When...
We celebrated our wedding anniversary on October 28, and that particular milestone got me thinking about how much we’ve both grown and changed over the years. This week’s episode is all about what changes... The post Changes We See In Each...
Yes, another one, lol. But we promise we have a very good reason. JB is under the weather, but insisted on recording, so we needed something easy to talk about. Ranting over the antics... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first...
This week, we’re talking about something that might be more common than you think — needing to plan and schedule your kink scenes but feeling like that kills the spontaneity. Here’s the question: How... The post How Do I Get More...
Buckle up, y’all, this episode is a ranty one. Too many times we’ve heard, “Relationships are hard!” But we don’t believe they’re meant to be hard. Instead, they require effort and sometimes hard work.... The post The Difference Between Power Exchange...
This week, we answer a question that a lot of submissives have at some point in their kink life — how to get your own needs fulfilled while fulfilling your Dominant’s needs, too. Here’s... The post How Do I Make Sure...
I (Kayla) am often in a silly, goofy mood, and thankfully JB either is or will play along. So let’s talk about it from a power exchange perspective. In this episode There are several... The post Silliness and Playfulness in D/s...
It’s our first Q&A; episode! These will be short episodes that focus on a single question that we’ll answer with our D/s perspective. Here’s the question we received: “I recently got out of a... The post How Can I Be Vulnerable...
This week, we’re talking about the results of a “survey/study” we received from Kinky Cloth. They used Google search data to figure out the kinkiest states in the US, as well as the most... The post Top 10 Kinkiest States, Sex...
Another week, another BDSM Reddit response episode — and this one has some heavy topics. Including one that comes with a content warning. If that section is something you want to avoid, skip ahead... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first...
This week’s episode is brought to you by our own personal stressors and more inspiration from Therapy Jeff! We’ve mentioned in the past that – when you can – it can be helpful to... The post Navigating Stress Before It Happens...
After an unplanned week off, we’re back with a topic that we know too many people have faced — breadcrumbing. We’re talking about what it is, what it can look like in power exchange... The post Breadcrumbing vs Doing the Little...
Thanks to Hurricane Idalia, we were a little out of sorts this week. The storm missed us, thankfully, but our heads weren’t in it, so we turned this week into a bonus section/random episode... The post A Random Episode appeared first...
We let y’all help us out over on Instagram this week and asked for kinky hot takes and unpopular opinions. We’re also celebrating our 8th podcast anniversary with a huge giveaway! That part took... The post Responding to Kinky Hot Takes...
Those of a certain age might recognize that line. It’s from En Vogue’s My Lovin’ (You’re Never Gonna Get It). “Never gonna get it, never gonna get it!” If that song is in your... The post And Now for a Break(Down)...
This week, before we take a week off, we’re answering you asked over at the handle I will forever fucking hate on Instagram! In this episode: We’re on a break next week. We have... The post BDSM Q&A; appeared first on...
This week, we’re responding to BDSM questions and situations kinksters have shared on the BDSM side of Reddit! In this episode: Join our kinky community on Patreon! Submissive who doesn’t want to follow rules... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first...
This week, we’re answering more non-kinky relationship questions. These came from a marriage coach on Instagram who labeled these questions as conversation starters to deepen your connection. We’ll see about that, lol. In this... The post Answering More Non-Kinky Relationship Questions...