In my work with victims of narcissistic abuse I notice how difficult it can be for those who have been devalued and discarded by a narcissistic personality to pull themselves back up and find love again.

People who are very loving, compassionate and empathetic are often targets for the projection of the shadow from unconscious people. Those who carry a lot of light are also the target for those lost in darkness. When one is targeted by unconscious people it can be difficult to stay strong in oneself. Even Jesus was challenged by the constant persecution that came with walking in the light and speaking his truth.

How do we stay firmly rooted in the light of love? How do we stay true to ourselves when that truth is constantly being distorted by others? How do we love ourselves when we are hated by others?

In this episode of Pandora’s Box Kaleah joins with seasoned Psychologist Ernie Vecchio in a heartfelt conversation about staying anchored in love regardless of what is going on around you.

Loving Yourself When You Feel Hated

The process of Awakening can be like opening Pandora’s Box as we see our shadow selves being mirrored back to us in a BIG way.  In our own Pandora’s Box we have the opportunity to look deeply at our fear, our pain and our imperfections.  The more we understand ourselves the more we can see clearly why we have created the life we have been living up until now.  We get to see what is behind our relationships with others, and most importantly what is driving our relationship with ourselves.Pandora's Box covers topics of narcissistic abuse, personality disorders, emotional abuse, emotional healing,  the dark night of the soul, finding the authentic self, self love and other topics to invite deep self exploration.

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Mental Health

We often have such an activated nervous system in relationships where we don’t feel safe.  We interpret that activated nervous system from abusive or neglectful relationships as excitement.  Your draw to that person is a draw to excitement because excitement makes you feel alive.  In this episdoe of Pandora's Box, Kaleah talks about the dynamics behind our draw to the narcissist, sociopath or abuser in our lives, trauma bonds, the Stockholm Syndrome, and how we can truly heal and move forward into a healthy relationship with ourselves.

Is it Love?  Or an Over Excited Nervous System?

Karma is the Universal Law of Cause and Effect.  But how does that show up in our lives?  Do we really reap what we sow? Do people really get away with cruelty and dirty deeds towards others?  In this episode of Pandora's Box Kaleah talks about karma from the perspective of emotional life and death.  She talks about Karma in relationship to living in a narcissistic society, dealing with narcissistic people and facing our own inner narcissism.  Join Kaleah to learn more about how you can walk the "Good Karma Path" and reap what you sow in a way that brings you more of what you truly seek in life.

The Good Karma Path

Relationships can be challenging for anyone and if we don't have the skills to work through relationship challenges we will never have strong relationships with others.  In this Episode of Pandora's Box, Kaleah talks about how relationships come into our lives to show us what is hidden within ourselves.  We get to know ourselves on deeper and deeper levels through the mirrors of our personal relationships.  We can learn to work with our shadow side and bring what is hidden to light.  We can learn how to be transparent and have greater levels of intimacy.  Kaleah also talks about narcissistic personality disorder and how the complex defense structure in a narcissist prevents him/her from having a true, intimate relationship with another.  Tune in and expand your inner world!

Loving Yourself in Relationship to Others

In part nine of "Self Loathing to Self Loving"Kaleah delves into the topic of "Self Image" and how your beliefs effect how you feel about yourself.  More powerful tools for those recovering from narcissistic abuse and also those who are simply recovering the SELF.  In this episode Kaleah talks about how a relationship with a narcissist affects one's Self Image and how you can take charge of how you perceive yourself in order to feel better not only on the inside but also feel better about the reflection you see in the mirror.

Self Image; Part Nine "From Self Loathing to Self Loving

Perfectionism is the curse of dysfunctional society.  As humans we are far from this thing we call perfection.  We may bake the perfect cake, write the perfect letter, make perfect grades in school, achieve perfection in some kind of performance, but as human beings we are flawed and imperfect.  We are by design creatures who learn by making mistakes. In this episode of Pandora's Box, Kaleah talks about how to confront your own need to be seen as perfect and accept yourself as you are.

Loving Yourself When You Feel Hated

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