Marriage can be really hard. You start out so in love and excited but over time the daily strain of work, home, and parenting makes it challenging to connect with your spouse. Add a global pandemic and the strain is just overwhelming. 
 My guests Brent and Janis Sharpe are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists who have been married for 42 years. They are passionate about helping couples have healthy and thriving marriages even in the hardest of times. 
 “Most marriages are dealing with malnutrition. They're feeding everything else in their life… all the demands of children, the demands of taking care of a house, the demands of their job. And by the end of the day, they're just spent and they don't have much energy to move back towards each other. So finding little ways that we can move back towards one another and care for each other is significant.”
 We talk about healthy habits that we start right now to give our marriages a boost and they aren’t what you might expect. What is so encouraging about the tips they share is how simple and small these habits are and the big impact they can make.
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 Connect with Brent and Janis:   Website: brentandjanissharpe.com  Counseling Practice: lifeconnectioncounseling.com
 
 Links Mentioned:    Brent and Janis’ book:  The Making of a Marriage
 
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Nurturing Your Marriage :: Brent and Janis Sharpe [Ep 299]

Heather MacFadyen, mother of four boys, connects you the listener with people and resources to help you feel less alone. Consider it an invitation to "withness".

Kids & Family

Parenting

Do you feel like you just need more money to create a home you love? Do you want an inviting home that feels peaceful and open to your friends and family? Are you confused about your decorating style and end up buying random decor that does not work? 



Myquillyn Smith, author and founder of the Nesting Place, joins me to help with all of the House Rules that can be so overwhelming. She gives me advice on how to update my kitchen on a limited budget by utilizing Pinterest. Plus gives advice on everything from throw pillows, lamps, wallpaper, and buying new couches. Myquillyn says that decorating is taking the time to learn about yourself and what you need for your home. Building the confidence to make big and small decisions that lead to a home you love and is functional. She reminds us that it does not have to be perfect to be beautiful. 



One powerful statement from Myquillyn is to not wait to get started, get started today on creating a home you love. One that you, your family, and your friends can be invited into a place of peace and rest. 



Connect with Myquillyn Smith: 

Website:  Nesting Place

Facebook: Nesting Place

Instagram:  Myquillyn Smith (@thenester)





Links Mentioned:  






House Rules: How to Decorate for Every Home, Style, and Budget by Myquillyn Smith
The Cozy Minimalist Community
Jason Saft | Staged To Sell Home (@stagedtosellhome)
The Nesting Place: It Doesn't Have to Be Perfect to Be Beautiful: by Myquillyn Smith
Quiz: What's Your Decorating Era?



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House Rules and Learning to Love your Home :: Myquillyn Smith [Ep 462]

Do you feel as if you are always measuring yourself as a mom? Do you feel like the pressure to keep up with moms around you is overwhelming? Do you feel snappy or resentful at your kids and husband?



Today, author Sara Hagerty joins me to talk about her new book, The Gift Of Limitations. She is a wife and mom of seven with four adopted kids. Sara shares how we often find ourselves daydreaming about other seasons and how to recognize our limits and give ourselves grace without shame and complaining. When we name our limits we can actually grieve them and let God give us the story He is intricately weaving for our families. Society tells us we can be limitless, we can optimize everything, but Sara reminds us that the limits and plot twists in our life are all from a good Father who is at work in our stories. 



Connect with Sara Hagerty: 






Website:   Sara Hagerty

Facebook: Sara Hagerty

Instagram:  Sara Hagerty (@sarahagertywrites)


Links Mentioned:  






The Gift of Limitations: Finding Beauty in Your Boundaries: by Sara Hagerty
Every Bitter Thing Is Sweet: Tasting the Goodness of God in All Things: by Sara Hagerty
Unseen: The Gift of Being Hidden in a World That Loves to Be Noticed: by Sara Hagerty

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When You’re Disappointed in Mom Life Limitations :: Sara Hagerty [Ep 461]

Right off the bat Cynthia and I get sidetracked by my grumpy mood. A mood I blamed on an instagram battle but probably more about my grief of having a senior who is actually going to college! 



There’s some rehashing of the Bachelor, Heather’s advice for renting with Turo and discussion whether audiobooks count as reading. We also get sidetracked talking about all of the end-of-school year emotions including Cynthia's current struggle over her first grader’s learning and reading challenges. She claims her stage of life is somewhere between Kidzbop music and shapewear from Soma. Which makes us wonder how would you describe your current parenting stage? 



Regardless of which end of the spectrum you are on (or maybe you are in both seasons) this episode will give you encouragement that God cares for our kids more than we ever will and He has a good story for their lives. 



Connect with Cynthia Yanof: 

Website:   https://cynthiayanof.com/ 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cynthia.yanof 
Instagram:  @cynthiayanof 
Podcast: MESSmerized 




Links Mentioned:  






Turo car rental marketplace
Watch Mean Girls
Chico's
Soma
Heather’s new Cupshe bathing suit
Amazon.com: Audible Books
The Women: by Kristin Hannah
Confessions of a Shopaholic: by Sophie Kinsella
Me before You by Jojo Moyes 
Don't Mom Alone: by Heather MacFadyen
Life Is Messy, God Is Good: by Cynthia Yanof
Cynthia’s MESSmerized Patreon
Heather’s Don't Mom Alone Patreon

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We live on the other side of the Resurrection! If you find yourself in the middle of brokenness and ruin, we pray this episode reminds you that your heavenly Father God is in the redemption business. 



Today Nadia Louise joins me to share her powerful testimony. Her story is woven with so many layers of trauma and pain from a narcissistic, abusive father to the death of her brother when she was just 17 years old. That event was the catalyst that allowed Nadia to hear the voice of the Lord. But her story was not over; she still walked through pain, suffering, more death, and heartbreak. As she learned to sit at the feet of Jesus and hear His voice she began to heal from depression, self-harm, and her past. 



Listen in to Nadia’s powerful story and know that God still heals, still redeems, and still works today. 



Connect with Nadia Louise: 






YouTube: Nadia Louise (youtube.com)

Instagram:  nadia louise (@itsnadialouise)





Links Mentioned:  







Dancing on the Grave–Naomi Cantwell and Christ for the Nations 
Kiddell (@ohkiddell)
Upperroom (uprmdallas.org)




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From Ruin to Redemption :: Nadia Louise [Ep 459]

Bruce joins me today to discuss 25 years of marriage and answer listener questions like-  What did you learn in year 25 that you wish you knew in year 1? How do you make time for intimacy? How to handle times when your significant other is having a struggle with faith? And, What are you looking forward to when your kids are grown and flown? 



I discuss how I’ve grown in emotional maturity while Bruce talks about how to get out of the ruts and routines of work and family life. We also tackle different personality types and how we handle those when parenting our boys. Teen parenting is hard y’all, there are no formulas but we have learned that teamwork is essential. 



God had been so good and faithful through 25 years of marriage and parenting. Join us today as we share the vulnerable, hard, and good parts of the journey. 



Connect with Bruce: 

Website:  zello.com/about-us

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/bruce-macfadyen/ 


Links Mentioned:  






A Drama Triangle explanation
A Definition of Locus of Control 

Alexander Hamilton by Ron Chernow 

Parenting with Hope: Raising Teens for Christ in a Secular Age: by Melissa B. Kruger 
Shōgun: The Complete Novel: by James Clavell
The Rise and Fall of the Third Reich: A History of Nazi Germany: by William Shirer




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Helping Socially Anxious Boys :: David Thomas [Ep 451]




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Nurturing Your Marriage :: Brent and Janis Sharpe [Ep 299]

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