When children come to us and say '‘I’m sad my friend is moving away’ or ‘I’m sad the holiday is ending’, we often 'but' them: ‘I know, BUT you’re gonna visit your friend next month’ or ‘I see, BUT we’re gonna have another holiday in 3 months' time’.

We might do so because sadness is a difficult, even painful feeling for us to be around. Yet when we BUT our children, several messages unintentionally reach them.

In this episode, Raluca Zagura, a Certified Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor, is talking about the reasons why we feel the need to 'but' our children, what messages reach them when we do so, what our kids need from us and how we can feel more comfortable around sadness.

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NOTE: In this episode, Raluca talks about those moments when children come to us and say 'I'm sad because...' - not about cases of ongoing sadness.

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ABOUT RALUCA ZAGURA:

Hi, dear parent, I am Raluca, a Certified Hand in Hand Parenting Coach/Instructor, and a London-based mum of two, on a mission to support parents to bring more balance and joy into everyday life as a parent and to build connected relationships with their children while healing old wounds.

DISCLAIMER

The information provided in this podcast is based on Raluca Zagura’s training and experience. It is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

After talking, in the previous episode, about how we can use play to support our children conquer their fear of dogs through giggles and laughter, in this episode we are diving deeper and talking about another way in which we can help children release scary feelings, this time through crying, trembling or shaking. 

NOTE: It is HIGHLY recommended for the caregivers to work on building trust, safety, and connection with the child before attempting to use this approach.  

Presenter: Raluca Zagura, Certified Hand in Hand Parenting Coach  

If you prefer:

If, after listening, you have thoughts you would like to share or questions you would like to ask, please feel free to leave a comment or get in touch with me, Raluca Zagura @ Parent by Connection.

Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is based on Raluca Zagura’s training and experience. It is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

The fear of dogs can vary in a child, from them being startled when a dog walks past, to them being terrified and refusing to go to the park because dogs might be there. And we, as loving parents and caregivers, want to see our children being relaxed, loving life and enjoying nature and the animals.

In this episode, we talk about how we can use play to support our children release their scary feelings, and recover emotionally.

If you prefer:

If, after listening, you have thoughts you would like to share or questions you would like to ask, please feel free to leave a comment or get in touch with me, Raluca Zagura @ Parent by Connection.

Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is based on Raluca Zagura’s training and experience. It is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.