Parenting Beyond Discipline

By Erin Royer, MA Clinical Psychology, Child Development Specialist

Education Kids & Family

What's Parenting Beyond Discipline about?

Erin Royer, MA Psy. is the go-to expert on all things parenting and child development for today’s common challenges. Her parenting podcast covers way more than just discipline. She dives into topics such as self-esteem, development and health, modern parenting issues and even education. Erin is not just knowledgeable but also relatable, warm, and sometimes even funny. https://www.yourvillageonline.com

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03.23.2023

Healthy coping skills are the key to riding life's ups and downs, our resilience. Resilient people are happier, more self-confident, take more risks, and therefore achieve more goals. There are healthy (adaptive) and unhealthy (maladaptive) coping strategies. Most of us ...

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03.23.2023 #332: The Do's and Don'ts of Teaching Healthy Coping Skills Healthy coping skills are the key to riding life's ups and downs, our resilience. Resilient people are happier, more self-confident, take more risks, and therefore achieve more goals. There are healthy (adaptive) and unhealthy (maladaptive) coping strategies. Most of us ...
03.16.2023 #331: Why Is Anxiety on the Rise with Kids & What Can We Do? w/Kyle Mitchell Anxiety is on the rise among both youth and adults with a full 32% of teens struggling with some level of anxiety, 9% having an anxiety diagnosis, and 20% of adults having an anxiety-related diagnosis. What tools can we teach ...
03.10.2023 #330: Top Strategies for Getting Kids to Listen & How to Teach Healthy Apologies Very few know how to give a healthy apology and yet it is such an essential skill in all our relationships. In this episode, Erin shares the 3 pieces to a proper apology and how to teach kids how to ...
03.02.2023 #329: "I'm Having Trouble Implementing" So many things make sense in theory but when it comes time to implement, it's a whole different story and parenting is no different. How do we take the strategies from an idea to a real action plan that we ...
02.23.2023 #328: How Simple Mindfulness Tools Can Turn Behavior Around Quickly with Kelly Winkler You may already be parenting using mindfulness techniques in ways you don't even realize! These simple yet effective tools can often get to the bottom of your child's emotional struggles quickly and effectively. Kelly Winkler is a certified yoga instructor, ...
02.16.2023 #327: Our Children's Mental Health Part III - Suicide Prevention & Resources The overall state of children's mental health has been on a drastic decline since even before the pandemic. From 2007 to 2017, pediatric suicide rates tripled. The good news is there is a lot parents can do to help children ...
02.09.2023 #326: Our Children's Mental Health Crisis & What Parents Can Do Part II The overall state of children's mental health has been on a drastic decline since even before the pandemic. From 2007 to 2017, pediatric suicide rates tripled. The good news is there is a lot parents can do to help children ...
02.02.2023 #325: The State of Children's Mental Health & What We Can Do Part I The overall state of children's mental health has been on a drastic decline since even before the pandemic. From 2007 to 2017, pediatric suicide rates tripled. The good news is there is a lot parents can do to help children ...
01.26.2023 #324: How to Defeat Messages That Steal Our Kids Self-Esteem with Melody Pourmaradi We work hard to guide our kids in developing a strong sense of self and solid self confidence. But the world is full of influences and messages that, as kids age, we will have less and less ability to control. ...
01.19.2023 #323: Critical Building Blocks of Self-Confidence Did you know there are fundamental outcomes for each stage/age to support your child's development of self-confidence? Self esteem is a fundamental component to life happiness and success. It helps us weather life's ups and downs with more ease and ...
01.12.2023 #322: Do Not Make The Same Mistake I Did! I made a huge mistake this past year, both a parenting and a personal one. In this episode I share not only my mistake but the other common mistakes we parents often make that can affect how effectively we parent ...
01.05.2023 #321: The Wonder of Bonding & Attachment Bonding is the vehicle by which we form and maintain strong attachments in relationships. This is something we do all throughout life, and therefore all throughout our children's childhood (and beyond), not just in the first months or years. The ...
12.29.2022 #320: Help! My Child is Lacking Discipline in School! How do you help your young child learn to follow rules and expectations in school when you aren't there? A dad feels in over his head in helping his bright and precocious daughter make better choices when he's not there ...
12.23.2022 #319: My Parenting Journey (so far) with guest Carter (my oldest son) What does it take to raise a child who is confident, kind, and responsible, a child who you know will make good choices and will grow into the amazing person they are meant to be, even as they start to ...
12.15.2022 #318: The Power of Play for Optimal Development, Happiness & Success Play is so much more than just a stress break! Play is the basis for development and growth: emotional, social, cognitive, physical and language, especially in the earlier years. But play benefits kids learning and development way later than we ...
12.08.2022 #317: The One Thing ALL Kids Need & How to Provide It What is the one things all kids need to thrive? Love? of course! But there is something else all kids need that isn't always easy to see, understand or give when they are pushing our buttons, when they are struggling ...
12.01.2022 #316: The Amazing Benefits of Gentle Parenting w/ GentleHealingMom KJ KJ know as @gentlehealingmom, has built a community of over 100,000 followers on Instagram due to her incredible content and authentic bravery to which so many parents can relate. KJ is on a journey to heal her childhood trauma and ...
11.24.2022 #315: Discipline Tools Not Working with Strong-Willed Toddler (re-run) Toddlers can be so incredibly resourceful and shrewd, which is great when it comes to problem-solving but maddening for a parent trying to set boundaries and expectations. What do you do when discipline tools don't work? During this holiday week, ...
11.17.2022 #314: Who Is Your Child Becoming & What Is Your Role? Every parent knows from the earliest day that their child(ren) are unique individuals. Ask any parent to describe their child, even in late infancy and early toddlerhood and they'll give you the most amazing adjectives: curious, friendly, creative, funny, precocious, ...
11.10.2022 #313: Drop Impossible Standards & The Guilt w/ Heather Chauvin TEDx Speaker and author Heather Chauvin was dying to be a good mother and it almost killed her, literally. Hear her inspirational story of transformation of mindset to understanding one not need to be "perfect" to be a great parent. ...
11.03.2022 #312: 3 Best Tips on How to Make "No" Easier It's hard to say "no" even when we know it's for the best, whether it's because of not wanting to deal with big reactions, or see our kids upset or experience their negative feelings towards us. There are ways to ...
10.27.2022 #311: What Message Do You Want to Send? How do you help guide a child who has a big aspect to their personality? Big emotions? Big excitement? Deep feelings? Big ideas? Deeply passionate? As parents we are well aware of expectations at school and out in the world. ...
10.20.2022 #310: Help! I've Fallen Behind in My Parenting (and I Don't Know How to Catch Up!) A mom with a 6 year old hasn't set up any discipline or expectations in the home as of yet. She feels so overwhelmed now, she doesn't know where to start. At some point or another, we all feel like ...
10.13.2022 #309: Is Your Child's School Crushing Them or Inspiring Them? with Dr. Eric Chagala This really is a must-listen episode for any parent who want to offer the best school experience for their child that they possibly can. Whether your kids are still really young or already in school, you will want to listen ...
10.06.2022 #308: Raising Courageous Kids While Allowing Them to Stay True to Themselves Parents know, letting fear stop us can really hold us back in life. We can each think of a time in childhood we wish we had overcome, or overcome the fear sooner and stepped into being more brave. Being brave ...
09.29.2022 #307: Building & Maintaining a Strong Connection for Life Even though parenting goals are going to differ, most parent share the common goal to build and maintain a relationship with their child(ren) of trust, safety and connection. This means creating and maintaining the relationship in such a way that ...
09.22.2022 #306: The Anger Episode Anger in parenting often feels so loaded & unacceptable. But every emotion has a purpose. Learning how to accept them, hear the message they are sending and then use them for the positive is what emotional competence is all about. ...
09.15.2022 #305: How to Help Kids Overcome Negativity Negativity in kids can show up in 2 ways, what appears to be opposition or refusal and negative self-talk/self-sabotage. These two are actually linked and can be greatly reduced with one change in approach. I cover this along with additional ...
09.08.2022 #304: 6 Common Areas of Parental Guilt & How to Overcome Them It seems like guilt in parenting is just par for the course. We come into this journey with so many expectations, hopes, and goals about the way we will parent, but when the reality of day-to-day parenting sets in, we ...
09.01.2022 #303: The Truth About Healthy Child Boundaries When toddlers & kids set boundaries, it can often come across as rude and off-putting. Believe or not, many times kids are actually setting healthy boundaries for themselves, just not using the best skillset! In this episode I discuss what ...
08.25.2022 #302: One Simple Tool to Build Self-Esteem, Cooperation, Growth Mindset & Independence If you want to learn one simple tool, that builds healthy self-esteem, a growth mindset, a sense of independence & responsibility, and improves cooperation, for kids of all ages, this is a not-to-miss episode! This is my favorite tool because ...
08.18.2022 #301: Helping Kids (& Adults too!) Learn to Manage Big Feelings Toddlers aren't the only ones who have big feelings. Kids of all ages and adults too, have big feelings. Emotional competence is the key to managing these feelings in positive ways. Emotional competence or intelligence is the a keystone to ...
08.11.2022 #300: Tools for Fixing Too Many Tantrums & Clinginess Toddler behavior can be overwhelming and even baffling. In this episode I share some basics of toddler behavior so you can more easily decode it, as well as ideas for improvement. Once we can decode it, we can make a ...
08.04.2022 #299: How to Support Kids Healthy Striving without Perfectionism A healthy for personal growth and goals is a good thing, while perfectionism is push to be and do everything perfectly, an impossible standard. Perfectionism often comes from a fear of judgement and research shows perfectionism is far more nurture ...
07.28.2022 #298: 4 Key Areas to Help Kids Build Independence The more capable our kids become, the easier it is on us and them too! Here are 4 common areas I see parents waiting or avoiding teaching independence that can cause a lot of frustration throughout their parenting journey and ...
07.21.2022 #297: 4 Common Expectations That Cause Frustration and What to Do About Them These are 4 common expectations that can cause a lot of frustration for parents. But armed with the right information, these can be a lot easier to manage. In this episode I cover these 4 very common expectations and what ...
07.14.2022 #296: 6 Ways to Rise Above Parenting Frustration Frustration in parenting is normal. But with some tools we can eliminate or minimize a lot of it, leaving more room for joy and connection. In this episode I cover 6 different ways you can address the frustrating moments so ...
07.07.2022 #295: 3 Reasons to Let Go of Guilt Around Screen-time Media is everywhere. It's almost impossible to avoid. Are there some pitfalls and dangers? Of course, just like any other area of life. This is a quickly evolving landscape and it's only going to evolve faster. We can both protect ...
06.30.2022 #294: How Full Are Your Emotional Bank Accounts? Did you know you have an emotional bank account for every relationship? We have different accounts with each of our kids, our partner, friends, our own parents, colleagues... In this episode Erin talks about the concept of the emotional bank ...
06.23.2022 #293: How to Turn Bossy, Controlling Behavior to Empowered & Polite Kids Is your toddler, child or teen sometimes bossy, controlling, throws attitude or tries to get their way by communicating in ways you don't like? If you want to raise strong, independent children who know how to advocate for their wants ...
06.16.2022 #292: How to Raise Kids Who Are Both Spirited & Respectful: Part II Do you wonder how you can allow your child the room to discover and be their true selves and still be respectful & cooperative too? In this continuation from episode #290 where I shared how to set up positive open-ended ...
06.09.2022 #291: How to Raise Emotionally Intelligent Humans with Alyssa Blask Campbell Emotional intelligence gives us and our kids freedom to choose how we want to show up in the world. Emotional intelligence is such an important attribute to develop early in life. But most of us didn't have this kind of ...
06.03.2022 #290: How to Raise Kids Who Are Both Spirited & Respectful Does your toddler or child have a lot of big ideas, a light that shines bright and a lot of spirit? Are you trying to figure out how to best make space for these bigger than life attributes but still ...
05.26.2022 #289: How Can We Protect Our Kids from Gun Violence? School shootings are nothing new. As parents we can feel so powerless when the issue continues with little to progress on programs and policy. In this episode, I cover the basics of talking to kids. But beyond that, I share ...
05.19.2022 #288: Freeing Our Children from Co-Dependent Patterns: Part II Co-dependence is rampant in modern society, with studies showing 90-96% of adults exhibit some level of co-dependence. Because children do need parents to varying degrees throughout childhood, it can be difficult to parse out healthy parent-child connection to when it ...
05.12.2022 #287: Freeing Our Kids from Co-Dependent Patterns Part I Co-dependence is rampant, with studies showing 90-96% of adults exhibit some level of co-dependence. Because children do need parents to varying degrees throughout childhood, it can be difficult to parse out healthy parent-child connection to when it spills over to ...
05.05.2022 #286: Breaking Our Children Free from Unhealthy Cycles As parents, we get the opportunity to teach our kids what we wish we knew earlier in life. Starting with the foundation of positive discipline, we can break unhealthy relationship cycles. Once this foundation is in place, we can move ...
04.28.2022 #285: How to Raise Shame Resilient Kids Allowing the voices of shame to have power can hold us back from fully showing up for ourselves and others in our lives. What if we could help our kids learn how to mitigate shame from their earliest days so ...
04.21.2022 #284: 3 Steps to Conquer Parenting Shame Shame comes from feeling "not enough" and is often perpetuated by beliefs in societal norms that are misguided and dangerous. All parents are susceptible to parenting shame but the pressure moms feel to be perfectly present and connected is especially ...
04.15.2022 #283: Self-Esteem: Surprising Pitfalls and What to Do Instead Research shows girls self-esteem peaks at age 9 and that boys self-esteem has also fallen in recent decades. The reasons are varied but there is a lot that parents can do to foster a strong baseline for self-esteem in their ...

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