Paula Grooms is a Dating and Relationship Coach and also a Master's level Social Worker with nearly 20 years of professional experience.  Her new book Why Won't He Commit?: How a Man Decides to Make You "The One," helps women in love become "the one," in one year or less, all without sacrificing, struggling, or settling!

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When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

Paula thought that men commit from love alone. When she felt that love from a man she put that filter through her own. Women view commitment as an outgrowth of love, whereas men view commitment as a responsibility. Paula was with a man for many years and was making concessions for the actions he was giving her because she felt she understood him. 

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Here on Speaking of Partnership, Ken Bechtel interviews leaders from all walks of life such as Alison Armstrong, Drs. Joy and Roy Martina, Ken Page, Dr. Margaret Paul, Bryan Reeves about their personal trip ups and triumphs in partnership.  Whether you are looking to create or enhance a personal, professional, romantic or family partnership, Speaking of Partnership is for you.  Our guest open up and share stories, often never revealed before, about their biggest trip up and their proudest moment in partnership.  We wrap up each show with specific guidance and resources you can apply immediately to take your partnerships to the next level.

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Do you follow your “Yes?” Following your “Yes” is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week. On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week. Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.  Enjoy! Pablo Rosario Not Following – Pablo relates back to a four and a half year relationship he had in his early 20’s. He says that it should have been much shorter than that. As it progressed, things were going downhill. It was getting to the point where his partner was being a bad teammate. He kept debating on whether to leave or not.  Find out what happened next by listening to the show. Following – This situation ended up being one of the turning points in Pablo’s life. He left all of his relationships and ended up moving to the other side of the country. He got a job offer in California. He is from New Jersey and knew nobody in California. He decided right away that he was going to move.  Find out what happened next by listening to the show. Listen to Pablo’s full interview here Connect with Pablo – His Website Instagram    Reba Riley Not Following – This is when Reba decided to go into business with her best friend. Her “yes” was that she needed to tell her friend the truth, but she didn’t do that. Because of this, they ended up losing their friendship for a year. Find out more by listening to the episode. Following – With Reba’s book, “Post-Traumatic Church Syndrome”, she was originally with another publisher. She ended up getting an opportunity to meet with another agent. Meeting with this agent was going to take travel and time, but she had a strong sense that she needed to do this. She ended up meeting with the agent and it ended up being one of the best decisions she’s ever made. Find out what happened next by listening to the interview. Listen to Reba’s full interview here Connect with Reba – Her Website Instagram Facebook Twitter

Follow Your “Yes” – Stepping out of those toxic environments

Reba Riley is the author of the Simon & Schuster bestselling memoir “Post-Traumatic Church Syndrome: one woman’s desperate, funny, and healing journey through 30 religions before her 30th birthday”  She has overcome chronic illness, depression, and spiritual injury & now travels nationally speaking on the topics of healing, courage, and radical kindness. Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra Brave is a verb. Kindness cures. Love is bigger than everything. When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership One of Reba’s biggest “trip ups” came with her best friend. They had decided that they were going to start a business together and it didn’t go well. This was about ten years ago and they had a great idea. What they discovered in the process is that they’re fantastic friends but horrible in working together. What tripped her up was that she felt like she couldn’t be honest at times with her friend. Find out what happened next by listening to the show. Your Proudest Moment in Partnership One of Reba’s proudest moments in partnership came with her editor for her book, ‘Post Traumatic Church Syndrome’. What her editor did was take her raw talent and experience, and taught her how to craft it into a story. In a period of over 18 months, her editor did everything in her power to help her along the way. Nearing the end, Reba asked her for her honest opinion on what she thought of the book and everything, and she replied with “I’m so happy and proud to have my name involved with this book.” Find out what happened next by listening to the show. The Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received Love is bigger than everything. And a funny marriage one – Separate bank accounts, separate bathrooms.  A Book or Resource That You Recommend Post Traumatic Church Syndrome – Reba Riley The 5 Love Languages – Dr. Gary Chapman Interview Links – Her Website Instagram Facebook Twitter

Reba Riley – Are you proud of the partnership that you’re in?

Pablo Rosario is a men’s relationship coach and speaker with over 6 years of experience helping executives, business owners, and CEO’s find more fulfilling relationships. With a background in psychology, and neuro-linguistic programming, he specializes in the topics of relationships, communication, overcoming inner conflict, passion and confidence, and has helped hundreds of men find happiness and fulfillment in their relationships and life. Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra It’s you and me versus everyone else. I envision my partner and I being a team. When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership Pablo reminders a time when he was younger, around 22 years old, and he was in a relationship. He was in the process of trying out something new where he would speak his mind, would be more honest, and wouldn’t hold back. He told the woman he was dating that he thought she was wearing too much makeup. This didn’t go so well. Find out what happened next by listening to the show. What is the Biggest Thing That Men “Trip Up” on with Women? Pablo explains that the biggest thing men “trip up” on with women is vulnerability. Pablo struggled with this in the past as well. For a lot of men, it makes them really uncomfortable. Men have this idea that they’re not allowed to show it. Find out more about this topic by listening to the show. The Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received Your partner is not a mind reader.  A Book or Resource That You Recommend Getting the Love You Want – Harville Hendrix The Truth – Neil Strauss  Interview Links – His Website Instagram  His email

Pablo Rosario – Your partner is not a mind reader

Do you follow your “Yes?” Following your “Yes” is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week. On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week. Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.  Enjoy! Greg Lee & Antonia Van Becker Not Following – From a young age Greg was able to help people relieve themselves from pain; he always knew what to do. So, he studied massage therapy and he also had a huge passion for music. He felt like he was really having trouble making money with it. Throughout the next 9 years, Greg tried different positions but was never truly in love with any of the positions, and he knew that.  It started to take a toll on him, getting aches and pains, and then ended up getting quite sick. Around the same time he was fired from his position. Although all of it was a shock, it was a wake up call for him to follow his passions. From there, things started to fall into place. Find out what happened next by listening to the show. Following – Back at the end of Antonia’s corporate job in the 90’s, she had a vision in a healing session she had with a healing mentor. She could not get the vision out of her mind so Antonia started writing.  She kept writing and writing, and she pinned pointed the vision was taking place in Ireland. So, she decided to go to Ireland. She wanted to figure out where this book was set. Find out what happened next by listening to the show. Listen to Greg and Antonia’s full interview here Connect with them – Their Website  3 Powerful Ways To Tap Into Your Body’s Wisdom FB Group – Vibrant Healing Wisdom Niajae Wallace Not Following – One of the biggest things Niajae would recommend is really checking in with yourself. What do you want? What are your desires? And hold onto your identity. Try to quiet the noise. With social media we’re constantly comparing ourselves. We’re constantly looking for someone else to answer your own questions.  Niajae started meditating to balance out her life. Before she started doing this she felt like her life was chaotic.  Find out more by listening to the episode. Following – Niajae relates back to when she decided to sell her brick and mortar business. She wasn’t able to do all of the things she truly desired with this business so she followed that intuition to sell it.  When this happened she was able to follow her desires. Listen to Niajae’s full interview here Connect with Niajae – Her Website  Facebook  Instagram

Follow Your “Yes” – Try to quiet the noise

Niajae is a coach and motivational speaker that believes you can have it all. She coaches entrepreneurs to help them step into their power and inspires through her mindset and self-development podcast named Abundance Hack. Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra You can’t pour from an empty cup. You have to take care of you first. When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership Niajae has been single for a good part of her adult life. Niajae does a lot of research and realized that she was neglecting unconditional love and acceptance because of her upbringing. Her biggest “trip up” is getting into relationships before she has dealt with her own personal traumas, many of them relating to her childhood. Find out what happened next by listening to the show. Your Proudest Moment in Partnership During the time when Niajae was selling her business, there was a moment nearing the end where she started to cry. At that same moment, her teammates were also crying and they had this huge group hug together that was very touching. Although they were all crying, it was a very proud moment knowing that they’ve made a very positive impact.  The Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received Knowing your partner’s love language and being able it speak it fluently.  A Book or Resource That You Recommend Attached – Amir Levine Interview Links – Her Website  Facebook  Instagram

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