Personal Growth Jackass – How to Tell if Optimization is a Distraction

Self Development: How to Tell if Optimization Has You Playing Small

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Today I want to talk to you about the personal growth jackass. It’s a trap I see certain guys falling into whenever they get fired up about exercise, diet, meditation, and personal growth stuff.

In case you don’t know who I am, I’m Tripp Lanier. For over 12 years I’ve spent thousands of hours coaching folks to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were put on this earth to do. And for more than a decade, I’ve hosted The New Man Podcast which has been downloaded millions of times and can be found on iTunes or Stitcher. And for what I’m about to say, keep whatever works for you and discard the rest.

Alright — let’s talk about the personal growth jackass trap I mentioned. Consider this scenario:

Our guy has been living life a certain way. Maybe he’s gotten overweight. He’s been in a dead-end relationship but he’s been too scared to get out. His work schedule has him feeling too tired and uninspired to do anything interesting with his free time. He’s on a lousy trajectory, and he’s bummed because he thought he would be on a different trajectory at this point in his life. Sound familiar?

And then one day something shifts. Maybe he hears a podcast, watches a video, goes to some event and BAM! now he’s fired up to make some changes.

He’s researching when and how to eat. How to exercise so he can maximize his effort. How to meditate the best way. He gets to work and starts to make some changes. He’s devouring information. He’s an optimization rock star.

Now the good news is that he’s looking different and feeling better. But he’s also starting to get lost in all the effort to optimize himself. This is where our guy can easily fall into a trap when he allows the practices themselves to become the focus of his life.

I think Kenny Powers may have said it best:

Kenny Powers

“I play real sports. Not trying to be the best at exercising.”

There’s a name for this guy — it’s the personal growth jackass. I know this well because I’m a recovering personal growth jackass.

You see, the personal growth jackass loses site of the purpose for all this growth, the reason why we tune our bodies and our mindset.

The personal growth jackass makes optimization a performance — look at how well I’m meditating and working out! Look at how many books I’ve read! Look at how much I’m doing!

His life becomes about the growth instead of having the growth be in service of the life he wants.

Here’s an example: I was coaching a guy who loved to tell me about his exercise routines. How he had optimized his diet so that he was ketogenic. How he was meditating with the latest heart rate variability technology. He would tell me how he would listen to audiobooks and podcasts at 2 X speed — and he was devouring multiple books at a time.

He loved the experience of feeling like he was doing great things with his body and mind. He loved the experience of feeling like he was smart. And that’s fine. That’s great.

But here’s the deal: When it came to his life, his biggest stressors were at his business and in his relationships. He was muting his own wants and needs to keep the peace. He was out of touch with what he really wanted to create with his life.

In a way,