07.27.2020 - By Katayune Kaeni, Psy.D., PMH-C
Perinatal mood and anxiety disorder can leave you feeling lost, alone, and confused by the symptoms. This is why it’s so important that we hear personal stories of others that show us we are not alone.
Alisa Pastecki is a Sales Executive for a network equipment and services provider that works with telecommunications companies all over the US and Canada. She lives in Batavia, NY--just outside of Buffalo--with her husband Doug, two-year-old daughter Gloria, and their dog Lily. The family spends as much time outdoors as possible, enjoying hiking and camping. After the birth of her daughter, Alisa suffered from postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD. She has since realized just how important it is to raise our voices in the fight against maternal health stigmas, and she wants to help normalize PMADs for moms in her community.
Show Highlights:
How depression and OCD tendencies began for Alisa even before she was pregnant
Trying to conceive, an endometriosis diagnosis, surgery, and plans for IVF
An unexpected pregnancy just in the nick of time led to insensitive comments by a nurse that escalated Alisa’s anxiety about the pregnancy
With an easy pregnancy, Alisa’s daughter was born full-term, but Alisa’s anxiety kept escalating with the pressure of her doubt in second-guessing every decision
Midwife and doula plans, induced labor, painful procedures, and a C-section
What Alisa wishes she had done differently
Why Alisa had never been so scared before as she was during her C-section
Problems with breastfeeding and weight loss for her baby
How Alisa felt about being constantly bombarded with a black and white approach to each obstacle she faced
Problems with OCD, disconnected feelings, and anxiety in the first few postpartum weeks
How the anger and rage set in for Alisa and led to irrational fears about her daughter
How intrusive thoughts began around three months postpartum
How Alisa stumbled onto the PSI (Postpartum Support International) website and found helpful resources
How Alisa found a therapist who let her know that she would be OK; now, two years later, she is still working with that therapist who provided her the tools and meds to change her life
The difference that therapy and medications made in giving Alisa confidence as a new mom
Lessons learned for Alisa:
Many medical practitioners aren’t sufficiently educated on postpartum care, so you need to find a doctor who understands PMADs
Reach out to peers and a support group who will honestly open up about the bad and ugly of the postpartum experience
Be vocal and help break the stigma around mental health issues
Resources:
Alisa Pastecki
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