* Proverbs 5 talks about the pitfalls of immorality.

* Then in the middle it talks about experiencing sexual satisfaction with your spouse.

* vs 18-19 - You will be satisfied by your spouse if you just “let it” happen.

* But how?

* Solomon bookends this instruction with two keys - the twin pillars of sexual satisfaction:

* 1) Discipline (vs 12) - doing what you don’t want to accomplish what you do want.

* A disciplined person endures temporary pain for permanent gain.

* Solomon’s picture of discipline - Proverbs 6:6, the ant!

* It’s always working and consistently diligent.

* 2) Self Control (vs 23) - walking in authority over your life.

* A self-controlled person is not led by his emotions or his flesh.

* He doesn’t allow his environment to change his behavior.

* He’s a person of character - doing what’s right as God defines right regardless of the cost.

* KEY - If a man is disciplined in his thought life and self-controlled in his actions he will experience joy in sex with his wife.

* You have the negative and positive aspects of discipline and self-control:

* Negative - You cannot think lustful thoughts or speak hurtful words or do hurtful deeds.

* Positive - You need to think good thoughts and speak kind words and do kind deeds.

* Sex then becomes about what you can GIVE and not what you can GET.

* This, my friend, will bring sex to a whole “nutha” level!