Pure Desire Podcast

Pure Desire Podcast episodes:

• 04.23.2024

  355 - Porn & Mental Health

  The term “mental health” can be fuzzy. Are we talking about anxiety? Depression? Something more? All of the above?  Ben Bennett joins us today to talk about the connection between viewing pornography and mental health issues. Ben speaks of porn’s role...

  
• 04.16.2024

  354 - Healthy Communication

  We all know communication is important. But what does healthy communication look like for a couple on the recovery and healing journey? Shari Chinchen, a Pure Desire Clinician, joins us today to discuss what makes communication healthy or unhealthy. We...

  
• 04.09.2024

  353 - Becoming A Compassionate Warrior

  Many men who’ve been through the Pure Desire recovery process have asked, “What’s after Seven Pillars of Freedom?” Well, today’s episode is all about answering this question. Clinician and speaker, Robert Vander Meer, joins us to talk about our new...

  
• 04.02.2024

  352 - Stories From The Church: Faith Chapel

  Today, we get to hear from Robert Nelson and Annie Burt (staff members at Faith Chapel in Billings, Montana). Robert and Annie talk us through their journey of implementing Pure Desire groups and resources at Faith Chapel. We talk through...

  
• 03.26.2024

  351 - FAQ #17

  Today’s episode is one of our favorites! We have another Frequently Asked Questions episode where you, the listener, has sent in topical questions for us to discuss. We are joined by Traci Wright, one of our beloved clinicians, to talk...

  
• 03.19.2024

  350 - Slippery Slopes

  Though true healing and freedom from sexual addiction and brokenness is possible, it doesn’t mean the journey will be easy. The world we live in is still hyper-sexualized and full of things that can pull us away from health. On...

  
• 03.12.2024

  349 - PTSD & Betrayal

  Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is often associated with major trauma—wartime experiences, rape, and abuse. Studies increasingly show that PTSD is also experienced by betrayed partners. Rather than ignore or minimize it, let’s do something about it.

  
• 03.05.2024

  348 - 7 Lies That Will Ruin Your Life w/ Joshua Broome

  For those who regularly listen to the show, we have a return guest. This guy has shared his story about the journey from porn star to a pastor. Today, we’re excited to have Joshua Broome back on the show to talk...

  
• 02.27.2024

  347 - Living UnDEFILED w/ Matt McCaulley & Kevin Whisman

  We know sex trafficking exists in our world and is a growing problem. But it’s not something that’s talked about in many faith communities. On today’s episode, we’re going to talk about it! We’re thrilled to have Matt McCaulley and Kevin...

  
• 02.20.2024

  346 - Myth Busters: Marriage Will Fix It

  “Just wait until I get married, then it will all get better.” These words have either been said or thought by many of us in the church. We assume being married and having sex with our spouse will rid us...

  
• 02.13.2024

  345 - In Sickness & In Health

  When addiction, brokenness, and betrayal enter a marriage, it can significantly impact a couple’s sexual relationship. Unfortunately, sexual brokenness and betrayal are not the only things that can hijack a couple’s sex life.  On today’s episode, we’re joined by Brent and...

  
• 02.06.2024

  344 - The Order Of Intimacy w/ Phil & Priscilla Fretwell

  For many of us who are on the recovery and healing journey, understanding the full scope of intimacy can be confusing. If you’re in this camp, you won’t want to miss this episode! We are excited to have Phil and...

  
• 01.30.2024

  343 - Preventing Relapse (Principles of Recovery)

  Relapse is returning to the place we promised God, ourselves, or others we wouldn’t go back to. So preventing relapse is a worthy goal. But can relapse be prevented proactively and practically? The answer: yes. On today’s episode, Mike Maxwell...

  
• 01.23.2024

  342 - Honesty In Community (Principles of Recovery)

  It’s difficult to understate the importance of community in recovery. But honesty in community isn’t easy. It requires intention and a willingness to be fully known. Dishonesty leads to shame and isolation. Honesty leads to freedom. Brent Breining, a Pure...

  
• 01.16.2024

  341 - Healing Our Trauma (Principles of Recovery)

  Unprocessed trauma has a way of making itself known. Triggers reveal areas in our life where something isn’t quite right. If we’re not willing to address these areas, they can become a major obstacle in our relationships, workplace advancement, and...

  
• 01.09.2024

  340 - Addressing Our Shame (Principles of Recovery)

  Shame is often used as a motivator. But shame only motivates us to do one thing: hide. Shame causes us to hide because we start to believe the lie that our mistakes and missteps are proof that we are disqualified...

  
• 01.02.2024

  339 - Breaking Free From Isolation (Principles of Recovery)

  Solitude is an intentional time alone for renewal and centering yourself on God. Isolation is a pattern of disengaging from or intentionally not engaging in relationship with others. In this episode, we identify what isolation is, how it’s different from...

  
• 12.26.2023

  338 - 'Tis The Season: Attainable Goals

  When we get toward the end of the year, setting new goals perpetually comes up. Why is this? And how can we create goals we’ll actually stick to? Our clinical director, Tyler Chinchen, joins us on today’s episode to talk...

  
• 12.19.2023

  337 - ‘Tis The Season: Proactive Self-Care

  Self-care isn’t selfish. Yet, establishing rhythms of self-care can impact the people around us both positively and negatively. If we want to practice proactive self-care, it will require an intentional, thought-out plan that is communicated to our loved ones. Kelly...

  
• 12.12.2023

  336 - ‘Tis The Season: Healthy Conflict

  What is it about the holiday season that makes conflict more likely? It seems inevitable. So how can we engage in conflict in a healthy way? In today’s episode, Ashley Jameson helps unpack strategies for healthy conflict (even if you’re...

  
• 12.05.2023

  335 - ‘Tis The Season: Being Assertive

  The holidays are packed with clashing expectations in relationships. Assertiveness is one of the tools we can use to navigate these challenging situations. Being assertive doesn’t mean being aggressive—it simply means clearly communicating your needs to others. In this episode,...

  
• 11.28.2023

  334 - Healthy Sex Life (REPLAY)

  This week’s episode wraps up our “oldy but goody” episodes. Today, we revisit our conversation with Heather Kolb on a healthy sex life. Everyone wants a healthy sex life. Period. But what does it actually mean to have one? How...

  
• 11.21.2023

  333 - Making A Better Commitment to Change (REPLAY)

  We’re in week two of our three-week “oldy but goody” series of episodes. We revisit our conversation with Ashley Jameson on making a better Commitment to Change. The Commitment to Change (CTC) is a weekly tool that Pure Desire groups...

  
• 11.14.2023

  332 - Father Wound (REPLAY)

  This episode starts three weeks of “oldy but goody” episodes from the podcast. This week, we revisit our conversation with our founder, Dr. Ted Roberts on father wounds. We discuss what a father wound is, how it compares to a...

  
• 11.07.2023

  331 - Happily Even After w/ Dannah Gresh

  When discovery happens in a marriage, a bomb goes off. Life is shattered into a million pieces and you question, “Is redemption even possible?” Author of the new book, Happily Even After, Dannah Gresh, joins us on the podcast today....

  
• 10.31.2023

  330 - Stories From The Church: Eastview Christian Church

  Churches new to Pure Desire and interested in launching groups often face hurdles and feel intimidated. Yet, there are hundreds of churches helping men and women find hope and healing through Pure Desire groups. In this episode, Eastview Church leadership...

  
• 10.24.2023

  329 - Discipling Our Kids Sexually w/ Kristen A. Jenson

  We teach our kids how to clean their teeth and eat food. Yet when it comes to teaching healthy sexuality, we often feel lost. Kristen Jenson (author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures) has worked to help parents teach their kids...

  
• 10.17.2023

  328 - How To Find A Counselor

  Some people have a difficult time reconciling therapy with their faith. They see it as personal weakness at best and distance from God at worst. But Christians who become healthy through counseling are a gift to the world! Rodney Wright...

  
• 10.10.2023

  327 - Recovery & Healing Milestones

  Milestones are really important to those recovering from addiction or healing from betrayal trauma. But Milestones aren’t always helpful or beneficial. In this episode, Ashley Jameson joins us to discuss how to identify and measure milestones, which milestones might be...

  
• 10.03.2023

  326 - Telling Your Story Effectively

  Everyone has a story that is uniquely theirs. When we hear someone’s story we begin to understand how pain and trauma entered their life. We can connect the dots in their story from pain to healing and realize–we’re not alone....

  
• 09.26.2023

  325 - The 5 Brain Bugs

  Relapse can happen anytime. Whether you’re in year two or 25 of recovery. In The Compassionate Warrior, this is attributed to 5 Brain Bugs. Rich Moore joins us today to discuss what these 5 Brain Bugs are, how to identify...

  
• 09.19.2023

  324 - Help! I’m In A Sexless Marriage.

  When your spouse doesn’t want to have sex, you likely feel alone and lost. When you’re the one who is uninterested in sex, you may not even understand why. However, in a healthy marriage where addiction and betrayal aren’t present,...

  
• 09.12.2023

  323 - Myth Busters: I Can Do This Alone

  It’s common for people to think they can recover from their addiction or stop their behaviors on their own. Unfortunately, that just isn’t how recovery works. Community is a necessity for lasting healing and freedom. Harry Flanagan joins us today...

  
• 09.05.2023

  322 - Recovery & Healing From The Heart

  In this episode, we talked about the theme of the Pure Desire Summit 2023, From The Heart. Why we chose this theme, its importance to the recovery journey, why people should attend, and more. We hope you’re planning to join...

  
• 08.29.2023

  321 - The Toxic War On Masculinity w/ Nancy Pearcey

  If you ask 1000 people what it means to be masculine, you’ll likely get 1000 different answers. Masculinity is often associated with strength, anger, and dominance. But that’s not at all how Jesus modeled masculinity. Nancy Pearcey is back with...

  
• 08.22.2023

  320 - Growing Our Emotional Intelligence

  Emotional awareness and emotional intelligence go hand-in-hand. But emotional intelligence can feel elusive. In today’s episode, Heather Kolb helps us understand how to grow in emotional intelligence and its importance in the recovery process.

  
• 08.15.2023

  319 - Talking With Your Young Kids About Sex

  Many parents have a genuine desire to teach their kids how to navigate their sexuality in a way that is more helpful than they were taught. But most parents don’t even know where or how to begin talking with their...

  
• 08.08.2023

  318 - Stories Of Healing: Josh & Shawna Putnam

  Josh was no stranger to the limelight as a worship leader and musician. But being caught with pornography was a type of exposure that wasn't invited. Yet it was the beginning of a journey toward true healing and freedom that...

  
• 08.01.2023

  317 - Reparenting Our Inner Child with Dr. Eddie Capparucci

  The concept of reparenting your inner child strikes people in different ways. Some are skeptical and others are raving fans of the approach. On today’s podcast, we’re joined by Dr. Eddie Capparucci to discuss his work in this area. We...

  
• 07.25.2023

  316 - The Power Of Sharing Our Story w/ Ashley Sears

  Our stories have incredible power. But why is that? What is it about sharing our stories that is so impactful? On today’s episode, we are joined by the founder of Stories Unveiled, Ashley Sears. Ashley helps us understand why stories...

  
• 07.18.2023

  315 - Marriage, Relationships, & Sex w/ Dr. Les Parrott

  Relationships are at the center of each part of our lives. And few things impact our relationships like unwanted sexual behavior and betrayal trauma. In this episode, best-selling author, speaker, and professor, Dr. Les Parrott joins us with practical tools...

  
• 07.11.2023

  314 - FAQ #16: Church

  Churches and volunteers passionate about Pure Desire Groups face a number of challenges when starting out. Today, Rodney Wright joins us to share best practices from his experience launching and maintaining a thriving Pure Desire Groups ministry. From preaching tips...

  
• 07.04.2023

  313 - From Co-Addict Model To A Partner-Sensitive Approach

  As new research emerges and becomes mainstream, it’s important that our approach remains current. This is the heart behind the recent update to our resource for women, Betrayal & Beyond. In this episode, Heather Kolb and Ashley Jameson share the...

  
• 06.27.2023

  312 - Addressing Porn In The Church w/ Sam Black

  Pornography undermines every ministry in a local church. Sam Black, author of The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong About Pornography And How To Fix It (GIVEAWAY IN SHOW NOTES), joins us to take an honest look at the harmful...

  
• 06.20.2023

  311 - Rewiring Our Brains Sexually

  Unwanted sexual behavior and betrayal trauma have a profound impact on the brain. But the brain is amazing and can be rewired! Heather Kolb joins us for this episode with tips and tools for rewiring our brain sexually. We discuss...

  
• 06.13.2023

  310 - Stories From The Church: Petra Church

  Launching Pure Desire groups at your church can feel intimidating at first. In this episode, we start a new series: Stories From The Church. Our first episode in this new series, we spoke with the team responsible for successfully implementing...

  
• 06.06.2023

  309 - Confidentiality & Mandatory Reporting

  Confidentiality is critically important in the group setting. So is protecting victims and vulnerable populations through mandatory reporting. On today’s episode, we talk with Rich Moore about how to strike a balance between confidentiality and mandated reporting, how to proactively...

  
• 05.30.2023

  308 - From Porn Star To Pastor w/ Joshua Broome

  The path from an award-winning porn star to a pastor just doesn’t make sense. But that’s the path God paved for our guest today, Joshua Broome (cofounder of Share the King). We talk to Joshua about how he got into...

  
• 05.23.2023

  307 - Betrayal As A Pastor's Wife w/ Michelle Stumbo

  The devastation created through betrayal trauma can turn a partner’s world upside down and impact them in a way they never imagined. But what does healing from betrayal trauma look like if your spouse is in a public position—doctor, teacher,...

  
• 05.16.2023

  306 - Racism & Sexual Brokenness w/ Immanuel & Michelle Garraway

  The more we seek to understand the factors that impact sexual brokenness, the more we recognize how racism can be a contributing factor. But how does racism impact sexual brokenness? On today’s episode, we’re joined by Immanuel and Michelle Garraway,...