RISE Together Podcast

By Rachel & Dave Hollis

Health

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HOSTED BY RACHEL HOLLIS AND DAVE HOLLIS THE RISE TOGETHER PODCAST IS MORE THAN JUST A CONVERSATION ABOUT THEIR RELATIONSHIP. EACH EPISODE IS FILLED WITH TANGIBLE ADVICE THAT WILL GET YOU AND YOUR PARTNER TO BE THE BEST VERSIONS OF YOURSELVES.

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	EPISODES LIST
		29 The Five Love Languages with Dr. Gary Chapman When we first started this very podcast, we made a wishlist of guests that changed the way we think about love and relationships. Dr. Gary Chapman was at the very top of that list. Dr. Chapman’s book “The Five Love Languages” has made a tangible and direct impact in our relationship, and we’re believers that Dr. Chapman’s wisdom can result in positive change in almost every relationship. We are incredibly excited and honored to have the author with us to talk about our personal languages, how that impacts our relationship, and some surprising applications for his brilliant work. Check out his work at 5LoveLanguages.com Enjoy the show -- if you like it, please take a screen shot and share it with your friends on social, tag #risetogetherpodcast and tag us -- @msrachelhollis and @mrdavehollis and tag a friend (or partner) that needs to hear this episode! If you really like it, SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and rate it on the platform you're listening to -- it really helps more people find the show. Oh, and, if you don't like it, don't tell anyone...especially us! Exciting news: Rachel is launching a coaching series! If you loved this episode, you'll also love her two live monthly classes. Life coaching, for those looking to improve in their relationships, health, and personal life, and business coaching, for growing a revenue base, finding new clients, and marketing effectively. Find out more about the coaching series and how you can be a part of it ---> thehollisco.com/coaching If you missed out on tickets for Rise Weekend x Minneapolis, don’t worry! We just announced a second Rise Weekend in 2019, this time just outside of Dallas, Texas on July 18-20th. Get tickets to the newest RISE Weekend in July —-> TheHollisCo.com	01.17.2019
		28 How to Overcome Other People’s Opinions On this week's Rise Together podcast, we’re digging into the opinions of other people, and how we dodge or sometimes even positively use the opinions of others. Of course you should take everyone’s opinion with a grain of salt, but no matter how much we say that, it’s never that easy. You may even find it influences some constructive growth in regards to how you’re showing up for the the people you love. Here is how we pick through both the positive and negative things we hear about ourselves every day. Exciting news: Rachel is launching a coaching series! If you loved this episode, you'll also love her two live monthly classes. Life coaching, for those looking to improve in their relationships, health, and personal life, and business coaching, for growing a revenue base, finding new clients, and marketing effectively. Find out more about the coaching series and how you can be a part of it ---> thehollisco.com/coaching And, if you're looking for a gift for the person who loved Girl, Wash Your Face, the same amazing author (hi, Dave's typing) has Girl, Stop Apologizing coming out Mar 12, 2019. Rachel records the audio and it's available for pre-sale (and stocking stuffing) today -->amzn.to/2RxC6eY Enjoy the show -- if you like it, please take a screen shot and share it with your friends on social, tag #risetogetherpodcast and tag us -- @msrachelhollis and @mrdavehollis and tag a friend (or partner) that needs to hear this episode! If you really like it, SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and rate it on the platform you're listening to -- it really helps more people find the show. Oh, and, if you don't like it, don't tell anyone...especially us!	01.10.2019
		27 The Weekly Ritual that Keeps Our Relationship Healthy This week we're throwing it back to one of our favorite episodes in which we talk about why we believe date nights are important in a relationship. We share some of our favorite ideas and how we actually plan it out on a weekly basis. Exciting news: Rachel is launching a coaching series! If you love RISE and Rise Together, you'll be thrilled to learn that Rachel will be launching two live monthly classes. Life coaching, for those looking to improve in their relationships, health, and personal life, and business coaching, for growing a revenue base, finding new clients, and marketing effectively. Find out more about the coaching series and how you can be a part of it ---> thehollisco.com/coaching Did you know the documentary of our live-event RISE is back in theaters on Jan 9? Rachel Hollis Presents: Made for More is a 90-minute (amazing, I'm biased, but trust me) film with a 30-minute bonus -- Rachel teaching on a excerpt from Girl, Stop Apologizing. 2-hours of amazing content and community for the price of a movie ticket --> bit.ly/2QmG3Ws Enjoy the show -- if you like it, please take a screen shot and share it with your friends on social, tag #risetogetherpodcast and tag us -- @msrachelhollis and @mrdavehollis and tag a friend (or partner) that needs to hear this episode! If you really like it, SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and rate it on the platform you're listening to -- it really helps more people find the show. Oh, and, if you don't like it, don't tell anyone...especially us!	01.03.2019
		26 Why Planning is Better Than Hoping In Today’s episode, we're revisiting one of our first episodes in which we share our tips and tactics on how we plan out our life as a couple. This includes our work, our goals, our intentions, and everything that we do as not just a couple but as a family each season. Did you know the documentary of our live-event RISE is back in theaters on Jan 2 and Jan 9? Rachel Hollis Presents: Made for More is a 90-minute (amazing, I'm biased, but trust me) film with a 30-minute bonus -- Rachel teaching on a excerpt from Girl, Stop Apologizing. 2-hours of amazing content and community for the price of a movie ticket --> bit.ly/2QmG3Ws And, if you loved Girl, Wash Your Face, the same amazing author (hi, Dave's typing) has Girl, Stop Apologizing coming out Mar 12, 2019. Rachel records the audio and it's available for pre-sale today -->amzn.to/2RxC6eY Enjoy the show -- if you like it, please take a screen shot and share it with your friends on social, tag #risetogetherpodcast and tag us -- @msrachelhollis and @mrdavehollis and tag a friend (or partner) that needs to hear this episode! If you really like it, SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and rate it on the platform you're listening to -- it really helps more people find the show. Oh, and, if you don't like it, don't tell anyone...especially us!	12.27.2018
		25 Year in Review: The Biggest Wins and Fails of Our Relationship in 2018 As the end of the year approaches, we think it’s incredibly important to take stock of the highs and lows you’ve experienced as a couple over the previous 12 months. For us, it’s been one of the most eventful and meaningful years of our collective lives, and unpacking that was extremely insightful. This week, we dig deep into what we learned, what we loved, and what we hope to do better in 2019. Did you know the documentary of our live-event RISE is back in theaters on Jan 2 and Jan 9? Rachel Hollis Presents: Made for More is a 90-minute (amazing, I'm biased, but trust me) film with a 30-minute bonus -- Rachel teaching on a excerpt from Girl, Stop Apologizing. 2-hours of amazing content and community for the price of a movie ticket --> bit.ly/2QmG3Ws And, if you're looking for a holiday gift for the person who loved Girl, Wash Your Face, the same amazing author (hi, Dave's typing) has Girl, Stop Apologizing coming out Mar 12, 2019. Rachel records the audio and it's available for pre-sale (and stocking stuffing) today -->amzn.to/2RxC6eY Enjoy the show -- if you like it, please take a screen shot and share it with your friends on social, tag #risetogetherpodcast and tag us -- @msrachelhollis and @mrdavehollis and tag a friend (or partner) that needs to hear this episode! If you really like it, SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and rate it on the platform you're listening to -- it really helps more people find the show. Oh, and, if you don't like it, don't tell anyone...especially us!	12.20.2018
		24 Are You Showing Up The Way Your Partner Needs? On this week's Rise Together podcast, we're going to talk about the roles and identities we each take on in a relationship and how despite our best intention of how we hope to show up well for our partner, what we think they want may not what they really need. The roles and identities we as individuals in a relationship play evolve over the course of our partnership through stages and seasons of life. In a relationship that's interested in moving forward, letting go of who you are or who you were for who you'll become is something you need to work through and continually embrace, even as you're at times unrecognizable from where you started -- that's growth. Those changes show how a fluid you anticipates the needs of each other at specific times in life and in specific environments that surround you. You'll only be able to show up in a way that makes the most of your collective strengths if you're combining your individual strengths with the individual needs of your partner in a way that's informed by regular, transparent conversation, and that anticipates how life or seasonal changes may require a pivot where you or they take on a new role to create the strongest team. A special shout out to the greatest living author (according to her husband) Rachel Hollis who's Girl, Wash Your Face incredibly passed 2 million copies sold last week. Thank you for your extraordinary support! It's changed our lives, and... it makes a great under-$15 holiday gift --> amzn.to/2UgpBpM Did you know the documentary of our live-event RISE is back in theaters on Jan 2 and Jan 9? Rachel Hollis Presents: Made for More is a 90-minute (amazing, I'm biased, but trust me) film with a 30-minute bonus -- Rachel teaching on a excerpt from Girl, Stop Apologizing. 2-hours of amazing content and community for the price of a movie ticket --> bit.ly/2QmG3Ws And, if you're looking for a holiday gift for the person who loved Girl, Wash Your Face, the same amazing author (hi, Dave's typing) has Girl, Stop Apologizing coming out Mar 12, 2019. Rachel records the audio and it's available for pre-sale (and stocking stuffing) today -->amzn.to/2RxC6eY Enjoy the show -- if you like it, please take a screen shot and share it with your friends on social, tag #risetogetherpodcast and tag us -- @msrachelhollis and @mrdavehollis and tag a friend (or partner) that needs to hear this episode! If you really like it, SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and rate it on the platform you're listening to -- it really helps more people find the show. Oh, and, if you don't like it, don't tell anyone...especially us!	12.13.2018
		23 Fatherhood - A Full Hour on Being a Good Dad in 2018 For the first time ever on the Rise Together podcast, we're having an hour-long conversation about fatherhood -- what does it take to be a good dad in 2018? In a conversation with Larry Hagner, the host of The Dad Edge Podcast, Dave and Larry talk about raising 1,000 kids, how to keep the spark alive with your spouse while doing so, the myths around balance, the debate of giving kids what they want vs what they need and the biggest things they're hoping to impart on their small humans. If you're interested in hearing a good dude talk about fatherhood on the regular, check out Larry Hagner and his The Dad Edge Podcast here--> https://apple.co/2QeElXS A special shout out to the greatest living author (according to her husband) Rachel Hollis who's Girl, Wash Your Face incredibly passed 2 million copies sold yesterday. Thank you for your extraordinary support! It's changed our lives, and... it makes a great under-$15 holiday gift --> https://amzn.to/2UgpBpM Did you know the documentary of our live-event RISE is back in theaters on Jan 2 and Jan 9? Rachel Hollis Presents: Made for More is a 90-minute (amazing, I'm biased, but trust me) film with a 30-minute bonus -- Rachel teaching on a excerpt from Girl, Stop Apologizing. 2-hours of amazing content and community for the price of a movie ticket --> https://bit.ly/2QmG3Ws And, if you're looking for a holiday gift for the person who loved Girl, Wash Your Face, the same amazing author (hi, Dave's typing) has Girl, Stop Apologizing coming out Mar 12, 2019. Rachel records the audio and it's available for pre-sale (and stocking stuffing) today -->https://amzn.to/2RxC6eY Enjoy the show -- if you like it, please take a screen shot and share it with your friends on social, tag #risetogetherpodcast and tag us -- @msrachelhollis and @mrdavehollis and tag a dad that needs to hear this episode! If you really like it, SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and rate it on the platform you're listening to -- it really helps more people find the show. Oh, and, if you don't like it, don't tell anyone...especially us!	12.06.2018
		22 HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE: Something You Want, Need, Wear, Read...and Something for Fun in the Bedroom In this week's episode, Rachel and Dave surprise each other with the five gifts they're "giving" each other for Christmas this year in one of each of five categories: something the other needs, something the other wants, something the other can wear, something the other can read and something fun for intimacy in the bedroom. Also, this podcast was recorded 8 seconds after Dave and Rachel were arguing for 9 minutes, so it's off the rails in the best way from the first second. In the episode, we mention the Start Today Journals -- there is only one of three covers left, so if you're interested in grabbing the last cover in round two before the next covers arrive in March, hit this link --> https://bit.ly/2FMQ4rU Also, if you listen past the close, Dave sneaks a mention of the encore of the documentary Rachel Hollis Presents Made for More which is back in theaters Jan 2 and Jan 9. It's a rad way to see what a Rise event is like for the price of a movie ticket. For more info, hit this link --> https://bit.ly/2QmG3Ws Enjoy the show -- if you like it, please take a screen shot and share it with your friends on social, tag #risetogetherpodcast and tag us -- @msrachelhollis and @mrdavehollis. If you really like it, SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and rate it on the platform you're listening to. And, if you don't like it, don't tell anyone, especially us!	11.29.2018
		21 Thanksgiving Throwback - Gratitude for 5 Million Rise Together Listens - The Set Up This week on Rise Together we're celebrating Thanksgiving and the incredible feat that in just 5 short months this Rise Together podcast has crossed 5 million listens! Thank you to all of you for being part of our community - we are GRATEFUL for YOU! This week's episode takes us back to the beginning, the first episode, recorded to the chagrin of our audio dude in the front seat of a Mini Cooper, while we were stuck in traffic. Classy. If you're listening in the US, a very Happy Thanksgiving to you! We'll be back next week with an all new episode of Rise Together. If you like this show, we hope you'll tell your friends on social (using the hashtag #risetogetherpodcast), subscribe on the platform of your choice and leave a rating (unless you hate this, in which case, keep that to yourself, Pam)!	11.21.2018
		20 Overcoming the Opinions of Others The opinions of outsiders can create havoc within a relationship. Just the word "mother-in-law" is likely to bring one or both of you into a heightened state of bickering. In this episode we have selected several excerpts from our live speaking engagements to delve into the mechanics of why opinions affect us and the methods we have used to drop this mental luggage off at the curb. (In the last segment Rachel was literally using luggage on-stage to make an important point.) Enjoy!	11.15.2018
		19 Mail Bag Episode - Dave and Rachel Answer Questions About Sex and Parenting Here it is...Our first ever Rise Together attempt at answering some of the ridiculously difficult questions you, our loyal listeners send via email. Since we choose these questions live during recording with no prep time you get to hear us play hot potato with some of your gnarly questions about sex, parenting, being fatigued and more sex questions. Screen cap yourself listening and tag us on instagram @msrachelhollis and @mrdavehollis with your opinion of the new Mail Bag format!	11.08.2018
		18 Four Things Men are Terrified to Talk About In today's episode Dave takes a solo mission deep into man country and tackles the four things men can't talk about to their partners. Guys whether you like it or not, these issues eventually crop up in every relationship. By learning to boldly identify them they lose their power to derail your marriage. Women, this is like getting a secret map to the very things that might be jamming communications. Dave is transparent and frank, and for that reason we don't recommend playing this podcast around little humans. We hope this episode will unlock freedom in your relationship, like it has in ours. Follow Rachel on Instagram - www.instagram.com/MrsRachelHollis Follow Dave on Instagram - www.instagram.com/MrDaveHollis Join the #Last90Days - www.thechicsite.com/90days	11.01.2018
		17 How to Get in Shape as a Couple This week on Rise Together we are joined by Anthony Trucks, a serial entrepreneur, international speaker, gym owner and the only NFL athlete to ever become a finalist on NBC’s American Ninja Warrior. Anthony, an orphan dumped into the foster care system at age 3, has risen above many challenges in his life using the discipline of physical fitness as a vehicle for building self worth and bringing value to family and community. We discuss ways that couples can pursue health regimes together and methods to overcome chronic start again, stop again gym habits. Follow Rachel Hollis on Instagram - www.instagram.com/MsRachelHollis Follow Dave Hollis on Instagram - www.instagram.com/MrDaveHollis Follow Anthony on Instagram - www.instagram.com/anthonytrucks and websites www.trustyourhustle.com, www.anthonytrucks.com and www.ownyourshift.net	10.25.2018
		Getting in Shape as a Couple This week on Rise Together we are joined by Anthony Trucks, a serial entrepreneur, international speaker, gym owner and the only NFL athlete to ever become a finalist on NBC’s American Ninja Warrior. Anthony, an orphan dumped into the foster care system at age 3, has risen above many challenges in his life using the discipline of physical fitness as a vehicle for building self worth and bringing value to family and community. We discuss ways that couples can pursue health regimes together and methods to overcome chronic start again, stop again gym habits. Follow Rachel Hollis on Instagram - www.instagram.com/MsRachelHollis Follow Dave Hollis on Instagram - www.instagram.com/MrDaveHollis Follow Anthony on Instagram - www.instagram.com/anthonytrucks and websites www.trustyourhustle.com, www.anthonytrucks.com and www.ownyourshift.net	10.25.2018
		16 Five Relationships You Need To Quit This week we are diving into the 5 relationships that you need to quit. These may not all be with actual humans but maybe it's also your relationship with food or negativity. We invite you to join us in re-evaluating your relationships as they are the key to unlocking how you show up better for yourself and for your partner. Follow Rachel Hollis on Instagram - www.instagram.com/MsRachelHollis Follow Dave Hollis on Instagram - www.instagram.com/MrDaveHollis	10.18.2018
		15 Habits For Relationship In today's episode we are talking about building healthy habits in your relationship. Whether you like it or not, habits are controlling your life and if you can identify the good and the bad ones, it can change everything. We are sharing our 3 good habits and 1 bad habit that shows up in our marriage and hope this episode can help you identify a few of yours too! Join the #Last90Days - www.thechicsite.com/90days Follow Rachel on Instagram - www.instagram.com/MrsRachelHollis Follow Dave on Instagram - www.instagram.com/MrDaveHollis	10.11.2018
		14 Rise Together Conference: Dave’s Opening Keynote We are coming at you with another EXCLUSIVE from our RISE Together couples conference! This week we are bringing you Dave's opening keynote from the weekend. He is telling you all about why he was reluctant to jump head first into personal development and what he learned along the way. If you aren't sure about why it's necessary to invest in yourself, then this episode is for you!	10.04.2018
		13 Rise Together Conference: Opening Keynote This week's episode is an EXCLUSIVE! We are bringing you Rachel's opening keynote from our couples conference RISE Together in Austin Texas this past weekend. We think that in order to work on being in a great relationship, you need to work on being great by yourself and in this episode we will tell you why! Follow Rachel on Instagram - www.instagram.com/MsRachelHollis Follow Dave on Instagram - www.instagram.com/MrDaveHollis Rise events on Instagram - www.instagram.com/Letsrise.co	09.27.2018
		12 Your Relationship NEEDS To Change Change can be scary and the fear of the unknown almost paralyzing. In today's episode we are breaking down the reasons why change is GOOD and necessary in relationships. If you are willing to embrace change you and your partner will come out on the other side stronger.	09.20.2018
		11 Why Hard Conversations Are Key To Building An Exceptional Relationship This week we are throwing it back to a hard conversation that we had a few months ago. It was the hardest and most important conversation we have ever had and something that got us from where we were to where we are now. We hope that if you have to have a hard conversation in your own relationship, this will give you the courage and confidence to do so. It is probably the best thing you can do for your relationship. Follow Rachel on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/msrachelhollis/ Follow Dave on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mrdavehollis/ Rise Events - www.letsrise.co	09.13.2018
		10 Five Ways To Show Up For Your Partner (Dave's Perspective) In this week's episode it’s Dave’s turn to give you his 5 best tips for showing up for your partner. Since Dave is an overachiever, all of his tips start with the later “P”! Tune in to find out what they are. Follow Rachel Hollis on Instagram: www.instagram.com/msrachelhollis/ Follow Dave Hollis on Instagram: www.instagram.com/mrdavehollis/ RISE Events: www.letsrise.co	09.05.2018
		9 Five Ways To Show Up For Your Partner (Rachel's Perspective) In this week's episode we are doing something a little different! I'm by myself and I'm going to give you my 5 best tips for showing up for your partner. Of course this is from my perspective, but stay tuned because next week Dave is going to be giving you his 5 tips from a his perspective! Follow Rachel Hollis on Instagram: www.instagram.com/msrachelhollis/ Follow Dave Hollis on Instagram: www.instagram.com/mrdavehollis/ RISE Events: www.letsrise.co 344442	08.30.2018
		8 Conflict resolution, Enneagram number and how knowing both can change your relationship. Have you ever heard of the Enneagram test? It's like Myers Briggs or a DISC test, only this personality test dates back hundreds of years that divides people up into one of 9 numbers. In today's episode, we're speaking with Enneagram expert Chris Heuertz. Chris took us through our personality types, our conflict resolution style and how we can love each other better and work together better by understanding why our partner processes things the way they do. Book: The Sacred Enneagram by Chris Heuertz https://amzn.to/2P5zIKT Follow Chris on Instagram at @ChrisHeuertz or here: www.sacredenneagram.org Google “free enneagram test” to find out your number. We like this one https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/	08.23.2018
		Conflict Resolution + Personality Type Have you ever heard of the Enneagram test? It's like Myers Briggs or a DISC test, only this personality test dates back hundreds of years that divides people up into one of 9 numbers. In today's episode, we're speaking with Enneagram expert Chris Heuertz. Chris took us through our personality types, our conflict resolution style and how we can love each other better and work together better by understanding why our partner processes things the way they do.	08.23.2018
		7 Let's Talk About Sex Baby Get your hearts and minds ready because we are going for it! We are talking about sex, baby! Join us for a real and frank conversation that we hope with improve your intimate relationship.	08.16.2018
		6 You Have to Fail to Grow In this episode we wanted to share Dave’s speech from our RISE Weekend Conference. Dave talks about his feelings of experiencing his partnering going through self-growth and wanting to do the same thing for himself. Come to our conference: www.letsrise.co/together/ Follow Rachel Hollis on Instagram: www.instagram.com/msrachelhollis/ Follow Dave Hollis on Instagram: www.instagram.com/mrdavehollis/	08.09.2018
		5 We're Married and We're Dating! On this episode we talk about why we believe date nights are important in a relationship. We share some of our favorite ideas and how we actually plan it out on a weekly basis. Come to our conference: https://www.letsrise.co/together/ Follow Rachel Hollis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msrachelhollis/ Follow Dave Hollis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrdavehollis/	08.02.2018
		We're Married and We're Still Dating! We've been married for 14 years and we still have date nights ever single week. Why?! Because it's our priority!	08.02.2018
		4 How to Plan Out Your Life as a Couple In Today’s episode we share our tips and tactics on how we plan out our life as a couple. This includes our work, our goals, our intentions, and everything that we do as not just a couple but as a family each season. Come to our conference: https://www.letsrise.co/together/ Follow Rachel Hollis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msrachelhollis/ Follow Dave Hollis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrdavehollis/	07.26.2018
		3 Help! My Partner Doesn’t DO Personal Development: 6 Tips to get motivated together In this episode we are answering a direct question from our fans "what happens if I’m super motivated for personal growth but my partner is not there?". So we decided to share six tips to work with your partner to have an exceptional relationship. Come to our conference: https://www.letsrise.co/together/ Follow Rachel Hollis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msrachelhollis/ Follow Dave Hollis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrdavehollis/	07.19.2018
		6 Tips on How to Get From There to Here What happens when you are motivated to have exceptional relationship but your partner isn't?	07.19.2018
		The Relationship is Either Growing or It's Dying In this week's episode of Rise Together, Rachel and Dave Hollis are digging into the core of our beliefs when it comes to romantic relationships: your relationship is either growing or it's dying. They're talking about the times when their relationship struggled over the last 16 years + what they've done (and continue to do) to make it thrive. Come to our conference: https://www.letsrise.co/together/ Follow Rachel Hollis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msrachelhollis/ Follow Dave Hollis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrdavehollis/	07.12.2018
		Your Relationship is Either Growing or It's Dying	07.12.2018
		1 The Set Up We have gotten so many requests about doing a podcast together that we needed to make it happen! In this episode we share a little bit of background of who we are and why we started to work together and move to Austin. Come to our conference: https://www.letsrise.co/together/ Follow Rachel Hollis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msrachelhollis/ Follow Dave Hollis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrdavehollis/	07.05.2018

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29 The Five Love Languages ...

01.17.2019

When we first started this very podcast, we made a wishlist of guests that changed the way we think about love and relationships. Dr. Gary Chapman was at the very top of that list. Dr. Chapman’s book “The Five Love ...