Sexy Marriage Radio

Sexy Marriage Radio episodes:

• 04.17.2024

  Have Sex First on Date Night #672

  In this episode, we discuss the importance of date nights in marriage and offer a unique tip to make them more enjoyable. It's the idea of having sex before going out on a date to possibly relieve the pressure and create...

  
• 04.10.2024

  The Idea Of Sex | Dr Marty Klein #671

  In this conversation, Dr. Marty Klein joins me and discusses the importance of reframing the conversation around sex and challenging our ideas about sexuality. We emphasize that sex is not just a behavior, but an idea, and that our ideas about...

  
• 04.03.2024

  Jealousy and Insecurity | Shanenn Bryant #670

  This week let's talk about jealousy. Shanenn Bryant joins me for a conversation about overcoming jealousy in relationships. Shanenn shares her personal journey with jealousy and how she discovered that she was not alone in experiencing these feelings. She explains that...

  
• 03.27.2024

  Want To Be Wanted But Don’t Want To Want #669

  In this episode, we dive into how marriage is simple but difficult, and emphasize the importance of honest conversations. Then we move into the main focus of the episode -- an email from a husband who feels that his wife wants...

  
• 03.20.2024

  Procrastination and Resistance | Tripp Lanier #668

  In this conversation, Tripp Lanier joins me as we discuss the importance of self-reflection, understanding self, and overcoming resistance. We explore the impact of scripts, narratives, and parts in our lives and the need to integrate different aspects of ourselves. Our...

  
• 03.13.2024

  Initiating Intimacy | Rachel Facio and Stacey Sherrell #667

  In this conversation, I'm joined by Stacey Sherrell and Rachel Faccio from Decoding Couples. We have a great conversation about the transition from normal married life to intimacy, the importance of creating margin, and the different desire levels in a relationship. We...

  
• 03.06.2024

  Normal Marital Sadism #666

  In this episode, in recognition of this being episode 666, we go a bit dark and discuss the concept of normal marital sadism (a term coined by Dr David Schnarch), which refers to the intentional infliction of pain, cruelty, and...

  
• 02.28.2024

  Attachment Styles and Cycles | Dr Laurie Watson #665

  In this conversation, Dr Laurie Watson joins me as we discuss the dynamics of relationships and how they can impact sexual intimacy. We explore the misconceptions and expectations that couples often bring into therapy, as well as the triggers and...

  
• 02.21.2024

  Yes, But … #664

  This week we discuss the impact of trauma on reactions and responses in marriage. An email from a listener points out she felt that trauma was not adequately addressed last week. We explore more how both partners are responsible for their reactions...

  
• 02.14.2024

  More Destructive: His Porn Or Her Reaction? #663

  Today let's explore the impact of reactions and perceptions in relationships, specifically in the context of discovering pornography usage. There are lots of complexities with the aspects of honesty, trustworthiness, fear, and shame. Like how others perceive us, the importance of...

  
• 02.07.2024

  Get Past Your Past | Jason VanRuler #662

  In this conversation, I'm joined by Jason Van Ruler as we discuss the importance of addressing past wounds and traumas in order to move forward in life and relationships. We talk about the concept of scripts and how our past experiences...

  
• 01.31.2024

  Who’s Responsible For Whose Orgasm? #661

  In today's episode of Sexy Marriage Radio,  we discuss the truth about pressures in marriage and sex. We explore the dynamics of power distribution in sexual relationships and the responsibility each partner has for their own pleasure. We also dive into...

  
• 01.24.2024

  The Truth About Pressures In Sex #660

  In today's episode, we continue the discussion on the topic of mercy sex and the pressures and obligations that can arise in marriage. Let's explore the impact of religious beliefs and family of origin on sexuality, and the importance of peeling...

  
• 01.17.2024

  Busyness and Unhealed Trauma | John Eldredge #659

  In this conversation, John Eldredge joins me as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships. John brings up the concept of inner ages and how unresolved childhood trauma can surface in adult relationships. It is important to...

  
• 01.10.2024

  Mercy Sex In Marriage #658

  In this episode, we discuss the concept of mercy sex in a marriage. What are the  characteristics of mercy sex and the impact it has on both the lower desire and higher desire spouses? We also discuss the pressure to have...

  
• 01.03.2024

  The Search For Intimacy #657

  In this episode, we address some of the  feedback from last week's episode about a husband losing attraction to his wife. We explore the impact of such revelations on men and women - is there a difference in how it...

  
• 12.27.2023

  My Husband Doesn’t Desire Me #656

  In today's episode, we dive into a listener's question about a lack of desire in her marriage. After working through the Our Intimate Choices worksheet, the husband shared he has no desire or attraction towards his wife. What does she do...

  
• 12.20.2023

  Overcome Destructive Anger | Natalie Hixon #655

  The 2024 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Natalie Hickson joins me as she shares her mission of helping moms overcome anger and anxiety in motherhood and marriage. We discuss the challenges of transitioning...

  
• 12.13.2023

  How Do I Flirt With My Spouse? #654

  Today we discuss the topic of flirting in relationships. Plus, let's explore the concept of 'good naked' and 'bad naked' and how it can impact erotic energies. It is important to maintain energy and tension in your relationship. One way to...

  
• 12.06.2023

  No-Nut November May Be Dangerous #653

  Today we discuss the Our Intimate Choices worksheet, a communication tool designed to facilitate conversations about boundaries, preferences, and comfort levels in a couple's sex life. We also touch on holiday etiquette and the role of sex toys as stocking...

  
• 11.29.2023

  Is Sex A Normal Function? #652

  Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Today we revisit a segment from the archives - A wife wants to know more how to...

  
• 11.22.2023

  Your Brain On Sex | Dr Emily Nagoski #651

  The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. Everyone gets the full show ... We revisit a conversation with Dr Emily Nagoski, about how sex works in your brain. There is updated science, so she updated her work. What changed? Listen to find out. Learn...

  
• 11.15.2023

  What Money Means | Bill Nelson #650

  The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... I'm joined by Bill Nelson, a Certified Financial Planner and Certified Financial Therapist.  We dive into the world of money and marriage and meanings.  Learn more about Bill here -...

  
• 11.08.2023

  Connection Codes | Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill #649

  Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... I'm joined my Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill as we walk through their marriage tool for deeper connection and...

  
• 11.01.2023

  What If I Married The Wrong Person? #648

  Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Why do people get married? Let's explore several reasons and motivations. Plus, what do we most often expect...

  
• 10.25.2023

  Sorry Not Sorry #647

  Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Apologies are a part of every life and relationship. But what about the times when we think...

  
• 10.18.2023

  Resentment Revisited #646

  Everyone gets both versions again ... Today we revisit a conversation from the archives. I’m joined by colleague Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and we talk about the marriages where everything seems to be great – except in one area. What’s happening here? Plus,...

  
• 10.11.2023

  Conditionally Unconditional #645

  Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. Unlock the Power of Intimacy - https://smr.fm/unlock  Everyone gets both versions ... Is there such a thing as unconditional love and aspects in...

  
• 10.04.2023

  Fooling Yourself #644

  Unlock the Power of Intimacy - https://smr.fm/unlock  In this week's episode Pam and I answer a listener's email about his trouble coming to terms with his spouse's past, as well as some of their present. On the Xtended Version ... Is it possible...

  
• 09.27.2023

  Creating A Passionate Marriage #643

  We revisit our main framework of everything we talk about on Passionately Married. What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage? How do we approach the idea of growing up in marriage? In the regular version we cover Dr David Schnarch’s...

  
• 09.20.2023

  Revisiting Stress and Desire | Dr Lori Brotto #642

  Registration is now open for the 2024 Passionately Married Getaway - smr.fm/getaway On the Regular Version ... We go back in time to revisit an episode with Dr Lori Brotto. We to discuss how stress impacts life and sex - specifically sexual desire. Learn...

  
• 09.13.2023

  Re-Storying Our Lives | Chris Bruno #641

  The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. Everyone gets the full show today ... Chris Bruno joins me today as we dive into the world of re-storying, also could be termed restoring, our past and our lives. What exactly does this...

  
• 09.06.2023

  Marriage Warning Signs #640

  The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... In this week's episode Pam and I discuss warning signs of problems in marriage, and any relationships for that matter. What are the various signs to watch...

  
• 08.30.2023

  8 Steps Towards Great Sex #639

  We revisit a past segment from the archives where we dive into the idea of what is permissible in marriage and sex? This conversation is really less about one moral compass for all and more about the impacts of whatever it...

  
• 08.23.2023

  Doing The Best You Can | Nellie Harden #638

  Nellie Harden joins me as we have a conversation about marriage and family life and how in the midst of this time, important things get missed or lost.  Learn more about Nellie on her site - https://www.nellieharden.com/ On the Xtended Version ... I...

  
• 08.16.2023

  Trust Isn’t What We Think #637

  The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... An email from a husband who had an affair 5 years ago - and he and his wife haven't had sex since. A question about how to...

  
• 08.09.2023

  Emotional Resolution | Cedric Bertelli #636

  Today I welcome Cedric Bertelli as we talk about his work with emotional resolution. We are all familiar with emotions, we all have them. But Cedric's work focuses on the emotions that are triggered from things in our past, or...

  
• 08.02.2023

  Intimacy Anorexia Or Is It Cruelty? #635

  An email came in wanting our take on Dr Doug Weiss' Intimacy Anorexia concept. What exactly does this mean? Are we each capable of this? What do we do when see see this? And, what if it's actually better viewed as cruelty? On the Xtended...

  
• 07.26.2023

  Men’s Sexual Wellness | Dean Pohlman #634

  Today I welcome guest Dean Pohlman, the founder of Man Flow Yoga. Dean shares his unique journey into the world of yoga, which started accidentally with a fitness-focused class that turned out to be more challenging and beneficial than he...

  
• 07.19.2023

  What Drives You? | Ellen Chute #633

  I'm joined today by Ellen Chute, LMSW as we talk through her metaphor of looking at family dynamics and systems ... where everyone sat in the car growing up. Learn more about Ellen here - https://www.ellenychute.com/ On the Xtended Version ... Ellen and...

  
• 07.12.2023

  Attraction and Desire | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #632

  A regular guest joins me again today, Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, and we dive into the relational dynamic of attraction and desire. They happen to us, and we choose them. They naturally ebb and flow. And how do we get them back if they...

  
• 07.05.2023

  High Speed Porn | JK Emezi #631

  I'm joined today by JK Emezi, of Elevated Recovery and we have a frank conversation about high speed internet pornography. Learn more about JK here - https://elevatedrecovery.org/ On the Xtended Version ... JK and I get personal and talk about our journeys as...

  
• 06.28.2023

  Over-Reaction To My Spouse’s Over-Reaction #630

  Pam and I get into a conversation about how we as married people can so often find ourselves over-reacting to our spouse's over-reaction. Why does this happen? What can we do to stop it? On the Xtended Version ... Author and modern-day monk, Jay...

  
• 06.21.2023

  Triggers | Debra Fileta #629

  Counselor and author Debra Fileta joins me today as we talk about triggers, trauma and the state of the world. Learn more about Debra and find her books here - https://debrafileta.com/ On the Xtended Version ... We continue the conversation and shift it...

  
• 06.14.2023

  Divorce Is Not An Option, Or Is It? #628

  Pam and I use an email from a wife who is in a sexless marriage, going on 20 years now, and she wants to know if there is anything she can do, but divorce is not an option. We answer her...

  
• 06.07.2023

  A Higher View | Dr Michael Sytsma #627

  Dr Michael Sytsma joins me again as we dive into the idea of how there is something much deeper going on during sex. There is a higher view to take. Learn more about Dr Sytsma here - https://intimatemarriage.org/bim-team/mike-sytsma/ On the Xtended Version...

  
• 05.31.2023

  You Need A Tribe | Chandler and Jade Rogers #626

  Chandler and Jade Rogers join the show today as they share their story of pornography struggle, its impact on their relationship and their journey towards healing. Check out the app Chandler created to help others on this journey as well -...

  
• 05.24.2023

  Takeaways From 30 Years Of Marriage #625

  This week Pam and I are looking back at what we've learned after 30 years of marriage. Come look back with us. On the Xtended Version ... A surprisingly high number of people will admit to snooping on their spouse's phone or devices. So...

  
• 05.17.2023

  Menopause and Hormones | Dr Kelly Casperson #624

  This week Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of hormones and menopause. If you are a woman - you won't want to miss this episode. Learn more about Dr Kelly here - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors...

  
• 05.10.2023

  Unilateral Moves | Feedback Wednesday #623

  Today we answer emails from the Nation. A husband and wife will usually incorporate the use of a vibrator during their sexual encounters together. But when the husband goes to retrieve the toy it often is in another place. His wife...