Small Things Often

By The Gottman Institute

What's Small Things Often about?

Give your relationships a boost in 5 minutes or less with Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute. We provide simple, proven, quick tips to help you deepen and enhance your relationships!

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Small Things Often episodes:

03.10.2022
How to Hit the Reset Button
A fresh start can get you and your partner on the right track! On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to hit the reset button and make positive changes in your relationship.
03.08.2022
Do You Have Time for a Date?
Date nights are a wonderful and important way to connect with your partner and strengthen your relationship. Think you’re too busy for one? On this episode of Small Things Often, we give you options that can fit into any schedule.
03.03.2022
Building Your Relationship with Humor
Laughter is a powerful force so use it to build your relationship! Learn how to be mindful and explore humor theories on this episode of Small Things Often.
03.01.2022
How to be Lovers and Friends
Don’t let your friendship with your partner sizzle! On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how being a lover and a friend can strengthen your relationship.
02.24.2022
Why Does My Partner Hate Me?
Does your partner react with negativity whenever you try to have a normal conversation? If so, they may be stuck in “negative sentiment override.” On this episode of Small Things Often, find out what may have caused it — and...
02.22.2022
Letting Your Partner Make Mistakes
What do you do when a small decision made by your partner turns out to be a mistake? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the best way of being supportive — even when you disagreed with their decision...
02.17.2022
Four Things that Make Up Successful Relationships
Wonder what happy couples have in common? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the four things that make up the most successful relationships that can lead you and your partner to even greater happiness.
02.15.2022
Are You Sensually Communicating?
When you put words to your desire for your partner, you can experience a satisfying relationship in and out of the bedroom. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can start sensually communicating with your partner.
02.10.2022
Navigating Valentine’s Day
Do you have certain expectations for Valentine’s Day? Does your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer tips on how to make the most of this “holiday of love” — without stress or hurt feelings.
02.08.2022
Why Passion and Parenting Can Co-Exist
Even though it might take more of an effort, you can still have a passionate relationship with your partner while being a parent. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to prioritize intimacy and keep your connection strong.
02.03.2022
What to Say to Have a Deep Connection with Your Partner
How’s the friendship quotient in your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to have a conversation with your partner that will deepen your connection and strengthen your friendship.
02.01.2022
How to Get in the Mood for Love-Making
Has passion faded from your relationship? Just not feeling it anymore? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how being intentional about love-making can bring desire and passion back for you and your partner.
01.27.2022
How to Curb Your Expectations
You don’t need to set your expectations super high or way down low to have a healthy relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why all you need is a “good enough” relationship.
01.25.2022
Why You Should Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner's Feelings
It might feel counterintuitive, but stop trying to fix your partner’s feelings. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why you should empathize with your partner instead.
01.20.2022
A Busy Couple’s Guide to Sharing Fondness and Admiration
Has your life become so hectic, that you’ve put your relationship on the back burner — and feel like you’re drifting apart? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn ways to get back on track by sharing fondness...
01.18.2022
How to Turn Your Relationship Goals Into Habits
Do you feel like setting goals for your relationship is too daunting? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to turn those goals into healthy habits that you and your partner can practice every day.
01.13.2022
How to Reverse Relationship Bankruptcy
Feeling disconnected or ignored by your partner? If so, your Emotional Bank Account might be in bankruptcy. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to reverse that depleted account, and get your relationship back on track.
01.11.2022
Ask for What You Want
Asking for what you want may be one of the greatest gifts you can give your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, find out how to ask, and why it is so important for a successful relationship.
01.06.2022
Why You Should Surround Yourself with Healthy Couples
Why do couples who are friends with other healthy couples have better relationships? Because they learn from them. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover how your friends can be one of the greatest resources of information for having...
01.04.2022
How to Give Your Relationship a Fresh Start
Does your relationship feel stale? Is it missing some excitement? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the 4 steps that you can take to give your relationship a fresh start.
12.30.2021
The Importance of Taking Breaks
Taking a break from an argument when you’re overwhelmed with emotion is one of the most crucial relationship skills. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how and when to take a break in order to get back on...
12.28.2021
How to Battle Loneliness in a Relationship
How do you fight feelings of being alone in a relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, we share the antidote for loneliness — and how it will help you and your partner get back on track to connecting...
12.23.2021
Who are we? Defining the Culture of your Couplehood
Do you know who you are as a couple? Have you ever thought about the values, beliefs and attitudes that define your couplehood? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to create shared meaning by discovering the unique...
12.21.2021
Creating Shared Meaning Through Rituals of Connection
What rituals of connection do you and your partner have together? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn some rituals that will help you create shared meaning, stay connected — and thrive.
12.16.2021
Gifts From the Heart
Save your money and give your partner a gift from the heart. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to bring them joy with simple gestures that’ll show how much you care.
12.14.2021
A Couples Guide to Handling Conflict
Conflicts can get extra complicated during the holiday season. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover some useful tools to handle conflicts with your partner and keep your holidays happy.
12.09.2021
How to Celebrate Differences During the Holidays
Celebrating the holidays can be tricky if you and your partner have different religious beliefs or ethnic cultures. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to talk through your differences and make a unique blend of traditions.
12.07.2021
Ways to Make a Better Bid for Connection
‘Tis the season to take the guesswork out of connecting with your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, explore the ways to make better bids.
12.02.2021
How to Stay Connected Through the Holidays
Your relationship might be taking a back seat during the holidays. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how you can stay connected as a couple through this hectic time of year.
11.30.2021
What Are Three Things You Love About Your Partner?
Take the time to reflect on all the things you love about your partner, and then let them know in writing. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll give you some ideas of what kinds of things you can...
11.25.2021
Show Your Gratitude in a Thank You Note
Keeping a gratitude journal is great — but sharing those thoughts with your partner in a thank you note is even better. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to start a daily ritual that can transform your...
11.23.2021
Making Your Relationship a Priority
Let your partner know your relationship is a priority by showing them with your actions, instead of just telling them with words. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll give you some ideas how to do this — and...
11.18.2021
Conversations that Matter Most in Relationships
Every strong relationship is a result of a never-ending conversation between partners — but which ones matter the most? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out which conversations you need to have for a lifetime of love.
11.16.2021
3 Ways to Keep a Positive Perspective
Seeing your partner through rose-colored glasses could benefit your relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to maintain a positive perspective.
11.11.2021
Simple Ways to Show Fondness and Admiration
Do you and your partner share fondness and admiration? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why it should be a priority and how you can express it to each other.
11.09.2021
The Power of Being Polite
It can be easy to forget to say “please” and “thank you” to your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain the power of being polite and how it can affect your relationship.
11.04.2021
The #1 Couple
Where do you and your partner shine? On this episode of Small Things Often, discover what strengths make you a #1 couple, then give yourselves a pat on the back — and celebrate your relationship.
11.02.2021
Strengthen Your Relationship With the Magic Ratio
There’s a magic ratio that could be the key to your relationship’s success. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why you should be tracking what kind of interactions you’re having with your partner and how you can...
10.28.2021
How to Inspire Your Partner to Attend Couples Therapy
If you feel you and your partner need professional help, the way you approach them about couples therapy can make all the difference in how they respond. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to have this important...
10.26.2021
Questions to Ask Your Date
Are your dates filled with friendly but superficial conversation? In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to ask open-ended questions on a date for a deeper connection and more meaningful conversation.
10.21.2021
5 Tips to Help Your Relationship Thrive
No matter what’s going on in your relationship lately, there’s always room for improvement. On this episode of Small Things Often, we give you five tips you can put in practice today to help your relationship thrive.
10.19.2021
How to Find a Therapist
If you’re struggling more than usual lately, you might want to talk to a therapist. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you how to find one that will fit your needs, and help you on your journey...
10.14.2021
An Easier Way to Talk About Finances
Talking about finances with your partner can be tough, but there are ways to make it a little easier. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to have productive conversations as you both work towards creating a shared...
10.12.2021
Are You Being Attentive?
You’ll always have distractions in your life, but there’s a way to manage them so you can be present in your relationships. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to be intentionally attentive.
10.07.2021
How to Fall in Love With Your Partner Again
You could fall in love with your partner again by just asking them some questions. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how getting curious about your partner can help you reconnect.
10.05.2021
The Relationship Myths to Ignore
Have you heard that love is enough? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re debunking some relationship myths that are not only false, but potentially destructive.
09.30.2021
How to Build Emotional Intelligence
Your ability to navigate feelings could have a big impact on your relationships. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to build emotional intelligence with both your partner and anyone you interact with.
09.28.2021
Emotion Coaching is Not Just for Kids
When your partner experiences difficult emotions, be their Emotion Coach to help them through it. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you how this kind of coaching used for kids — also works for adults.
09.23.2021
Ways to Turn Towards Each Other as New Parents or Caregivers
Have you recently become either a parent or a caregiver? If so, life will inevitably change. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to stay connected to your partner through the “new normal.”
09.21.2021
The Little Things You Do
Are you making time to intentionally connect with your partner? On the Season 4 premiere of Small Things Often, learn the small ways that you can prioritize your relationship.

What's Small Things Often about?

Download our free app to listen on your phone

Small Things Often episodes:

How to Hit the Reset Button

Do You Have Time for a Date?

Building Your Relationship with Humor

How to be Lovers and Friends

Why Does My Partner Hate Me?

Letting Your Partner Make Mistakes

Four Things that Make Up Successful Relationships

Are You Sensually Communicating?

Navigating Valentine’s Day

Why Passion and Parenting Can Co-Exist

What to Say to Have a Deep Connection with Your Partner

How to Get in the Mood for Love-Making

How to Curb Your Expectations

Why You Should Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner's Feelings

A Busy Couple’s Guide to Sharing Fondness and Admiration

How to Turn Your Relationship Goals Into Habits

How to Reverse Relationship Bankruptcy

Ask for What You Want

Why You Should Surround Yourself with Healthy Couples

How to Give Your Relationship a Fresh Start

The Importance of Taking Breaks

How to Battle Loneliness in a Relationship

Who are we? Defining the Culture of your Couplehood

Creating Shared Meaning Through Rituals of Connection

Gifts From the Heart

A Couples Guide to Handling Conflict

How to Celebrate Differences During the Holidays

Ways to Make a Better Bid for Connection

How to Stay Connected Through the Holidays

What Are Three Things You Love About Your Partner?

Show Your Gratitude in a Thank You Note

Making Your Relationship a Priority

Conversations that Matter Most in Relationships

3 Ways to Keep a Positive Perspective

Simple Ways to Show Fondness and Admiration

The Power of Being Polite

The #1 Couple

Strengthen Your Relationship With the Magic Ratio

How to Inspire Your Partner to Attend Couples Therapy

Questions to Ask Your Date

5 Tips to Help Your Relationship Thrive

How to Find a Therapist

An Easier Way to Talk About Finances

Are You Being Attentive?

How to Fall in Love With Your Partner Again

The Relationship Myths to Ignore

How to Build Emotional Intelligence

Emotion Coaching is Not Just for Kids

Ways to Turn Towards Each Other as New Parents or Caregivers

The Little Things You Do