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“Some Dating Stories” by johnswentworth


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There's a genre of dating discourse which I wish were more common, in which people just tell detailed stories of their own flirtation, courtships, dating, hookups, sex, fights, relationships, etc, etc. People tend to instead write about abstract lessons learned and takeaways and models, but so often those lessons and takeaways and models just don't match my actual observations (of myself or others) at all. So I'm left thinking "ok, clearly this person is Missing Something, but maybe I am also Missing Something, so what the heck is going on here?". Without their raw data, their actual detailed stories, I don't have the pieces to put together an accurate model.

Anyway, in a recent comment, I mentioned

Going through the list of women I've slept with, the median is around 30 minutes of direct interaction between first meeting and sex.

... and apparently a whole lot of people are very surprised and confused at this. So I guess it's a good time to write the genre I want to see. Here are some stories from my own life, which I think are pretty representative of my experiences.

Be warned, this is definitely going to be NSFW.

Story 1

I [...]

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Outline:

(01:23) Story 1

(08:29) Story 2

(10:30) Story 3

(14:19) Story 4

(16:55) Story 5

The original text contained 1 footnote which was omitted from this narration.

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First published:

May 28th, 2026

Source:

https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/wpPjWkvyPdWiFHa7L/some-dating-stories

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Narrated by TYPE III AUDIO.

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