Stephen Cove, in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, noted that you should always start with the end in mind. Great advice.  If you don't know where you are headed, how will you ever get there?

When I was a child, I loved maps (truthfully, I still do).  I would study the globe and atlas, I would open roadmaps, and imagine all the places you could go.  I loved the idea of so much world out there to explore.

But in the end, a map is useless until you pick a destination.  Then, you can start planning the trip.  If you know where you are going, you can "reverse engineer" the process to get from "here" to "there."

That holds true for dealing with a relationship, in trouble or not.  If you know where you want to get to, you can begin to navigate in that direction.  Will it be a direct route?  Nope.  But what trip ever is?

Every day, your destination can re-align you, with course corrections along the way.

But if you don't know where you are headed, then you have a problem!

Pick your destination, and let's navigate from here to there.

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