If you find it hard to be assertive, directly ask for what you want, or say “no” to others, then you just might be suffering from too much niceness.
People pleasing shows up in a lot of different forms. We sometimes bed our wills and tend to the desires of people around us, we may not stand up for ourselves, we might just avoid conflict.
How would your life change if you could easily say “no” when you want to and need to, confidently ask for what you want, speak up more freely in all your relationships… all without feeling guilty or anxious or worrying about what others thought?
Our guest today is Dr. Aziz. He is a clinical psychologist and one of the world’s leading experts on social confidence.
Today we will learn:

How too much niceness actually causes pain

How to create boundaries and get the courage to speak up

How to go from self-sacrificing to healthy self-interest


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Give your mind a little love with Mind Love, a podcast dedicated to the exploration of the power of the mind, focusing on mindset, mindfulness, mind-body-soul, and science-based approaches to mental health. Each week, Melissa Monte hosts interviews with inspiring guest experts, delving into evidence-based mind science and real-life stories from those who have overcome their mental challenges.
Whether you’re looking to find purpose and inner peace, rewire negative thought patterns, manifest your goals, or simply treat yourself with more kindness, Mind Love will help you unlock your mind's potential. Get ready to expand your understanding of the mind and learn practical tools for a healthier, happier, more fulfilling life.

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How adding your unique signature to age-old rituals can transform your life's most important moments

Why the tiniest rituals could make the biggest difference in your love life


Have you ever noticed how some moments feel extra special, while others just blend into the background of your life?
Things like the school bell ringing at the end of the day, blowing out birthday candles, or a even something as simple as a handshake after a deal - These are rituals, little traditions that mark important moments in our lives.
If we ignore the power of rituals, we might lose touch with who we are. They reflect our choices and remind us of who we are and who we want to be. They're like a compass pointing us in the right direction.
However, rituals can also become a burden if we're too rigid about them. The key is to find a balance - create your own unique mix of routines and spontaneous moments that tell your story.
Every little ritual, even the ones we barely notice, shapes who we are.
We're about to explore the power of rituals with expert Mike Norton. We'll learn how these everyday practices can bring us clarity, strength, and connection. Even the most ordinary moments can be magical if we embrace them. So get ready to discover the transformative power of your daily rituals.
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Rituals as a Lifeline to Identity, Transitions, and Certainty with Mike Norton • 344

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Powerful two-word mantra to help you approach difficult decisions

The liberating question that could realign your life's path with true happiness.

Powerful rituals that can guide you to personal closure, even when others leave the story unresolved.


How often have you mistaken persistence for passion or comfort for contentment?
The problem is, most of us don’t just fear change, but we have a whole narrative around quitting, as though it’s some form of failure. And these lies can keep us stuck in rooms we’ve long outgrown.
So, how do we turn down the noise to turn up our own inner nudges? And how can we move more quickly toward our own new doorways of possibility? That’s what we’re talking about today.
Our guest is Emily Freeman. She is the Wall Street Journal bestselling author of five books, including "How to Walk into a Room" and "The Next Right Thing." She is also a spiritual director, workshop leader, and host of The Next Right Thing podcast, and her most important work is to help create soul space and offer spiritual companionship and discernment for anyone struggling with decision fatigue.
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The Art of Knowing When to Stay and When to Walk Away with Emily Freeman • 343

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How ‘doing nothing’ can radically transform your health and clarity

How to find which body element type that dominates your life, and why it matters

The colors of foods that best suit your element type


Historically, healers tapped into intricate body connections, like reflexology and chakras, along with herbal medicine, aromatherapy, cupping therapy, and the study of body element types… all without the help of X-rays, MRIs, and computers.
Today, we’re diving into the world of body element types, and it’s like unlocking a secret map to our own health. Think of it as the ancient version of a personalized health quiz. In traditions like Traditional Chinese Medicine, they talk about elements like Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, and Water. Each of us fits into one of these categories, and it's not just for fun – it tells us a ton about what our bodies and minds crave for balance.
Understanding whether you're more Fire than Water, or more Earth than Metal, can change the game. It's like having insider knowledge on how to eat, move, and chill in ways that actually feel right to you.
So today we’re going to learn the secrets of your element type, plus a whole lot of other holistic health practices.
Our guest is the TikTok famous Dr. Anis Khalaf, aka @acupuncturefit on socials. He is a medically trained Acupuncture Physician who helps top performers get their health back through an ancient technique called Element Typing. He is the founder and CEO of Acupuncture Fit and VirtualTCM.com. He creates custom Traditional Chinese Medicine health plans for people who suffer from pain, infertility, addiction, gut and hormone imbalance, skin conditions, and severe, terminal, and rare cases.

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The Wisdom of Your Body Element Type Through Traditional Chinese Medicine with Dr. Anis Khalaf of AcupunctureFit • 342

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How to rethink happiness and relearn presence for deeper connections

How to craft a legacy through a bucket list

The four essential habits that are key to emotional intelligence


It’s not a secret that we humans are starting to suck at connection. The days of deep listening, intimate sharing, and simply being together in the same space are becoming fewer and further between.
Instead, a quick DM or text has become our go-to, avoiding phone calls and, heaven forbid, unannounced visits. But here's the crucial part: while our methods of communication have shifted dramatically, the human need for physical connection hasn't.
So how do we get back to that deep connection that we know through mountains of research that humans thrive on?
Today we’re going to learn how to connect with one another deeply and consciously through the LOVE system.
Our guest is Talia Fox. She has become a visionary for leadership and legacy building. Her extensive background in psychology and education enables her to help people to be more present, more engaged, and more attuned to the intricacies of our interconnected world. She’s also the author of “The Power of Conscious Connection: 4 Habits to Transform How You Live and Lead.” 
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Master Emotional Intelligence and Conscious Connection to Deepen Relationships and Elevate Leadership with Talia Fox • 341

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How to master your mental muscles to unlock a world of focused achievement

The implications of quantum physics on wealth

A 5-minute practice with the power to reduce stress and enhance focus


Ever wonder why some people seem to manifest abundance with ease while others get caught up in the same old mess of financial struggles or personal dramas? How is it that the same opportunities, the same world, can yield so many different outcomes?
Today, we're dissecting the impact of our subconscious money patterns and how they carry the weight of our past into our present, for better or for worse.
And what happens to us and to our dreams when we actually move from a mindset of scarcity to one of abundance.
You may recognize our guest, one of my dear friends Ashley Stahl. She is the author of YouTurn and host of the podcast of the same name. She is seriously a powerhouse of inspiration. And she writes TED Talks that will get you on that stage and help you go viral.
We’ve decided to introduce a new flavor to both our shows. Every now and then we’re going to do our own little version of a book club.
So today we’re going through one of my newest favorite books Happy Pocket Full of Money.
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