It's time to get real about the root of self-care and how our self-care practices seep into all aspects of our lives.

Today I am joined by Tamika Lewis, a cognitive behavioral therapist and founder of WOC therapy. Tamika shares the importance of self-care and valuable questions to ask yourself to begin your self-care journey no matter where you are in your personal growth journey.

Tamika explains how our ideas of self-care originated with our mothers. And the way they gave themselves permission to step out of the many roles that they play, give themselves space to breathe and give themselves time to be women.

I grew up with a very overworked mother who was successful at the expense of her presence, attention, energy, and time. I am so grateful for her, but the patterns she taught me about self-care do not have to be the patterns I continue in my own life. Just as the patterns from your family do not have to be the way your self-care practices continue to go.

Tamika explains the 4 steps to building a positive self-care system for yourself, that is sustainable and digs deep into the root of why you treat yourself the way you do. 

If your self-care is non-existent or you are always feeling overwhelmed, overworked, or having a rough time in relationships of any type— then this episode is for you. Tamika is a powerhouse of relationship knowledge in every sense of the phrase. It’s time to put in the work, to invest in yourself and overcome those mental health obstacles because you are worth it! 

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Dive deeper into your self-care and personal growth by working with Tamika and her amazing team! 

 https://woctherapy.com/

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Time Stamps:

[8:15] Tamika’s story and the self-care routines we grew up witnessing with our own mothers.

[11:03] Step one of developing your self-care journey: Questions to ask yourself to find the blueprint of self-love presented for you growing up and how you might need to change that. 

[13:55] Should men look to their fathers or mothers in their family for their family self-care roots?

[16:10] Step two of developing your self-care journey: Asking yourself what your situation is supposed to teach you instead of giving into your greatest fears.

[19:56] Generative questions you can ask yourself to improve or bring clarity to all of your relationships, and how to work through financial stability keeping you in a relationship.

[27:00] Step three of developing your self-care journey: How to embrace self-care as a form of sustainability and make it truly non-negotiable.

[29:50] Moving through martyrdom so that you can invest in yourself and cultivate an abundance mindset around your self-care.

[35:33] Step four of developing your self-care journey: Adding the must-have tools in your self-care toolbox.

[37:20] Tamika’s suggestions on making new friends or building a community for the highest version of yourself. 

[40:00] Relationships and how our mothers set us up for what we seek in partners now. 

[48:15] What it means

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