Are you one of the many people who end up shocked by the ultimate similarity of romantic relationships that felt very different starting out? Why is it that we find the same patterns repeating, the same problems coming up over and over?

In this episode, Andrew talks to author and attachment theory specialist Tara Blair-Ball. Tara explains how attachment theory - which is grounded in analysis of how we bonded to our mother as infants - can help us understand these patterns.

Andrew and Tara emphasise that rather than dwelling on the particular faults of partner A and partner B, we can try to understand how our earliest relationships in life have determined later ones. This will help us make the changes that can lead to more meaningful and more fulfilling relationships. 

Tara Blair Ball is a Certified Relationship Coach, as well as the author of several books on love and relationships. Her content on relationships and dating has been viewed more than 6 million times. 

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Take a look at Tara Blair Ball’s website

Follow Tara on TikTok @tara.relationshipcoach or on Twitter @tarablairball

Read Tara’s books The Beginning of the End and Stop Wasting Your Time on Women Who Don't Want You. 

 Read Emerson Eggerichs’ book Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs 

Read Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts 

Read Andrew’s book on making meaningful change in your life, which also discusses attachment theory Wake Up and Change Your Life: How to Survive a Crisis and be Stronger, Wiser and Happier

Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube @andrewgmarshall