In today's episode, I talk to family and marriage therapist Dr. Corey Allen on the three dangerous mistakes that can affect your relationship. We dive deep and discuss how to prevent all three from becoming a major problem: money, sex and the in-laws/kids. Show Highlights 5.00 - Why it's not money that causes problems, it's the meaning attached to money. 6.28 - What to do when you and your partner view money in a very different way so it doesn't become a problem. 10.30 - Why you don't have to agree with everything your partner says or does. 12.40 - Why committed relationships are designed to help us grow up and how we need to grow through problems we face with our partner. 17.55 - Possibly the most important question you can ask yourself before you get married or if you are already married: "Would you want to be married to you?" and then applying this question to specific aspects of your marriage. 18.20 - What to do if you and your partner have different sex drives. 21.20 - The mistake guys make who have a higher sex drive than their wife and how it turns her off. 24.30 - Being honest with your partner and it's amazing benefits. 28.25 - We talk about when making a compromise in your relationship is not really a compromise at all. 31.30 - The issue with the in-laws. 33.45 - Why having a great relationship only requires common sense, but the problem is that we attach emotion to relationship...which make things complicated. 36.50 - Why recognizing that your emotions are going to cloud your judgement in your relationship. 38.00 - The main issue to avoid with your in-laws. Show Notes You can find Corey at http://simplemarriage.net and pick up a copy of Naked Marriage at simplemarriage.net/naked-marriage You can also listen to his podcast at https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-marriage-radio/id472302597?mt=2

#4: The 3 Dangerous Pitfalls That Will Test Your Relationship & How To Deal With Them With Dr. Corey Allen

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What if your past didn’t have to dictate your future? Esin Pinarli is a human behavior specialist offering psychotherapy to couples, using the Imago and Gottman methods in conjunction with emotional-focused therapy. She joins us to share her perspective on the deep-rooted beliefs behind our actions and reactions within the context of relationships. We touch on how trauma affects us all, and common actions that trigger a trauma response within relationships. Tune in to hear how the support of a therapist can help everyone to unpack the experiences behind their trauma, how the four attachment styles impact our relationships, and how the pandemic has changed the way in which we relate to one another. Esin also explains the role of our nervous system in creating connection and attachment, common reasons why couples become dissatisfied with their sex lives, and much more. Key Points From This Episode: •     An introduction to Esin Pinarli’s counseling practice. •     Unpacking the buzzword, ‘trauma’, and how it affects all of us. •     Common actions that trigger a trauma response. •     The role of negativity bias. •     Advice for those seeking to address their trauma. •     How a therapist can support people as they unpack the experiences behind their trauma. •     The four attachment styles and how they impact our relationships. •     What the collective trauma of the pandemic has done to the state of attachment. •     Differentiating between introversion and the avoidant personality type. •     How codependency fits into attachment styles. •     Your nervous system’s role in creating connection and attachment. •     Why couples become dissatisfied with their sex lives. •     What effective communication might look like. •     Cultivating ‘the space between’ where intimacy exists within relationships. •     Simple solutions for the process addiction that comes from porn usage. Quotes: “People always think they have to qualify for trauma. Everybody has had a certain level of embedded trauma.” — Esin Pinarli [0:02:41]   “We should always be doing the work. There are just so many things in our subconscious that we are not aware of.” — Esin Pinarli [0:10:33]   “A therapist is somebody who will help you to make sense of what’s inside of you, and to untangle and unprocess that trauma so that it doesn’t dictate your future.” — Esin Pinarli [0:11:37]   “If you don’t have enough rupture and repair, you always end up feeling disconnected from your partner.” — Esin Pinarli [0:42:15]   “Not only do we have a dance with our romantic partners, a cadence and a rhythm, but there’s a space between us that is where the intimacy is.” — Esin Pinarli [0:43:13] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Esin Pinarli on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/esinpinarli_lcsw/ Esin Pinarli on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/esin-pinarli-73ab1722/ Eternal Wellness Counseling — https://www.eternalwellnesscounseling.com/ Codependent No More —  https://www.amazon.com/Melody-Beattie-Codependent-Controlling-Yourself/dp/B004R125R4/ Bad Girls Bible Sex Tips Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter Other Episodes You Might Enjoy: #31 How To Fix A Sexless Marriage & Reignite Fiery Passion with Laurie Watson  https://badgirlsbible.com/31-how-to-fix-a-sexless-marriage-reignite-fiery-passion-with-laurie-watson #34 The Secret To Reaching Orgasm During Sex with Laurie Mintz, Ph.D.  https://badgirlsbible.com/34-the-secret-to-reaching-orgasm-during-sex-with-laurie-mintz-ph-d #29 Experience Squirting Orgasms with Female Orgasm Expert, Jason Julius  https://badgirlsbible.com/29-squirting-orgasms-real-foreplay-and-how-guys-can-last-longer-with-female-ejaculation-expert-jason-julius

#48 How Trauma Affects Your Romantic Relationships With Esin Pinarli, LCSW MCAP

Today on the podcast we welcome Caitlin and Michael Doemner, authors of Sex Every Day, who are sharing with us some hands-on tips for enjoying sexual intimacy on a daily basis, regardless of busy schedules, kids and periods.   They talk about their three-step strategy for practicing frequent intimacy, including how you can communicate your sexual desires in a fun way and what you can do to ensure that both you and your partner are always satisfied. Before you think all of this is unattainable for you as a parent of young kids, hang on a minute! They have four kids of their own and advise you on overcoming the logistics of having regular sex with a house full of small children.   Key Points From This Episode    The interesting story of how Caitlin and Michael got together. Why sleeping naked is such a natural and effective way to restore intimacy in a relationship. How the menu metaphor can be used to communicate and express sexual needs. The importance of being open to both give and receive. What you can do to maintain intimacy with your partner throughout the day. A quick review of the five love languages and what they each entail. Why it is important for couples to prioritize a woman’s pleasure. What couples with kids can practically do to preserve their intimacy and privacy. Why a period should not be stopping you from giving and receiving uninterrupted pleasure. And much more!    Tweetables   “It's really hard to be angry with somebody when you're laying full body contact naked with them and in bed.” [0:04:49]   “The intimacy and the passion, it doesn’t have to be intercourse …there's a lot of different ways that we can please our partners.” [0:19:45]   Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode   Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter Sex Every Day: How to Prioritize Pleasure in your Marriage —  http://www.lulu.com/shop/michael-and-caitlin-doemner/sex-every-day-how-to-prioritize-pleasure-in-your-marriage/hardcover/product-23974387.html The Five Love Languages on Amazon —  https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X Pussy: A Reclamation on Amazon —  https://www.amazon.com/Pussy-Reclamation-Regena-Thomashauer/dp/1401950264/ref=sr_1_fkmrnull_1?keywords=pussy%3A+a+reclamation&qid;=1555401985&s;=books&sr;=1-1-fkmrnull Sex Every Day Website — https://www.sexeverydaybook.com/homepage25989259 Sex Every Day on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/QuotidianCoitus/

#47 How To Have Sex Every Day with Caitlin & Michael Doemner

On the show today we welcome Dan and Dawn Williams, master-slave couple, kink enthusiasts podcast hosts and authors of the new book Living M/S! Our guests unpack their own experiences of discovering their submissive and dominant sides and how they found each other and each other's limits.   They explain some basics about the master-slave dynamic and how it fits into the broader world of BDSM and kink play. They explain the important role of trust and the things that are pivotal in making a relationship like theirs work. We talk a bit about the events, parties and activities which they enjoy and Dan and Dawn are so open and honest, explaining the erotic nature of their lives.   The conversation also covers, shame, abusive relationships and how sharing stories, using cards and watching porn can help certain couples.   Key Points From This Episode    Dan and Dawn's awakening to their dominant and submissive sides. A little bit about how their master-salve relationship works. Earning trust and taking responsibility for mistakes.  Contrasting Dawns and Dan's average day with other relationships. Parties, dungeons and the BDSM play that the couple enjoy. The parts of play that each of them engage with. Considering the erotic and non-erotic elements of play. Some of the issues of shame related to submission.  Comparing a sub-dom relationship with an abusive relationship. The helpful act of sharing naughty stories and porn.  And much more!    Tweetables   “In our case, it happens to be a male led relationship where I happen to be in charge. What that means is that I take responsibility for everything in the relationship.” [0:03:45]   “If something needs to be addressed, it’s addressed head on instead of sideways. It’s a very authentic relationship where we’ve decided, what do we want this relationship to be.” [0:11:05]   Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode   Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter Erotic Awakening Podcast — http://www.eroticawakening.com Dan and Dawn Email — dananddawn@eroticawakening.com. Living MS —  https://www.amazon.com/Living-Masters-slaves-Their-Relationships/dp/1610981952/ The Kink Starter — http://www.eroticawakening.com/kinkstarter/

#46 BDSM 101: No 50 Shades of Grey B******t with Dan and Dawn

Today on the Bad Girl's Bible we a joined by a very special listener named Jaime, who is here to tell us about how her and her husband turned their marriage around after some very tough times. Early into their new marriage, Jaime's husband started to experience some pretty serious health challenges and after his diagnosis and medical prescriptions became increasingly moody and difficult to be around.   This, in conjunction with Jaime's own health and anxiety issues, led to a very difficult time, emotionally and in the bedroom. It took a few drastic changes that happened around the time of a mortal scare for her husband to take the relationship back to a healthy place and into territory that Jaime never even dreamed of. Jaime takes us through their complete history, early dates and the proposal before getting into the troubled period.   She talks about how different things are now and the difference in connection she feels when they make love. For all this and much more, be sure to join us today!   Key Points From This Episode    Jaime's childhood, parents and the atmosphere at home. The first day that her and her future husband met. Proposal, the wedding and the early days of marriage. Jaime's husband's health problems and the first diagnosis. How the medication affected her husband's moods and their relationship. Jaime's own health problems that she was experiencing at the same time. The near death experience that turned her husband's life around. Changing their sex life around and the effect of the Blowjob Bible. How the challenges have strengthened their relationship. The times that Jaime considered giving it up. How Jaime's life has turned out differently to her expectations. The role of her faith in helping her through tough times. Advice from Jaime to listeners in similar situations. And much more!  Tweetables   “That’s how he is now, he brushes off all the little things and doesn’t let him bother anymore.” —  Jaime [0:15:30]   “Sometimes it does take something life altering to make you decide that it’s time to change how you live your life and the way you treat other people.” — Jaime [0:16:58]

#45 How A Listener Fixed Her Struggling Relationship

Today on The Bad Girls Bible Podcast we are joined by small-town girl, Jenny, who shares with us about growing up in a poor family with parents who did not always get along, moving around frequently and how she and her husband first met. Jenny talks about their secret relationship, moving in together, how he convinced her to get married after all and the challenges of raising their kids together. The unexpected death of a loved one caused a massive rift in their relationship, however, and her life started slowly spiraling out of control. Not being able to openly mourn her loss, Jenny went into a major depression during which she behaved in erratic ways that threatened her life and that brought even greater discord in her marriage. She tells of the regrets she has, how she has learned to cope with her loss and what she advises every listener to hold onto in such difficult circumstances. Don’t miss out on this very moving conversation! Key Points From This Episode:  More about Jenny’s experience growing up in an unhappy family. How she met her husband and their first few months knowing each other. What is was like seeing each other in secret while being in relationships with other people. Their relationship when they moved in together and having to deal with their exes. The difficulty of feeling like she had to do everything herself. The challenge of raising their kids together and having different parenting styles. Why she never thought of getting married and how he arranged the entire wedding. Losing a girlfriend to pneumonia and not being able to mourn her openly. Dealing with her husband’s resentment and jealously after her girlfriend passed away. Becoming clinically depressed, isolating herself and turning to self-harm. The intense moment she realized that she needed help.  The up and downside of moving to a new place and being lonely a lot of the time. What happened when her husband finally left her. Getting her daughter back home and what it meant to her. How practicing mindfulness and breathing techniques helps her to deal with her emotions. Dealing with the disappointment of her life not turning out how she expected it to. And much more!  Tweetables: “I went into a major depression; a clinical depression, anxiety, and I was just locking myself away. I didn’t want to get out of bed. I didn’t want to go to work.” — Jenny [0:17:05] “He just stopped caring and he said he just started picturing me dead already and that he had thought of what he was going to say at the funeral and stuff. He just kind of wrote me off already.” — Jenny [0:18:55]

#4: The 3 Dangerous Pitfalls That Will Test Your Relationship & How To Deal With Them With Dr. Corey Allen

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