This week on The Scarlet Edit, I’m joined by Dr. Zoe Shaw, psychotherapist, author, and host of Stronger in the Difficult Places. Together, we dive into the concept of complex shame — a type of shame that doesn’t go away with vulnerability alone.

Dr. Zoe opens up about her own story of carrying hidden shame, how she coined the term complex shame, and why it shows up so powerfully in infidelity, divorce, and relationships that feel impossible to leave. We break down the difference between guilt and shame, how shame fuels codependency and secrecy, and why so many women settle for relationships that don’t serve them.

Highlights in this conversation:

• What makes complex shame different from guilt and “simple shame”
• The role of shame in affairs, betrayal, and divorce
• How self-talk and the “phantom critic” keep us stuck in cycles of pain
• Why so many of us confuse unworthiness with love
• Steps to begin healing and reclaiming your worth

This is an episode for anyone who has ever questioned their value, stayed in a relationship too long, or struggled with the weight of hidden shame.

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