On belonging, dreamwork, and welcoming aging as a privilege. Toko-pa Turner is an award-winning Canadian writer, teacher, and dreamworker who blends the mystical tradition of Sufism with a Jungian approach to dreams. In 2001 she founded the Dream School, from which hundreds of students have graduated, and she speaks internationally on the subject of dreams and belonging. Sometimes called a "midwife of the psyche," Toko-pa’s work focuses on restoring the feminine, reciprocity with nature, honouring grief, ritual, and beauty-making. Her book, "Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home" is the winner of multiple awards including the 2017 Gold Nautilus Award, the 2018 Readers' Favorite Gold Award, named Finalist in the 2018 Whistler Independent Book Awards, and Finalist for the 2019 Montaigne Medal in the Eric Hoffer Book Awards. She lives on a small island in the Salish Sea of British Columbia.  Our longing to belong [2:09] Toko-pa's early years [6:06] Honoring grief [10:12] Witnessing others in difficult times [12:11] Toko-pa's healing journey [19:25] Finding a place where our grief is welcomed [23:30] Dreams and the language of metaphors [26:35] Aging and our relationship to Elders [31:55] Prayer [35:34] Relocating Magic [37:07]  RESOURCES https://toko-pa.com/ Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home Belonging - Toko-pa Turner Toko-pa Turner on Instagram Rushing the redemption - Toko-pa Turner Birdwings - Rumi The Smell of Rain on Dust- Martin Prechtel A Room of One's Own - Virginia Woolf

Episode 56: Toko-pa Turner

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Episode 188: Kemi Nekvapil

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Episode 187: Koshin Paley Ellison

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Episode 186: Yael Schonbrun PhD

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Episode 185: Mia Maestro

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Episode 56: Toko-pa Turner

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